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How Can I Improve My Relationship with My Son and His Anger?

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who asks how she can improve her relationship with her 5-year old son who’s quick to anger. Anonymous says she tries to meet her son’s anger with patience and love, but she’s burning out.

The Council says this is a difficult journey for Anonymous. The soul of her son planned to come in with a lot of anger and have this anger most of his life. The meanness and violence he can show is something that’s been agreed to in spirit by the people he comes in contact with. And her son chose to be this way to teach the people around him how to show gentleness and kindness when they’re affected by someone like him.

The Council recommends spending a lot of one on one time with her son.

Her son has chosen music to make him feel better and The Council recommends she play music for him, particularly classical music like Beethoven and particularly at night before bed, and have him create movement to this music. This should help him deal with his anger. And The Council advises trying to keep him in small groups rather than larger ones.

Learn to be kind and gentle with your son’s behavior, but teach him what’s acceptable behavior and always show that you’re loving him. You may not approve of his actions or words, but inside there’s a very brave soul that wants to be accepted and also taught how to be.

The Council repeats that her son’s behavior was agreed to in spirit and asks her not to become upset with him. He wants to learn about frustration and not being understood, and then being understood by people who are capable of teaching him.

Part of her son’s brain will have a difficult time understanding what he’s being taught because he’ll be overcome with feelings of frustration. When this happens she must remember this is her lesson also and she must learn how to handle his feelings. This is a new experience for her that was also agreed to in spirit.

The Council recommends Anonymous meditate and find time for herself. They add that counseling for her to help deal with her son may be necessary. And they also recommend reading books on past lives to learn about difficult lessons and challenges . This lesson touches everyone in the family because everyone wanted to bring love into this reality no matter how difficult it was.

Anonymous asks what she and her son are here to teach each other in this lifetime? The Council says her son is confused and this will bring on outbursts and behavior that’s unacceptable. When his behavior isn’t acceptable, it’s good for whoever’s with him to talk about this with him and how there are more acceptable ways of handling his frustration rather than with outbursts or being mean. Explain, in very short sentences, how your son can change his behavior.

Anonymous says she’s begun to think of her son as mean, and even though she realizes this is unfair and unhelpful, it’s difficult for her to find evidence to the contrary. The Council says it’s not horrible that Anonymous notices her son is mean. This is exactly what she is supposed to be doing. When this happens, talk to your son about his behavior and teach him more desirable ways to get what he wants. This is what’s needed.

The Council suggests hand holding and touch will become important to her son. Go slowly. As you take the time, you’ll see progress. It’s an important lesson for everyone around your son to become kinder and more understanding. As this occurs you’ll begin to see positive changes because everyone that volunteered for this lesson will be learning.

In closing The Council encouraged us to keep up our good work, to which Bob replied that we’ll try. The Council laughed and quoted a great spiritual teacher (Yoda from the Star Wars movies) who says, “There is no try, there is only do.” And they add they will help us do.

Listen to our entire 10-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Anonymous and the rest of us on ways to help deal with a child’s anger, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 25, 2018 - Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers | , , , , , , , ,

2 Comments »

  1. Dear Bob, Cynthia and The Council, I always appreciate your wisdom. I have read all the the blogs and listened to all the recordings. I have read books on past lives and life-between lives and reincarnation. I have such a hard time believing all of it. I desperately want to believe it. I try so hard to believe that I am a spirit having a physical experience but I just seem stuck thinking there is only biological death and nothing after. What’s the deal? Any advice on how to get past this thinking?

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    Comment by importantornotblog | April 29, 2018 | Reply

  2. Thank you for sharing this wisdom! It provides great perspective and hope.

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    Comment by Anonymous | April 25, 2018 | Reply


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