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Help Me With My 3-Year Relationship With A Lying Drug Addict

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Carovana.

Carovana: I’m in a 3-year relationship with a drug addict, but the real problem is that he constantly lies.

Council: What have you learned about this drug addict and his lying? How do you handle this? Are you trying to change this person? You can’t do that. Can you be more understanding? Yes, you can understand, but there’s a time when you need to just watch this person and let them be who they are and then decide what you’ll do with this knowledge.

Carovana: He wants to appear different from what he really is, what he really does, and what he thinks. He twists facts and reality for his own benefit, and no matter how smart I am, he continues to try and deceive me.

Council: Are you tiring yourself out by trying to show this person you’re really smart and you know what he’s doing? We’d suggest you just let this person be, and then decide if you want to be around him. That’s all. You won’t change this person.

Carovana: I developed panic attacks due to the frequent state of restlessness and anxiety in which I’m thrown by his behavior, and we constantly fight. He doesn’t act this way solely to cover his drug abuse. His game spreads much wider and deeper. He’s also obscenely incoherent. His words go South and his actions go North.

Council: You can stay with this man if you can understand how he is and not believe what he says. Offer love and understanding. But to be in the relationship and saying to yourself, “I must show him that I know what’s going on, I must show him that I’m smart,” that’s not the purpose of this relationship.

The purpose of this relationship is to allow someone to be. It’s for you to allow others, and not just this person, but look at the years when you were growing up with your friends and family. Did you allow them just to be and then learn from it? And did this allow you to be just as you want to be, being in a place of love and peacefulness? Can you do that for yourself?

This was your mission, so to speak, in your current lifetime. Just to accept everyone and what they’re doing, and sending love and light to them to help them grow. But not to forcefully try to show them, “I know what you’re doing. You can’t fool me,” and tire yourself out. It’s just the purpose of being there, and most of all, just being yourself. That’s what this relationship is supposed to teach you.

When you see that someone is really one way and pretending to be another, do you do that? Do you do that to please people and to have them think of you differently? It’s a mirror effect. And so we say, just allow.

Carovana: The reason I stayed in this relationship so long is that another side of him, very prominent, is that he’s incredibly loving and sweet. He chose me as the woman of his life, tells me I’m the woman of his dreams, and is extremely attached and devoted to me. It’s almost morbid. This makes it really difficult to break up with him and in fact, all my attempts have failed. I’m also in a very lonely phase of my life so I lack the social support and the favorable environment that would make it easier to move on.

I can’t explain or comprehend this duality in him. He lost his mother when he was nine years old, but it’s not a good excuse to act this way now that he’s 36 years old. I hope The Council can shed some light on him, on us, and on me. I’d be very thankful.

Council: There are lessons for this man to learn, starting with his childhood and moving into adulthood. Not feeling safe enough for him to be who he really wants to be, he doesn’t know how, the role model wasn’t there, and the understanding of just being wasn’t there. Instead he chose to pretend because there’s no acceptance of himself.

With you there, if you can accept this man the way he is, you are the role model. You’re the role model by setting your boundaries, by not believing everything that’s said, but by understanding that everything that’s said is out of fear and nonacceptance of yourself. Once you can do that and not knock yourself out to understand it or change this person, it will change, because now you’re looking at it differently. And when you look at something differently, it will change.

See the relationship the way you want it to be. First concentrate on yourself. Accept yourself, and then look around you, and not at just this person, but others that come in and out of your life. And when you learn you have choices, you have the ability to bring into your life what you want. When you focus on that, it must happen.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Carovana and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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June 10, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

How Do I Know I’m Awakening?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Marianne, who asks how she can know she’s becoming awakened and allowing herself to be filled with light?

The Council says you’re awakening when:

  • You realize you don’t have all the answers in your current reality (lifetime)
  • You sit quietly and feel the peacefulness
  • There’s drama around you and you don’t react to it, but you can quietly help the people around you
  • You begin to remember who you truly are as a spirit in a physical body, and even if you don’t understand this, you’re able to realize there’s much more to you than what you see as this body
  • You know you’re the creator of everything that happens in your life and you begin to see desired things happen
  • There’s peace and joy at the center of everything you do
  • You allow everyone to be who they are

Marianne says she wants to bring light into herself and awaken a part of her that feels like it’s been asleep. The Council says there are always parts of us that are sleeping. Sit quietly and reach for the feeling of not being as concerned about things that are happening to you and around you because you know there’s safety and love, and that you are spirit. This is the feeling you have as you become awakened.

Marianne says she feels like she’s supposed to be part of something greater than she is, but she doesn’t know what to do to understand this and figure it out. The Council says you are a part of something greater than yourself. And yet, because we’re all connected and we all are one, there is nothing greater than what you are. All you need to do is remember this.

Marianne says she feels connected to the Pleiades star system and the message from the beings there, and want so access her DNA to fill herself with light and all the information sleeping inside her. She’s researched the Pleiadian’s messages and practiced what she’s been told, but she feels there’s a lot she still doesn’t understand about this and what to look for.

The Council says the souls from the Pleiades are just like Marianne and the rest of us. You are connected to them because we are all one. In your current incarnation you’re attracted to the Pleiadians’ messages. You don’t have to do anything with your DNA. Know that you’re a spirit and at one time you’ve been on Pleiades and you understand their ways.

Just sit quietly and allow the white light to come down and surround you like a cocoon. Sit in the quiet and ask to see the Pleiadians and remember your lives with them. You know what the Pleiadians are teaching because you’ve experienced this before and you’d like to understand it again.

Marianne closes her questions by asking how I can know I’m on the correct path for the mission I’ve chosen in my current lifetime? The Council says Marianne can know she’s on the right path because:

  • She’s so detailed in her questions
  • She knows she’s attracted to the Pleiadians and this isn’t something new to her
  • She can ask questions about how to connect with Pleiadians again
  • She wants to know how to change her life and make it better
  • She wants to know how she can reach for more than she knows how to reach now
  • She’s not stagnant and is always looking for more, to learn, to connect, and to  feel who she truly is as a spirit in a physical body

The Council suggests Marianne drink lots of pure, unsugared, unflavored, not tea, water. Tap water is okay. And if you find you’re attracted to crystals, keep clear quartz around you. The water and the clear quartz will help raise your vibration and help you attract into your life what you need to experience.

Listen to the entire 7-minute recorded audio session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Marianne and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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October 18, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Meditation, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Did I Know My Friend in Other Lifetimes?

This post is inspired by an anonymous reader who met someone they became friendly with and although the relationship was short-lived, this person made an impression in Anonymous’s life. They ask The Council to confirm their suspicion that they knew each other in other lives and if this is true, what was their relationship in these lives. Anonymous is also interested in whether they will reconnect with this person in this lifetime.

On a separate note Anonymous asks whether they were ever interested in herbs and healing in other lifetimes because they are drawn to this in their current lifetime and it feels familiar.

The Council says in the current lifetime it is the remembering of shared other lives that has brought you together for a short time like ships passing in the night.

The Council says in other lives you’ve been sisters, mother and child, a married couple, and peers who worked together, and they say to enjoy this familiar feeling you’ve identified with.

The Council says there’s a possibility you will reconnect with this person in the remainder of this lifetime as long as your life choices bring you in this direction.

The Council say Anonymous has dealt with herbs, oils, and mostly crystals in other lifetimes and they suggest Anonymous familiarize themselves with this. The Council also suggests Anonymous begin to meditate if they don’t already. This will connect them to a peacefulness and help them with the direction they want this lifetime to go in.

Listen to this brief 3-minute session with The Council on these questions to hear all of their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

April 1, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

Overcoming Anxiety to Find My Life Purpose

This post is inspired by a reader named Jim, who says he’s struggled with obsessive-compulsive disorder most of his life and asks The Council how he can have less worry and anxiety in his life.

The Council explains that when you know who you truly are, there is nothing to worry about. They ask if Jim understands he is a spiritual being in a human body, and they explain that when he takes his mind away from worry and anxiety and changes the focus of his thoughts to better feeling ones, his life will begin to change for the better. What Jim chooses to focus on will bring him peace of mind.

The Council encourages Jim to have more hope, focus on peacefulness, love, gratitude, the positive aspects of what’s going on, and looking for miracles happening in his life. Concentrate on the support he would get from spirits in human form and in the spiritual world. When Jim can begin thinking about these things his life will improve.

Jim also says he’s struggled with finding his true purpose in this lifetime. The Council says one of the purposes he wants to experience is joy and to have child-like experiences throughout his lifetime, even as an adult. They suggest Jim have a career around children to hear their laughter and join in with them. That is what he wanted to experience.

The Council’s parting advice to Jim is to do the work and he will succeed. Listen to our entire 9-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Jim and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

December 24, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Career, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Life Purpose, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

   

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