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Have I Met The Person I’ll Marry After My Husband Passed?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Momof3, and is in response to our post, Do I Have A Twin Flame, Not A Soulmate?

Momof3: This topic of twin flames and soulmates has been something that’s intrigued me. I’ve often wondered if my late husband is my twin flame or soulmate. I was inseparable from him, but he passed away. I still feel connected with him spiritually and energetically, and it overwhelms me sometimes.

Council: Of course you’re still connected. Just because someone passes into spirit and one is back in the physical reality, there’s no break in the connection.

And so you want to know if this was your soulmate. We’d say, yes, because this soul and you have chosen each other as mates in this particular lifetime. Any two people that come together are soul mates. You decide to spend this life together, or part of this life together, and work things out together. And so you are mates.

We realize many in the physical world think there’s something wonderful, that they must find the one, the soulmate. Anyone you have a relationship with is a soul that’s mated to you for whatever length of time you decide. And so we’d say, yes, and enjoy that, and enjoy the connection you still have with your husband.

Bob: In a recent post you clarified the difference between the terms, twin flame and soulmate.

Council: Yes. This relationship with her husband was not a twin flame. He was another spirit.

Momof3: I’m sure we had a soul contract or past lives together, or maybe I’m just believing these things to have answers and cope with losing him.

Council: The soul contract you speak of is just an agreement that we’ll go into the physical reality and this is what we plan.

Momof3: But since my husband passed, I’ve met other men and had relationships, and I also feel connected to those men. I guess they’ve all come into my life to teach me something. Are they all my soulmates also, or is there just one?

Council: They are soulmates also. They’ve come in to give you the feeling of love that you feel you’ve lost with your husband passing on. And so it’s just a way to experience love. Different ways are available with different people, and that is all agreed upon.

Momof3: I was told that my late husband wasn’t the one I’d spend my life with and that my true soulmate or twin flame would come after him.

Council: There’s such an emphasis in your reality about this true soulmate. We’ll say again, anyone that you’re in a relationship with is a soulmate. So yes, it’s true you didn’t spend this entire reality with your husband. There will be others. There will be as many as you wish to create. You can get tired of creating many other mates, and then you may create the one that fills your desire for what you want a soulmate to be. And that’s how it works.

Momof3: Of course I never thought that would be true and I’d lose him.

Council: Nothing has been lost. It’s important to remember that. The connection is there and you can still speak to your husband and he’ll speak to you. You only need to be quiet and to believe, and you’ll see the answers.

Momof3: I wonder if I’ve met this person I’d marry now.

Council: We don’t see that yet. And yet if someone comes along and you really want this person to be your forever partner, you can create it that way. It’s so important to remember that you are the creator.

So as you go about your life and the people you pull in to meet, see which one fits perfectly to what you want. And then you’ll create that reality that you’ll be together, and how long you’ll be together.

Momof3: I’ve had a love relationship that recently ended, and I’m trying not to get involved in another one too soon.

Council: It’s all up to you.

Momof3: But I feel like there are connections with people I meet. In particular, there’s a man I’m dating, I’ll call him, J, but I don’t want to make the same mistakes of past relationships.

Council: There’s no rush. Take your time. Enjoy this relationship. See it the way you want it. Focus on the way you want it to be, and that is what you’ll create.

Momof3: I do believe all these friendships and meetings are to teach me something and help me heal, and for me to help J, as well.

Council: It’s to teach you that you are the creator.

Momof3: In helping J, I feel healing, but I feel that I’m searching for my soulmate and I feel incomplete.

Council: That’s because of the belief you have. So now remember that anyone who comes into your life can fit the bill of being your soulmate. And while no one is perfect, whoever comes into your life, there’s always some sort of agreement, I will teach you this, you will teach me that. We’ll go through certain things.

And so, do not expect the perfect soulmate to be a perfect physical human being. That’s not what you’re here for.

Bob: How would you address this feeling that Momof3 has about feeling incomplete?

Council: Because many come into this reality with the belief – and they are here to change this belief – that they are not complete, that you have to have the soulmate to be complete, that you have to have the twin soul to be complete. That isn’t true. You are complete. You are everything that you have ever been in every life. Every answer that you need to every question is within you.

The way to create whatever it is that you want in this life is up to you. You can change it day by day by what you want. And just by focusing on it the life around you will change. It’s all up to you. No one will come along and do it. It’s all up to you.

Bob: So it sounds like you’re saying that the feeling Momof3 has that she’s incomplete comes from a belief that she needs someone outside of herself to complete her. And it sounds like you’re suggesting that’s not true.

Council: Exactly.

Momof3: Then there’s my oldest son. We’re so alike, but we also butt heads a lot. I feel like he hates me and loves me, and it’s a difficult relationship. Is he from my past lives? And does he have to work out things with me from these past lives?

Council: Yes, you know your son from before, but what’s going on now is that you’re here to learn that you have given birth to this soul. You have agreed to bring this soul into this reality. You’ve only agreed to give him entry. You do not control him. You don’t own him. You’re here to watch how he grows, to learn from what he goes through, and to be as understanding as you can.

The way to love him is to let him be himself. Yes, there are times your child will hate you. There are times your child will love you. But when you show love and you allow this child to be whatever he needs to be, and to work on whatever he needs to work on, it will all turn around. And because you show love and acceptance, you’ll receive that same love and acceptance.

Momof3: How can I have a loving relationship with him, or do I just let him be and concentrate on myself?

Council: Of course let him be, but show him love. Show him when you’re disappointed, when you feel maybe his actions are hurtful, but allow him to be. And whenever he does something you don’t approve of, we would end the conversation with the words: I love you, and I’ll allow you to go through whatever you need to go through. Those words will change so much.

Have patience. Just remember you’re not here to control. You’re not here to boss this person around and have things done the way you want. Watch him with curiosity. What is he learning? What is he going through? And what am I learning from it? There’s great growth on both parts when you can look at things this way. And all will be well.

Momof3: Maybe I’m just trying to find answers to feelings and emotions I feel towards men that I can’t explain. Maybe it’s just me being lonely and simply wanting to be loved and to love like it was with my husband. But I feel lost and confused, and I feel like I’m constantly searching for my other half.

Council: You are your other half. What we wish you to do now is to focus on what it is that you want, and know that you can have this.

Momof3: I try to hold back my emotions and feelings because I know I’m vulnerable and just looking to be loved like I was with my husband.

Council: And so your thoughts would be: I am strong. I am a creator. I had a wonderful time with this person that was my husband and I want more of it. And so now I’ll create it. Now I’ll bring someone else in.

You are not lost. You are not a victim. You are now a creator. Think of what we just said, how the feeling is so much different from the way you think about your situation. Come from a place of power and know you can do this.

Momof3: But it’s difficult because I feel when I don’t listen to my heart and emotions, I feel anxious, unbalanced, and overwhelmed.

I’d love to know if I’ve already met the person I was told I’d eventually marry, and who it is, or his name.

Council: You have not finished creating yet.

Momof3: Or if that was something just made up.

Council: We ask you to focus. Do not go so much from what others tell you, but know yourself. We can say over and over again, you are the creator. Picture it. Feel the way you want your life to be. Picture yourself married again and having a wonderful life. See it. Every time you can, see it and feel it, and it has to come to you. But you must take this place of power and understanding of who you really are and make this happen, because you can.

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November 3, 2022 - Posted by Cynthia & Bob | Acceptance, Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Love, Other Realities, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | Agreement, Connection, Focus, Husband, Son, Soul Contract, Soulmate, Twin Flame