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How Can I Processes My Childhood Abuse?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Denisa, who asks about her childhood trauma. She says, I learned from The Council I chose this experience, but no matter how hard I try, I don’t know how to process it. The Council says, So you’ve learned about the trauma. Learning what you’ve gone through is enough to let the trauma go. Just knowing you created it to feel what it was like to go through it and change it to make it better.

Many people will ask, How do I process this trauma? And every day they think about it over and over in order to process it. Thinking about your trauma over and over only keeps you locked into it. We suggest not thinking about your trauma. You may feel this is strange advice, but when you don’t have those traumatic thoughts and pictures in your mind, it’s easier to go through it. It’s easier to process it by understanding you created this trauma for whatever reason and that’s it – the end. Don’t stay in your trauma thinking there’s some long drawn out purpose to it or process in it. There isn’t.

Instead of thinking about your trauma and how to get rid of it, leave it alone. Let it go. Take your mind and focus on other things, joyful things, things you wish to create in your life because thinking about that, you’ll create it. That’s the way you get through this trauma.

Denisa says, I’ve been working on myself a lot and sometimes I’m grateful for that experience, and sometimes I feel lost and don’t know what to do next. The Council says working on yourself doesn’t mean you go looking for all the things that are wrong with you. We suggest working on yourself by taking a positive attitude. When you have these positive thoughts, and when you can smile and feel good, that’s how you’re creating a better life for yourself.

Denisa says, I’d like to heal the pain I experienced as a child and move on. The Council sees you’ve gotten through this experience. The only pain you still experience is what you cause yourself by thinking about the trauma and remembering it over and over. You’re now creating more pain for yourself, which is keeping you in that painful situation. Change your thoughts. That’s how you let the pain go.

Denisa says, I haven’t spoken to my father in over 10 years because of the way he treated me. I’ve tried to connect with him in the past, but he’s very self-centered and manipulative, so I completely cut off contact with him. Do you think it’s okay that I don’t want to be in touch with him? The Council says of course it’s okay. He’s showing you what you need right now about how he is, and there’s no joy for you in that relationship. It’s what you’ve worked out in spirit. He’d create more uncomfortable feelings so you could walk away and let it go. This is part of him helping you to let go of that part of your life. Being around him wouldn’t make it easier. For what the two of you have worked out, communicating with your father will keep you in the trauma. It’s fine to let your relationship with him go.

Denisa asks if she and her father agreed go through this trauma on a spiritual level and The Council says, Of course. The agreement was to bring this trauma in and create an uncomfortable situation to learn from it and to see if you’re both in a place to heal it, or because of what’s going on in your lives, the healing wasn’t possible by staying together. And so one or both of you would create a situation where you can’t get along, and that’s the way you let go of this trauma, by not being around it. Stop keeping this in your mind and actively thinking about it. This is a gift that you give to each other to move on now.

Denisa asks what lessons did my father and I want to take from this experience? The Council says to learn about abuse, to learn about forgiveness, to learn about boundaries, and to learn creating joy in your life is what your life is all about. You don’t come here to suffer and be miserable. You come here to find a way to experience joy in this lifetime, to create it for yourself, and to help others find the joy they want. Help others in little ways to feel this joy. That’s your purpose.

Denisa asks if she and her father shared any past lives together. The Council sees a past life in Ireland where you were male cousins running an inn, and that was a very good life for both of you. You went through hardships. At one time there wasn’t enough food or enough money. There was a lot of community fighting. You learned to stick together and work through these diffuculties.

In your current life you wanted to understand how you’d handle another difficult situation, which was created by the abuse. Could you work through this? And does working through this abuse mean it’s okay to let it go and experience your life differently and seperately? That’s what’s going on now.

When Denisa finds herself focusing on the abuse that took place in her life, it’s a good idea to find something more pleasant to focus on. She can even think about the past life in Ireland where she had a very good life with the man who was her father in her current lifetime. Completely let go and know you’ve gone through this challenge of abuse. This separation is the way you both spiritually found to handle it. Now stop thinking about it and focus on creating how you want the rest of your life to be.


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October 13, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Is Our Material Life Preordained By Our Pre-Birth Spiritual Choices?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Juan, who says that according to his understanding of the information presented on this website, our existence in this material life is preordained by our choices before we are born into this lifetime.

The Council says some of the lessons you wish to experience are pre-planned while you’re still in spirit before you incarnate into your current lifetime, but not all your lessons in this lifetime are pre-planned this way. You leave your current life open so you can experience it and pick any road you wish to travel.

When you go back into spirit after you finish this lifetime you observe how you handled each situation and whether you liked the way you handled them. Do you need to go through that same lesson again in a new lifetime, or was your experience in this lifetime good enough? What did you learn? You have freedom in your current life that comes with many surprises, and you also have pre-planned lessons.

Juan asks if pre-planning your life in spirit is what’s meant by the phrase, “You create your own reality?” The Council says we create with every thought we have. It is not all created before you incarnate into your current life. You may pre-plan the parents you want in your upcoming life. You may create the wife, husband, or relationship you want to have. But what happens in these relationships depends on the spirits you’re interacting with.

Your life has the freedom to go in any direction, and that’s what’s fun about creating your reality. This is the reason The Council advises us to come from love. If you look at all your experiences from the point of view of love, your life will go in the direction of love.

Juan asks, “Once we’re in this material existence and we believe in the spiritual life, is there a way to remodel an existence of hanging on by our fingernails very close to poverty?”

The Council answers that there is a way for you to change the circumstances in your current life. Look at your life and ask the question, “Why is my life the way it is? What is my life meant to teach me?” And then begin to believe you can live your life an easier way and you don’t need to continue experiencing your life the way you’ve been experiencing it.

In your mind imagine how you’d like your life to be and how you’d like it to change. Go into great detail and think of it as often as you can. Then practice feeling as if these changes are already happening. That’s the way you change something you have pre-planned in spirit that you no longer feel you need in your life.

The reason you keep experiencing something you don’t want in your life is your higher self is trying to show you that you don’t understand the lesson this experience is trying to teach you. Keep asking why you’re creating this aspect of your life that you no longer want? What is it I could be trying to learn from having this experience? Am I helping the people around me learn from having this experience?

Juan says he’s heard that in order to change your reality you have to raise your vibration and he asks what it means to raise your vibration?

The Council says thinking good thoughts will raise your vibration. Thinking how to make your life and the life of the people around you better will raise your vibration. These good thoughts will put you in the vibration of love, and that raises your vibration.

Juan asks what’s the effect of having a positive attitude on raising your vibration and improving your life? The Council says when you have a positive thought about everything, it not only lightens how you feel, it lightens your thoughts and every experience you have going forward. The reason for this is that a positive thought can only attract positive experiences into your life.

When you’re in the vibration of love, being grateful, and being positive, you can’t attract to yourself a horrible experience. Think loving thoughts. Send love to yourself and the people around you. Be helpful. Find things to appreciate, even if it’s a flower. This appreciation will raise your vibration. It’s the law of attraction: what you feel and what you think will attract into your life what you experience.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Juan and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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March 6, 2019 Posted by | Abraham-Hicks, Audio Content, Channeling, Law of Attraction, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , | 7 Comments

   

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