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What About My Relationship with an Annoying Friend?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy, who has a friend she finds draining and borderline toxic. This friend doesn’t seem to be aware of my time or feelings. She’s upset when I don’t visit her every time she calls. She talks about herself nonstop. And she doesn’t respond when I mention something about myself.

The Council imagines Amy feels like this is a question about making boundaries, but it’s not just boundaries. It’s about you experiencing a past life with this person where they were a very strict parent that punished you a lot. You were brought up almost like a slave to do whatever your parents wanted.

In your current lifetime you wanted to experience this very annoying behavior so you could learn to speak up and work through it. Have you told this person how their behavior affects you? How you don’t have the time to always be there for them? Have you said no when this person asked for your help? When it becomes too much, when you’re drained and your energy field gets pulled out of you by this other person, there’s really nothing you can do to stop it. But you can make yourself unavailable. And besides that, you must speak up. This is what you wanted for your current life.

You don’t need to help this person with everything that comes up. If you’re embarrassed or annoyed you have to stop what this person is doing when they’re doing it. You need to bring this behavior to their attention. If they laugh it off or complain, you can say this is how I feel. This is annoying. I have other things to do and I’d appreciate it if you stopped. Remember you’re not in control of how the other person handles your request, but you can still withdraw from them when this stuff is going on.

We recommend using the chakra breathing meditation to balance and align your chakras, particularly your throat chakra. This will help you get over the fear of saying what you want because in this previous life you weren’t able to do that. In your current life you can do this because you’ve created you’re life differently this time.

This person is being the way they are because they’ve agreed to help you learn how to speak up. In their human reality this person might not remember this, but their higher self knows they’re going to drive you crazy until you speak up. And when you let this person know how annoying they are, you can teach them to be gentler and more understanding because this is what you agreed to.

Amy says she finds this person so selfish and exhausting. I don’t mind being this type of friend to people, but this particular person is under my skin like no one else. The Council says your higher self knows what you want to do. You’ll get more and more annoyed, crazy, and frustrated, then hope this will just go away, but that isn’t how you set this up.

Amy says she’s trying to draw boundaries, which has been difficult for her in the past, but this doesn’t seem to last. I don’t want to yell or hurt this person’s feelings. The Council says you don’t have to yell or hurt their feelings, but you do need to speak the truth. This is annoying. This is draining. You hurt my feelings when you criticize me in front of other people. You are speaking the truth and that’s a wonderful thing. Are you brave enough to do this?

Amy says as she continues to raise her vibration this person might just vibrate out of her life altogether. The Council says she’s not going to vibrate out of your life until you learn your lesson and speak up for yourself. Your lesson is in front of you big time, and you can change this by speaking up.

Listen to what we’ve said about setting boundaries and more importantly, about speaking up for yourself. Then this person might just disappear out of your life because she’ll have to find someone else that will put up with her behavior until she learns (and maybe from you) that it’s not polite to behave this way to people.

Look how all these people are banging their heads against the wall because they’re not getting what they came here to learn. Life happens and you concentrate on things in a different way than when you planned it in spirit. You’re not seeing what’s truly going on. Just remember we’re here to bring love into each experience by showing kindness and empathy to people and try to understand what they’re going through, even if they annoy the heck out of you. When you understand these people are also spirit that has baggage and hard lessons, you also understand you agreed to help these people. And these people are here because they’re helping you, even if you don’t get it yet. It’ll all turn out good in the end. All is well.


Listen to the entire audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all the guidance for Amy and the rest of us, or ask The Council your own question.

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December 11, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, Vibration | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Questions About an Abusive Separated Husband

This post answers questions from a reader named, Jolanda, who says 18 months ago she ended an 8 year relationship with her verbally and emotionally abusive husband, but because they have a child together they communicate almost daily, which gives him opportunities to manipulate her emotions.

The Council doesn’t think it’s necessary to have contact with your husband almost daily. It’s something you need, but your husband doesn’t. Is this because you don’t want to let go of your husband? If this relationship is hurtful, why would you want to stay in it? You can co-parent a child without having daily communication with your spouse.

One of the lessons you’ve created for yourself in this lifetime is protecting yourself and learning how to make boundaries. The Council says they don’t see this boundary-making happening. There’s no need to punish yourself. If you can begin setting these boundaries you’ll feel a little more powerful and you’ll allow the relief and healing to come into your life.

The Council says they don’t see a reconciliation with the husband occurring at this time. Recognize him as a spirit on his own path and learning his own lessons. You feel the love for him because you recognize him as a spirit. Wherever he is on his path, you can love him and let him go, and make the boundary to protect yourself, and change your life to a more powerful and peaceful one.

Jolanda says she and her husband agreed a few weeks ago they weren’t getting back together and she feels betrayed that he’s apparently moved on with a new girlfriend. The Council asks Jolanda to find the energy to understand this agreement between the two of them. And if he changes his mind and says he wants to be with her again, can she make the boundary and say, “No. Enough. I can’t be in this type of relationship.” Instead of waiting to see where your husband is in this relationship, make your own boundaries. Think about how you’ll move forward and how you can get free from this relationship and find the happiness you wish for?

Jolanda says she’s pining for the love she had with her husband and wishing for someone else to love, but feels like she’ll never love anyone but her husband. The Council says the love she and her husband had isn’t there right now because there are lessons Jolanda needs to learn. Wishing for someone else to love is a wonderful direction to go in. Focus on this. What kind of person do you want in your life, down to every detail you can think of? And be ready to let this relationship in? When you can focus more on the new person you want in your life, things will change in this direction.

Jolanda says she feels her marriage was a divine bond and that she and her husband are deeply connected at a soul level. The Council says of course there’s a soul connection. This relationship was all agreed to in spirit so you could discover the role of independence, the role of boundaries in your life, the role of speaking up for yourself, and the role of learning how to protect yourself.

The Council closes by telling Jolanda: When you begin to love yourself enough to protect yourself; when your begin to believe there’s another way, and there’s more for you, and the soul who is your husband needs to go on with his lessons; when you begin to focus in a whole new direction on what you truly want in your life; The Council promises Jolanda her life will begin to change for the better.

Listen to the entire audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Jolanda and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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October 7, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , , | 5 Comments

Am I Working Through a Past Life Connection with My Boss?

This post answers questions for The Council from an Anonymous reader who has a tumultuous relationship with their boss an wants to know if they have a past life connection with this person and they’re trying to work through it?

The Council sees a past life in England where you were both friends, running a general store, and having mistrust for one another. What you’re trying to accomplish in your current lifetime is to work together, but with a different kind of understanding.

Can you speak honestly with your boss the way you weren’t able to in the lifetime in England. If you’re uncomfortable how you’re being treated in your current life or there’s misunderstandings, it’s for your growth to speak up about these things. Your boss, if he wishes to grow spiritually, has to get to a place where he listens and tries to understand your point of view. There’s lots of communication the two of you wish to work out in your current relationship.

Anonymous asks why their boss insists on giving them work while they’re on vacation. The Council asks if you’re able to speak to your boss about this. And The Council asks if Anonymous respects themself enough to put up boundaries to let their boss know that when you’re on vacation, you won’t be available to do this work? Can you trust in what you deserve and make these boundaries? As long as you’re unable to give voice to these difficulties, they will continue.

Anonymous says they’ve tried to use a pendulum to get answers, but sometimes it doesn’t seem accurate and they want to know if this is a valid way to get insight? The Council says you’re able to get the pendulum to give the answer you want by using your mind and your energy.

The Council says when you want answers, the best way is to sit quietly and think of the problem, then let the problem go. When you can sit quietly and relax into the silence, the answers to your problem will come to you.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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July 21, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Decision Making, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Relationships | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

What if My Interest in Spirit as a Distraction from “Reality”

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Malia, who says her navel chakra feels weak, my will feels blocked, and I’m overly enmeshed with my family.

The Council says the reason for Malia’s blocked third or navel chakra is in many prior lives she had to do what she was told in her families. She had no say in what direction her life went. In her current lifetime it’s Malia’s intention to heal this situation. She wants to feel independent and make her own decisions.

The Council says Malia has created a situation where she’s enmeshed with her family and now she needs to figure out what’s going on in her day to day life rather than focusing so much on her navel chakra. Is there a way she’s able to handle her circumstances differently? Is she able to make protective boundaries so she doesn’t feel herself getting pulled into everyone’s world? The Council says the reason Malia’s having this experience right now is so she can learn from it and change it.

The Council says the reason Malia’s enmeshed with her family is her day to day choices. Her greatest power in the current lifetime she’s creating is her minute to minute decisions. Why does she allow herself to be pulled in to her family’s drama? Why does she create these experiences? By looking at her circumstances she’ll be able to find new ways to deal with them. She’s created these situations to learn independence, to speak for herself, make decisions, and make boundaries. Boundaries is a big lesson for her in this lifetime.

Malia says she feels insecure about her capacity to be independent. The Council says she has the capacity, the power, and the strength to be independent. That is what she’s chosen to learn in this lifetime. She’s created situations where she does’t feel independent so she can learn to overcome them.

Malia says she’s afraid she’s using her interest in spirit as a scapegoat rather than working on the reality she’s manifesting. The Council says spirit isn’t Malia’s scapegoat. As she meditates or intuitively pays attention to feelings and ideas that come to her, that is her higher self helping handle her challenges. This isn’t using spirit as a scapegoat. This is learning from her higher self.

Bob suggests Malia may mean she’s using her interest in spirit to keep from focusing on day to day choices The Council asked her to focus on. The Council says when you realize who you truly are as a spirit in a physical body, that is the most important thing. Your day to day choices becomes clearer when you understand this.

Bob asks The Council if they can think of a reason why Malia might be having this fear of working on her reality and having spirit as a scapegoat? The Council says the desire to stand up to people, be independent, face confrontation, and learn to say no are with Malia from other lifetimes. Rather than face these situations on a day to day basis she can believe that concentrating on spirit doesn’t allow her to change the experiences she’s having.

Intuitively Malia knows she has to face these challenges because this is what she’s created them for. The part of her that’s afraid to face these challenges will concentrate on what she thinks of as spirit and takes her away from what she has to do to have a different experience.

The Council recommends daily meditation, even if it’s only five minutes, and coming up with affirmations that remind her who she truly is as a spirit in a physical body. Read about spirit and the reason we’re here on Earth. As she feels more in tune with who she is, she’ll be able to handle her day to day experiences. Family and other relationships will become clearer.

Listen to our entire 11-minute audio session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Malia and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 18, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Chakras, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Decision Making, Intuition, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

   

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