Spiritual Guidance for a Difficult Relationship
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Gabriela, who says The Council told her in a post over a year ago that she and lover of hers from a past life named, Lara, agreed to have a friendship in their current lifetime.
Question #1
If that’s true, why does Laura treat me poorly and wants nothing to do with me?
The Council says the greatest power you have in your physical life is choice. Even if Gabriela and Lara made an agreement to come into this life and be friends, the situations they created with each other has put Lara in a position where she feels uncomfortable with this friendship. Even though the two of them had a pre-planned spiritual agreement, Lara still has the choice to follow or not follow that agreement. And The Council adds if Gabriela and Lara don’t heal what they intended in this agreement in their current lifetime, they will choose to heal it in another lifetime.
The Council advises Gabriela to accept everyone the way they are. All signs indicate Lara has no interest in a friendship with Gabriela because Lara doesn’t feel comfortable with this and there’s something missing from this relationship for Lara to take it further. Did Gabriela want a relationship so badly that she pushed for it, and that reminds Lara of how Gabriela mistreated her in the past life they shared?
The best thing Gabriela can do is think loving thoughts for Lara. When you send the vibration of love to anyone, they must change how they feel about you. Even if Gabriela doesn’t have a romantic relationship with Lara, there can be a softening to the point where a friendship is available.
Question #2
Gabriela asks, if souls are so enlightened, why hasn’t Lara’s soul forgiven me for how I treated her in the previous lifetime and given me another chance for a relationship, if Lara’s soul knows I need this relationship in order to move on?
The Council says Gabriela doesn’t understand that her and Lara’s soul have already forgiven each other, but the circumstances Gabriela has created in this lifetime in relationship to Lara doesn’t allow what she wants to accomplish to happen. A soul can give you clues to what you want to create, but your soul can’t change your life for you. On a human level, what Gabriela has continued to create between herself and Lara is causing Lara to be uncomfortable. You can’t blame the soul for what the human chooses. With the soul there’s always love and forgiveness, but the soul cannot step in and change your human choices.
Question #3
Gabriela asks, why does it seem like my guides are punishing me for what I’ve done to Lara in the previous life?
The Council says Gabriela’s guides aren’t punishing her. Both she and Lara have the ability to choose what they wish to create in this lifetime. Gabriela is angry because things aren’t turning out the way she wanted. There will always be love between the two of them in spirit. The more loving thoughts Gabriela can send Lara and wish their life had gone in the direction of their agreed relationship, the more Gabriela will be able to forgive herself and Lara, and the more she’ll be able to create better feeling experiences moving forward.
The way Gabriela is thinking, feeling, and focusing now, she’s bringing herself more depression, more unhappiness, and more undesired experiences. Because she’s in the vibration of anger, disappointment, and blaming, she’ll only attract more of that to herself. When you’re in a lower vibration you can’t bring better experiences, understanding, and love to yourself.
You are the creator of your life, not your guides, but your guides are there to help you. Ask for help from them, but not from a place of blaming. Ask from a place of being lost, depressed, and confused. This is a better place to come from than the place where you think no one is helping you and you blame everyone for not stepping in and changing your path and Lara’s path.
Your feelings are your magnets; what you feel, you’ll bring to you. You’ll draw in what you’re focusing on and what you’re feeling.
Question #4
Gabriela asks, why was my path in this lifetime changed, and why do I feel it was against my wishes?
The Council says Gabriela’s path was never changed against her wishes. The only one who changed her path is herself, by her feelings and your focus.
Gabriela says she feels like she’s a hostage to her spirit guide’s plans.
The Council says her spirit guides know what she wants to create, but they cannot create it for her. She must take responsibility for her life and for her choices. If she can get in the vibration of hope and knowing she’ll have a chance to work out some sort of relationship with Lara. So far, her life is not going in that direction.
Suppose Gabriela frees herself from her anger and the negative thoughts, and she forgives Lara and herself and she wants to have a better life. She doesn’t have to focus in great detail. Only focus on the thought that there’s happiness there for her. If Gabriela can do that, her relationship with Lara can still change. She has to do the inner work to bring in this happiness.
Question #5
Gabriela says she’s been asking every day for her guides to allow her to die. She says even if there’s another lover for her, which she doesn’t believe because no one has ever expressed interest in her.
The Council says Gabriela can’t find someone to express interest in her when she’s in the vibration of leaving this lifetime. Ending this life will only bring another life where she has to return to where she is in her current life, and still learn how to change what she’s experiencing into something she desires more. Dying doesn’t release you from what you want to create. She’ll create it again in another lifetime until she gets to the point where she’s able to free herself from whatever is going on with Lara.
You are the creator. You must learn to take responsibility for what you’re creating. If you don’t like what you’ve created so far, you have the power to change it.
The Council is convinced if Gabriela is able to find the love and happiness within herself and in her mind offer this to Lara, there is the possibility of some sort of relationship developing. Even if this relationship is not a romantic one, there can be a friendship.
Whether or not Gabriela is able to take The Council’s advice, we hope our readers can benefit from The Council’s guidance. The Council says it’s for all of us in our human reality. For those people who are sad, follow this advice. The Council guarantees you will change your life and create what you want.
Listen to the entire 25-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Gabriela and the rest of us. We realize this session is longer than other recent sessions, but there’s important guidance in the recording we haven’t included in the the written post. Let us know how you feel about this session.
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Trusting Your Way to a Romantic Relationship
This post answers a follow-up question for The Council from a woman named Nina. We posted The Council’s response to her previous question in our post, How Can I Have a Romantic Relationship?
Nina says she’s been scared and distrustful as long as she can remember. She now has improved relationships with friends and family, but she doesn’t have any luck with romantic relationships.
The Council says it’s good to open up with friends and family first, and as she sees success in these relationships they ask her to stretch and begin to trust other people around her. Then when she’s in a place of comfort within herself she may look forward to finding a partner in a romantic relationship. The trust issues run very deep for Nina and it’s safer for her to build her relationships slowly at first with family and friends.
Nina asks The Council if something happened in a previous lifetime that’s influencing the difficulty she has trusting people today?
As a child in England in the 1800s she was abandoned and has trust issues from this experience. In a different lifetime she was sold to another family because her birth family wasn’t able to provide for her. And during the Holocaust Nina was put in a concentration camp and lost her family. In each of these lifetimes there’s an issue of abandonment and not trusting those around her.
The Council says Nina is trying to heal these three previous lifetimes in her current life. The situations she’s created in this lifetime aren’t as horrible as the ones she’s come through in other lifetimes. She’s decided in her current lifetime to work on trust issues with family and friends and without being abandoned or something horrible happening to her. Because Nina has made her experience lighter in her current lifetime, in spirit she felt she was able to handle these situations, change them, grow, and trust people.
The Council reiterates that as Nina is able to realize she’s safe with family, close friends, work colleagues, and new people she meets, then she’ll be able to bring in the right sort of romantic partner for herself. And The Council expresses confidence that Nina will be able to do this.
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Life Feels Over After an Abortion
This post is inspired by questions for The Council from a reader named, Casey, who had an abortion and says she wants to die because she’s been told she took a life.
The Council says Casey didn’t take a life and they want to make clear, as they’ve said in other posts, all abortions are pre-planned in spirit. Sometimes the abortion is agreed to by all concerned before you come into this lifetime. And sometimes everyone involved waits to see what circumstances are like in the lifetime before going ahead with the abortion. Either way the abortion is pre-planned in spirit and everyone involved agrees.
Casey has done exactly what was needed for all the souls concerned, including the aborted child’s. The Council suggests Casey meditate on the fact that the spirit of the child isn’t dead and Casey hasn’t stopped this spirit from what it wanted to learn or from moving forward.
The Council says Casey planned other experiences she wishes to go through. If she were to end this particular life, she’ll come back and have to learn these lessons again. The Council reminds Casey she’s exactly where she needs to be right now. And they ask her why she’d want to cut this life short when she has the opportunity to move forward and grow spiritually and intellectually, and to have clarity about the abortion when she’s ready for this.
As Casey believes she’s done something wrong by having this abortion, she isn’t moving forward and the light and clarity of her spirit is unable to reach her human self. The Council encourages Casey to remedy this by sitting for 5-10 minutes every day and imagining a beautiful green light surrounding her to heal her heart and her mind. And they ask Casey to change her perception of what’s happened to one that’s more productive.
Casey says she fears divine retribution and The Council says there is no divine retribution. She chose this abortion in spirit and the spirit of the child chose it also.
The Council recommends Casey release the feeling her life is over, take in these new ideas, meditate, and learn to love herself. She has a husband and children who’ve chosen to be with her and there are beautiful experiences they all planned to work through together going forward.
As Casey’s children grow they’ll have many ideas that will open Casey to the spiritual world and help her move forward, and these children will open the minds of many people. The Council says Casey agreed to be a part of all this and asks if she really wants to die now. There is much to learn and so much happiness in front of her.
Now Casey needs to work on herself and her beliefs. She needs to be open to another way of thinking about the abortion and open to accepting the vibration of love and light that’s all around her. If she meditates daily she’ll experience this. The choice is hers.
The Council closes by recommending Casey tell herself she is a vibration of love, she is light, and she is spirit. All spirits will be sending Casey healing. Will she choose to accept it.
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Help with Her Daughter’s Marriage
This post is inspired by a woman named, Marie, who asks The Council for help with her daughter’s unhappy marriage. The Council says how Marie looks at her daughter’s marriage will create what she sees. If Marie thinks her daughter is in a horrible marriage, this is what she’s creating. The Council asks Marie if she’s able to find some moments where her daughter and daughter’s husband are getting along and to focus on that instead of focusing on them not getting along.
Marie asks if it’s wise to encourage her daughter to leave her husband. And The Council says, not at all. Marie doesn’t consciously know what her daughter’s spirit and her daughter’s husband’s spirit agreed on and what they’re trying to heal in this lifetime. The Council recommends letting the marriage unfold. They point out that love allows everything and by allowing them to work on their marriage without interfering, Marie is loving her daughter.
The Council recommends that with Marie’s thoughts and prayers she picture her daughter and her husband doing what they need to do, whether it was to come together and have the courage to leave each other, or to come together and see things differently and get along better moving forward.
The Council says Marie’s daughter is trying to come together with her husband and find a path where they can understand each other. They’re trying to turn toward the experience of love. They’ve had several other lives together and they enjoy having these lives and helping each other grow and learn.
The Council says it’s possible her daughter and her daughter’s husband get along better than Marie perceives, and The Council asks Marie to change how she looks at the marriage. They say to almost strain herself to find something good in this marriage and as she does this more of this goodness will be created.
The Council recommends that Marie talk to her daughter about nice times her daughter and daughter’s husband shared together. This will help her daughter remember these nicer times. Marie should try to bring some light into the marriage as she talks about it with her daughter. Look for the good in this marriage and talk about it with her daughter, and it will help her daughter on her path.
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Advice to Help Partner and Son
This interesting post is inspired by two follow up questions for The Council from a reader named, Wendy, who asks for advice she can give her partner to help her get pregnant, and advice on how to help her son.
Wendy’s Partner
Wendy says she and her partner have begun trying to have a child, but her partner is unsure if a pregnancy is possible due to a medical report he received years ago. The Council recommends getting Wendy’s partner to talk about how he sees his life with Wendy and a child. But The Council emphasizes this is Wendy’s reality and they say she’ll create a pregnancy no matter what her partner thinks. And The Council also says it will be easier to create a pregnancy when she sees her partner speaking about it.
The Council says it’s difficult to understand that each of us experiences many different realities, although most of us are only aware of a single reality. In this reality Wendy has expressed a desire to become pregnant with her partner. In another reality with the same partner, Wendy can create a reality where it’s just her and her partner and they have no children. Wendy’s partner also has many realities. In one reality he may allow a child, and in another reality he may wish to create a life without children.
The Council says when Wendy focuses on wanting a child, she’ll create having this child and she’ll create her partner going along with this. As far as the medical report is concerned, The Council says not to listen to these reports if they go against what Wendy desires, and notice the powerful creator she is.
The Council recommends Wendy have her partner meditate with her daily, and they say 5 minutes is all that’s necessary. Picture a beautiful healing white light coming into the top of your head and filtering down through every part of your bodies, through the feet and into the Earth, bringing strength to your body. If Wendy’s partner does this every day and begins to see this healing white light in his imagination, he will be able to create a child with Wendy.
Wendy’s Son
Next Wendy asks The Council for advice to help her son with his perfectionism. The Council says children often create pressure on themselves to be perfect in order to be loved and accepted. How does Wendy treat her son when he isn’t perfect? Does she still accept him the way he is and show him love? The more she can do this he’ll begin to realize not being perfect is okay, he can learn from his experience, the pressure will ease up, and Wendy will see a change.
Wendy, Son, and Partner in a Past Life
Wendy says her son has difficulty expressing love to her partner. The Council encourages Wendy to respect how her son feels about her partner at this time and not to push him to be more affectionate. And they ask if Wendy can be okay with her son not loving her partner.
Wendy asks about past lives she’s shared with her son and her partner, and The Council says in the lifetime that’s affecting their current life the three of them were together, Wendy as the mother, her partner as her husband, and her son as their son. In that lifetime Wendy became sick and died when her son was around 5 years old, and her son blamed the husband for not doing enough to save Wendy. The son was then left with the father who could no longer express love or emotion and they lived an empty life together.
In his current lifetime the son has chosen to heal the blame he felt in that previous lifetime. It will take time to relax with Wendy’s partner. In time the partner and Wendy’s son will attempt to work out their differences. That’s the agreement they made with each other in spirit. Wendy shouldn’t force the two of them to get along. Let their spirits find a way to try and heal the hurt they brought into this lifetime.
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Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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