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How Can I Help My Children?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, StrugglingMom, after she read our post, Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself? StrugglingMom says, this post sparked a question about whether my purpose is to help my children, especially my oldest son, and to ask how I can do that.

The Council says your life purpose is all about you, not about saving other people. When you agreed to have these spirits come into this world through you, you agreed to allow them to come in to create the kind of reality they want. They already have in mind the lessons they want to learn, the challenges they want to work through, and if they want to be of help to other people. This is all set up within that spirit. Your purpose is to allow these spirits to come in and then let go and watch what they’re creating.

If there’s a way you can guide them to make their way a little easier, this is helpful, but your purpose isn’t to save your children from whatever they go through or to change whatever you think they’re going through. Your purpose is to give your children love and support in the gentlest way you know.

StrugglingMom asks, do my children and I share any past lives or lessons to learn because we have a difficult relationship and I’m struggling to be the mother my children need. The Council says one of the lessons here is about abandonment, which is what you and your oldest son experienced in another lifetime. In your current life you agreed to be together and work with each other through the difficult times you’re experiencing and not to abandon each other.

Look at what your oldest son is going through and find a way to have discussions with him. Give him guidance on how you think there might be an easier way to go through what he’s experiencing. Discuss what you think and the challenges you’ve gone through and how you worked through these challenges. It’s by your example and by teaching your son what you did to get through your experiences that give him a basis for how to work through his own stuff.

A lot of these children that are difficult and don’t follow rules are very advanced and want to grow up and make their own rules and change things. And they want to do this quickly. Sometimes these children are called Indigo Children because they know they have lots to do in their future, but they’re confused right now with the challenge of growing up under their parent’s rules.

You don’t need to let your son do whatever he wants if you believe it’s unsafe or mean. You can explain another way he can accomplish what he wants. The more discussion you have with your son, the better it will be. Discussion can help things turn around quickly. And by discussion we mean talking about each other and to each other, but not in a way your son is likely to experience as nagging.

Your purpose with your son is to listen to him, be supportive, and not get to the point where you’re so upset you do nothing and conversation stops. This is a form of abandonment. Your son wanted to learn how to be himself, whatever he chose to be in this life. No matter how he chose to be, you would be allowing and accepting, guiding him gently another way, not through punishment or abandonment, but through listening and relating back and forth.

The Council says StrugglingMom and her oldest son shared a past life together as brothers who had no family and they both felt abandoned. In his current lifetime your son wants to work through his abandonment issues and he wanted to have parents that were there to guide him.

StrugglingMom says, I don’t know whether to push him or just let him fail when he refuses to go to school or do schoolwork. Do I punish him and force control? Or do I just let him be, which makes me feel guilty because I feel like I’m taking the easy way out and not being his mother?

The Council says StrugglingMom’s guilt serves no purpose. As a parent you realize there are school requirements that need to be met. As your son moves through school even though he’s not interested in it, discuss with him why it must be done. When he goes to school or does his schoolwork you should praise him and this will give him more motivation to continue.

If your son’s path is difficult because this is what he’s creating, and if he fails and you know in good conscience that you’ve tried to put him on a path you feel has advantages, then his wanting to fail is part of what his spirit wants to experience. Your role is to do what you can as a parent to explain how your son’s education is something he needs to do to improve himself for when he grows up. If you can do this then you’re not abandoning him. If you throw your hands up and say I give up, and your son fails, your son will experience abandonment again. What your son hopes for, no matter what, is you don’t abandon him.

You can help your son heal his abandonment issues through patience and communication, and talking about yourself and what you’ve gone through. Talk about how it’s difficult to see your son not trying. And talking about how you’ll be there no matter what road he picks, whether he tries or whether he fails This will help.

Once your son understands you’re there for him no matter whether he succeeds or fails, instead of having to continue going through the lesson of abandonment, that lesson will be changed because you’re letting your son be the way he needs to be. In accepting and allowing your son, you also allow his lessons to change and allow him to heal.

By StrugglingMom agreeing to be part of these abandonment issues, if her son fails, how will this affect her? What does that bring up for her? There are also abandonment issues StugglingMom wants to learn about. StrugglingMom and her oldest son are handling abandonment in different ways. It’s like different ends of the same stick. The son at one end doesn’t want to be abandoned even though it’s a difficult situation. He wants to see what his mother will do.

On the other side of the stick is StrugglingMom. She doesn’t want to throw her hands up and give up, but at times she feels like it’s no use. Does she give up? Does she abandon her son? Both are facing issues of abandonment and they’re trying to help each other through these issues.

The Council says one of the hardest parts of being a parent is to allow these spirits to come in and then feel responsible for how their child creates its life. You are supposed to bring the child in and then allow it to be whatever it needs to be, and to be there for your child as they go through whatever issues they’re trying to work through.


Listen to the entire 11-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for StrugglingMom and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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February 21, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Guidance, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

What is this Loving Relationship Trying to Teach Us?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Hornetto, who asks a question about a loving relationship that’s mutual in one deep sense, but not in another and he doesn’t know how to define this love. He says this relationship is a soul contract and he wonders what it has to teach the two of them.

The Council says when some people talk about a soul contract they think this is the person for the rest of my life. A soul contract can just be someone you meet, even if just for a little while, that comes into your life, you experience things together, you help each other through different experiences, and then the two of you move on to other relationships and other soul contracts. Some people create many different loves in their life and The Council says they are all soul contracts.

The Council says they see the relationship Hornetto is asking about is for a time. He’s not meant to be in this relationship for his entire lifetime. You’re there to help each other, challenge each other, bring up lessons for each other, and move within those lessons to find understanding. And when you don’t understand you begin to question yourself and you no longer need that person to help you heal or work through your lesson. This person came along to be a catalyst for you to face what you want to heal and to know you can do it yourself.

The Council asks Hornetto what he’s learned from this relationship. What are the up parts and the down parts? How does this relationship make you feel? What does it remind you of? What lessons can be in this relationship? When you part you can still work on these lessons.

Hornetto asks The Council how he can make the best choices for both himself and his partner and The Council says it’s not your place to make choices for another person. Go within your heart and choose for yourself. It’s not your place to force something to happen, but to just flow with the situation. The whole time you’re in this relationship be grateful for it and what it’s there to teach you. Be grateful you’re both there to help each other try to heal.

The Council repeats that this relationship was planned in spirit to be for a limited time. They say this can change, but for this change to occur Hornetto must work on the lessons the relationship is teaching him. When you learn to heal yourself the relationship will have a better way of healing and if you both want to stay together you’ll then be able to.

The Council closes by saying these two people are together to bring up the lessons they need, but begin with the lesson of abandonment and you’ll figure out the rest of your lessons in time.


Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Hornetto and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

If you like this post please consider clicking the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

March 20, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Healing, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | 2 Comments

Twin Flames, Twin Souls, and Soulmates – What’s the Difference?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Kimberly, who asks when was the last time she incarnated with her twin flame.

The Council says a twin soul, which is another name for twin flame, is part of your higher self and not an aspect of another spirit. The twin flame incarnates as a part of your higher self to shake up your life. It’s not usually a partner, but someone that jumps in and out of your life and forces you to grow. It’s sort of a mirror that shows you your beliefs and helps when you’re stuck.

Sometimes your relationship with your twin soul is a rough one and you don’t get along. Other times your twin soul will be very supportive. The twin soul always comes to help you get unstuck. Many people think the twin soul is a romantic relationship, but this isn’t its purpose.

A soulmate is someone you’ve worked with over many lifetimes and there’s a spiritual agreement to have a very close relationship in your current lifetime. Whether it’s a marriage or a close relationship, a soulmate comes from a different spirit than your own and has agreed to come in and help you. The twin soul or twin flame is someone that you’ve created from a part of your own higher self.

The Council says they feel Kimberly is asking about a soulmate even though she uses the words, twin flame. But they feel it’s necessary for her to hear an explanation for the twin flame because she needs to look at her life and see that she’s brought one in. Is it a close relationship? Is it someone who pushes her buttons? Is it a teacher who helps her go in another direction?

The twin flame appears as a separate person who comes in and out of your life or is in your life for a short period of time, but is really an aspect of your higher self that’s here to help you move on. The Council believes Kimberly’s original question is asking about a romantic soulmate from two lifetimes ago, as opposed to a twin flame, but they feel it’s important for her to explore her current lifetime, look for her twin flame, and ask herself what she is trying to teach herself.

Kimberly asks if anything tragic happened with her twin flame in this previous life and The Council is clear in their answer that they’re talking about a soulmate in a previous life, not a twin flame. They see a life in England during the 1600s. Kimberly was the husband in that lifetime, he had two children, worked as a traveling cloth tradesman, and the tragedy was that although he had a loving family, he abandoned them for an opportunity to sail to different ports and trade his goods.

The Council says in Kimberly’s current lifetime there may be a focus on healing the abandonment from the previous lifetime and learning how the female partner in that lifetime felt. She may be searching for the perfect partner in her current lifetime, but has difficulty finding it because of the abandonment in the previous lifetime. She can heal this by being gentle in her current lifetime, considerate, and having a permanent relationship where she no longer wants to run away.

Bob asks if there’s a relationship in Kimberly’s current lifetime with the wife or children from the previous lifetime. The Council says there was an agreement with one of the children to be the partner Kimberly’s looking for so healing can take place, but this hasn’t happened yet.

The Council says before Kimberly goes looking for her partner she should concentrate on the twin flame who’s in her life to shake it up, teach her to open her heart and mind, and look at things differently. Once this happens then she can concentrate on what she’d bring to the relationship she desires. Then she can look for the joy wherever she can find it because there was a lot of hardship in the past life.

Kimberly asks if her twin flame (which The Council believes she means her soulmate) will be there when she crosses over. The Council says the souls you need to see at the time you cross over will be there for you and you’ll recognize them.

Kimberly closes by asking if her twin flame (read soulmate) has any messages for her. The Council says their message is to stay in the vibration of love, show it to yourself first, be kind to yourself, and explore who you are. There’s so much more you can find out about who you truly are and what you’re able to do in this lifetime. Pay attention to your dreams and watch them unfold.

Listen to the entire 17-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Kimberly and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 10, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 12 Comments

Trusting Your Way to a Romantic Relationship

This post answers a follow-up question for The Council from a woman named Nina. We posted The Council’s response to her previous question in our post, How Can I Have a Romantic Relationship?

Nina says she’s been scared and distrustful as long as she can remember. She now has improved relationships with friends and family, but she doesn’t have any luck with romantic relationships.

The Council says it’s good to open up with friends and family first, and as she sees success in these relationships they ask her to stretch and begin to trust other people around her. Then when she’s in a place of comfort within herself she may look forward to finding a partner in a romantic relationship. The trust issues run very deep for Nina and it’s safer for her to build her relationships slowly at first with family and friends.

Nina asks The Council if something happened in a previous lifetime that’s influencing the difficulty she has trusting people today?

As a child in England in the 1800s she was abandoned and has trust issues from this experience. In a different lifetime she was sold to another family because her birth family wasn’t able to provide for her. And during the Holocaust Nina was put in a concentration camp and lost her family. In each of these lifetimes there’s an issue of abandonment and not trusting those around her.

The Council says Nina is trying to heal these three previous lifetimes in her current life. The situations she’s created in this lifetime aren’t as horrible as the ones she’s come through in other lifetimes. She’s decided in her current lifetime to work on trust issues with family and friends and without being abandoned or something horrible happening to her. Because Nina has made her experience lighter in her current lifetime, in spirit she felt she was able to handle these situations, change them, grow, and trust people.

The Council reiterates that as Nina is able to realize she’s safe with family, close friends, work colleagues, and new people she meets, then she’ll be able to bring in the right sort of romantic partner for herself. And The Council expresses confidence that Nina will be able to do this.

Listen to our entire 4-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Nina and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

February 28, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Tracey’s Miscarriage and Her Son’s Search for Love

This post is inspired by a reader named Tracey who asks The Council, after reading our post about Beth’s abortions, if the soul of the child she recently miscarried was either the same soul she aborted many years ago, or if it was the soul of her present son, because he’s always so insecure when he’s not with Tracey.

The Council doesn’t see that either of these souls was the soul she recently miscarried. The say it was a soul who wanted the experience of being in a human body, but not having to complete an entire lifetime. In the rest of this session The Council gives Tracey advice on her son.

The Council says Tracey’s son will be working through many abandonment issues in this lifetime and they suggest showing him a lot of patience, love, and reassurance. When he was in spirit he realized there were some fears he wanted to experience and then experience the strength within the fear when he’s given love.

The Council also sees Tracey’s son will need a lot of confidence in this lifetime and they suggest giving him a lot of praise and following through on things Tracey says she will do concerning her son.

The Council suggest Tracey buy her son children’s books on angels and spirits, and books on how we are here in this lifetime always looking for love and showing love. And they say a good place to start is books by the spiritual healer, Louise Hay.

Tracey’s son wanted to experience courage, independence, and fearlessness in this lifetime and give these emotions to others. He wants to experience the fears first, have the reassurance from Tracey, and then start to believe in these assurances and knowing he is safe. Tracey should always point out to her son that whatever he’s afraid of, there is love in it, and to search for this love with him.

Listen to the entire 7-minute recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Tracey, her son, and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

December 21, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit | , , , , , , | 1 Comment

   

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