Is My Boyfriend Interested In Marrying Me?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Curious, who says she’s been with her significant other for about 12 years. Curious has been married twice before and her partner has never been married. In the early years of their relationship she didn’t want to get married again because of her experience in her two earlier marriages.
At this point The Council emphasizes that Curious has made clear by her actions and her words that she doesn’t want to get married, and her partner has taken this point in.
Curious goes on to say that about 3 years ago her feelings about marriage changed and she told her partner in what she considered a no pressure way that even though she wasn’t interested in marriage before, she was interested now.
The Council says because Curious changed her mind about getting married and she let her partner know, she expected her partner to accept this new idea before he was ready. The Council says what Curious is hopefully learning from this experience is to allow her partner (and everyone else) to be who they are. The Council adds that while it’s wonderful that Curious is aware of this change in her thinking and is able to express her desires to her partner, part of her lesson is to allow her boyfriend to have a different opinion at this time and accept that maybe he doesn’t want to move forward as fast as she does.
The Council says there’s nothing in the way of an eventual marriage, and asks what Curious has done in her visualizations to create this change she seeks? Is she working on seeing the marriage happening? Is Curious putting happy feelings into the thought that the marriage will occur at some point, rather than focusing on why her partner hasn’t changed his mind yet? The inner work to create this marriage is very important.
The Council feels Curious’s partner is comfortable with the relationship the way it is and he’s not ready to change the relationship at this time. Both souls have agreed in spirit to create this situation. For both of you this is a lesson in patience, understanding, and allowing. When these lessons have all been learned, there will be movement towards the marriage Curious desires.
Is Curious enjoying being with her partner, or is she stuck thinking when will this marriage happen? Enjoy every part of the relationship like you did before you told your partner you wanted to get married. The more Curious is able to find things to be grateful for in the relationship and do the inner work of thinking how she wants the relationship to evolve, the easier it will be to create the marriage she desires.
Curious says a month ago someone introduced her partner as her husband and he commented, “No, just boyfriend,” and laughed. This hurt Curious’s feelings, but she didn’t say anything because she didn’t want to pressure her partner. The Council says Curious’s partner is speaking the truth and they ask why this hurts her feelings? They suggest it’s because the marriage isn’t happening at the exact time she wishes it to happen.
Curious asks if she and her partner are meant to take their relationship to the next level, and The Council says, “In time.” She asks if her partner is interested in marriage and The Council says, “Cautiously, yes.” If Curious falls into feelings of impatience and has negative feelings about the relationship, this can change the path of the relationship into something that causes problems she has to learn from before she can move forward.
The Council’s parting thoughts are for Curious to bring more love into the relationship with her partner and create happy experiences along the way. And they emphasize again the importance of her doing the inner work necessary to create this marriage.
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Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
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Hi, Sarah. Thanks for your appreciation. I means a lot. We’ll ask The Council your questions when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response on this blog when it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Hello all 🙂
I like to drop in from time to time to try and develop clarity on where I’m at in this experience. I so appreciate all of your time and your love!
I’ve posted before about a person who has always meant a lot to me, but that I hadn’t felt ready to be with (although on some level I always felt like it would eventually happen). It did, after some advice to try and truly see things from his point of view. We’ve been together for a few months now, and as I’m learning him thoroughly, I’m noticing some residual things that we carry towards each other that are clashing and it makes me curious: do we have any past life baggage or things we might be holding onto? I’d like to know to understand things a little better and move forward in the most loving way possible. It’s been a little tougher than I expected and I feel that there may be a reason for that I can’t see.
Around the time we began dating, I developed crippling psoriatic arthritis on top of a few other existing autoimmune diseases. I’ve been following a certain lifestyle for a few years and have achieved remission with my other diseases, so this one kind of came out of left field. This new development has seemingly changed my life…and I suspect it was a redirective to push me towards my soul purpose, or however you’d like to phrase it. I feel like I’m supposed to help the world heal, and I’m curious if this is a true intuition, or how the Council may see this development. I sense a career change, as pursuing wellness through diet has brought me back from the brink of no longer being mobile.
Just some current life curiosities! Thank you so much for you time.
Sarah
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