What Lessons Can I Learn From My Deteriorating Marriage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Heartbroken, who says her marriage is in shambles because of an individual. She wants to separate from her husband, but he wants to be in the marriage. Heartbroken wants to know what lessons she’s supposed to learn from this experience because she doesn’t understand what to do.
The Council says they see a lifetime not to long ago in Germany that relates to Heartbroken’s current life. In that life Heartbroken was a female who didn’t have any compassion, commitment, or understanding of the people around her and she expected perfection from these people. There was no patience with other people. Heartbroken had many suitors in that life and if they didn’t meet all her standards she’d leave them heartbroken.
In your current life try to understand where the other person is coming from and what they’re experiencing. Have patience and commitment with other people. At the end of your life in Germany you were very lonely and you had a lot of regret for how you treated people. In your current life you want commitment to people so that you don’t experience the loneliness you experienced in Germany. You want family and love. In your current life you want to learn about understanding, emotions, and commitment.
If there’s another person in your life and you think it would be better to get out of your marriage and be with this new person, if the lesson of patience and understanding hasn’t been learned, you will find fault with this person and want to move on to a new person. And this scenario will continue in your life until you stay still and try to understand where the other person is coming from.
What makes your husband behave the way he does? Is he asking for forgiveness? Is there a true desire to come together? Instead of throwing your marriage away is it possible for you to understand your husband better and move forward?
You need to get to the lesson in your experience. Do you understand why your marriage is in shambles? Is there a point where forgiveness can be given to your husband and then move on if you feel this is necessary? The main thing here is to understand your husband because in your past life in Germany you never bothered to understand people.
What is your role in the marriage? Why is it in shambles? What is your responsibility for your actions? Understand why your husband did what he did. Look for compassion, understanding, and forgiveness and then move on from your marriage if this is what you want.
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