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Have I Met The Person I’ll Marry After My Husband Passed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, and is in response to our post, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?

Momof3: This topic of twin flames and soulmates has been something that’s intrigued me. I’ve often wondered if my late husband is my twin flame or soulmate. I was inseparable from him, but he passed away. I still feel connected with him spiritually and energetically, and it overwhelms me sometimes.

Council: Of course you’re still connected. Just because someone passes into spirit and one is back in the physical reality, there’s no break in the connection.

And so you want to know if this was your soulmate. We’d say, yes, because this soul and you have chosen each other as mates in this particular lifetime. Any two people that come together are soul mates. You decide to spend this life together, or part of this life together, and work things out together. And so you are mates.

We realize many in the physical world think there’s something wonderful, that they must find the one, the soulmate. Anyone you have a relationship with is a soul that’s mated to you for whatever length of time you decide. And so we’d say, yes, and enjoy that, and enjoy the connection you still have with your husband.

Bob: In a recent post you clarified the difference between the terms, twin flame and soulmate.

Council: Yes. This relationship with her husband was not a twin flame. He was another spirit.

Momof3: I’m sure we had a soul contract or past lives together, or maybe I’m just believing these things to have answers and cope with losing him.

Council: The soul contract you speak of is just an agreement that we’ll go into the physical reality and this is what we plan.

Momof3: But since my husband passed, I’ve met other men and had relationships, and I also feel connected to those men. I guess they’ve all come into my life to teach me something. Are they all my soulmates also, or is there just one?

Council: They are soulmates also. They’ve come in to give you the feeling of love that you feel you’ve lost with your husband passing on. And so it’s just a way to experience love. Different ways are available with different people, and that is all agreed upon.

Momof3: I was told that my late husband wasn’t the one I’d spend my life with and that my true soulmate or twin flame would come after him.

Council: There’s such an emphasis in your reality about this true soulmate. We’ll say again, anyone that you’re in a relationship with is a soulmate. So yes, it’s true you didn’t spend this entire reality with your husband. There will be others. There will be as many as you wish to create. You can get tired of creating many other mates, and then you may create the one that fills your desire for what you want a soulmate to be. And that’s how it works.

Momof3: Of course I never thought that would be true and I’d lose him.

Council: Nothing has been lost. It’s important to remember that. The connection is there and you can still speak to your husband and he’ll speak to you. You only need to be quiet and to believe, and you’ll see the answers.

Momof3: I wonder if I’ve met this person I’d marry now.

Council: We don’t see that yet. And yet if someone comes along and you really want this person to be your forever partner, you can create it that way. It’s so important to remember that you are the creator.

So as you go about your life and the people you pull in to meet, see which one fits perfectly to what you want. And then you’ll create that reality that you’ll be together, and how long you’ll be together.

Momof3: I’ve had a love relationship that recently ended, and I’m trying not to get involved in another one too soon.

Council: It’s all up to you.

Momof3: But I feel like there are connections with people I meet. In particular, there’s a man I’m dating, I’ll call him, J, but I don’t want to make the same mistakes of past relationships.

Council: There’s no rush. Take your time. Enjoy this relationship. See it the way you want it. Focus on the way you want it to be, and that is what you’ll create.

Momof3: I do believe all these friendships and meetings are to teach me something and help me heal, and for me to help J, as well.

Council: It’s to teach you that you are the creator.

Momof3: In helping J, I feel healing, but I feel that I’m searching for my soulmate and I feel incomplete.

Council: That’s because of the belief you have. So now remember that anyone who comes into your life can fit the bill of being your soulmate. And while no one is perfect, whoever comes into your life, there’s always some sort of agreement, I will teach you this, you will teach me that. We’ll go through certain things.

And so, do not expect the perfect soulmate to be a perfect physical human being. That’s not what you’re here for.

Bob: How would you address this feeling that Momof3 has about feeling incomplete?

Council: Because many come into this reality with the belief – and they are here to change this belief – that they are not complete, that you have to have the soulmate to be complete, that you have to have the twin soul to be complete. That isn’t true. You are complete. You are everything that you have ever been in every life. Every answer that you need to every question is within you.

The way to create whatever it is that you want in this life is up to you. You can change it day by day by what you want. And just by focusing on it the life around you will change. It’s all up to you. No one will come along and do it. It’s all up to you.

Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying that the feeling Momof3 has that she’s incomplete comes from a belief that she needs someone outside of herself to complete her. And it sounds like you’re suggesting that’s not true.

Council: Exactly.

Momof3: Then there’s my oldest son. We’re so alike, but we also butt heads a lot. I feel like he hates me and loves me, and it’s a difficult relationship. Is he from my past lives? And does he have to work out things with me from these past lives?

Council: Yes, you know your son from before, but what’s going on now is that you’re here to learn that you have given birth to this soul. You have agreed to bring this soul into this reality. You’ve only agreed to give him entry. You do not control him. You don’t own him. You’re here to watch how he grows, to learn from what he goes through, and to be as understanding as you can.

The way to love him is to let him be himself. Yes, there are times your child will hate you. There are times your child will love you. But when you show love and you allow this child to be whatever he needs to be, and to work on whatever he needs to work on, it will all turn around. And because you show love and acceptance, you’ll receive that same love and acceptance.

Momof3: How can I have a loving relationship with him, or do I just let him be and concentrate on myself?

Council: Of course let him be, but show him love. Show him when you’re disappointed, when you feel maybe his actions are hurtful, but allow him to be. And whenever he does something you don’t approve of, we would end the conversation with the words: I love you, and I’ll allow you to go through whatever you need to go through. Those words will change so much.

Have patience. Just remember you’re not here to control. You’re not here to boss this person around and have things done the way you want. Watch him with curiosity. What is he learning? What is he going through? And what am I learning from it? There’s great growth on both parts when you can look at things this way. And all will be well.

Momof3: Maybe I’m just trying to find answers to feelings and emotions I feel towards men that I can’t explain. Maybe it’s just me being lonely and simply wanting to be loved and to love like it was with my husband. But I feel lost and confused, and I feel like I’m constantly searching for my other half.

Council: You are your other half. What we wish you to do now is to focus on what it is that you want, and know that you can have this.

Momof3: I try to hold back my emotions and feelings because I know I’m vulnerable and just looking to be loved like I was with my husband.

Council: And so your thoughts would be: I am strong. I am a creator. I had a wonderful time with this person that was my husband and I want more of it. And so now I’ll create it. Now I’ll bring someone else in.

You are not lost. You are not a victim. You are now a creator. Think of what we just said, how the feeling is so much different from the way you think about your situation. Come from a place of power and know you can do this.

Momof3: But it’s difficult because I feel when I don’t listen to my heart and emotions, I feel anxious, unbalanced, and overwhelmed.

I’d love to know if I’ve already met the person I was told I’d eventually marry, and who it is, or his name.

Council: You have not finished creating yet.

Momof3: Or if that was something just made up.

Council: We ask you to focus. Do not go so much from what others tell you, but know yourself. We can say over and over again, you are the creator. Picture it. Feel the way you want your life to be. Picture yourself married again and having a wonderful life. See it. Every time you can, see it and feel it, and it has to come to you. But you must take this place of power and understanding of who you really are and make this happen, because you can.


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November 3, 2022 Posted by | Acceptance, Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Love, Other Realities, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | 2 Comments

Is My Current Relationship with My Soul-Contracted Life Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eleanor, who grew up in an abusive home and began the long process of recovery as soon as she left. It’s been a journey of estrangement,  homelessness, fragile mental health, and difficulty finding work, but I’ve come a long way. This journey has included steep learning curves in relationships and despite 26 years of failed relationships, my heart always told me I have a soul-contracted life partner or husband in my future.

The Council says many people get hung up on the concept of a soul contract. What you do in spirit is, as you’re choosing what you’d like to create in your current lifetime there are many souls that come forward and volunteer to be in this lifetime with you. You have a mother that volunteers, a father, friends, people that stay in your life for a short time, and people that stay in your life for a long time,

There’s never just one particular soul you make a contract with. You have a soul that comes forward and says I will come into your life and we’ll have a relationship for a time and then we’ll go our separate ways. You’ll learn from this relationship and I’ll learn from it. You pick the lessons you’d like to work on, then you’d go to another relationship and learn something different.

It’s not that you’ve failed because you’re unable to find this one particular relationship that you have a soul contract with. You’ve agreed with other souls to experience part of this life together. When you feel you’ve learned what you wanted to, then there’ll be someone that will come into your life and we’ll do the rest of our life together and learn other lessons together. You’re on the right track, but don’t always focus on where your single, contracted soulmate is, There was a contract with everyone you’ve had a relationship with.

Focus on each relationship you’ve gone through. What have you learned? What would you do differently? When you understand this and can act differently in a new relationship, taking what you’ve learned and not repeating it if it was negative, or bringing more love into a new relationship, you’ll create the relationship with the person who said, in spirit, they’d come into your life when you’re both ready.

Eleanor says 3½ years ago my partner at that time abandoned me when I had cancer. I vowed I’d work on myself so hard that my next relationship would be with my soul contracted life partner. The Council says each person you’ve been in a relationship with was a soul contract you made to be with that particular person for that particular time.

Eleanor says this summer a friend of a friend came into my life. To my surprise our lives mirrored. We had a lot in common and the union was surrounded by synchronicity. Again The Council asks what have you learned? What does it mean to have something in common with this person? Was this person a mirror image for you? What have you learned from this person’s experience that’s similar to your own?

Eleanor says this person has a pattern of leaving me and then coming back, which takes a huge toll on me. We’re currently separated and I’m taking stock. Is this my soul contracted life partner? The Council says he is a soul contracted partner and how you move forward to make this a permanent relationship or not is by reviewing all your relationships and what you’re learning from them. Is this relationship something you’ve created before and are creating again? Or are you in a more positive place and can you focus on what you can bring into this relationship? It’s how you look at this relationship and what you’ve learned that will guide your next step.

You’ve talked about relationships that didn’t last. In your most recent relationship this person has come to you as a mirror. It’s wonderful to have so much in common with this soul, but the lesson of abandonment is still there for you. You can take what you love from this relationship and move forward because you don’t want to keep experiencing this lesson of abandonment with this person or anyone new.

Take what you’ve learned with this person and put it in your focus going forward that you’d like these traits and these experiences with a person that could be permanent in your life. When you think of your situation this way you can decide whether to stay in this relationship and just change your focus and try to get this person to behave differently. Or you can decide this relationship was fun and I learned enough, but I want someone new to go forward with. You are the creator.

Eleanor finishes by asking at what point in my life can I expect my life partner to appear? The Council says when you do the inner work that lets this person appear. We can’t give you a time. We don’t know ahead of time what you’ll create. We can see the path you’re on and where it’s going, but you’re the creator and you’ll learn from your lessons.


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December 15, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Can You Rewrite Your Soul Contract?

This post answer questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, LoveHearsAll, who ask if a person can rewrite their soul contract and closeout early so their mission is revised and completed at an earlier age?

The Council says you can always rewrite your soul contracts with other people.

Yes, you can close out earlier, but when you do this there will be unfinished business that you would return to in a future lifetime.

You can opt out of a soul contract if you commit suicide, but like closing out earlier, what you haven’t finished in your current life you’ll have to finish in another lifetime.

You can decide to no longer complete the role you assigned to yourself in spirit in your current lifetime. All of these things can change by your intention and by you intuitively following how you feel.

Remember that your higher self (which is who you truly are) knows what you were trying to accomplish and knows if you really want to finish that in this lifetime. If you want to finish what you planned you won’t opt out early, but your life will change. The path you’re on will change. Your lesson will change. Your life will become easier for you.

When your life is finished and you return to spirit and review this life, and you’re ready to come back into a human reality, you’ll have the chance to experience that lesson with another person, or with the same person, until you’re both satisfied the contract is complete.

When you rewrite your soul contract, this doesn’t mean you’re rewriting your whole life and changing everything. You rewrite the part that’s most difficult for you. Your life would continue, but that one part that’s too much for you at this time will be lived in another lifetime.

The Council speculates that what LoveHealsAll means when he says “close out early,” is either finish the lesson they’ve contracted for or finishing their current lifetime. Either one can be done, It’s your choice.

Regarding the part of the question about the mission being completed at an earlier age, The Council says you can’t complete something you wanted to learn, at an age earlier than where you are now unless you create another similar lifetime where you change everything and complete it. You can’t complete a soul contract earlier in the life you’re currently in because you’ve passed that time period.


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August 18, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Intuition, Life Purpose, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | 5 Comments

What is this Loving Relationship Trying to Teach Us?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Hornetto, who asks a question about a loving relationship that’s mutual in one deep sense, but not in another and he doesn’t know how to define this love. He says this relationship is a soul contract and he wonders what it has to teach the two of them.

The Council says when some people talk about a soul contract they think this is the person for the rest of my life. A soul contract can just be someone you meet, even if just for a little while, that comes into your life, you experience things together, you help each other through different experiences, and then the two of you move on to other relationships and other soul contracts. Some people create many different loves in their life and The Council says they are all soul contracts.

The Council says they see the relationship Hornetto is asking about is for a time. He’s not meant to be in this relationship for his entire lifetime. You’re there to help each other, challenge each other, bring up lessons for each other, and move within those lessons to find understanding. And when you don’t understand you begin to question yourself and you no longer need that person to help you heal or work through your lesson. This person came along to be a catalyst for you to face what you want to heal and to know you can do it yourself.

The Council asks Hornetto what he’s learned from this relationship. What are the up parts and the down parts? How does this relationship make you feel? What does it remind you of? What lessons can be in this relationship? When you part you can still work on these lessons.

Hornetto asks The Council how he can make the best choices for both himself and his partner and The Council says it’s not your place to make choices for another person. Go within your heart and choose for yourself. It’s not your place to force something to happen, but to just flow with the situation. The whole time you’re in this relationship be grateful for it and what it’s there to teach you. Be grateful you’re both there to help each other try to heal.

The Council repeats that this relationship was planned in spirit to be for a limited time. They say this can change, but for this change to occur Hornetto must work on the lessons the relationship is teaching him. When you learn to heal yourself the relationship will have a better way of healing and if you both want to stay together you’ll then be able to.

The Council closes by saying these two people are together to bring up the lessons they need, but begin with the lesson of abandonment and you’ll figure out the rest of your lessons in time.


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March 20, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Healing, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Cure My Binge Eating Disorder?

This post answers questions from a reader named, Taylor, who’s 24 years old and has been suffering from binge eating disorder since she was 15. She says I understand about soul contracts and for some reason my soul chose to go through this experience, but it’s putting me over the edge after nine long years of dealing with it. I’ve grown a lot since developing this disorder, but I don’t understand why I still have it. I’ve gone to therapists, done acupuncture, tried homeopathic and traditional medicine, gone to hypnotists, mediums, psychiatrists, and recovery centers, but I’m going broke trying to heal from this and it’s only getting worse.

The Council suggests reading books by Robert Schwartz on people’s past lives and why you go through such experiences. And read books by Michael Newton on how you plan your next life experiences in between each life.

The Council suggests very strongly you find a good past life regression therapist because during World War II you were a very attractive girl around 14 years old. Men were constantly looking at you. At a certain point some young soldiers raped you several times and this was very traumatic for you.

The rest of that lifetime you hated being beautiful and you wanted to make yourself unattractive so no man would want you. You did what you could to gain weight and become ugly. You were depressed much of the time.

You came into your current lifetime to heal that past lifetime, to be beautiful and proud of this. But it seems you were unable to get to this point without having this memory of your past life. When you truly understand your binge eating from reading these books and from doing therapy with a past life regressionist, your binge eating will slowly go away. You’ll understand it was a trauma you brought into this life to heal it.

Taylor says she can go from 120 lb to 220 lb in three months consuming 15,000 calories a day and I can’t stop eating. The Council says this is because the personality you brought into your current lifetime has a great desire to look right, feel right, and act right, and this is your dilemma. There a part of you that remembers what happened in that past life and a part of you that wants to change how you respond to that and be different from the way you were in that past life.

Taylor says she doesn’t like traditional medicine and doctors, but holistic medicine hasn’t worked for me. Now I feel I’m left with no choice but to try another psychiatrist and go back on medicine, which scares me. Can The Council tell me if I’m doing the right thing? The Council says they feel more than anything you need the past life regression therapist they mentioned earlier. An ordinary psychiatrist and medication isn’t the answer.

If you have difficulty finding a regressionist then in meditations and before you go to sleep ask for the memory of that past life. Understand that past life and love the child you were and what you endured, and understand there’s no need to hide and make yourself ugly in your current life. When you understand this you’ll begin the healing process and your binge eating will end. You have a great capacity to love yourself and others.

The Council closes by saying we see your spirit is so strong and so happy there’s an answer to your binge eating problem and there’s another path for you to take. We see if you read the books we recommend and can find a past life regression therapist you will heal.


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March 1, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

A Spiritual Perspective on Suicide

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Impelloe, that were raised after reading our post, Challenges, Suicide, and Spiritual Growth. Impelloe says they’re surprised The Council isn’t more discouraging of suicide and they make it seem like a viable option.

The Council says suicide is a viable option. They ask why would we discourage someone from pre-planning suicide in spirit and deciding that it’s something they want to learn from? Or understand something they’ve gone through from another lifetime? Or understand something they may choose in a future lifetime? We’d never discourage anything a soul is planning.

Sometimes a soul will choose suicide to teach people around them a lesson, like waking up to ideas they didn’t have before, or understanding love and when it’s lost as opposed to when it’s there. There’s nothing wrong with suicide if that’s what you want to experience. If you choose suicide to help another soul grow or to help yourself grow there’s nothing wrong with that because you never end. You leave one lifetime (or reality) and plan another.

As difficult as suicide is for the people who are left behind, they’ve all chosen in spirit to be part of this suicide experience. It’s not something you’re forcing another soul to go through. It’s an example of group acceptance. We’ll go through this suicide with you because you want to learn about it. It’s going to be difficult for us, but we love you enough to participate in this suicide for you.

Or the person who commits suicide does it to teach people something they desperately want to learn. We are spirits that are here to learn from bad experiences as well as good ones and it’s all done out of love.

If you know or hear of someone who’s committed suicide, don’t judge them. You can wonder what their lesson was. What was your lesson? What did you learn from this suicide? You can applaud the spirit who commits suicide because they’ve pulled off something that could have been very difficult. It was their way out to end this lifetime, learn from it, and help you learn.

Impelloe asks if suicide is ever the only planned exit strategy. The Council says suicide is never the only plan. You always have options. Some people may choose to heal. Someone who’s depressed my find a doctor that gives them the medicine they need. Some people come in with the plan that if life is too difficult for them they’ll use suicide as a possible out. They leave that option on the table, but they want to learn, grow, and find out what else they can do to change their situation, to understand themself, or to help the other people around them. There are many options. The soul chooses what it wants to learn.

Impelloe asks if someone creates a soul contract to commit suicide, do they have to go through with it? The Council says, no, because you always have the ability to change what you have planned. In your human mind you may think you want to change it, but your higher self may say no because you really want to go through this suicide. It’s difficult. We know as a human you want to change your plans to commit suicide, but your higher self knows you’ve chosen to experience it and so you stay with it.

Impelloe asks about a suicide that speaks out about injustice and changing something, like a hunger striker. The Council says if you pick an experience like being a hunger striker to change injustice or unfair conditions, then that’s probably what you wanted to do and the only way to do this was to do something drastic. If you’ve committed suicide and ended one reality, but have made a great change for others, this is a great thing you’ve done out of love.

Impelloe closes by saying they hope challenges can still be overcome and speaking out be done another way beside suicide. The Council replies that of course there are other ways besides suicide for those people who choose them.


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February 21, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit | , , , , | 8 Comments

Did I Know This Man I Love in Another Lifetime?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Susie, who says she fell madly in love with a boy when she was 16 years old. My father was a holocaust survivor and the boy wasn’t Jewish so he broke us up. I got married, but I’ve loved this boy for the rest of my life. Four years ago and 45 years after we broke up I contacted this man and he was as amazing as he was when I was 16. I’m still madly in love with him.

The Council says in at least four lifetimes Susie was childhood friends or brother and sister with this man and there’s great love from these past lives.

Susie says she has nothing in common with her husband, but she still loves him, but nothing like the way she feels for this boy she met when she was 16. She says the boy got involved with drugs when she left him, he’s become an alcoholic over the years, and she feels responsible.

The Council says it’s not necessary to feel responsible for this man. These are his lessons and his choices. You have no idea what people are trying to learn when they are going through something they’ve chosen. You’ve only agreed to be there for part of his experience.

Susie says she wants to cure this man. The Council says you don’t cure anyone. You show love, you show acceptance, compassion, and patience. You’re there to possibly suggest a way to follow through on what they’re experiencing, but you don’t cure them. This isn’t your responsibility.

Susie says her daughter was born with an eating addiction and she’s trying to heal both her daughter and this man she met when she was 16. The Council says again that Susie can’t heal them. Everyone chooses what they need to experience, even if they don’t remember in their human body why they make their choices. There are things they need to experience for soul growth and to teach the people around them. You can’t cure these people or change their path.

Susie says she feels her daughter and this love of her life are meant to be together. The Council says she didn’t choose in spirit to be married to this man in her current lifetime. What was chosen was familiarity, friendship, closeness, and support. You’ve chosen to be friends with this man because there are things you need to learn. Everyone has a lesson. This doesn’t mean you’re meant to be married or in an intimate relationship like marriage. Be there to learn from each other. The three of you wanted to experience acceptance.

Susie says she needs The Council to release her daughter and this man from their soul contract. The Council says they can’t release anyone from their soul contract. No one is in charge of releasing someone from their contract but themself. In your human form you may not understand why you’ve made certain choices, but your higher self knows. When your higher self knows you’ve learned your lesson or experienced enough you’ll release yourself.

Between you, your daughter, and your friend you need the ability to speak with each other, listen to what’s truly going on rather than what you think is going on, show acceptance, and allow each other to be who they are. Allow them to make their own choices. Give love and compassion and know every step of the way you’ll find something to learn from your experience.

The Council says in the past lives Susie and her friend have shared there’s been a lot of happiness and fun and that love has drawn them together in their current life to go through more difficult challenges.

The Council tells Susie she’s here to experience love, to bring love from the spirit world into your current reality. In every way you can show love to yourself, to this friend, and to your daughter.


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February 17, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , | 6 Comments

How Can a Human Walk Away From a Soul Contract?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who asks for an explanation of soul contracts and how free will allows a human being to walk away from a soul contract that was decided on before being born? Wouldn’t this be going against the wisdom of their soul?

The Council says when a soul contract is made two souls will come together with an important purpose and it’s usually something they’ve done together in one or more lifetimes. No matter what’s going on in their lives, people who’ve agreed to a soul contract will find each other and work together to accomplish this purpose.

Most soul contracts are laid out as follows: you want to learn this thing, I want to learn that thing, and we’ll come together at a certain time in our lives and help each other through whatever is going on in our life. There’s always the agreement if things are happening in a way these souls didn’t expect because of their beliefs or because of what they’ve created in their lives, it’s always agreed you can walk away from a soul contract. You have that free will. No one is ever forced to stay in a soul contract. You have the ability to walk away. And there’s always the agreement that if we can’t accomplish our soul contract in this lifetime, we can do it in another lifetime.

The soul contract can change if you created in your life something different from what you originally intended to create. There’s nothing horrible about breaking a soul contract. It’s always made with the idea of helping each other and both of you learning lessons. Most of the time these soul contracts are fulfilled, but there’s always the free will to walk away.

A soul contract isn’t written in stone. You don’t agree that if you break this contract you’ll suffer forever. The rest of your life won’t be horrible. It’s more like if you can’t get to where you want in love and understanding, you realize there aren’t any endings and this soul contract can be accomplished in another life.

The Council closes by saying they aren’t particularly fond of the word “contract.” They like to think it’s more of an agreement to help each other out. The word contract is so stern. It’s like the devil will come and sue you if you break this contract. It’s an agreement and most people work out that agreement one way or another.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Eden and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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September 30, 2019 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Free Will, Life Purpose, Questions & Answers, Soul, Spirit | , | 6 Comments

Problem Being Estranged From Her Family

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Kali, who’s concerned about being estranged from most of her family. She says the estrangement feels terrible, but she hasn’t found a way to reconcile with her family. Kali asks if there’s a soul contract reason for this estrangement and how she can move forward. And she asks for advice on how she can reconcile with her family, or how she can be peaceful with the estrangement.

The Council says each person in this family is on their own path and wants to learn different lessons. You’re all here to learn about love and forgiveness.

This family does have a soul contract: it’s to come together and allow each other to create the atmosphere they need to learn.

You wanted to figure out who you are as a spiritual being, and see each person in your family from a spiritual perspective. Each person has a hardship and one or more lessons they have to go through. As you begin to see your family from this more spiritual perspective, what goes on in the family begins to change.

What has this estrangement from your family done for you? How do you see yourself in this situation? Do you feel less than because your family isn’t close? Do you blame yourself for certain things? Are you dealing with anger? If you’re going through any of these feelings, why are you taking on these negative thoughts? Change the perception of who you are by focusing on yourself and what you’re learning from each person in your family.

You’re family has chosen to come together, not so much to learn about everyone else, but to learn a little bit about everyone else. Now take the focus and put it on yourself. Your family situation was created for each family member to go deep inside themselves and see what you think about yourself according to how you’re being treated by the family. Are you feeling abandoned? How do you feel about all the fighting and verbal abuse? Do these feelings make you feel less than the spirit you are? You’re still part of all spirits that are here trying to create and learn.

As you figure out who you truly are as a spiritual being by watching the other members of your family and understanding, even if just a little bit, that it’s difficult for everyone and your identity doesn’t hinge on how your family treats you. You’re a brave spirit who came to this reality at this time to learn about yourself.

The agreement between the souls in your family was to learn about the family dynamic, learn about forgiveness, learn about love, and learn about abandonment and hurtful feelings. In the middle of this learning, begin to remember you’re all spirits wanting to learn about these feelings, and then put the focus on yourself, especially when you feel the estrangement can’t be fixed.

What is your part in this family? It’s just a small part of who you are as a spiritual being. Can you look at the people in your family with kindness by allowing them to be who they are? Each person in your family has chosen to be there to learn about themselves. Some will learn and some won’t.

Appreciate who you truly are as a spiritual being, not only in your family, but with friends and coworkers. Are you taking the love we’re here to bring into this reality and use it wherever you can, whether it’s accepted or not?

In your family the dynamic that was set up is like a keg of dynamite, but this is a good thing. The family didn’t come in and say they’d all get mad at each other. They came in and said, some how we’ll find a way to learn about ourselves. We’ll do whatever is necessary for as long as necessary to look at each other, and maybe after a while feel some sadness that there’s no connection. And then they’ll question the sadness and begin to wonder how that can begin to change. And when the desire to change is there and the true looking at one’s self begins to happen, changes must come.

The courageous souls that these family members are, came together to learn about themselves. What they’ve created is a situation where there’s understanding that everyone in the family will eventually accept what’s going on, accept their own behavior, and then move on from that behavior. As they move on, the family may not change, but you’re all wonderful spirits who have chosen to help each other grow by learning about yourselves.

It wasn’t your agreement that members of the family will do one thing or another and then all make up and come together. What was arranged was that family members will learn about themselves by being in this family. They will try very hard to bring love into this family dynamic and grow from this. No matter how this family situation turns out, everything with the family does not have to be resolved. Because the family members allow each other to go on one’s own path, this creates a great spiritual leap.

It can be difficult to accept a lack of resolution for the family situation. But when you come into this reality and say: let me learn about myself no matter what goes on around me; let me have the understanding and calmness to allow everyone to deal with what they need to deal with in their own way; and as I learn about myself and begin to change, and my energy begins to become lighter, it will reach each family member to help them on their path. This is what you’ve agreed upon.

In spirit, when you learn about yourself and you search for ways to handle situations with love, without blame, and accepting the behavior of others, the vibration will change and you must grow. It was with this thought that this family has come together.

Listen to the entire 15-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Kali and the rest of us and let us know what you feel.

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August 12, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Was There a Soul Contract Between Me and My Cat, Caesar, Who Passed Recently?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine, whose loved cat, Caesar, unexpectedly passed away recently and she’s in shock.

The Council says when it’s time for an animal to pass over (what some of us think of as dying), the animal knows it’s their time, and often it’s easier for them to pass when no one is around. This is what The Council sees happened to Caesar.

The Council says even though Christine’s in great shock, they ask if she’s able to imagine that Caesar’s in a beautiful place with other animals and other humans, and he’s completely happy.

The Council advises Christine to stay in the wonderful memories she has when she was around Caesar, and reminds her Caesar’s spirit is still around her. She can ask for signs that Caesar is around and she’ll receive these signs. The love between Caesar and Christine will never die and she can always touch into this love.

The Council says when it’s time for Christine to return to spirit, there’ll be people and animals she knows in spirit to greet her, and The Council reminds Christine there’s a great happiness when everyone is together again in spirit.

Christine had just returned from a great holiday and picked up Caesar at his sitter’s house. The next night Caesar walked up to Christine she had the thought to give him a lot of attention. She told Caesar how much she loved him and one day they’d all be together in spirit with all the other pets he and Christine lived with. The next day Caesar passed, and The Council commented that it was wonderful she was able to do this, and Caesar was able to hear it and understand it.

Christine asks The Council how we can know our fur babies who have passed are still with us? The Council says with your mind you can go to a quiet place and speak with your cat and ask them for signs they’re close by. Your cat will come to you in a way you’ll understand that it’s there.

Christine asks The Council if our animals have a soul contract with us? The Council says sometimes they do. Christine and Caesar have a soul contract and The Council feels they’ll be together again.

Sometimes an animal will come into many lifetimes with you to help you go through the different phases of being with an animal – learning what the animal can teach you and what you can teach the animal. Sometimes an animal will come into your life because you just need an animal. When you’re at the point in your life when this lesson is needed, an animal will show up in your life.

Listen to the entire 5-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Christine and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.

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July 23, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 3 Comments

Repairing a Broken Soul Contract

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Courtney, who wonders if two people can repair a broken soul contract if violence toward one another has occurred and there’s been too much negativity in the relationship.

The Council says you can always change a soul contract. They also say in your physical body you may desire to change a contract you created in spirit for reasons you may not be aware of in your physical body.

The Council says if you’re in a relationship with a lot of negativity, it’s best to look at where this negativity is coming from and work on these issues. If you have negativity or violence with someone and you feel you can’t change this, then you don’t understand what you wished to achieve when you both agreed to experience this as spiritual beings.

If you both see negativity in your lives and don’t want it, and you balance the negative energy you brought into this lifetime from other lifetimes that’s causing this, then you can change the soul contract.

But if you don’t understand the lesson. and there isn’t true forgiveness and love and understanding that each person is on their own path, as much as you desire to change this soul contract, the contract will remain until you find a way to grow from it. And if you don’t complete the soul contract in your current lifetime, you will have opportunities in other lifetimes.

All soul contracts are changeable if you achieve what you wanted to achieve when you created the situation in spirit (before coming into your current lifetime). You won’t necessarily understand this in your physical body, but you’ll know you’ve achieved what you wanted in spirit when you’re able to change the soul contract.

The Council says there’s a soul contract between Courtney and this other person to forgive this person, a desire to accept this person no matter what path they’re on, and to not manipulate this person. And as you work on these clues, more information will come to you.

The Council says this relationship wasn’t meant to be romantic, but if the two of them are going in that direction The Council says anything is possible with focus and belief, but the issues of negativity must be worked on to fulfill the contract.

In an extended closing The Council wishes blessings to all who write questions and are able to follow The Council’s guidance. They say this guidance will help many more who have similar questions and they send blessings to all who find this guidance helpful.

The Council advises everyone on this path to share their knowledge and love, particularly of our planet, the animals, minerals, and plants. Send love to everything and your life has to change.

Listen to our entire 10-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Courtney and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

January 28, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Forgiveness, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 3 Comments

Will I Have A Baby?

This post answers questions from a reader named Kimberly, who wants to know if it’s guaranteed she’ll have a baby when she’s ready; if there’s a soul ready to be her baby; and if Kimberly has a soul contract with this soul or souls to become her baby.

The Council begins by saying if Kimberly decides to have a baby and is truly aligned with this thought and what she’s planned for, then she will guarantee she has a baby. The idea here is that we each create the reality we experience with our beliefs, our thoughts, and our feelings.

The Council says they see three souls who have agreed to be Kimberly’s children in this lifetime if this is what she wants. The say in spirit Kimberly decided she’d come into this lifetime and then choose whether or not to have children as her life progressed.

The Council says there isn’t a written contract, but there’s an agreement that as Kimberly goes through different situations in this lifetime, if she decides to have one child, then one of the souls will join her and the other two souls will be free to have other experiences. If she decides to have two children, the second soul will join her. And if Kimberly chooses to have three children, the third soul will join her.

The Council says Kimberly had many different plans on what to do in this lifetime and which directions to go in. Most of all she wanted to be very strong, decisive, and able to take care of whatever comes along.

She wanted to be very successful in this lifetime and to be able to multi-task. Kimberly arranged with her higher self that she’d keep very busy in this lifetime. She’ll want to teach children and others around her, but not necessarily in a school setting. Because she wanted to have strong beliefs, she wanted to pass this information on to others.

Listen to our entire 3-minutes session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Kimberly and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

January 22, 2018 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

When Someone Close to You Passes from this Lifetime

In this post a reader who goes by the name GK asks The Council what happens to a soul contract when someone very close to you dies? The Council says whatever you pre-planned together in spirit or planned with this soul after you were born, when that person leaves their physical body for this lifetime that soul contract is complete.

GK says she thinks her sister was her soulmate and she asks The Council for some insight into how their relationship changes now that her sister has passed. The Council says when someone passes, the relationship doesn’t change. You are still very connected with the person who’s passed. You still communicate with this person in your dreams; or the person who’s passed is able to connect with you while you’re asleep.

You’re able to discuss what you’ve gone through. Did you fulfill your soul contract the way you wanted to? Or maybe you didn’t fulfill your contract the way you desired and you have the opportunity to work on this soul contract again in another lifetime.

People you are close to who have left this lifetime are helping you from spirit with the rest of what you’ve planned for your life. There’s a lot of love that goes back and forth between the two of you. Just because you don’t see this person with your physical eyes the relationship is still there.

GK says she experiences a lot of grief, but she likes The Council’s advice to remember a happy memory and says she’s going to try that. The Council says it’s also good to talk to the spirit throughout your day about what’s going on; they do hear you. When it’s possible and when you allow it, you will receive information from the spirit that’s moved on.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for GK and the rest of us, and let us know how you’re feeling about it.

November 11, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Death, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

What Is My Purpose in This Lifetime?

This post is inspired by a question from a reader named Dianna, who asks The Council what her life purpose is. Diana has been training as a teacher and teaching overseas for the past 5 years. She says she knows we all make soul contracts before we come into this life, and asks what she’s supposed to be doing or learning in this  lifetime.

The Council begins by saying many souls incarnate with a soul contract to accomplish specific things they’re interested in experiencing. And there are other souls who wish to create their lives as they go along, without pre-planning before birth what they want to accomplish.

We all plan to bring the vibration of love into our lives, have fun, and not take life so seriously, but this second group of people are free to decide within their current life how they wish to accomplish this rather than pre-planning ahead of time. And The Council says Dianna is one of these souls who wished to create her life as she went along.

Although these people don’t pre-plan what they want to accomplish, they have in common with all souls the desire to learn about an emotion like love, abandonment, sadness, shame, grief, or loneliness, and to turn the difficult emotions around with love.

The Council says Dianna’s purpose in this lifetime is to experience as much as she can and to bring love into these experiences. They say to look for clues in what she wants to do by examining her teaching experiences and the work she did before she taught to see what brought her the most joy. Or she can already have ideas about what she’d like to try but hasn’t gotten around to? And they say Dianna wanted to be a bringer of light, understanding, joy, love, and support for those people she meets along her path.

It’s good for Dianna to work within a community and teach about nature if she hasn’t gone in that direction already. The Council says as she prepared to enter this lifetime there was a great desire to travel and to help the people she met who needed someone to uplift them and give them a new perspective on what they were experiencing.

Even when we make a pre-birth contract and experience our reality the way it was planned, at all times we have the ability to change this pre-planning. With this ability Dianna has the freedom to focus on a particular career, or travel more as she feels the desire to move on. The Council says the choice is always there.

Dianna was able to connect with the spirit of trees and plants and had a green thumb in other lifetimes and this is able to be experienced again in this lifetime as a career or as a hobby. The Council also see more travel would be good for Dianna because that is what was desired. But they add if she finds herself someplace she doesn’t want to move from, this is fine because there wasn’t any plan to live her life a specific way.

Listen to the entire 11-minute session with The Council (below) to receive all their guidance for Dianna and the rest of us.

September 9, 2016 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Love, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Are All Abortions Pre-Planned in Spirit?

This post is inspired by a question from a reader who goes by the name, MangoJuice13, who asks: Are all abortions an agreed upon contract between souls before birth?

MangoJuice13 read our post, Was I Correct in Aborting My Pregnancy?, and was interested to learn the reason for the abortion in that post was to challenge a woman named Laura to see how people swayed her opinion or pushed her to do something she didn’t want to do. MangoJuice13 says she’s in a similar situation.

She made a decision to abort out of fear after her partner pressured her. She says she feels guilty and angry, and wishes she had chosen differently. And she asks: What was the purpose of this abortion and what lesson was it meant to teach her?

The Council says all pregnancies are agreed upon in spirit before birth, but all abortions are not pre-planned. They say sometimes the abortion is pre-planned in spirit. And sometimes the souls agree to come together in a pregnancy, look at what is going on in their reality, and decide then whether to abort the fetus or not. And the soul of the fetus lovingly understands and accepts whatever decision is made.

The Council says MangoJuice13’s abortion was the opposite of what’s been discussed often on our blog. In this situation the soul came forward in spirit and said it wanted to experience being aborted, just living in the womb and not coming into this reality. After the soul expressed the desire to experience abortion, MangoJuice13 stepped forward in spirit and said she would help this soul experience this. This was not a situation where MangoJuice13 wanted to experience an abortion to learn something. It was to help another soul have this experience.

The Council asks MangoJuice13 to now look at her relationship with her boyfriend and figure out if it’s the right relationship for her going forward. And to ask if the people around her are supportive, or are they not allowing her to be who she wishes to be. The Council says that is what she wished to experience.

The Council sees MangoJuice13 developing strength, making a decision to get pregnant again, and deciding if it will be with her current boyfriend or another. And that was a purpose of this experience.

Listen to the entire 7-minute session with The Council (below) to answer MangoJuice13’s question and receive the benefit of their full guidance.

July 24, 2016 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Choice, Helping Others, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit | , , | 1 Comment

Why Would Spirit Choose to Be a Human Being Who Experiences Pain?

If you’ve read our Welcome post in the right-hand column of these blog pages, you may remember The Council’s #1 teaching: all human beings are spiritual beings in a physical body. In the 4-5 years The Council’s been speaking to us through Cynthia, this is the idea they have most consistently emphasized.

We mention this in connection to a recent question for The Council from Tanya, who says she’s having the most painful experience of her life because she believes a close personal friend has broken a soul agreement he made with her in spirit.

“Do you realize you have what you believe is a soul contract — we call an agreement, not a contract — with everyone that enters your life?”

I (Bob) mentioned to The Council that Tanya seems particularly interested in a specific soul agreement with one special man who’s been in her life, and how she feels he has broken this soul agreement.

“There is no broken contract or agreement. It is something that was decided between the two of you before you even entered into these bodies. And so when you go through something that is difficult, you believe, ‘uh-oh, something went wrong, this contract is broken.’

“It is exactly the way you wanted it to be, on [the part of] both partners.”

—The Council
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March 27, 2013 Posted by | Challenges, Expansion, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 6 Comments

   

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