Questions About My Son’s Future
This post answers questions from a reader named, Kristi, who’d like insight into her son’s future. My son will be graduating high school in the next few months and he seems to be lacking motivation when it comes to college and planning his next steps. College was always an option, but due to his lack of interest he won’t qualify for tuition assistance. We’re not sure this even concerns him. He’s done nothing to prepare for college, he hasn’t applied to any schools yet, and he has a low-wage part-time job while he’s in high school. The Council says it’s not that your son isn’t motivated. He’s trying to work within himself and spirit to find exactly what path he wants to take in this particular lifetime.
Kristi says no matter what his father and I do to help him prepare for his next steps in life, he seems uninterested. He’s almost 18 years old so we try to step back and encourage him to take his own actions rather than us doing things for him. What can his father and I do to help him in the next phase of his life?
The Council says recently what’s coming into play for your son is his wish, before coming into this reality, to travel a lot and meet different people. Because your son is one of the Indigo children, school isn’t a particular interest for him and he’d like to get started with whatever it is he’s supposed to do. Like many Indigos, right now he doesn’t know what that is yet.
If possible, take him on a road trip – someplace you can all talk about and be interested in discovering where it is and what it’s like to be there. Then we’d suggest you offer one year of schooling to give him some experience with college. After that we see lots of traveling is wanted. Eventually there’s a trip to different places in Europe. He has an affinity for Italy based on other lifetimes.
Kristi asks, what direction do you see his future heading? Do you see him going to college? The Council says college is still up in the air for him for what he’s creating. That’s why it would be helpful to take him on a trip and talk to him about school. Let him know after the first year he can continue, or perhaps take a longer trip, maybe to Italy and see Rome, Naples, and Tuscany.
In another past life that’s attached to his current life he was one of the Essenes that were alive around the time of Jesus. He lived in the mountains. His responsibility was to live in secret and not let anyone know who he was because many of the Essenes were in danger at that time. He’d travel back and forth with messages, going to foreign places to see what was happening, what was being learned, and what was being planned. Then he’d come back to the hidden inner group of the Essenes and report what he’s learned. In that life there was a lot of travel, a lot of moving around, and a lot of learning. This is also touching on his current life where travel would be good for him and a way to learn.
Kristi asks if we should be concerned about anything? The Council says the only thing to be concerned about is if you get in your son’s way. Let him come to the ideas of what he wants and what he’s interested in, and support that in any way you can. We see if you do support him and talk to him about many things that happen in this world, of government and how it works, of how people get their information, what they believe, and how it’s passed on, bringing him to different places, even if it’s not that far from where you live, that will motivate him. That will help him connect to those past lives, even if it’s unconsciously, and bring him to what he wants to take from those lives and use in his current life. His direction will come from within him.
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How Can I Help My Children?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.
The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.
If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.
StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.
Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.
A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.
You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.
Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.
The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.
StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?
The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.
If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.
You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.
Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.
By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.
On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.
The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.
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Is My Son a Starseed?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, SeekingGuidance, who wants to know if her son is a Starseed. He’s amazingly wise and kind for his age and asks questions that are so profound. I’m sure he’s like an old soul who’s come to share his wisdom. If he’s a Starseed, what are his gifts and how can I help him enhance them?
The Council says they wonder if many of us truly know what a Starseed is. There are children who’ve come into our reality known as indigo children. There are also crystal children and rainbow children, and they’re all Starseeds. If you seriously think about this, we’re all Starseeds because we’ve all lived among the stars in different dimensions many times.
The purpose of the Starseeds you’re asking about is to come into this reality not knowing their mission until it’s needed. Then the memory of this mission will awaken them and they’ll know how to handle it.
Starseeds are in all parts of our reality. They are the many souls who’ve come in knowing there’s something better they need to aspire to. They’re here to focus on the light and bring it into the Earth.
Starseeds need to learn about history and figure out where the human condition on this planet is at this time. They usually have the feeling they don’t belong on Earth. They’re not always comfortable in groups.
You should teach these Starseed children about the planets. Take them to the planetarium. Let them see movies about different planets and entities that have come to Earth. This will resonate with them. When they feel troubled it’s good for Starseeds to know about the planets. It’s good for them to focus on something other than what they’re doing here right now.
There’s a sense of needing to do something, but not knowing what to do, and this is very frustrating. The Starseed children that are here now are waiting to act according to what’s created on a mass level in this reality.
Both you and your son have been in many different situations and you’ve come back and forth from different lives on different planets. Each time you come into this reality you’re supposed to share what you know about energy, about possible life beyond this planet, and to expand the knowledge that there’s more than just this reality.
The purpose for your son and you isn’t known yet. Be of the light and positive thinking. Research about space. It’s wonderful if you’re living in an area where you can use a telescope. This is comforting and a great interest to the children who are on Earth and very young.
Starseeds will be interested in history. Many will go into teaching. They want to know everything happening on this planet, where we’ve come from, and how we’ve evolved. Starseeds will also be good at lecturing. Your son will be able to talk to large groups about peace and about expanding yourself with your thoughts and beliefs.
Research history. Make a game out of it. If you were talking about Columbus, ask Starseed children to draw a picture of him. Ask the child what he imagines they were thinking and doing. How did they get to where they were going? Did they follow the stars? Let the child use his brain to come up with a story of things that went on in different parts of your planet’s history. This will expand his understanding and bring in more information.
In dreams and imagination the child will touch on things they remember from another time, but it’ll seem like it’s coming from their imagination. This will connect the child to the energy of why you’re here on Earth and that there’s a bigger cause for you to belong to. There’s a greater challenge during this time, even if it’s only to teach people to get along and be peaceful.
Starseeds are souls who’ve gone back and forth from this Earth experience at different times in history, to living in space and then coming back to the Earth with more knowledge and a purpose.
Always keep the environment of peace in your home, where you work, in school, or wherever you are. This is very important.
The Council thanks Cynthia and Bob for bringing this information to all the souls that need to know there’s more to life than the human condition they’re experiencing, and to hear The Council’s words and connect with their higher selves. In this way each one of us, even if we grow an inch, we bring everyone else on this planet with us.
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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