Will Ex-Boyfriend Realize Impact of his Actions and Express Acknowledgement?
This post is inspired by questions from a reader who calls herself LookingForTheOne, who says her ex-boyfriend left her a while back, but the pain she experiences from the break up never left her. And The Council replies that they are almost sure the pain of the break up is what she’s focusing on and as her thoughts stay on this pain, she can expect to remain in the feeling of it.
The Council advises her to focus instead on the joy in this relationship that she’d like in her next relationship. They say she pre-planned in spirit to be in this relationship for a reason, that she will meet the spirit of her ex-boyfriend in another lifetime, and this soul isn’t lost to her forever. They advise her to find a way to be grateful this particular person was in her life for a while. And they say both of them chose as spirits to be together in this lifetime to learn about love.
In response to LookingForTheOne’s statement that she believes she and her ex-boyfriend are soulmates and they could have made it together until the end of this lifetime, The Council says we are all soulmates. And they add that as a spirit she didn’t want to be partners with her ex-boyfriend for the rest of her life. The Council says they came together to learn what was wanted and what was not wanted in terms of love in this relationship.
When LookingForTheOne asks if her ex-boyfriend will ever realize the impact his choices made on others and show any acknowledgement, The Council says it’s a possibility, but nothing is definite and they recommend she allow him to be who he is. They add that allowing is a form of love.
When LookingForTheOne asks about past lives she and her ex-boyfriend shared together, The Council says they feel focusing on the past isn’t that helpful and will tend to keep her focused this relationship. And then The Council goes on to say they had a relationship in another lifetime where they were together, went through many hardships, and were supportive of each other. They had loving relationships in other lifetimes, including one where they were father and daughter.
The Council says in each past life relationship they tried to find the love and express it in the reality they were living in at that time. They created challenges and happy moments and their current lifetime is an extension of those lifetimes where the two of them work together to learn something else.
The Council asks if one of them was brave enough in spirit to be mean and cause hurtful feelings in their human reality so they could both learn from this. The Council emphasizes it’s a very loving spirit that would do that if it’s what you desire to learn. And they add it’s a challenging path to be on. You were hurt; can you still love yourself enough to realize this isn’t what you want and create a different path for yourself.
The Council says there was a lifetime in the early 1800s where LookingForTheOne worked as a dance hall girl in a saloon. Her ex-boyfriend was one of her patrons in that lifetime and loved her very much, but she never returned this love and walked away from that relationship, and it was hard for him in that lifetime.
In their current lifetime The Council asks if they wanted to experience the other side of the coin? Did her ex-boyfriend walk away from their relationship in this lifetime? The Council says you helped each other experience these unfortunate situations so you can find love in them, no matter what, and that is bringing the vibration of love into this reality.
LookingForTheOne asks if they were married in a past life and whether her ex-boyfriend was really in love with her like he said he was in this life, or if he was lying to her. And The Council says her ex-boyfriend had the love for her in this lifetime and in other lifetimes also.
Listen to our 11-minute session to hear all The Council’s guidance for LookingForTheOne and for the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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Hi, Mary. Thanks for your questions. We’ll ask The Council as soon as we can and post their response. Love, Bob & Cynthia
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I have a similar situation. I feel my ex never loved me even if I loved him a lot. I feel he used me and then kicked me as if I was garbage. The problem is after all this I still love him and I want to have a life together, of course only if he loves me too…, but I know all of this is insane… I want to know if it’s the reason why I’m stuck in all areas of my life… And also I want to know how let all these feelings go, specially how to stop feeling in love with him cause he doesn’t love me and probably never did.
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Wow, Thankyou so much for your answer!
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