Help Me With My 3-Year Relationship With A Lying Drug Addict
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Carovana.
Carovana: I’m in a 3-year relationship with a drug addict, but the real problem is that he constantly lies.
Council: What have you learned about this drug addict and his lying? How do you handle this? Are you trying to change this person? You can’t do that. Can you be more understanding? Yes, you can understand, but there’s a time when you need to just watch this person and let them be who they are and then decide what you’ll do with this knowledge.
Carovana: He wants to appear different from what he really is, what he really does, and what he thinks. He twists facts and reality for his own benefit, and no matter how smart I am, he continues to try and deceive me.
Council: Are you tiring yourself out by trying to show this person you’re really smart and you know what he’s doing? We’d suggest you just let this person be, and then decide if you want to be around him. That’s all. You won’t change this person.
Carovana: I developed panic attacks due to the frequent state of restlessness and anxiety in which I’m thrown by his behavior, and we constantly fight. He doesn’t act this way solely to cover his drug abuse. His game spreads much wider and deeper. He’s also obscenely incoherent. His words go South and his actions go North.
Council: You can stay with this man if you can understand how he is and not believe what he says. Offer love and understanding. But to be in the relationship and saying to yourself, “I must show him that I know what’s going on, I must show him that I’m smart,” that’s not the purpose of this relationship.
The purpose of this relationship is to allow someone to be. It’s for you to allow others, and not just this person, but look at the years when you were growing up with your friends and family. Did you allow them just to be and then learn from it? And did this allow you to be just as you want to be, being in a place of love and peacefulness? Can you do that for yourself?
This was your mission, so to speak, in your current lifetime. Just to accept everyone and what they’re doing, and sending love and light to them to help them grow. But not to forcefully try to show them, “I know what you’re doing. You can’t fool me,” and tire yourself out. It’s just the purpose of being there, and most of all, just being yourself. That’s what this relationship is supposed to teach you.
When you see that someone is really one way and pretending to be another, do you do that? Do you do that to please people and to have them think of you differently? It’s a mirror effect. And so we say, just allow.
Carovana: The reason I stayed in this relationship so long is that another side of him, very prominent, is that he’s incredibly loving and sweet. He chose me as the woman of his life, tells me I’m the woman of his dreams, and is extremely attached and devoted to me. It’s almost morbid. This makes it really difficult to break up with him and in fact, all my attempts have failed. I’m also in a very lonely phase of my life so I lack the social support and the favorable environment that would make it easier to move on.
I can’t explain or comprehend this duality in him. He lost his mother when he was nine years old, but it’s not a good excuse to act this way now that he’s 36 years old. I hope The Council can shed some light on him, on us, and on me. I’d be very thankful.
Council: There are lessons for this man to learn, starting with his childhood and moving into adulthood. Not feeling safe enough for him to be who he really wants to be, he doesn’t know how, the role model wasn’t there, and the understanding of just being wasn’t there. Instead he chose to pretend because there’s no acceptance of himself.
With you there, if you can accept this man the way he is, you are the role model. You’re the role model by setting your boundaries, by not believing everything that’s said, but by understanding that everything that’s said is out of fear and nonacceptance of yourself. Once you can do that and not knock yourself out to understand it or change this person, it will change, because now you’re looking at it differently. And when you look at something differently, it will change.
See the relationship the way you want it to be. First concentrate on yourself. Accept yourself, and then look around you, and not at just this person, but others that come in and out of your life. And when you learn you have choices, you have the ability to bring into your life what you want. When you focus on that, it must happen.
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I Feel My Marriage Won’t Let Me Move Forward With What I Want
This post answers some follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Angie. Angie previously asked The Council some questions which we answered in our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man?
Angie: I do have another part to what I’d like to ask regarding my husband, Chris. First, I felt that I needed to get clarification on my connection to Brent (a co-worker – see previous post) as that has been weighing heavily on my mind. Is Brent aware of the kind of connection we share from other lifetimes and that we both pre-planned to come together in our current life to support each other? If not, how can I help him understand?
Council: He’s not aware of anything more than a friendship. If you want him to open up to more than that and question what you both have in this relationship, you’d have to visualize that, but allow him to be who he is. At this time we don’t advise you to push for Brent to be more than a friend. Be a good friend and companion to him. You can talk about things you have in common. You can make that apparent, but his growth and desire to learn more about you must come from him.
Angie: Although my husband and I have remained married for almost 24 years, I haven’t felt we were always aligned with each other. We’ve had our ups and downs, but something was missing between us. I don’t think we ever connected on the level I was looking for in a marriage.
Council: In this connection you’re looking for did you look at your husband from your heart? Did you look for loving things about him even when things are difficult? Do you connect by realizing your husband is also a spirit, and he has his challenges and feelings he needs to work through? Did you connect by appreciating your husband and looking for all the good things in your marriage? When you look for these things, you’ll find them.
Angie: In between our down times, Chris and I had many good years.
Council: That’s wonderful, and it’s good to think about and remember that.
Angie: But when I decided to go back to school, it was the most challenging time. It was challenging because I had to balance taking care of our two sons, focus on my studies, and try to have Chris understand that completing my degree was important to me and will bring success to our family.
Council: Do you know that you created all this and you both agreed to experience this challenge? Did you know you wanted to create this challenge to see if you could handle it so that you’d feel good about yourself? Did your husband agree to this challenge to learn to see you differently, or handle jealousy? There are different reasons this challenge was created, but because you both went through this, it’s something you both want to learn from.
Angie: The extra challenge was how Chris seemed upset with me for what I felt was being focused on my education. After all my hard work during a semester and taking my final exam one weekend, Chris accused me of being with someone else. It was the most hurtful thing to hear him say. There were other moments where I had to tell him I would continue to reach for my goals with or without him.
After I graduated and had a full-time job lined up, things smoothed out. Chris was happier and I thought I’d be happier along side him. I was happy for the next couple years. By this time both our sons were attending college and I was paying their tuition and room and board.
Council: We’d ask you to review what was going on that you were happy for a couple years. Take a good look at that and see what you created and what you went through. What was Chris going through?
Angie: I was able to provide my sons with financial support mostly because we didn’t have a mortgage. Things were going well for us. Chris and I decided to look into buying a new house, but it didn’t work out. I felt is wasn’t the right time. He kept pushing for us to buy a house. I still felt it wasn’t the right time and I explained to him, I’m paying quite a bit in tuition for our boys, including my own expenses and tuition loans. I wasn’t going to take on extra expenses that would come with buying a home. Instead of receiving his understanding, he reacted with a threat of divorce.
Council: In that do you realize you learned to make a boundary, and what you wanted to experience, and what you didn’t want to experience. Look at how you’ve grown, and how you were clear with what you wanted, and you were able to voice it.
Angie: Chris threatened divorce one other time. This was the turning point for me to focus on myself even more. I’m left wondering if our coming together was to have our children and provide for them up to the time they’d begin to create their own lives.
Council: That was part of what your lives are about.
Angie: I know I’ve had a lot of personal growth and I’ve noticed my husband seems to be stuck in the same place and not moving towards his goals as much. This has made it feel like we’re growing apart. Has our marriage run it’s course?
Council: It’s only run it’s course if you decide that’s what you want. If It’s what you want, you’ll create it to go in that direction. It’s really all up to you. That’s one of the great understandings we all need to learn when we create a reality. It’s all up to you.
Angie: I feel the urge to move forward with what I want and I don’t think I’ll be able to fully do this while I’m married to Chris. I do love and care for him very much, but I want to go toward what’s fulfilling and brings happiness.
Council: Meditate on this. Picture yourself going forward with your husband and picture your life without him. What feels better? You’ll always know by how it feels. Do you wish to stay in this marriage and work out the problems? Is this something you wish to create and grow from? Or is it time that you wish to be on your own?
There isn’t any wrong answer. You’ll experience what you need to experience. Your higher self, which is you, is in control and well aware of what you want to create in this life. The best thing is to remain calm, meditate, and visualize what you want.
And so we wish you all love, and light, and happiness, and gratitude on your path. Be supportive of one another and love yourself, as well as others in your life. And remember every single day, you’re all spirits in a physical body, and you’ll create whatever you focus on. Even if you focus on something negative, you’ll create that. We urge you to have positive thoughts, laugh as much as you can, have fun, remember the wonderful and happy memories, and stay in the positive.
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What’s Causing My Block To Intimacy?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Monica, who says, I’d like to ask The Council about my block in intimacy. I’m ashamed and I feel uncomfortable. My husband is very upset because of this block and I want him to be happy. I’d like to know what causes my block in intimacy and how I can change it.
The Council says there were many past lives where you didn’t have this challenge, but there were two past lives that are connected to this block in intimacy. In one lifetime you were a slave back in Greece and sold from person to person. There was an issue of trust because of the misuse of your body. You had no control and you had to go along with the cruelty you experienced.
In the last part of that particular lifetime you were sold to someone that told the villagers where you lived that your purpose was to be a prostitute. You had sex with many people and at the end of that particular lifetime you were stoned for this reason. It was a sad, cruel life, and it was something you didn’t want to experience as a personality, but you chose to go through this to learn from it.
Because you chose not to deal with this sadness in other lifetimes, you went through a similar experience again as a Negro slave who was taken from Africa and brought to Vermont. You lived a life there of no trust for people and not knowing what would happen to you. You were passed around from man to man and sold many times.
This issue of intimacy is coming up in your current lifetime so that you’d feel it and perhaps look into the reasons for this problem, which you’re doing now, and to overcome this problem.
The man you’re married to now had no part of your mistreatment in both of these past lives. This fear within you was brought into your current life by you to experience it and realize it isn’t your problem in this life because you’re in a secure relationship. Know that this fear comes from past lives, and work on releasing this fear in your current life.
Knowing there were other past lives where you didn’t have this intimacy problem and you were able to experience intimacy and wonderful relationships, you have the power to experience this intimacy again.
In your current lifetime you wanted to experience the fear and the challenge, learn about it, and then change it.
You’re exactly on your path. You’re going along with exactly what you planned in your current lifetime.
The Council closes by suggesting we all search for joy and to find it in any way we can, every day.
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What’s The Council’s Take On Human Rights Abuses in Palestine?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Over The Wall, who asks what The Council’s take is on the human rights abuses in Palestine, such as the home evictions and demolitions, and the poisoning of crops? I’ve seen this situation brought up briefly in Brian Weiss‘s and Neale Walsch‘s books, but not directly in any spiritual material. How does The Council see this situation playing out as society transforms in future decades?
The Council repeats that things will change as people’s thinking changes. As everyone evolves and they have better thoughts, like wanting peace, and spirit wanting to bring love into this reality, things will eventually change. As we currently see this situation, the way things are going now will continue for the next five to ten years. But what must be understood is that if everyone gets together and wants peace, at any moment the situation will change. In a year or two if people create the reality they want with love and peace, this situation will change.
The Council says the abuse in Palestine is going on now because it’s a reminder. Earlier in history we had concentration camps and wars and now we have these abuses. It begins by trying to keep the information from being made public. But other spirits’ desire for this information clashes with keeping everything under control the way certain governments want. And so there’s a period where the abuse goes on because this experience is wanted in spirit so we can learn about ourselves, about what we create, what we understand, and what we’ll tolerate. This abuse is an experience and a reminder to show you what’s possible when you’re negative and you’re not working on creating a better you.
The change in this abuse doesn’t come when you protest in great masses of people. The abuse will change when you look inside yourself and see what allows this abuse to take place. Ask yourself what you really want? Why are you here? Spirit is here to have experiences and learn from them. We’re trying to learn compassion, support for one another, and freedom to be who we are. But when we don’t go in this direction there’s turmoil.
In your day-to-day life how do you treat yourself? How do you treat others? Do you extend a helping hand? Do you show love no matter how difficult it is? Can you change your perception of things and see them as turning out better? That’s the only reason this abuse is going on – to learn from it and learn about yourself. But the abuse won’t change by fighting against it. It’s by visualizing and creating the peace in your vibration first. And it’s about you reaching out on a daily basis and showing the kindness and understanding that’s needed to no longer want these cruel situations.
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What Are Soul Families and Do They Last Forever?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who wants to know more about the concept of soul families. She asks, How many souls generally belong to one soul family, and does the soul family last for eternity or can a soul change to another soul family?
The Council says different soul families can have different amounts of souls. And souls can pop in and out of other soul groups to experience what these other souls want to experience. As souls we’re all connected, here to support each other and grow, and most of all to bring love into every situation. There’s jumping into another soul group to help a soul who’s planning something that another soul has gone through. And this soul volunteers to go into that soul’s group and that soul’s life and work with them on whatever experience they wish to have. You’re always with certain souls you enjoy incarnating with, but there’s also that moving around a little bit.
Eden asks the purpose of coming together with other souls to create a soul family? The Council says it’s to always be supportive of each other. There’s a blending of the vibration of these souls and the desire to learn from each other. It’s like in the physical world where certain people help you while you experience something and share joy with you. It’s the same in your soul family.
Eden asks if the purpose is simply to love and support one another and to grow together. The Council says of course it’s to grow together, support one another, love one another, and send supportive energy to souls from your home group to help them get through whatever they’re experiencing.
Eden asks, Do you generally incarnate with members of your soul family? The Council simply says, Yes.
Lastly Eden asks, Which people, if any, who are currently in my life are members of my soul family. The Council advises Eden to look at whatever experience, memory, or story you share with your father. He’s the most familiar soul from your soul group in your current lifetime. In the future of your current life, if it goes in the direction you originally planned in spirit, there are three new people that come into your life – two men and one woman. You’ll recognize them by taking a few breathes and looking into their eyes. When you get that “ah ha” feeling, this will confirm they are also from your soul group.
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Why Did I Have a Loving Childhood and Now I’m Surrounded By Difficult Men?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Serenity, who says she’s a kind woman who comes from a wonderful family and grew up with minimal problems and nothing but love. When I got married we were happy at first, but as the years went by we grew apart and now have nothing in common.
The Council says they don’t see Serenity’s situation the same as she does. You have much in common with your husband and much more to accomplish with him. The feeling of drifting apart is caused by not connecting on a deeper level about moving forward. This relationship isn’t over.
Feeling you’re not connected with your husband allows you space to bring other souls into your life if that’s what you planned. It’s an opportunity to face life’s challenges and happy moments and have experience with another spirit.
Serenity says, we’re married 35 years. Several years ago I rekindled communication with my first love who had become a severe alcoholic and I’m helping him slowly get better.
The Council asks how you’re helping this man. Are you supporting the process of healing himself? You won’t heal anyone. The decision to heal is up to that spirit and it’s your place to accept what they’re going through. Whether he heals and becomes sober or stays with the alcoholism, your purpose is to be a watcher, a supporter, and allow him to be who he is. This is what you planned in spirit.
Serenity says, although my original feelings have changed, I still love both men in different ways. The Council says your feelings haven’t changed, they’re just refocused at the moment.
Serenity says, I’m confused about my purpose in life and why, after being brought up in such a loving environment, I seem to be surrounded by extremely difficult men.
The Council says this gives you a foundation for what you want to create going forward. If you were brought up in a loving environment, did you plan to face challenges and learn from them, and then change these challenges into a loving reality? The loving beginning of your life gave you something so when you get in other relationships, can you create a loving atmosphere. See if you can have a partner that’s also loving to help you find that loving feeling. It’s to learn what you’re currently going through isn’t what you want, but you’ll experience it and this will help you know what to create going forward?
Serenity says, all I ever wanted in life was a simple, intelligent, honest man to love me, have common interests, travel, and enjoy a beautiful life together. I’d like to know my purpose in life and why this has been so difficult to achieve in this incarnation.
The Council sees you wished to have the beautiful and perfect relationship that you have when you’re in spirit. You wanted to experience this in your current lifetime. You can still have this by focusing on what you want. How much of it do you have with this man you’re helping with alcoholism? How much of this experience do you have with your husband? Then refocus your thoughts and concentrate solely on the fact that you’ve had loving relationships in your youth and you need to create it again with these two men in your life.
When you feel this love around you, then you can make a choice to be with one of these men or keep both of them in your life. You came into this lifetime to have love at the beginning of your life and then have challenges. We are here to bring love into every challenge we have, no matter what that challenge is.
As you focus your thoughts and bring in better thoughts, the people around you will feel the change and it will help them move through their challenges and grow. You’ll be a beacon of light and help them through whatever it is they wish to learn.
The Council thanks Cynthia and Bob for bringing in this information to all the souls who need to know there’s more to life than the human condition you’re experiencing, to hear our words, and to connect with their higher selves. This way each one of us, if we grow even an inch, we bring everyone else on this planet with us.
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How Does The Council Know About the Person Asking a Question?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Amazed, who asks how The Council knows who’s asking them questions?
The Council says when you write a question, your energy that you want an answer from spirit moves out into the universe and we immediately tune into this energy. We know you by your energy because we all know each other and we can see where you are in this part of your life. Through the feeling, we know who’s asking. It doesn’t matter where you’re from. We know from your energy that it’s this time in your life and what help you need. We also sense who else will benefit from the answer to your question, so the answer is always expressed in a way that everyone benefits.
Next Amazed asks when and how does a spirit enter a fetus in the mother’s womb? The Council says when you’re in spirit you choose the circumstances you want in your physical life, the family you want, and you choose the people that will have experiences that will benefit you according to what you want to learn. When this is set up, the timeline is also set up when you’d come to the mother and father. When the circumstances are right, the spirit will choose to enter the fetus.
Many spirits will hang around for months before the mother becomes pregnant just to keep an eye on what the mother and father are experiencing. Sometimes when the pregnancy is set up in spirit, it’s also set up that the spirit is able to change its mind about entering the fetus if it doesn’t like what’s going on in the mother and father’s life because the pregnancy wouldn’t benefit all parties.
When it’s time, spirit enters the fetus by the power of thought. This is all that’s necessary for a spirit to enter a fetus. When it’s ready the spirit thinks it’s time to begin this adventure and just enters the fetus.
The spirit can enter the fetus immediately after conception if it wants the experience of being in the womb for nine months. Or the spirit can wait until the moment of birth or even a day or two after birth before coming into the human body if the spirit isn’t sure it wants to come in.
There can be a situation where a spirit planned to be with a family, but the mother or father has become an alcoholic and this isn’t what the spirit wanted to experience in this lifetime. This spirit can then change its mind and either the mother won’t become pregnant, or if she becomes pregnant she’ll lose the child because that spirit doesn’t want to enter the fetus of an alcoholic parent. Until the moment of birth, the spirit that will enter the fetus can change its mind.
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Comparing Ideas of Abraham and Robert Schwartz on Learning
This post answers questions from a reader named, Lindsay, who’s reading Your Soul’s Gift, by Robert Schwartz and really enjoying it. Before reading this book she was reading Abraham as channeled by Esther Hicks, and was having difficulty reconciling these two points of view. Abraham says you can be, do, or have anything you desire, and Rob talks about a spiritual pre-life plan that includes suffering to help you learn and grow.
The Council begins by saying you don’t pre-plan every minute of your life while you’re in spirit. You plan some lessons you want to learn, and some of these are very pleasant and some are challenging. If you’ve chosen a lesson that causes a lot of pain and suffering, you have the free will to change this spiritual plan while you’re in human form.
Abraham says you can be, do, or have anything you want in this life and The Council agrees. They also say this can sometimes take a lot of work and focus. Many people have problems doing this because they figure if they focus for a day or a week that’s enough to change things. Sometimes it takes a lot more focus and time. During this time you’d be learning patience, researching what you want, and getting into it in more detail.
When you’re in spirit and planning to come into a physical body the challenges you wish to go through as a human are difficult, but in the spirit world you think you can handle this. You think, let me see how I can turn this situation around and bring more love into it. And we in spirit, guide you any way we can to help you get through whatever it is you want to learn. In your human form things can be challenging, but in your spiritual form you are learning and growing. When you return to spirit you’ll be able to bring what you’ve learned back with you and all spirits will learn from it.
Robert Schwartz’s books deal with why we pick challenging experiences, what we can learn from them, and how these experiences will affect the people around us. Abraham is lighter. He says you’re in control and you can change your life. Just imagine what you want, see it, feel it, and you can create it. Both of these points of view work, but they are coming from different directions.
Not everyone plans to suffer through their life and not everyone plans to be happy all the time. Life is about experiences. Everything you go through, whether it’s a happy life or a challenging life, is experience to learn and grow from.
When you choose an experience that’s difficult and you’re in pain, you can change this by meditating and remembering who you truly are as a spiritual being. You have all the tools you need to get through this life and change it. If you want a difficult experience there’s a way to get through it. Meditate on this and see your situation the way you want it to be.
The purpose of Robert Schwartz’s books are to demonstrate more understanding of why people suffer. People who are suffering want answers. They ask why they’re suffering and why are they going through what they’re going through. Robert Schwartz sheds light on this. His information is very important to the people who need to understand why life is so difficult for them when they think they would never chose to create these difficulties.
When you read some of Robert’s stories you begin to realize they make sense. At one time or another, in one of your many lifetimes, you will have challenges. It will be difficult for you, but it’s because you wished to experience these challenges.
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How Can I Mend a Deteriorated Personal Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Glenda, who says she met someone about 8 years ago that she believes was her twin soul. We had so many similarities and we could tell without a word what the other was thinking.
The Council says this is because there have been many, many lifetimes where you’ve popped in and out of each others lives, almost like brothers and sisters. The two of you have had lots of fun as well as a lot of challenges. And you continue to want to come in and out of each other’s lives.
Glenda says two years ago this man took a job that required a move to a city further away. He changed after this move and he was aware of this and frustrated by it. We had a few arguments about his behavior, which had never been an issue before, and it led to him largely cutting me from his life.
Glenda says she understands about loss. Both her parents as well as some dear friends have passed from this life and she’s had failed relationships also. The situation with this man doesn’t feel like any of those. It’s more like a piece of herself is missing. She asks The Council if there’s a way to mend the link between her and this man.
The Council says this was an experience she wanted to have from a spiritual perspective. She wanted to learn about loss, how to accept it, and how to let it go. This relationship can be mended, but it will take time. The Council suggests Glenda does the inner work first by sending loving energy and talking to the spirit of this person. You are here to help each other. Learn from this situation. It’s okay to leave each others lives and you’ll always be able to return.
The Council says this situation has been repeated by the two of you in past lives, but there’s a desire on both your parts to be in relationship in this lifetime. The frustration this person is going through is what leads to the arguments and you have to allow this soul time to work this out on their end. With patience, inner work, and meditation contact will be made again. The Council feels it’s possible to hear from this person in six months, but they say the timing is also up to the people involved.
You wish to experience time together then separate. Sometimes in past lives it was for good and sometimes you came back. When you separate you learn more about yourselves and when you come back together you’re able to share what you’ve learned and you both grow from this.
The Council says there’s only a slight possibility of this relationship becoming romantic in this lifetime, but it wasn’t really something that was planned from a spiritual perspective.
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Getting Over Attracting an Abusive Relationship
This post answers questions from a reader named, Kristina, who recently broke up with her abusive ex-partner of two years, but she still maintains contact with him because she felt he was the love of her life.
The Council says it’s wonderful to leave an abusive relationship because it hurts you physically and/or emotionally. And The Council asks why you would keep in contact with this abusive person. You say it’s because you feel there was a great love there, but The Council emphasized that love is not abusive.
At this point The Council feels having something to do with this person is an excuse because you think there’s love there. You’re in a place where the relationship is familiar and you believe it will change. And yet the part of your spirit that doesn’t need to experience abusiveness is telling you it’s time to end this relationship.
What have you learned from being abused? There isn’t any love in abuse. Love is supportive. Love is compassionate. Love is understanding. The choice is yours, but why would you want to connect with someone abusive? If you think about it, the part of you that wants to experience something better has already left this relationship.
Kristina says this man walked away leaving her heartbroken and her pain and anxiety is through the roof. The Council says anxiety will come from being abused. This relationship took away your power. You were smart to get out.
Kristina says she can’t understand how she attracted this abusive man into her life when she was never in an abusive relationship before. The Council says this abuse is a lesson you wanted in spirit to experience; to feel it, to grow from it, and know this isn’t the kind of energy you’re here to bring in.
When you put a stop to this abuse and you give yourself time to recover, you can think of the kind of relationship you want. With these thoughts you can bring a loving relationship into this reality. And as more and more people bring love into this reality it affects everyone on the planet. This is your purpose. There is no reason to stay with the hurt of this abuse. Think about what you’ve learned from this relationship and what you’ll create? And The Council says stay with positive thoughts.
Kristina asks how she can get over the deep pain she’s experiencing. And The Council says by knowing this abusive relationship was pre-planned in spirit between your soul and the soul of your abuser. On a soul level this man is wonderful. He’s come into this reality and played “the bad guy” so you can learn from this experience. Now you can let go of this abuse. Change your vibration with your thoughts and find the power within you. Abuse takes away your dignity and your good thoughts about yourself. Many who are abused blame themselves instead of the abuser.
Read past life books by Robert Schwartz and you’ll learn about abuse and why you asked for it in your life. Know that you broke off this abusive vibration and are no longer in it. You don’t need an excuse to remain in this vibration. Go with positive thoughts. Thank the spirit of this abusive man for playing his part. Think about what happened and how you can help others who experience abuse who come into your life. Work on the issue of deserving better. Meditate and pray on this.
Love this soul that helped you learn about abuse and thank him for what went on. Understand this was an experience and it wasn’t supposed to permanently take love away from your life. Your wanted to go through this to find the strength to look at the abuse, learn from it, and then become the strong soul that you are. Find the love within you. The abuse was only to take you to a place where you find your power. You find your knowledge that you have choices and you can create what you want with these choices.
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Why Has My Housemate Turned On Me?
This post is inspired by a question from a reader who goes by the name, Exhausted Soul, who asks The Council why their housemate has turned on them? Exhausted Soul has a feeling she and their housemate shared a past life together. They don’t think they’ve done anything to deserve this treatment and is having difficulty understanding the situation.
The Council says when we have lessons involving another person that we planned in spirit to learn in our current lifetime, it’s almost 100% certain we know this person from another lifetime and we’re trying to evolve past something we’ve experienced in order to learn from each other and make it better this time around.
This experience isn’t something mean your housemate has done to hurt you. It’s meant to teach you. How do you handle this situation? Do you stay? Do you leave? What do you do with this situation now?
The Council says there was a past life in Asia where you were the brother and your housemate was your younger sister in a family that was destroyed by sickness. When you were 9 years old you found a way to leave your sister and live with another family that took you in as a servant and eventually you were accepted as part of this family.
Your sister, who is your housemate now, was abandoned by you and she had a very short life of hard labor and trying to survive. The anger your housemate has for you in this lifetime is carried over from this Asian lifetime.
The Council says you don’t need to have done something wrong in this lifetime to feel anger from your housemate. This anger is something that was intended to come up so it could be healed. Can you send your housemate love and move on? It was your wish to learn how to be around your housemate and deal with her anger and find love to send to her. You have the opportunity to bring the vibration of love into the relationship this time around when you part.
This previous lifetime has been recreated in this lifetime to see if you handle it with more love or the anger from the previous life. You now have the opportunity to handle this situation differently than you did in your previous life.
Listen to our entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Exhausted Soul and the rest of us, and let us know your feelings on this session.
Do Extra-Terrestrial Beings Live in Our Solar System?
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Kristi, who asks if aliens are real (as in extra-terrestrial beings living in our solar system) and she asks if The Council can tell her about them.
The Council says of course aliens or extra-terrestrial beings are real and some end up here on Earth to learn and some to teach. They are not here to harm us. It’s known that aliens are here, but this is kept very quiet.
Bob asked The Council how we would know when we came across an alien and The Council said many times we wouldn’t know. You usually can’t tell by the way they look because they assume a human form, but you’d feel a difference in their energy. You perceive things you never perceived before when you’re in their presence. They are here to learn from us, to teach us, and to add love to every situation.
Bob asked if Kristi has come in contact with any aliens in this lifetime and The Council said when she was a baby there were two aliens who were her neighbors briefly and teachers that were there to observe. These two aliens had contact with Kristi in another lifetime and there was a shared desire to be allowed to come into this lifetime and observe a child in this reality.
The Council says when we dream about aliens they can assume non-human form, but The Council repeats that when aliens come into our human reality they assume a human form. The Council says some aliens leave evidence that can be found that extra-terrestrials have been here so we can learn there is more than the human form. Crop circles are an example of this.
Listen to our entire 13-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Kristi and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.
Advice to Help Partner and Son
This interesting post is inspired by two follow up questions for The Council from a reader named, Wendy, who asks for advice she can give her partner to help her get pregnant, and advice on how to help her son.
Wendy’s Partner
Wendy says she and her partner have begun trying to have a child, but her partner is unsure if a pregnancy is possible due to a medical report he received years ago. The Council recommends getting Wendy’s partner to talk about how he sees his life with Wendy and a child. But The Council emphasizes this is Wendy’s reality and they say she’ll create a pregnancy no matter what her partner thinks. And The Council also says it will be easier to create a pregnancy when she sees her partner speaking about it.
The Council says it’s difficult to understand that each of us experiences many different realities, although most of us are only aware of a single reality. In this reality Wendy has expressed a desire to become pregnant with her partner. In another reality with the same partner, Wendy can create a reality where it’s just her and her partner and they have no children. Wendy’s partner also has many realities. In one reality he may allow a child, and in another reality he may wish to create a life without children.
The Council says when Wendy focuses on wanting a child, she’ll create having this child and she’ll create her partner going along with this. As far as the medical report is concerned, The Council says not to listen to these reports if they go against what Wendy desires, and notice the powerful creator she is.
The Council recommends Wendy have her partner meditate with her daily, and they say 5 minutes is all that’s necessary. Picture a beautiful healing white light coming into the top of your head and filtering down through every part of your bodies, through the feet and into the Earth, bringing strength to your body. If Wendy’s partner does this every day and begins to see this healing white light in his imagination, he will be able to create a child with Wendy.
Wendy’s Son
Next Wendy asks The Council for advice to help her son with his perfectionism. The Council says children often create pressure on themselves to be perfect in order to be loved and accepted. How does Wendy treat her son when he isn’t perfect? Does she still accept him the way he is and show him love? The more she can do this he’ll begin to realize not being perfect is okay, he can learn from his experience, the pressure will ease up, and Wendy will see a change.
Wendy, Son, and Partner in a Past Life
Wendy says her son has difficulty expressing love to her partner. The Council encourages Wendy to respect how her son feels about her partner at this time and not to push him to be more affectionate. And they ask if Wendy can be okay with her son not loving her partner.
Wendy asks about past lives she’s shared with her son and her partner, and The Council says in the lifetime that’s affecting their current life the three of them were together, Wendy as the mother, her partner as her husband, and her son as their son. In that lifetime Wendy became sick and died when her son was around 5 years old, and her son blamed the husband for not doing enough to save Wendy. The son was then left with the father who could no longer express love or emotion and they lived an empty life together.
In his current lifetime the son has chosen to heal the blame he felt in that previous lifetime. It will take time to relax with Wendy’s partner. In time the partner and Wendy’s son will attempt to work out their differences. That’s the agreement they made with each other in spirit. Wendy shouldn’t force the two of them to get along. Let their spirits find a way to try and heal the hurt they brought into this lifetime.
Listen to our entire 16-minute session to hear all The Council’s guidance for Wendy and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
Feeling Guilty for Giving a Child Up for Adoption
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Miyam, who gave her newborn up for adoption, and now she’s feeling guilty, embarrassed, and ashamed.
The Council asks Miyam why she feels that way, because her situation was an unhealthy one and she chose to give this child to someone who was able to offer it a better home and a better life.
Miyam says there’s a negative outlook in society on pregnancy when the mother isn’t able to raise the child and there’s also a negative outlook when a mother chooses abortion. To this The Council replies it’s not Miyam’s place to get other people to understand what she’s going through. It’s for her to understand and learn how this can help her grow and change her life for the better. Does she stay and repeat the same lesson, or realize she’s in an unhealthy relationship and she’s done the right thing by putting this child up for adoption so it’s able to learn whatever it seeks to learn.
Miyam says this wasn’t the first child she gave up for adoption and she asks why her spirit planned this and why she allowed this to happen. The Council replies that it’s her choice to stay in this relationship and it’s her choice to repeat this lesson over and over again and they advise her to consider this perspective.
Miyam says sometimes she’s ready to give up on life and sometimes she thinks she’s was meant to allow these children to come into this lifetime to experience what they pre-planned. The Council says Miyam pre-planned to bring these children in, with the understanding between her and the souls of these children that if she was able to raise these children herself, she would. But there was also the understanding if she was unable to safely raise these children, she’d be able to abort the pregnancy or give the children up for adoption.
The Council recommends Miyam change the way she thinks about giving these children up for adoption. How wonderful it was to complete what they desired in spirit so she and the children can move forward. The Council points out Miyam is at a wonderful place once she’s able to understand she made the correct decisions for these children, and the sadness and guilt can be changed by how she thinks about her situation.
Listen to our entire 9-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Miyam and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.