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Why Did I Have an Accident that Severely Hurt a Family Member?

This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Laura, who asks why she had an accident where a family member was severely injured? Laura still feels very guilty about the accident and it’s affected her whole life.

The Council begins by reminding Laura that in every lifetime you create there are lessons you wish to learn and experiences you wish to have and work through. Laura’s current lifetime comes from other lifetimes she’s gone through were she didn’t allow herself to understand the abuse other people went through.

In your current life you created this accident to experience it’s feelings so you could learn from them. In the other lifetimes you’ve experienced where there was abuse, murder, suicide, and deaths in families and in relationships, the one thing you didn’t learn was forgiveness.

In other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive the people around you who committed accidents. You didn’t understand why these people weren’t punished, or if they were punished, you thought it was never enough. The Council asks Laura if she’s punishing herself in her current life. They see she’s still not understanding the reason she created this accident.

This accident was agreed upon in spirit by everyone involved in it. Can the person who was injured live a good life with their disability? Can the family of the person that was hurt understand what happened? They all agreed to go through this experience and most of them are also working on forgiveness.

Read about past lives, how people learned from their other lives, and how they affect your present lifetime. When you realize what the lesson is from this accident, can you begin to forgive yourself and focus on how all the souls involved also had many lessons to learn from it? Instead of punishing yourself or holding onto grief and not forgiving yourself, can you imagine how you played your part? You really wanted to experience this accident because in so many other lifetimes you weren’t able to forgive others. Now you’ve brought this accident into your life so you can learn forgiveness.

The Council recommends Laura read, Your Soul’s Plan, by Robert Schwartz, or any book by Brian Weiss on past lives. When you read these books and see how people have created misfortunes, diseases, and loneliness, you can begin to see what was created and what people were trying to experience and learn from, and you’ll understand more about why you’ve created this accident.

No one has created this accident but you and you can begin to see the purpose for it. Take the focus off the idea that this accident has tortured you your whole life and you can’t forgive yourself. The Council says of course you can forgive yourself.

It’s a big deal for Laura to learn this lesson of forgiveness in this lifetime. It’s a difficult lesson because it’s been in so many of her lifetimes, and she’s never understood and properly learned from it the way her soul wants to learn it.

Don’t be surprised when you get to the place of forgiving yourself. It will be a great relief. When you see how you’ve all come together to experience this accident and the forgiveness, you’ll begin to find love, first for others and then for yourself.

Listen to the entire 9-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Laura and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

If you like this session, please consider clicking the Like button in the section beneath the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

September 9, 2018 - Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Guidance, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , ,


  1. Hi, Garnet. We’ll ask The Council your questions when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response on our blog when it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 20, 2018

  2. I have a big issue that I need help with. I don’t have a dad but I have a mother who was everything but my mom. I was her replacement for a husband that she never had, for a mother she never had, for friends she never had. My grandmother did/does the same to her. I forgive her but I don’t know how to go forward because there is no “me” anymore and there is no one to help me either.

    I loved someone who didn’t choose me either (LW) and it broke me into pieces. It was because of this unrequited love that I was able to unload the problem with my mother, but I can’t be thankful or grateful for her role in my life because it doesn’t change the fact that I am not going to be with her.

    Why did I go through all of this? What have I done to deserve such bad life?

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Garnet | September 18, 2018

  3. We’re glad you enjoyed this post, ImportantOrNotBlog. Forgiving others is often easier than forgiving ourselves. Perhaps it has something to do with lessons we chose to learn in this lifetime that are difficult for us. Be well. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 10, 2018

  4. I enjoyed listening to this. I am finding that for me it is much easier to forgive others than it is to forgive myself.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by importantornotblog | September 10, 2018

  5. Thank you so much for your answer. I will work on forgiveness.

    Liked by 2 people

    Comment by Laura | September 9, 2018

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