What Can I Do About My Son’s Anger Toward His Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says, I’ve been working on my relationship with my young son. In many ways it has improved and he seems to walk through the world with less anger. However, he still seems to have an enormous amount of anger and jealousy toward his younger brother. This is causing a lot of tension in our family and makes it difficult to trust him. Will his anger and jealousy ever go away?
The Council says his anger and jealousy will go away in time if he handles the challenge he’s set up for himself in spirit. Then this will change. At this particular time there is a jealousy of the younger brother, and this is normal in many families. And yet your son has brought in grudges from a few lifetimes, of feeling ignored, abandoned, and feeling that in these other lifetimes he wasn’t treated properly.
The way your son set up this lifetime was that he wanted to be the star attraction, and now having a younger brother, he doesn’t feel that way. There’s a lot of chaos going on and emotions that he doesn’t quite understand right now. He only knows that he isn’t very fond of his younger brother.
It’s good for you to have lots of patience at this time. The only thing you can do is show love, but there are also times where discipline is needed. What’s wanted here is equal attention between the two brothers so that the older son would see that his younger brother was special, and so was he.
Your problem son has to come to terms with being in this reality. If he wants to be a star or to have lots of attention, the way to get this attention is by finding something he loves and developing that talent, not by putting fear and worry in others, and by negative behavior. You have to find a way to show discipline, and also show love at the same time.
Anonymous asks, Is there anything I can do to alleviate this anger and jealousy? The Council says you have to remember that he is the creator. Even though he and you don’t understand what’s going on at this time, he set it up this way in spirit so he can find himself, and find the kind of person he really wants to be. By allowing him to be himself, by allowing him to learn about discipline and about being kind to others, that’s the way you help your son find the path he’s looking for.
Anonymous asks, Where does this anger and jealousy come from? The Council says it comes from other lifetimes where he felt ignored and he was disciplined improperly and unfairly. Your son has gone through lives where he was punished for things he did, and things he didn’t do. In one of these lives your son was thrown out as a very young child around nine years old. This is all in the subconscious, which is stirring up feelings that are confusing him. He doesn’t know how to let go of these hurt feelings from other times.
With patience, discipline, and showing love to both boys in front of each other, showing the younger son the love you have for the older son, and showing the older son the love you have for the younger son, showing kindness, and showing understanding, that’s how you teach and help him find his way.
Anonymous says, In the past The Council suggested I go to therapy, and I have. It’s been okay, but I honestly can’t seem to cultivate a sense of calm and peace in our family. My son is very resistant to any sort of calming technique like meditation and breathing. He prefers to laugh maniacally and endlessly pick on his little brother.
The Council says, When your son laughs maniacally, how do you handle it? Do you become angry? Do you become fearful? Instead, there’s a way you can just look at your son, with your eyes show him love, but immediately turn and walk away. Do not feed it or ask him why he’s doing this. Walk away and he’ll have to deal with what he’s done.
Anonymous says, I’m very open to any perspective or suggestions from The Council. The Council says it’s like we’ve said before, love is the answer, but so is understanding, and so is allowing your son to become who he wants to become. At this time it takes a lot of patience on your part. There’s a lot of unnecessary behavior going on. Know that while this is going on that you won’t condone it, but you won’t fight it and have long discussions about it either. When this behavior comes up, look kindly, but then turn and walk away. This will be unexpected, and that will help him find another way of thinking about what’s going on.
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What Can My Family Do To Help My Brother Overcome Drug Addiction?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who says, I recently found out my younger brother has been abusing drugs. What can my family do to help him overcome this addiction?
The Council says #1, don’t blame him or be angry with him for this addiction. This is something he chose to go through. Be supportive in every way you can. Make suggestions on what he can do, and then leave it up to him to follow them. When your brother gets tired of being in this situation, he’ll change. We see he’s planned in this life to have this drug experience, but also to overcome it.
There are lessons for all concerned. There are lessons for you, your family, and your brother on going through this, how to handle it, and how to have patience, love, and understanding. Stay away from blame and anger. Be supportive and suggest any kind of help you can find. Part of the lesson is finding help and letting go. Your brother must find his way out of this addiction.
While this addiction is going on, constantly ask yourself, How do I feel? What would I do if it was me? How can I understand this? What would I want? When you have these questions answered, you’ll know how to move forward in this situation. Above all, have patience and compassion.
PE asks, Is there a purpose for this drug addiction? The Council says: Yes, there is a purpose. Your brother chose to experience drug addiction to go through it, and to feel what it would be like. He chose it to feel how strong he’d be when he finds a way out of this addiction. He chose it to see how the spirits around him, including you and your family, would respond to him when he’s in his addiction and when he gets better.
There is a purpose. Your brother wants to go through this addiction to learn. Everyone concerned agreed to go through this experience to learn. Search your feelings to see how you’ll respond to him.
When you come into this reality your purpose is to take every situation and change it with love. That’s your answer to your question about the purpose of your brother’s addiction.
The Councils says they send everyone blessings, love, and happiness. And we ask you all to search for joy and find it any way you can, every day.
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Do My Current Career Struggles Relate to Job Karma?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Adhvazila, who asks about their professional life. They say, I’ve been struggling on the professional front for quite some time. Does this have anything to do with job karma and will it end any time soon?
The Council says they don’t like to use the word karma. Karma is really just a choice you make. In many of your lives you had it very easy, didn’t have to work, and had no patience for people who lived by standards that weren’t up to yours. In your current life you thought you’d like to experience the difficulty, the struggle, and how to accept it and change it. And that’s where you are right now.
We see you coming out of these career difficulties when you become grateful for the job you have, even if that’s not something that’s easy. Focus on the fact that you are working and that you can support yourself. Show this attitude of gratefulness and then begin to look elsewhere for other jobs. Put out there the kind of work you’d like to do. Show patience and kindness to everyone you meet because of the way you were in other lives. This is what you wanted to express in your current lifetime.
Adhvazila says, There’s a sense of loss of direction and currently my situation is also quite stressful. The Council says when you’re feeling stresssful it’s good to take deep breathes every day. Be grateful for the job you have. If the stress comes from your work or if it comes from the people you work with, be patient and kind and you’ll see the stress reduce.
Adhvazila asks, Will I ever be able to earn a good living in a less stressful environment? The Council’s advice is to love what you have and you’ll come out of the situation you’re in.
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My On/Off Relationship with My Sister-In-Law and Our Past Lives
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, SillyGoose, who’s asking about her relationship with her sister-in-law. She says, I feel like I have a strong connection with her and her husband from past lives. She can sometimes be very kind and sometimes she becomes very rude. I want to stay away from her, but then she manages to pull me back into her life again.
The Council says in a past life you were your sister-in-law’s mother. You were strict and trying to teach her, but she was a rebel in that life. When you handed out punishment you’d then feel guilty. She’d then pull you back in, make you love her, think she’d behave, and then she’d act out again. In your current life, part of her remembers how to pull you in. But there’s true love there between the two of you and your sister-in-law will get clearer on this as time moves on.
Understand this dynamic that’s going on now. If you can laugh at the idea that at one time your sister-in-law was your naughty little child that knew how to manipulate you, this is what’s going on in your current life. Understand you can let go of what she does and see yourself and her as spirits.
SillyGoose says, I’m confused if my sister-in-law really cares for me or is she just pretending to? The Council says your sister-in-law’s love is real.
When your sister-in-law is being rude, try to remember this comes from a time where she’d do that to annoy you as her mother. When your sister-in-law is frustrated she can turn to that being rude, but then afterward she’ll try and pull you back in her life again because she doesn’t want to loose you. Yes, there’s love there. Yes, you’re going through things. Yes, she’s going through things. But now you’re the one who has this information and can look at the situation differently. Just watch as your sister-in-law zig-zags back and forth. Perhaps you can find it somewhere within you to laugh about this because it’s a past life trait and it will change when you can accept it and be more humorous about it. Then you’ll be able to see the true love she has for you come through more and more.
Be humorous and patient with your sister-in-law. Watch how she acts as if you’re watching a movie, and your situation with her will make more sense as you begin to realize and understand her behavior is coming from a past life. Your purpose in this life is to love her again. This is what you wanted. Teach your sister-in-law that you accept her the way she is. Her purpose in this life was to know you’ll always be there for her and not leave her because she’s not a good person or doesn’t behave a certain way. You’re both learning from this dynamic that’s going on in your life and you brought these traits into your current life to help each of you learn from it.
SillyGoose asks, am I supposed to stay connected to my sister-in-law or is it better to stay away? The Council asks, with what you know now, what feels good to you when you ask yourself that question. The answer is within you. You know what it is. There’s no need for us to tell you. Ask yourself and do the work.
SillyGoose asks what lessons she has to learn from her sister-in-law, and The Council says, acceptance.
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Comparing Ideas of Abraham and Robert Schwartz on Learning
This post answers questions from a reader named, Lindsay, who’s reading Your Soul’s Gift, by Robert Schwartz and really enjoying it. Before reading this book she was reading Abraham as channeled by Esther Hicks, and was having difficulty reconciling these two points of view. Abraham says you can be, do, or have anything you desire, and Rob talks about a spiritual pre-life plan that includes suffering to help you learn and grow.
The Council begins by saying you don’t pre-plan every minute of your life while you’re in spirit. You plan some lessons you want to learn, and some of these are very pleasant and some are challenging. If you’ve chosen a lesson that causes a lot of pain and suffering, you have the free will to change this spiritual plan while you’re in human form.
Abraham says you can be, do, or have anything you want in this life and The Council agrees. They also say this can sometimes take a lot of work and focus. Many people have problems doing this because they figure if they focus for a day or a week that’s enough to change things. Sometimes it takes a lot more focus and time. During this time you’d be learning patience, researching what you want, and getting into it in more detail.
When you’re in spirit and planning to come into a physical body the challenges you wish to go through as a human are difficult, but in the spirit world you think you can handle this. You think, let me see how I can turn this situation around and bring more love into it. And we in spirit, guide you any way we can to help you get through whatever it is you want to learn. In your human form things can be challenging, but in your spiritual form you are learning and growing. When you return to spirit you’ll be able to bring what you’ve learned back with you and all spirits will learn from it.
Robert Schwartz’s books deal with why we pick challenging experiences, what we can learn from them, and how these experiences will affect the people around us. Abraham is lighter. He says you’re in control and you can change your life. Just imagine what you want, see it, feel it, and you can create it. Both of these points of view work, but they are coming from different directions.
Not everyone plans to suffer through their life and not everyone plans to be happy all the time. Life is about experiences. Everything you go through, whether it’s a happy life or a challenging life, is experience to learn and grow from.
When you choose an experience that’s difficult and you’re in pain, you can change this by meditating and remembering who you truly are as a spiritual being. You have all the tools you need to get through this life and change it. If you want a difficult experience there’s a way to get through it. Meditate on this and see your situation the way you want it to be.
The purpose of Robert Schwartz’s books are to demonstrate more understanding of why people suffer. People who are suffering want answers. They ask why they’re suffering and why are they going through what they’re going through. Robert Schwartz sheds light on this. His information is very important to the people who need to understand why life is so difficult for them when they think they would never chose to create these difficulties.
When you read some of Robert’s stories you begin to realize they make sense. At one time or another, in one of your many lifetimes, you will have challenges. It will be difficult for you, but it’s because you wished to experience these challenges.
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Did I Know This Man I Love in Another Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Susie, who says she fell madly in love with a boy when she was 16 years old. My father was a holocaust survivor and the boy wasn’t Jewish so he broke us up. I got married, but I’ve loved this boy for the rest of my life. Four years ago and 45 years after we broke up I contacted this man and he was as amazing as he was when I was 16. I’m still madly in love with him.
The Council says in at least four lifetimes Susie was childhood friends or brother and sister with this man and there’s great love from these past lives.
Susie says she has nothing in common with her husband, but she still loves him, but nothing like the way she feels for this boy she met when she was 16. She says the boy got involved with drugs when she left him, he’s become an alcoholic over the years, and she feels responsible.
The Council says it’s not necessary to feel responsible for this man. These are his lessons and his choices. You have no idea what people are trying to learn when they are going through something they’ve chosen. You’ve only agreed to be there for part of his experience.
Susie says she wants to cure this man. The Council says you don’t cure anyone. You show love, you show acceptance, compassion, and patience. You’re there to possibly suggest a way to follow through on what they’re experiencing, but you don’t cure them. This isn’t your responsibility.
Susie says her daughter was born with an eating addiction and she’s trying to heal both her daughter and this man she met when she was 16. The Council says again that Susie can’t heal them. Everyone chooses what they need to experience, even if they don’t remember in their human body why they make their choices. There are things they need to experience for soul growth and to teach the people around them. You can’t cure these people or change their path.
Susie says she feels her daughter and this love of her life are meant to be together. The Council says she didn’t choose in spirit to be married to this man in her current lifetime. What was chosen was familiarity, friendship, closeness, and support. You’ve chosen to be friends with this man because there are things you need to learn. Everyone has a lesson. This doesn’t mean you’re meant to be married or in an intimate relationship like marriage. Be there to learn from each other. The three of you wanted to experience acceptance.
Susie says she needs The Council to release her daughter and this man from their soul contract. The Council says they can’t release anyone from their soul contract. No one is in charge of releasing someone from their contract but themself. In your human form you may not understand why you’ve made certain choices, but your higher self knows. When your higher self knows you’ve learned your lesson or experienced enough you’ll release yourself.
Between you, your daughter, and your friend you need the ability to speak with each other, listen to what’s truly going on rather than what you think is going on, show acceptance, and allow each other to be who they are. Allow them to make their own choices. Give love and compassion and know every step of the way you’ll find something to learn from your experience.
The Council says in the past lives Susie and her friend have shared there’s been a lot of happiness and fun and that love has drawn them together in their current life to go through more difficult challenges.
The Council tells Susie she’s here to experience love, to bring love from the spirit world into your current reality. In every way you can show love to yourself, to this friend, and to your daughter.
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Spiritual Insight Into People We Consider Autistic
This post answers questions from a long-time reader named, Jan, who say that in her many years observing people on the autistic spectrum she’s noticed the following:
- Sudden disorientation and panic for no reason
- Sudden personality changes
- Moving from very outgoing and friendly to insular for periods ranging from a few days to many months
- Memory lapses is some areas, but highly detailed memory in other events
- Extreme desire for anything predictable and and unchanging, which seems to comfort them
- Levels of psychic ability beyond that of most other people
The Council say this different way of living that most of us call autistic is chosen by the spirit and the main reason is to teach the people around them. You’ll notice they live their lives very differently. What do you do to understand this difference? Do you accept how they are? Do you try to communicate with them in ways they’re trying to teach you?
When an autistic spectrum person goes into panic or withdraws it’s because they exist in several realities at the same time. Although all of us experience many different realities at the same time, we’re not usually aware of it except maybe in a dream or a meditation. A spirit that chooses to experience autism allows themself to be in more than one reality and to know it and remember it.
Sometimes these people jump from one reality to another and this can be frightening to them because their world can change in a moment. These souls require lots of patience and love and it’s your role to supply this. Understand that these people may not be present in your reality right now and at these times it’s not a good idea to touch them and try to bring them back into your reality. They’re experiencing something in another reality and can come back to this reality when they’re ready.
This type of behavior is confusing for most people who see it, but aren’t able to understand it. And it’s very challenging for the spirit that’s going through this experience. They’re mainly trying to teach people who just experience one reality that there’s more than one reality going on and how to look at it. Ask yourself what’s going on for this person? How can I communicate with this person when they’re experiencing this? How can I let them know they’re safe, even if they must jump from one reality to another?
The Council says the sudden personality changes in these people are caused by them experiencing these different realities, but their physical body is still here and it can take on the personality of what that spirit is focusing on in another reality. When an autistic spectrum person is in your reality, whatever you can do to help them see and feel familiar things will help them.
Jan says many years ago The Council suggested to her that when a close autistic spectrum friend of hers becomes uncommunicative for a while, she’d be able to communicate with him telepathically. She’s been doing this, but as they communicate there are often inconsistencies between his experience and memory of events and hers. The Council says when you try to communicate telepathically with this spirit, it’s felt in whatever reality he’s experiencing in that moment and that’s the reason for these inconsistencies.
Jan asked her own spirit guides for guidance on her autistic spectrum friend’s situation and was given information similar to what The Council has described, but Jan says she has difficulty understanding this guidance or even believing it, although she says it does offer an explanation for much of his behavior.
The Council advises Jan to learn a little more about the realities her friend experiences when he’s back in their shared reality. Ask him in a non-threatening way what’s been happening in his life lately. See what he says and don’t think it’s crazy or it doesn’t make sense. In this way you can learn about where he goes and what he’s experiencing. It was part of your purpose to learn there is more to life than the reality you experience. You’re also here to learn about other realities.
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What Lessons Can I Learn From My Deteriorating Marriage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Heartbroken, who says her marriage is in shambles because of an individual. She wants to separate from her husband, but he wants to be in the marriage. Heartbroken wants to know what lessons she’s supposed to learn from this experience because she doesn’t understand what to do.
The Council says they see a lifetime not to long ago in Germany that relates to Heartbroken’s current life. In that life Heartbroken was a female who didn’t have any compassion, commitment, or understanding of the people around her and she expected perfection from these people. There was no patience with other people. Heartbroken had many suitors in that life and if they didn’t meet all her standards she’d leave them heartbroken.
In your current life try to understand where the other person is coming from and what they’re experiencing. Have patience and commitment with other people. At the end of your life in Germany you were very lonely and you had a lot of regret for how you treated people. In your current life you want commitment to people so that you don’t experience the loneliness you experienced in Germany. You want family and love. In your current life you want to learn about understanding, emotions, and commitment.
If there’s another person in your life and you think it would be better to get out of your marriage and be with this new person, if the lesson of patience and understanding hasn’t been learned, you will find fault with this person and want to move on to a new person. And this scenario will continue in your life until you stay still and try to understand where the other person is coming from.
What makes your husband behave the way he does? Is he asking for forgiveness? Is there a true desire to come together? Instead of throwing your marriage away is it possible for you to understand your husband better and move forward?
You need to get to the lesson in your experience. Do you understand why your marriage is in shambles? Is there a point where forgiveness can be given to your husband and then move on if you feel this is necessary? The main thing here is to understand your husband because in your past life in Germany you never bothered to understand people.
What is your role in the marriage? Why is it in shambles? What is your responsibility for your actions? Understand why your husband did what he did. Look for compassion, understanding, and forgiveness and then move on from your marriage if this is what you want.
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Why Does My Brother Hate Our Parents?
This post answers questions for The Council from a woman who goes by the name, Peace, who asks if her brother has unfinished business from past lives and that he seems to hate their parents. The Council says sometimes this experience of hate comes from the present rather than the past. Perhaps it’s something he saw in another life and decided he wanted to experience it in this lifetime.
Peace asks the reason for her brother’s anger at their parents and sometimes at her. The Council feels Peace’s brother came into this life wanting to experience anger and then be able to find times when he experiences kindness and understanding. Peace’s role in her brother’s life, which was her pre-birth agreement with him, is to be patient and and understanding of him. Try to express uplifting and loving thoughts to him. By understanding this is something your brother wished to experience you’ll be able to let go of his anger.
Peace asks if she’s supposed to support her brother as a loving sister? The Council says, yes. Your brother wanted to learn about feeling anger he wasn’t able to understand and he needed several people in his life to show him kindness when he felt this anger. As you’re able to show him this kindness, a new understanding will come to him and he’ll begin to see there’s an effort by you and others to be empathetic.
Peace says her brother has an incurable disease and asks why he created this and will he ever overcome it? The Council says there’s a slight possibility her brother will overcome his disease, but he created it as part of what would help him experience anger and not feeling as good as others.
Peace says her brother has a short temper and she’s worried about the person he’ll marry or if he’ll find a suitable wife for himself and be able to stay in this relationship. The Council reminds Peace it’s not her job to worry about a future wife for her brother. Your job is to be understanding, uplifting, and comforting to him.
If your brother creates a life with a wife, and The Council says there’s a slight possibility this will happen, then he’ll need to experience other lessons with his wife. If her brother does take a wife, Peace needs to stand by and watch, not take sides. Send them love and understand whatever they create, whether discord or harmony, it’s part of their pre-birth plan.
Peace says she wants her brother to become a better person and The Council says in order for this to happen she must also become a better person. Become more loving, supporting, uplifting, and understanding. This will help both of you become a better person.
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Is My Boyfriend Interested In Marrying Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Curious, who says she’s been with her significant other for about 12 years. Curious has been married twice before and her partner has never been married. In the early years of their relationship she didn’t want to get married again because of her experience in her two earlier marriages.
At this point The Council emphasizes that Curious has made clear by her actions and her words that she doesn’t want to get married, and her partner has taken this point in.
Curious goes on to say that about 3 years ago her feelings about marriage changed and she told her partner in what she considered a no pressure way that even though she wasn’t interested in marriage before, she was interested now.
The Council says because Curious changed her mind about getting married and she let her partner know, she expected her partner to accept this new idea before he was ready. The Council says what Curious is hopefully learning from this experience is to allow her partner (and everyone else) to be who they are. The Council adds that while it’s wonderful that Curious is aware of this change in her thinking and is able to express her desires to her partner, part of her lesson is to allow her boyfriend to have a different opinion at this time and accept that maybe he doesn’t want to move forward as fast as she does.
The Council says there’s nothing in the way of an eventual marriage, and asks what Curious has done in her visualizations to create this change she seeks? Is she working on seeing the marriage happening? Is Curious putting happy feelings into the thought that the marriage will occur at some point, rather than focusing on why her partner hasn’t changed his mind yet? The inner work to create this marriage is very important.
The Council feels Curious’s partner is comfortable with the relationship the way it is and he’s not ready to change the relationship at this time. Both souls have agreed in spirit to create this situation. For both of you this is a lesson in patience, understanding, and allowing. When these lessons have all been learned, there will be movement towards the marriage Curious desires.
Is Curious enjoying being with her partner, or is she stuck thinking when will this marriage happen? Enjoy every part of the relationship like you did before you told your partner you wanted to get married. The more Curious is able to find things to be grateful for in the relationship and do the inner work of thinking how she wants the relationship to evolve, the easier it will be to create the marriage she desires.
Curious says a month ago someone introduced her partner as her husband and he commented, “No, just boyfriend,” and laughed. This hurt Curious’s feelings, but she didn’t say anything because she didn’t want to pressure her partner. The Council says Curious’s partner is speaking the truth and they ask why this hurts her feelings? They suggest it’s because the marriage isn’t happening at the exact time she wishes it to happen.
Curious asks if she and her partner are meant to take their relationship to the next level, and The Council says, “In time.” She asks if her partner is interested in marriage and The Council says, “Cautiously, yes.” If Curious falls into feelings of impatience and has negative feelings about the relationship, this can change the path of the relationship into something that causes problems she has to learn from before she can move forward.
The Council’s parting thoughts are for Curious to bring more love into the relationship with her partner and create happy experiences along the way. And they emphasize again the importance of her doing the inner work necessary to create this marriage.
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What’s Up With My Best Friend Who I Just Confessed My Love To?
Maria says she’s currently having issues with her best friend, Dave, who she just confessed her love to. She says he’s sort of cold to her right now, though she may be just imagining it. The Council says it’s wonderful to have the freedom to confess love for another person. It’s for yourself that you do this. Whether it’s accepted or not, speaking of love for another person is a wonderful feeling, and they ask Maria to tune into this feeling.
Maria says a close psychic friend told her she and Dave were either family or romantically involved in several past lives. The Council says as Maria continues to create her life, things can be changed but right now the relationship isn’t going in the direction of a love interest. It’s more of support for each other.
Maria says she’s learning a lot of lessons from how she handles her relationship with Dave, such as how to express herself honestly and have a wider perspective of what’s possible. The Council says this is great growth on Maria’s part.
Maria asks The Council why she hasn’t gotten over telling Dave she loves him and asks if she’s missing another lesson or should she just be more patient? The Council advises Maria to not only be more patient, because she’s able to create this romantic relationship if it’s what she wants, but what she needs to do is to stay in the vibration of love and go forward with what she wishes to create.
The Council advises Maria to allow Dave to be who he is. Be supportive without pressure to go into a different type of relationship. See Dave with love and send him energy so he’s able to work through the lessons he wishes to go through and change.
The Council advises Maria to remain in the present with Dave and to listen to him with her heart and try and be supportive. As you do this you also grow.
There’s a big lesson here for Dave about safety. As he learns to be safe with you and as he learns you’re not trying to change him and you accept who he is, his walls will begin to come down and he’ll be more present with you. Along with the thought of you becoming more loving and more patient, also see Dave becoming more trusting and more caring. When you do this inner work it’s the beginning of creating. In your feelings about Dave, love and acceptance is what’s needed and the rest will come into play.
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What is My Wife’s and My Purpose in This Lifetime?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Anthony, who says at the beginning of his relationship with his wife they experienced some traumatic events where his wife felt she had no control of the situation and she didn’t receive any support from him. These traumatic events occurred several years ago and Anthony’s wife is still suffering. He’s tried everything to help her and nothing has worked. She blames herself constantly and blames him. She’s not able to let go and forgive. Anthony wants to know if he and his wife have shared a traumatic past life together?
The Council begins by saying the loss of control is what Anthony and his wife experienced in another lifetime where Anthony was blind and mute. In this lifetime Anthony’s wife took care of him. It took lots of patience, was very strenuous for her, and it was difficult for her to understand she was making Anthony’s life better.
At the end of that lifetime they both decided they’d create another lifetime (their current lifetime) where Anthony would have the patience and show love and caring for the challenges his wife created for herself. Because of the love they have for each other, Anthony now wanted to be for his wife. He wanted to feel what it’s like so he can learn that side of reality.
The Council asks Anthony to try and focus on the good he’s done for himself and for his wife. The more aware he is of trying to be there for her, be a comfort to her, show her love, and help her through these challenges, this vibration of love exists between them. Eventually the more Anthony is able to focus on this love, even when his wife is blaming him, instead of blaming himself he should know his purpose is to help her through these challenges and to show his wife love.
Anthony and his wife have had many lifetimes where they take turns helping each other, and because they both enjoy this, and learn from it and grow from it, they created their current lifetime to continue this process of going through challenges.
Anthony asks the purpose of his and his wife’s life in their current lifetime? The Council says to be helpful to each other and show the people around them how they care for each other and have patience with each other, so their patience and love can grow within these people. Anthony and his wife have a challenge to work through with each other, and there’s the challenge of the people around them to observe this and learn from it.
Anthony says he feels like the challenge with his wife has something to do with his daughter, and The Council says this particular lesson doesn’t have to do with her, but he’s been with his daughter in other lifetimes. It’s his daughter’s wish in this lifetime to learn about counseling, and so what she sees between Anthony and his wife may help her go into this field. She has a wish to learn about people who are suffering, going through depression, and are suicidal, and also be helpful to these people.
Currently The Council feels Anthony’s daughter may pull away from him because she doesn’t have the understanding yet to be helpful to others in need. Anthony can bring this focus to his daughter by being understanding and having her see how he responds to his wife. Anthony should try not to get angry at sickness, but he can show great confidence in himself by knowing he’s doing the right thing by bringing love into this situation in any way he can.
The Council closes by reminding Anthony that his marriage is an agreement to experience the other side of the coin from the lifetime where he was blind and mute. The Council also says it would be good to play music for his wife every day or every other day. The body’s cells and the soul will respond to the calmness of the music. And to bring humor into the situation with his wife when he’s able. Then he’ll be able to see this situation change. The Council definitely sees a healing of the situation with Anthony’s wife can happen.
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What Past and Present Life Choices Cause Chronic Pain?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, InDespair, who says The Council mentions (in a different post) that we choose chronic pain to heal our beliefs from past lives that we’ve chosen to bring into our current lifetime. And InDespair asks, “What beliefs from a past life or lives would cause us to choose enduring chronic pain in our current life.”
The Council begins by saying that chronic pain isn’t always brought in from another lifetime. Sometimes it’s just an experience that’s wanted in your current life.
In another lifetime perhaps you’ve seen someone suffering and didn’t understand it, or didn’t show compassion and help the person who was experiencing it. You may choose to experience this chronic pain in this lifetime so you have more understanding of it, and going forward in this life and future lives, you’ll bring more love to any situation where suffering is involved.
Many people suffer sometimes and they wonder why, and question what they’ve done to deserve this suffering. The Council says they’ve come into this lifetime to have the people around them learn patience and compassion and to understand what you are going through. This pain is chosen to help another soul or family of souls learn from your suffering.
The choice to go through extreme pain, hardships, or anything difficult is always the choice of the individual. Each person planning their reality in spirit will plan what they desire to experience, or they’ll experience something to help another soul go through suffering and have more understanding of it. The experience of suffering is never something that’s forced on an individual.
Some people choose suffering to learn patience and love and to have some understanding of this experience. Many souls choose suffering to teach others, and there’s still learning on your part as you go through this. Is there a wish to turn the suffering around and heal it?
Perhaps you’ve agreed with other spirits that want to learn about someone going through pain and suffering, and you’ll tell them that you’ll go through this suffering for them. And they’ll learn from this to give you such love and understanding that you’ll have the strength and understanding to turn the suffering around and realize that love conquers everything.
The Council says you could’ve experienced pain in a prior life and didn’t know how to change it and make it better. And you wish to go through this pain in your current life to try and change it this time around. Sometimes in other lifetimes the others around you had this pain and you didn’t understand it or didn’t have patience for it. And so you want to experience this pain in your current lifetime to bring in more love and understanding about this.
The Council says it’s up to the individual whether they choose to heal this pain they’ve chosen. Many times a person will heal this pain when the spirit of another person has learned what it needs to learn from this suffering.
Bob asked The Council what’s in it for the person who chooses to experience chronic pain their whole life so others can have the experience of this. The Council says you are showing love to others by helping them experience what they need to learn and grow. In spirit when someone wishes to learn about suffering, and someone volunteers to go through this so others can experience it, it’s because we all love one another. You volunteer to go through this out of love for these people, even if this love isn’t conscious on a human level. And there’s always spiritual growth involved, even if the person going through the suffering isn’t aware of this growth at the time they’re experiencing it.
The Council say sometimes the person going through suffering becomes wiser about being a spirit in a physical body, having choices, and having the power to create in your life what’s necessary for you to also grow. It’s always a two-way street. Everyone learns from the experience of suffering. That’s the plan.
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How Can I Improve My Relationship with My Son and His Anger?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks how she can improve her relationship with her 5-year old son who’s quick to anger. Anonymous says she tries to meet her son’s anger with patience and love, but she’s burning out.
The Council says this is a difficult journey for Anonymous. The soul of her son planned to come in with a lot of anger and have this anger most of his life. The meanness and violence he can show is something that’s been agreed to in spirit by the people he comes in contact with. And her son chose to be this way to teach the people around him how to show gentleness and kindness when they’re affected by someone like him.
The Council recommends spending a lot of one on one time with her son.
Her son has chosen music to make him feel better and The Council recommends she play music for him, particularly classical music like Beethoven and particularly at night before bed, and have him create movement to this music. This should help him deal with his anger. And The Council advises trying to keep him in small groups rather than larger ones.
Learn to be kind and gentle with your son’s behavior, but teach him what’s acceptable behavior and always show that you’re loving him. You may not approve of his actions or words, but inside there’s a very brave soul that wants to be accepted and also taught how to be.
The Council repeats that her son’s behavior was agreed to in spirit and asks her not to become upset with him. He wants to learn about frustration and not being understood, and then being understood by people who are capable of teaching him.
Part of her son’s brain will have a difficult time understanding what he’s being taught because he’ll be overcome with feelings of frustration. When this happens she must remember this is her lesson also and she must learn how to handle his feelings. This is a new experience for her that was also agreed to in spirit.
The Council recommends Anonymous meditate and find time for herself. They add that counseling for her to help deal with her son may be necessary. And they also recommend reading books on past lives to learn about difficult lessons and challenges . This lesson touches everyone in the family because everyone wanted to bring love into this reality no matter how difficult it was.
Anonymous asks what she and her son are here to teach each other in this lifetime? The Council says her son is confused and this will bring on outbursts and behavior that’s unacceptable. When his behavior isn’t acceptable, it’s good for whoever’s with him to talk about this with him and how there are more acceptable ways of handling his frustration rather than with outbursts or being mean. Explain, in very short sentences, how your son can change his behavior.
Anonymous says she’s begun to think of her son as mean, and even though she realizes this is unfair and unhelpful, it’s difficult for her to find evidence to the contrary. The Council says it’s not horrible that Anonymous notices her son is mean. This is exactly what she is supposed to be doing. When this happens, talk to your son about his behavior and teach him more desirable ways to get what he wants. This is what’s needed.
The Council suggests hand holding and touch will become important to her son. Go slowly. As you take the time, you’ll see progress. It’s an important lesson for everyone around your son to become kinder and more understanding. As this occurs you’ll begin to see positive changes because everyone that volunteered for this lesson will be learning.
In closing The Council encouraged us to keep up our good work, to which Bob replied that we’ll try. The Council laughed and quoted a great spiritual teacher (Yoda from the Star Wars movies) who says, “There is no try, there is only do.” And they add they will help us do.
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Spiritual Purpose of Depression, Anxiety, and PTSD
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Jhendi, about depression, anxiety, and post traumatic stress disorder. First they ask if there’s a spiritual purpose for these issues.
The Council says there is always a spiritual reason for experiencing depression, anxiety, and PTSD and it is always pre-planned in spirit. Sometimes in spirit you decide to experience these and see how you can turn them around in your human life. Sometimes you volunteer to go through these to have the people around you learn compassion and patience from this experience. And sometimes it’s to start a group or organization that works to bring understanding and change to these issues.
Jhendi says if we’re supposed to learn from these issues, does taking medication affect our learning since we get through the issue with pills rather than working through the problems on our own. This is a very interesting question.
The Council says if you get relief from medication you can take it. When you’re in a happier state you’re able to work through your problems. Many people need some sort of therapy to talk to a professional about what they’re experiencing. The Council says not to take medication and assume it’s sufficient by itself. The medication will ease you enough to deal with what comes up for you and show you how to handle it.
The Council recommends always taking the time, even if it’s a couple minutes a day, to meditate. And when they say, meditate, they mean that all you have to do is ask for the vibration of love to come into your life and find two things every day to be grateful for.
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