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What Are The Limits To Positive Thinking?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anonymous Also.

Anonymous Also: I was hoping to follow up on Anonymous’s questions (a different reader from Anonymous Also) in their private phone session with The Council. Thank you again, Anonymous, for sharing your invaluable recording. I’ve been wondering about these questions for a while, and I’d be very grateful for The Council’s feedback. I apologize in advance for the dark nature of the topic. I’d like to know what The Council has to say about what is perceived by some to be the limits of positive thinking.

Council: There are no limits. There’s only the limit you put on yourself by thinking there are limits.

Anonymous Also: And how we can go about understanding the following situations in a new way. I ask not to make others feel invalidated or disrespected for their beliefs, but to try to expand my own understanding.

Council: We’d say here that while we answer your questions, and many may hear this or read it, everyone will get something out of it, so you will not hurt or disallow their feelings. Everyone will hear the words differently, and it will come across the way they need to hear it because of what they’re going through, and where they are at this time. So let’s see what you ask.

Anonymous Also: For example, there are stories of people who believe in vibration, crystal healing, etc., who refused medical treatment and then have gone on to die of cancer. I’m assuming it’s not that they didn’t try hard enough to be positive. Although each person has their own story, why might that happen, and what message is their death supposed to send to us?

Council: Well, there are different reasons. They could have said they believed in this work but had a lot of fear behind what they were trying to picture and believe.

There’s also an agreement, maybe with other souls, that they’d go through this difficulty and it would touch the other souls’ lives. It would make them believe, more or less, or see things differently, and question what’s going on. It will always touch people in a way to make them grow, to make them question their beliefs, and to make them question how they’re living their lives.

And so there are many that could take poison and have a miraculous cure. It’s what you believe and how positive you can stay in that belief. Where many people try, and it’s hard for many people, but the doubt and the fear behind the situation will change the outcome of what one is asking for.

Anonymous Also: Alternatively, there are a number of pastors and other notable individuals in the United States who have said that God will protect them from Covid, only to promptly die of Covid weeks later. Another example that comes to mind is a very religious man whose infant son had brain tumors that kept coming back, and despite lots of prayer and true faith in the ability of the child to get better, the child died anyway.

Council: First we’d like to say here, if it’s the child’s desire, because the child creates his own life, to leave this reality, all the prayers in the world will not change that. If there are enough prayers and the soul decides to change what it wanted, it is possible.

And also, especially when it hits someone in their faith – a pastor saying that God would protect them and then the opposite happens – there’s fear behind there. There’s doubt in the belief.

And it also happens that the souls that come together in this group that hear this have agreed to have their faith tested, and so that’s why it works or it doesn’t work. Many souls want to know: “Oh, okay, I’m going to go into this reality and something will come up and it’s not always planned, but something will come up to test my faith. I want to see how I handle it. How do I turn this situation around? And sometimes it can be done, and sometimes it can’t be done, but it always affects all the people involved. And so, many times it’s to test one’s faith when it’s coming from a religious person.

Many people believe a pastor, a priest, or a rabbi, what they say is law and must happen because they have this great connection to God, but we would say that’s not true. It’s your connection to your higher self, it’s your connection to your belief that makes your reality happen.

Anonymous Also: In these examples, people had faith in their beliefs, although I’m sure they were also afraid and angry, like we humans all can be in adverse circumstances.

Council: Of course. And there was questioning, and there was doubt, and there was fear, and that always changes the outcome. But always remember, the person you’re praying for knows if it’s time and they want to leave this reality, or come through a miraculous cure to show the people around them that this is possible. There are lessons. There are plans behind the lessons. And so you can just observe and do what makes you feel good. Pray for the people, don’t pray for the people. That is part of the emotions you wish to experience and perhaps work through, and change it, or just have the experience. It’s all up to you.

Anonymous Also: How are we supposed to understand their stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite significant spiritual effort?

Council: Because the higher self knows what it wants to plan, and what it wants to go through. And so you may not understand what another person is going through, but it’s your place to allow them to go through it and help them in any way you can because we’re here to support and help each other.

But just allow, and know that if it’s time for them to leave this planet, they’re going back into spirit, which is a wonderful place. No one comes into this reality and wants to stay here. As a spirit, when you’re planning what you want to do, what you want to create, you want to do everything and go back home. So dying, as people say, is not the end. It’s just a returning home. It’s a happiness that you experience. You’re in the energy of love. The vibration is wonderful, and that is part of the understanding. You’re not here for forever, even though some people would like to do that, if possible.

But you want to have your fun, or your challenges, and return home and share what you’ve learned, and help the others that are left behind to go through parts of their journey. And that is what creation is all about. What can you create? How much fun? How much of a challenge? What are you going to do with it? Okay, I’ve been here long enough. Time to go.

Bob: So are you saying that the way we’re supposed to understand people’s stories not going the way they wanted them to go, despite a significant spiritual effort, is that from a human point of view they may have wanted them to go one way, but from a spiritual point of view they wanted their life to go a different way.

Council: Yes. Many people in human form, they aren’t thrilled with the idea of passing on. Your higher self knows much better. And as you meditate, and as your vibration changes, you’ll become more and more familiar with that thought. The understanding about it will come. And that’s why we say to everyone at this time, meditate, even if you just meditate on the fact that you are spirit. Get to that understanding and everything else will begin to change.

Anonymous Also: The most haunting example for me is the toxic optimism that kept Jews in Nazi Germany thinking it would get better, and then being trapped and then killed as things got worse.

Council: How wonderful? And how strong these people were to hang on to their faith and the hope that their situation would change. Did the people around them need to see these people that had such great hope? Was it there to hold other people together as they went through this experience? It’s a wonderful thing. It was done on a large scale to teach all of your reality at this time about how strong people can be, how many have suffered, and how not to allow this kind of behavior anymore. To not hate and have enemies, but to love, and have compassion, and to live together in peace. It’s a huge lesson on a grand scale.

Anonymous Also: I’m sure there are families in Ukraine who are experiencing this same situation now.

Council: Of course.

Anonymous Also: The message there for me seems to be, if things start getting bad, flee. But I’m assuming that’s not the message that was meant to be taken away.

Council: Some people will believe it’s to their benefit to flee and they will. And others will believe, this is my home and I won’t leave. I will stand and fight. I’ll do what I need to do. And this is their choice. This is their belief. Whether you can understand what they choose, admire them for following what they believe and what they want to do.

Anonymous Also: Yet how are we supposed to understand actions that can be perceived as irrational optimism when the results of those actions are catastrophic for the individuals involved?

Council: To the individual involved it isn’t irrational what they believe, what they’re trying to create, or what they’re hoping for. And again, watch these people and learn from them. There may be a time in this life or a future life where what you see now will be an example for you to use in another life. We all learn together from one another.

Anonymous Also: From my human perspective as part of a powerful divine spirit, I certainly don’t consciously want to die a violent death, and I don’t want that for my loved ones.

Council: Of course. And as you said, the main word here is, consciously.

Anonymous Also: Yet sudden deaths and horrific tragedies happen anyway, including to my family. Yes, we made plans in advance for what we agreed to experience, but if we’re also very much one with our higher selves, how can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us?

Council: Do not forget here that what you have planned, you always have the choice to change. And so you meditate. You talk to yourself before you sleep that you’d like to change the direction your life is going in. You have the power to do this. You are not a victim. Whichever way your life is going is because of the choices you’re making and the direction you planned to go, but you do have a choice to change it.

Anonymous Also: How can we understand how and why very bad things happen to us that we, now as humans and supposedly now also on a higher level, don’t want?

Council: On a higher level, if it’s happening, then it’s wanted. So you can’t understand many of the things that happen that you feel you don’t want, but they do happen. On a higher level everything goes forward, everyone here in this reality is playing their part, is having their experience, and then is moving back again into spirit. It’s a wonderful thing. It’s like having a part in a movie or a play and then going back home.

Anonymous Also: In other words, I’m confused about agency and power, and who really has what. It often seems like what the higher self wants: challenges and bringing love into a difficult situation, and what the human extension wants: safety, not suffering, are opposite, but we’re also supposed to be intimately one and the same.

Council: You are one and the same, and yet it’s very difficult at this time for many people to understand that. And so the higher self creates the human body, the person, to go through whatever it is, and directs it in the way it wants it to have the experience. It’s not always understood by the human brain. But when you start to work with your heart chakra, which is beginning to happen for many people, you’ll get an understanding that comes from feeling and doesn’t come from words.

Anonymous Also: To give another example, I learned in an earlier question for The Council that I was tortured and witnessed torture as a child in a past life, which to some extent has colored my current life with fear. When I think about it, I keep coming back to the thought: Who the heck would want that? To see how I handle it? The answer is, I’d handle torture badly. I’m sure I did handle torture badly. Did I and others really need to be tortured just to have an opportunity to extend comfort to others who are suffering, or understand that children shouldn’t be tortured? Why go so extreme?

Council: The extreme sometimes is needed and the experience is wanted. No one likes the idea of torture. And yet we hear many people say: We are saints and we are sinners. So having the thought of torture is horrible, yes, but then there were lives when you experienced the opposite side of the coin and you were the torturer. It’s just an experience. That is all it is. And so we say it’s difficult to understand because no one wants to go through this. And yet many people, when they’re tortured, are halfway out of their bodies and don’t feel it. And it’s a way of them starting to release the body, to end the torture, and to then return into the spirit life.

And so even though it’s not wanted, sometimes it’s needed. It’s needed for the person, the people around them, and it may be needed to be on the news and go out into the world for others to hear these things. And that’s why this happens.

Anonymous Also: Finally, when I shared your website with a family member because I found it so helpful, she said to me, “It feels like this philosophy is blaming the victim. Like if they had only been more positive they would have been okay. This seemed like a fair criticism to me from her perspective and I wanted to know how The Council would respond to it.

Council: Of course, if they were more positive, perhaps they wouldn’t have created what they created. And so, again, the understanding isn’t available when it comes from your brain. It must come from your heart, that whatever it is there that you’ve decided to go through, again, it’s just an experience and not an ending.

And there are no victims. Of course, many would like to blame others, but there are no victims. Where you can come into this reality and say, “Well, I want to experience abandonment.” You may not specifically say, “I want my parents to abandon me. Or I’ll get married and have children and my husband will abandon me.” You may just put out there, “I want to experience abandonment.” And then, as you go through life, you’ll pull in from the people around you, this abandonment. Some people say, “I want to experience shame.” So they’ll create getting AIDS or another sexual disease so that they’ll feel shameful.

It’s what you create to go through, what it is you want to experience. And it’s not always step-by-step how it’s going to be, and sometimes it is. Again, you have the choice to make your life happen the way you want it.

Anonymous Also: I believe I understand the idea that there are no victims and no perpetrators, and that we switch roles out of love for one another.

Council: Constantly.

Anonymous Also: But in the situation where someone wants something desperately and wants to change their plan, and visualizing it changing it still doesn’t happen…

Council: It doesn’t happen because of the word you use. They want something desperately. When you’re asking for something desperately, the feeling that comes from the word, desperate, is not of a high vibration. When you ask for something in a way: “I’m so excited because this is what I want and this is coming. I’m ready to receive that.” The feel of those words and the vibration is very different. So we’d inform you and guide you, do not ask for something being desperate.

Anonymous Also: This also reminds me of your post, Are There Things We Ask For That We’ll Never Get? which asks similar questions, but for me it didn’t have a graspable enough conclusion about these issues.

Council: Sometimes you ask for things because you think it would make you happy, or it’s something that you really, really want, but your higher self knows you don’t need it, or that’s not the direction you want to go in. So you don’t get it. And yet if you focus, you will bring it into your reality. It may not last or it may last. You are the creator, and so always remember that. Your tools are your choices and your thoughts. Because the words that you sound in your head and the thoughts that you have bring on emotion and bring on feeling.

The feeling is what goes out into the Universe and brings you what you want. What you want must match how you feel. And so, if you feel desperate, what you want will not come. If you are in the state of a vibration where you’re excited and you’re feeling love, and you’re waiting for this, you’ll be able to bring it in.

Anonymous Also: I’m sorry for this long downer topic, but I’d very much appreciate your insight, as always, to make grappling with these big questions a little easier. Gaining some clarity will allow me to finally lay aside some fears and hopefully get to a place of higher vibration, and perhaps there are other readers who struggle with the same questions who may also be helped. I hope so.

Council: So the information we’ve given will touch different people in different ways. But even for yourself, it will give you a different perspective, a different way to think of things, a different way to try to create, and a different way to handle what’s going on in your life. It will change things for you.


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February 12, 2023 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Creation, Desire, Emotions, Feelings, Helping Others, Love, Meditation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit, Vibration, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Help Me With My 3-Year Relationship With A Lying Drug Addict

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Carovana.

Carovana: I’m in a 3-year relationship with a drug addict, but the real problem is that he constantly lies.

Council: What have you learned about this drug addict and his lying? How do you handle this? Are you trying to change this person? You can’t do that. Can you be more understanding? Yes, you can understand, but there’s a time when you need to just watch this person and let them be who they are and then decide what you’ll do with this knowledge.

Carovana: He wants to appear different from what he really is, what he really does, and what he thinks. He twists facts and reality for his own benefit, and no matter how smart I am, he continues to try and deceive me.

Council: Are you tiring yourself out by trying to show this person you’re really smart and you know what he’s doing? We’d suggest you just let this person be, and then decide if you want to be around him. That’s all. You won’t change this person.

Carovana: I developed panic attacks due to the frequent state of restlessness and anxiety in which I’m thrown by his behavior, and we constantly fight. He doesn’t act this way solely to cover his drug abuse. His game spreads much wider and deeper. He’s also obscenely incoherent. His words go South and his actions go North.

Council: You can stay with this man if you can understand how he is and not believe what he says. Offer love and understanding. But to be in the relationship and saying to yourself, “I must show him that I know what’s going on, I must show him that I’m smart,” that’s not the purpose of this relationship.

The purpose of this relationship is to allow someone to be. It’s for you to allow others, and not just this person, but look at the years when you were growing up with your friends and family. Did you allow them just to be and then learn from it? And did this allow you to be just as you want to be, being in a place of love and peacefulness? Can you do that for yourself?

This was your mission, so to speak, in your current lifetime. Just to accept everyone and what they’re doing, and sending love and light to them to help them grow. But not to forcefully try to show them, “I know what you’re doing. You can’t fool me,” and tire yourself out. It’s just the purpose of being there, and most of all, just being yourself. That’s what this relationship is supposed to teach you.

When you see that someone is really one way and pretending to be another, do you do that? Do you do that to please people and to have them think of you differently? It’s a mirror effect. And so we say, just allow.

Carovana: The reason I stayed in this relationship so long is that another side of him, very prominent, is that he’s incredibly loving and sweet. He chose me as the woman of his life, tells me I’m the woman of his dreams, and is extremely attached and devoted to me. It’s almost morbid. This makes it really difficult to break up with him and in fact, all my attempts have failed. I’m also in a very lonely phase of my life so I lack the social support and the favorable environment that would make it easier to move on.

I can’t explain or comprehend this duality in him. He lost his mother when he was nine years old, but it’s not a good excuse to act this way now that he’s 36 years old. I hope The Council can shed some light on him, on us, and on me. I’d be very thankful.

Council: There are lessons for this man to learn, starting with his childhood and moving into adulthood. Not feeling safe enough for him to be who he really wants to be, he doesn’t know how, the role model wasn’t there, and the understanding of just being wasn’t there. Instead he chose to pretend because there’s no acceptance of himself.

With you there, if you can accept this man the way he is, you are the role model. You’re the role model by setting your boundaries, by not believing everything that’s said, but by understanding that everything that’s said is out of fear and nonacceptance of yourself. Once you can do that and not knock yourself out to understand it or change this person, it will change, because now you’re looking at it differently. And when you look at something differently, it will change.

See the relationship the way you want it to be. First concentrate on yourself. Accept yourself, and then look around you, and not at just this person, but others that come in and out of your life. And when you learn you have choices, you have the ability to bring into your life what you want. When you focus on that, it must happen.


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Will My Deceased Dog Come Back To Me In His Next Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, KG, who says: About four years ago my dog, Papi, passed away. I’ve never had a connection to an animal the way I did with him.

Council: The connection to animals is beautiful. They are little spirits that are here to bring you joy. Usually when the connection is so strong, you’ve gone through other lifetimes together.

KG: It’s crazy, but I loved him like a person. The love I had for him was so much deeper than the way most people love pets. Losing him felt like losing a sibling. It’s been four years and I can’t get over it. I feel like a part of me is missing.

Council: Wouldn’t it be nice to change your focus and not be sad, and not be in a place where you can’t let go of your grief, and not get over that this dog is gone? What you should be focusing on is the joy you brought each other and the possibility Papi may come back to you.

In spirit, Papi’s experiencing love and joy. There’s no sadness in spirit. It’s always the human that has a hard time letting go because they don’t realize we never really lose them. They’re around like a human form is around when it passes. And like a human form doesn’t want you to be sad about them, Papi, or any animal doesn’t want you to feel sad about them. You need to come from a place of love, and remember, and be joyous about it. The sadness keeps you stuck, and that’s not what’s wanted by the human spirit and by the animal in spirit.

KG: I know dogs can reincarnate and I just want him back. Even if he doesn’t go to me and he goes to another relative, that would make me so happy because I’m not really in a situation where I can take on another pet right now.

Council: We understand you want Papi to come back, but suppose there’s something Papi wants to experience and it needs to experience it with a different family so it can give that family what it’s looking to experience? That doesn’t mean you won’t feel Papi around you, or you won’t have time together again if that’s what you both want.

The best thing you can do is explain to Papi in your mind how much you love him. Continuously keep sending him love and feeling it back. You can ask Papi for a sign. Ask if he’s here with you and are you coming back? Ask these questions, but ask from a place of hope, happiness, and joy, not from a place of sadness.

KG: I’ve gone to pet psychics who’ve told me he’d come back, but he hasn’t yet and I’m wondering why. My Mom plans to get a new puppy soon and I feel like this would be the perfect opportunity for his spirit to come back to us. I really hope he’ll choose to.

Council: Perhaps this will be, but you have to be in a place of allowing. Papi may come back to you, or there may be another dog that needs to be with your family. You may have to learn something different from another spirit animal. But be open. If Papi doesn’t come back into physical reality, he’s still with you. You can still have conversations. You can still ask for signs. You can still feel the love. Allow everyone to experience what’s needed in this next step.

KG: My Mom’s actually told me several times in the past that she felt like Papi was her childhood dog, Tippy, and thinks since he came back to her once, he can do it again. Is this the case? Was Papi the dog my Mom had in her childhood?

Council: Yes, we do believe that was the same spirit.

KG: Also, does Papi have any messages for us?

Council: Only of wonderful love. Meditate. Sit quietly and ask to feel the love from Papi. You will feel it. If you have conversations with Papi and ask for signs, you will get them, but you must be in a place of happiness. When you’re in a place of sadness or grief, you won’t feel what any spirit, even an animal, is trying to send you.

When you speak to Papi’s spirit and ask, Can you come back? Are you around me? Send that message with love. Smile when you’re sending that message. You can think, I love you and I want to feel you around. Can you show me the way I can feel this? Can you send me a sign? Always come from a place of happiness. It’s a higher vibration.

KG: Does Papi plan to reincarnate to either me or my Mom in the future? And if he does, how can we recognize him?

Council: We don’t know what he’s planning right now. And why would we spoil the surprise? You’ll learn from this. You’ll recognize him because you’ll ask for signs, and you will see.

KG: Also I have so many dreams about Papi and I feel like it’s him visiting me. Is this the case?

Council: Oh yes. Definitely.

KG: Sorry to ask so many questions about this. I just miss him so much and I’m so desperate to feel a connection to him again.

Council: You can feel a connection when you come from a place of joy. Have fun with this. Expect many wonderful surprises. That’s all we can tell you right now.

KG: I love all my pets, but it’s just so much deeper with Papi. I can’t explain it, but I feel like he was a part of me and now that part of me is gone. Even after all this time, I’m still struggling with the loss.

Council: The first error there is that he’s not gone, and that’s what you should meditate on.

We send you all love, and light, and happiness, and beautiful experiences. Go forward on your path, whatever you choose. And always remember to bring love into every situation.


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March 2, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Is It Time To Separate From My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Confused and Sad, who says, I’ve been married for close to 30 years. The last few years have had me reflect on how different my husband and I are, and how much we’ve grown apart. It seems our history and our finances are the main reason we’re still together. My husband is a good man, but we have very little, if anything, in common. We rarely agree on anything and this makes me very sad. I feel in my heart we’d both be happier apart, and perhaps have a chance to find a true partner who can make us happy.

The Council says the pre-planning of this marriage in spirit comes from a lifetime where you were both married to other people and you were very mean and selfish with your partners. You felt stuck in these marriages. You didn’t know each other in that life, but there was always the thought to find someone better. You thought you were with people who weren’t pretty, weren’t handsome, weren’t intelligent, people that made you feel closed in, or had nothing in common with you. And both your spirits were willing to work on the same issues so you decided to do it together in your current lifetime.

When you came into your current life it was to come together and learn how to accept who the other person is, whatever their issues were. You wanted to learn how to allow someone to be different. You don’t have to have all these things in common. You wanted to learn how to love yourself and not to look for someone new that would make you happy and feel loved. You must love yourself.

And then you took it a step further and you decided that because you were so selfish and mean in your past life, in your current life when you learned how to accept your spouse for who they were, you were going to try to help them feel good about themself. You were going to take the focus off of you and how miserable you felt, and how this person wasn’t making you happy, and try to do something for this other person,. and give of yourself. And in that you’d feel the change within yourself, and you’d feel better and more love for yourself.

At first we imagine this may be difficult, but when you see you’re focusing on the other person and allowing them to take in this beautiful energy you’re sending by trying to do something for them, or just the energy of letting them be who they are, what you’re looking for in other people you’ll find in yourselves. When you find it in yourselves, you’ll realize both of you created this situation in this marriage. You’re exactly where you need to be to realize: How can I fix this? I love this person, but I don’t, because there’s someone who’d be prettier or handsomer, someone that would give me more attention, someone that would make me feel happier than I am. All of this love comes from within you, not from another person.

When you ask yourself to be nicer, to be understanding, to say to yourself, Today let me do this for this person or with this person, knowing it’s something that person likes, you will be so proud of yourself, and the feeling you want to have in a marriage will return. It will not only return, but it will be better than it was.

Confused says, We’ve both tried to make each other happy for the sake of the children and family, but we’re just two very different people. The Council says, Isn’t that wonderful. Look at what you can learn from being two totally different people.

Confused says, We’re both scared to leave because we’re all each other has known for so many years. The Council says of course the feeling of being scared will come up because you know this isn’t what you wanted. You don’t want to flee your marriage. You didn’t plan to go off and find something else. You both created this situation so you could grow within yourself and for each other.

Confused says, I know we’re both confused and scared because separation or divorce can be just as difficult as staying together. The Council says if you were to do this and move on, the happiness you’re looking for you won’t find somewhere else. It’s within this marriage, it’s within yourselves that you wanted to grow and learn, and you will feel this.

Confused says, I’ve tried to figure out why we would have chosen each other, what lessons we were supposed to learn. Is it finally time to move on and co-create the life we’d both like to live? And perhaps find true love with a partner more suited for each of us that can make us happy?. The Council says this other partner you’re looking for will be no different because you both planned to live your life this way.

Confused says, We do try and communicate and work things out, but our thought processes are just so completely different. The Council says, Isn’t it wonderful?. Do you stop and wonder what your spouse is thinking of? Do you try to understand it? Do you try and see it? And you don’t have to agree with each other. That’s the most wonderful thing. You can still have your beliefs and your ways of thinking, but how interesting it would be to see how your spouse’s mind works. And you can learn much from this. Let go of being rigid and thinking we have different ideas. What can you learn from this? Maybe it would be fun for you to think this way. Or maybe you can learn from thinking this way. It’s all opportunities in front of you.

If you feel you don’t want to stay in this marriage, it’s always your choice. You’ll create it again because the lessons you want to learn are right here. All the opportunities are right here for you.

Confused says, Our thought processes are just so completely different that it never ends well. We just seem to see things completely differently. The Council says, And so you argue and you fight because you don’t agree because you think differently. When you go to school the teacher thinks differently than a student. The student in the back of the room could be thinking differently than a student in the front. You don’t fight over this. You listen and learn from it. But most important, you allow the person to be who they are. And that’s the most wonderful gift you can give anyone.

Confused closes by asking, Have we learned all we can from each other, and is it finally time to move on? The Council says we’ve given you the answer. We wish you so much fun on your journey. Take your focus off your disagreeing, your not having things in common, off the fighting and difficulty communicating. Take your focus and say, This is another spirit who’s agreed with me to come into this reality to create this situation. While we go through it we’re going to learn about each other.  Most importantly we’re going to learn about ourselves. Are we able to accept others if they’re not like us? Because your purpose in this life is to bring love into this reality.


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December 6, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Helping Others, Love, Marriage, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

How Can I Help My Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.

The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.

If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.

StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.

Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.

A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.

You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.

Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.

The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.

StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?

The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.

If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.

You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.

Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.

By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.

On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.

The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.


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February 21, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Guidance, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Can I Forgive My Brother Without Having Him in My Life?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says they’ve never had a close relationship with one of their brothers. The Council says you’ve had close relationships in other lifetimes. One of your brother’s lessons was to not be as kind in your current life as you’ve experienced him in a few other lifetimes. One of the things your brother wanted to experience was being difficult and seeing what that feels like. He wants to learn about this and bring it back to spirit.

When your brother became very difficult you agreed in spirit to try and still love him and not find fault with him. One of the lessons for the two of you is forgiveness. He wants to learn to forgive you if you turn away from him. But mostly he wants to forgive himself for not being able to control when he becomes mean or very negative to people. You want to learn to accept him the way he is and be able to forgive him.

The Council says when your brother becomes negative, mean, and unapproachable, which is all part of his lessons and what he chose to experience in this lifetime, his acting out is supposed to show the people around him the state he’s in. This sort of behavior isn’t meant to be about the people he’s insulting or hurting. It’s meant to show the people around him how your brother is hurting inside and how lost he feels. This is just part of the lessons your brother chose this lifetime.

When you’re able to realize your brother’s behavior is a choice he’s making, look at what these choices are teaching you. This was pre-planned in spirit so the people around him would learn how someone who’s hurting doesn’t know how to show love. Your brother tries to hurt others in some way because he hurts so much.

Anonymous says she tries to avoid her brother and say very little to her parents, siblings, and even my husband about him. The Council says this is a good choice.

Anonymous says she knows her brother needs compassion and The Council agrees. She asks if this is something she can do without getting involved in her brother’s life and The Council says of course. Forgiveness starts with understanding your brother is hurting a great deal for many different reasons. You don’t have to put yourself in your brother’s presence and experience this hurt yourself. Send him love, light, and good thoughts that he gets to a place where he can feel comfort. And wish him success in what he needs to experience.

It’s good to remember your brother chose this path. If you want him to change when he hasn’t learned the lesson he planned to learn from behaving the way he does, it would mean you’re trying to stop him on his learning path. Allow your brother to be the way he is. From a distance send him thoughts of success and happiness so he can go through this difficult journey and learn what he wants to experience.

If you can’t send your brother love, you can send him the thought of you forgiving him for hurting you or others. Wish him the joy and happiness of being able to travel this path and learn what he wishes to learn. Or you can send him white light to protect him on his journey to help him stay in touch with his higher self and perhaps find another way to be.

The best way you can send your brother love is to allow him to be the way he is, as hurtful as he is to others and himself. There’s a purpose for his behavior and you’ve all agreed to participate in this. Allowing is the first step of love and forgiving.

Anonymous asks The Council if she and her brother have unfinished business. The Council says the unfinished business is that he wishes to feel love from you and know it’s there, even if you can’t be around him. If you cross paths or speak, always treat him with kindness because he needs this. Remember you agreed in spirit to experience your brother this way in your life. It’s a difficult journey for him and for the people around him. What’s unfinished is for your brother to feel accepted by you, if not now, eventually. This doesn’t mean you need to be around him. You need to learn about forgiveness and allow your brother to be who he is. That’s what you both planned and what remains unfinished.

When you can allow your brother to be who he is, even if he’s not consciously aware of this in his physical form, his higher self will know and allow your brother to somehow know there’s forgiveness and acceptance, even if he’s still not in a good place. Forgive your brother the best you’re currently able.

Anonymous says she worries she’ll marry her brother in her next life. The Council laughs and says this is possible if you choose to. The Council understands you don’t want to be married to him the way he is in your current life, but things would be totally different in a new life.

Anonymous asks The Council what she needs to do to finish her experience of her brother. The Council says to send him love and light. Accept him and know he’s very brave to choose the lesson he’s chosen. He’s having difficulty within himself so when you send him love and light you help him on his path.


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August 29, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Forgiveness, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

How Will Moving to India Affect My Son’s Education?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Looking For Advice, who asks about the move her family is thinking of making from the USA to India in a few years. She specifically wants to know how the move will affect her 7-year-old son’s education.

The Council says that at this point the most important thing for you to be concerned about is not the education your son will get in school, but the education he gets at home. Your son planned to learn about family, relationships, trust, and confidence in this lifetime.

Do you and the other people around your son support how he thinks? Do you help him with challenges? Do you praise him? This will give him the first learning tools he needs. When your son has the confidence and believes in himself and he goes out into the world when you move, he’ll have these tools he learned at home. It’s important for you to take these steps, which is what you agreed to do in spirit.

When you move to India and you’re concerned the schools aren’t as good as they are in the USA, know that the challenges of the schools in India is what is necessary for your son at this time. Whether your son stays in India or comes back to the USA to study at a university, he’ll know how to handle this situation. He’ll have the experience of two different kinds of education. But The Council specifically emphasizes that the most important education your son receives is the education you give him at home.

Looking For Advice says her son is naturally very creative and is good in math and science. I sometimes feel an education in the USA will be better for appreciating my son’s creative talents in storytelling and coming up with new ideas. The Council says it’s important to help your son appreciate what he’s able to accomplish in anything he desires, and this needs to come from his family and his home.

The Council says preparations for your son’s home education should already be going on. Many parents, for one reason or another, put all the responsibility for their children’s learning on their teachers and their schools. Parents need to realize their children’s education begins at home with the family from a very early age. It’s very important to your son, because of what he wants to learn, that you give him the support, the courage, and the belief in what he wants to do and that he can do this.

Show your son a loving family. Show him that even if there are arguments, they’re worked out peacefully. And when there are disagreements, show your son that love is still there. One person never puts another person down. You allow each person to be who they need to be at that time and they will all grow from this. In allowing you are loving. This is what’s needed.

The Council closes by reiterating that when they are ready to move to India, the educational system there will be exactly what Looking For Advice’s son needs, even if you don’t think the quality of education is as good as the USA.


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August 7, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Beliefs, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

How Does the Black Lives Matter Movement Relate to Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy, who’s asking for guidance on how to navigate living in America now, especially relative to the Black Lives Matter movement. I don’t feel called to protest in the streets or post about it on social media, and The Council says this is wonderful. My inclination is to hold space and live lovingly knowing that can change the world.

The Council says many spirits in our reality right now have specifically planned to come in and hold the light and loving thoughts. When there’s negativity, acknowledge it to yourself and don’t get into discussions where there are likely to be disagreements or one person tries to convince the other.

Be quiet, send loving thoughts and energy, and meditate on peace. There isn’t any need to make your beliefs public. What’s necessary right now is for everyone to think peaceful thoughts and move within your heart and hold onto the light and good thoughts.

It’s not necessary to move forward with disruptive action. What’s necessary is to work with positive energy. Everything is created in an energetic field first and then it’s brought into your reality. Have good thoughts. See the world as you’d like it to be.

When you’re aware of negativity going on, it’s okay to acknowledge this negativity, but then rethink it in a more positive way. These people who are causing upheaval and negativity at this time, that are angry because of what’s going on – that isn’t how we bring peace and love into this world.

Allow negative people to have their thoughts and to do what they’re doing until they realize that violence only brings more violence. To get to a place of great change, your thinking must change. There must be more loving thoughts. Put beautiful white and pink energy around people, around situations, and around your world. That’s how you help with the changes that are needed in your world right now.

We applaud you for not being one of these people who try to convince others they’re wrong. When people talk to you about their beliefs, tell them you don’t wish to talk about these situations at this time. If you feel you must listen when someone expresses what feels like a negative opinion, at the end you can say that you hear what they believe and see it’s important to them. Acknowledge the other person, but don’t get into a discussion about who believes what and why, and they are trying to get you to change your belief.

Amy says this sometimes feels passive and she’s concerned she’s not doing enough. The Council replies that she is doing more than enough if you maintain a peaceful attitude and work with the energy. This is exactly what’s needed at this time.

Amy says she could use some advice on how to handle people who express their racist beliefs to her. I feel I’m too inclined to keep the peace and maybe this isn’t the right option now. The Council says keeping peace is the perfect option right now. You’re already on the right path and intuitively doing what needs to be done.


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June 17, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 9 Comments

How to Improve Relationship with Your Family

This post answers follow up questions for The Council from a reader named, Kali, who previously asked questions that were answered in our post, Problem Being Estranged from Her Family. Kali says she’s been working hard on this issue, taking The Council’s earlier advice on acceptance, compassion, allowing, and self-examination. She feels like she’s making progress and was able to attend her family’s holiday celebration recently. She says it wasn’t horrible, but she wasn’t able to enjoy herself. She asks if The Council has any more advice on how she can improve her family situation further?

The Council suggests asking why you didn’t enjoy yourself at your family party. What was it about each person you didn’t enjoy? It’s a great experience to be somewhere and not enjoy yourself, but realize you got through it.

It’s wonderful you went to the party and realized it wasn’t that bad. The reason you’re in this situation is to learn more about yourself. What do you expect from these people? How would you have liked the party to be? Did you go to the party expecting it to not work out? Or hoping it will work out, but not having a detailed image in your mind of how it would work out? Did you try to create a happy occasion with your thoughts? Or did you just grumble and go and see what happened?

Kali asks if it’s important that she like her family members. The Council says we’ve come to bring love into this reality. There are things people do that we may not like, but can you love them as another soul? Yes, it’s important to bring love in for your family even if you don’t really like them.

Kali says she feels giving up a desire to be validated by her father has helped her spiritual growth and she asks if The Council can confirm this. The Council says this is true and it’s one of the things you wished to do in this lifetime. You wanted to see everyone as they are and learn to allow them their opinion. But you wanted to have your own opinions about things and yourself and to stand strong in your opinions so that you don’t need to be validated by anyone else.

The Council suggest meeting with your family one on one a little at a time. If this isn’t possible, then do your best to show up at another family gathering and think of each person as a spirit. Meditate on the idea that they’re here with their challenges. They are here to learn from you and you’re here to learn from them.


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January 12, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , | 4 Comments

Concerns About a Loving Relationship

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Frances, who says she recently entered into a relationship with someone I’m falling in love with. He’s a lot of what I’ve prayed for and I feel this is a deep soul connection. To be honest, a part of me is terrified. I’m used to being independent and his presence in my life is throwing me off kilter. What if I lose myself?

What if you don’t lose yourself, says The Council. What if you learn to grow? What if you make room in your life to have this man come in – which was planned – and you grow together? Isn’t it better to think about your situation this way?

Frances says she has life goals that she’s afraid will get derailed. Also, he’s very Christian and I’m very spiritual and not Christian. The Council says wouldn’t it be wonderful if this man shared your life goals and you taught him about what you’re interested in while he taught you about what he’s interested in?

The purpose of coming together is to let another person into your life and share it. This wonderful relationship that’s come into your life because you’ve attracted it has you worried. You can stay in your box, follow your goals, be independent, and find other different paths to learn from, but you’ve pulled in a wonderful partner to share your life with and grow from this.

Frances says she and this man come from different cultures and his values are more conservative than hers, but she loves him. The Council asks if she loves him enough to show him true love by allowing him to be who he is? To see his life and welcome him into yours? Can you love him enough to allow him to be him and you to still be you? Why must you get lost in this? This relationship is something to be shared. Allowing this man into your life without trying to fix him, change him, or have certain rules he must follow. That is the truest sense of love.

Frances asks how she can overcome her fear of getting lost in this person and their relationship? The Council asks if she’s done the work of being grateful this relationship has come into her life? Do you imagine this relationship the way you want it to be? Do you concentrate on his wonderful traits that you’ve described? Are you concentrating on what you bring to this relationship? If she does these things it will help her overcome her fears.

Frances asks how she’s meant to grow from this relationship? The Council says by not being independent. By being willing to share the good times and the burdens. By being willing to go down a path that may not seem like what you have planned even though it is what you planned. Do you trust yourself enough to know what you want and go on this path and create this relationship as you go? Doing this work will help you see this relationship go the way you want.

Of course there will be bumps in the road, but those bumps are there to help you both learn to grow. Instead of looking at this relationship in fear, think of it as jumping up the ladder of spiritual growth. Take this chance. This spirit agreed with you to try this out and help each other grow.

Frances asks if it’s possible to create a life and a family with this man without losing sight of what she wants to accomplish in this lifetime? The Council says this is up to Frances. It depends on whether she allows herself to lose sight of these things, but there’s no reason this is necessary. You will have what you want, and more, because this other spirit will bring more to the relationship.

Frances asks why she fell for someone so different from her. The Council reminds her of the saying that sometimes differences are attracted to each other. The differences will bring more into the relationship. It will cement it and help it’s growth. But The Council says in reality you are both spirits who want to learn there aren’t any differences.

Both Frances and the man she loves planned to be independent in this lifetime, but not alone. You have both gone on your different paths and have different ideas about how you want your lives to be. It was agreed you’ll both be so sure of everything, happy and successful, then you’ll meet and bring all your ideas into each other’s lives and see how you handle it.

This will take you further than either of you would go on your own. What you’d imagined will change because you’ll both come from different points of view. You both wanted to have experiences before you got together and then have more experiences after you get together. The learning path widens and continues in a new direction.

The Council says the two of you met in a past life on the English ocean liner, The Lusitania, where you had a fun but short relationship. And from this relationship you both wished to come together in your current lifetime to see how you would expand the vibration of love.

You are on your path and will find your way by being excited you’re in this lifetime. And no matter what you created – whether it’s something to be grateful for or something that’s challenging – you wanted to experience all of it. Help will be there for you, you’ll find your way through it, and you’ll grow.

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July 19, 2019 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | Leave a comment

How Can I Connect with My Spiritual Guides?

This post answers a follow-up question for The Council from a reader named, Fuschia, who says not being able to directly communicate with her spirit guides is frustrating for her and contributes to her isolation and despair. She’s tried various techniques, but isn’t making any progress.

The Council says sometimes when you want something so badly and you try so hard and you are so frustrated by not getting what you desire, that you don’t allow what you want to happen. The Council suggests Fuschia ease up on how she goes about connecting with her spirit guides.

Go outside on a nice day, sit or lay down in the grass, find a tree you can look up at, and relax your eyes as you look at a particular branch. In a very short time you’ll see an aura around the branch. This is the energy of the tree. Next pick a sleeping animal and relax your eyes again as you look at it. Soon you’ll see energy around this animal and the energy will begin to move. Next you can pick a house or a building and relax your eyes so you can begin to see its energy. Then you can begin to look at other human beings and begin to see their energy.

After you practice this for a while you’ll begin to realize you can see the vibration of everything that has energy, including other spirits. Then when you sit quietly to meditate and begin to hear sounds and feel feelings that come with these sounds, you can begin asking your guides questions. In this way, knowing that you’ve been able to see energy, you’ll then be ready to connect and hear communication from your guides.

Go slowly with this process. As you try so hard there isn’t the relaxation that’s needed to perceive these different modes of communication. Relax into meditation, relax into daydreaming, and you’ll make your connection with your guides.

The Council closes by saying that Fuschia’s guides are always there with her (as all our guides are) and they’re communicating on many different levels that you’re not aware of. When you need answers to experiences you have, the answers are always there. On some level you already have this information. As you relax the answers to questions will come to you. In Fuschia’s case it’s all about relaxing.

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February 10, 2019 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Connecting With Spirit, Meditation, Questions & Answers | , , , , , | 1 Comment

Is My Boyfriend Interested In Marrying Me?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Curious, who says she’s been with her significant other for about 12 years. Curious has been married twice before and her partner has never been married. In the early years of their relationship she didn’t want to get married again because of her experience in her two earlier marriages.

At this point The Council emphasizes that Curious has made clear by her actions and her words that she doesn’t want to get married, and her partner has taken this point in.

Curious goes on to say that about 3 years ago her feelings about marriage changed and she told her partner in what she considered a no pressure way that even though she wasn’t interested in marriage before, she was interested now.

The Council says because Curious changed her mind about getting married and she let her partner know, she expected her partner to accept this new idea before he was ready. The Council says what Curious is hopefully learning from this experience is to allow her partner (and everyone else) to be who they are. The Council adds that while it’s wonderful that Curious is aware of this change in her thinking and is able to express her desires to her partner, part of her lesson is to allow her boyfriend to have a different opinion at this time and accept that maybe he doesn’t want to move forward as fast as she does.

The Council says there’s nothing in the way of an eventual marriage, and asks what Curious has done in her visualizations to create this change she seeks? Is she working on seeing the marriage happening? Is Curious putting happy feelings into the thought that the marriage will occur at some point, rather than focusing on why her partner hasn’t changed his mind yet? The inner work to create this marriage is very important.

The Council feels Curious’s partner is comfortable with the relationship the way it is and he’s not ready to change the relationship at this time. Both souls have agreed in spirit to create this situation. For both of you this is a lesson in patience, understanding, and allowing. When these lessons have all been learned, there will be movement towards the marriage Curious desires.

Is Curious enjoying being with her partner, or is she stuck thinking when will this marriage happen? Enjoy every part of the relationship like you did before you told your partner you wanted to get married. The more Curious is able to find things to be grateful for in the relationship and do the inner work of thinking how she wants the relationship to evolve, the easier it will be to create the marriage she desires.

Curious says a month ago someone introduced her partner as her husband and he commented, “No, just boyfriend,” and laughed. This hurt Curious’s feelings, but she didn’t say anything because she didn’t want to pressure her partner. The Council says Curious’s partner is speaking the truth and they ask why this hurts her feelings? They suggest it’s because the marriage isn’t happening at the exact time she wishes it to happen.

Curious asks if she and her partner are meant to take their relationship to the next level, and The Council says, “In time.” She asks if her partner is interested in marriage and The Council says, “Cautiously, yes.” If Curious falls into feelings of impatience and has negative feelings about the relationship, this can change the path of the relationship into something that causes problems she has to learn from before she can move forward.

The Council’s parting thoughts are for Curious to bring more love into the relationship with her partner and create happy experiences along the way. And they emphasize again the importance of her doing the inner work necessary to create this marriage.

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September 12, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Will Ex-Boyfriend Realize Impact of his Actions and Express Acknowledgement?

This post is inspired by questions from a reader who calls herself LookingForTheOne, who says her ex-boyfriend left her a while back, but the pain she experiences from the break up never left her. And The Council replies that they are almost sure the pain of the break up is what she’s focusing on and as her thoughts stay on this pain, she can expect to remain in the feeling of it.

The Council advises her to focus instead on the joy in this relationship that she’d like in her next relationship. They say she pre-planned in spirit to be in this relationship for a reason, that she will meet the spirit of her ex-boyfriend in another lifetime, and this soul isn’t lost to her forever. They advise her to find a way to be grateful this particular person was in her life for a while. And they say both of them chose as spirits to be together in this lifetime to learn about love.

In response to LookingForTheOne’s statement that she believes she and her ex-boyfriend are soulmates and they could have made it together until the end of this lifetime, The Council says we are all soulmates. And they add that as a spirit she didn’t want to be partners with her ex-boyfriend for the rest of her life. The Council says they came together to learn what was wanted and what was not wanted in terms of love in this relationship.

When LookingForTheOne asks if her ex-boyfriend will ever realize the impact his choices made on others and show any acknowledgement, The Council says it’s a possibility, but nothing is definite and they recommend she allow him to be who he is. They add that allowing is a form of love.

When LookingForTheOne asks about past lives she and her ex-boyfriend shared together, The Council says they feel focusing on the past isn’t that helpful and will tend to keep her focused this relationship. And then The Council goes on to say they had a relationship in another lifetime where they were together, went through many hardships, and were supportive of each other. They had loving relationships in other lifetimes, including one where they were father and daughter.

The Council says in each past life relationship they tried to find the love and express it in the reality they were living in at that time. They created challenges and happy moments and their current lifetime is an extension of those lifetimes where the two of them work together to learn something else.

The Council asks if one of them was brave enough in spirit to be mean and cause hurtful feelings in their human reality so they could both learn from this. The Council emphasizes it’s a very loving spirit that would do that if it’s what you desire to learn. And they add it’s a challenging path to be on. You were hurt; can you still love yourself enough to realize this isn’t what you want and create a different path for yourself.

The Council says there was a lifetime in the early 1800s where LookingForTheOne worked as a dance hall girl in a saloon. Her ex-boyfriend was one of her patrons in that lifetime and loved her very much, but she never returned this love and walked away from that relationship, and it was hard for him in that lifetime.

In their current lifetime The Council asks if they wanted to experience the other side of the coin? Did her ex-boyfriend walk away from their relationship in this lifetime? The Council says you helped each other experience these unfortunate situations so you can find love in them, no matter what, and that is bringing the vibration of love into this reality.

LookingForTheOne asks if they were married in a past life and whether her ex-boyfriend was really in love with her like he said he was in this life, or if he was lying to her. And The Council says her ex-boyfriend had the love for her in this lifetime and in other lifetimes also.

Listen to our 11-minute session to hear all The Council’s guidance for LookingForTheOne and for the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

May 7, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

   

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