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Why Am I So Connected To My Ex-Boyfriend?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Broken-Hearted Lady, who wants to know why she feels so connected to her ex-boyfriend who broke up with her. He had become depressed and said he had nothing to offer her.

The Council says in another lifetime you were together as friends in a German concentration camp during World War II. You were separated during that lifetime and there was a feeling of depression and sadness around that.

In your current lifetime there was a desire to come together and create what you could. You didn’t particularly pre-plan that you’d be together forever in this reality, but you did plan to come together and feel a closeness to each other.

The depression your ex feels is something he brought into this life from the life in Germany and he needs to deal with it. In that past life your ex could do nothing for you, and he also feels he can’t do anything for you or anyone else in your current reality. This is an issue he’s dealing with.

It’s good for you to be supportive of your ex. The Council advises you to move on from your ex and look for love in another relationship, but there’s no need to leave your ex behind. You can keep this relationship for whatever amount of time you like.

You need to learn there are different kinds of love. You can love your ex and try to help him, but you can also move forward. You can have both. Your ex needs support to face the challenges in his life. In spirit you wanted to be in your ex’s life and be supportive, no matter how his life turned out. This is why you’re feeling a heavy heart, but you’re doing exactly what you planned in spirit.

You don’t have to cut your ex out of your life unless it becomes too painful for you, but we don’t think it will go in that direction. You can send your ex love, whether you speak once a week, once a month, or once a year. You can still play the role you both agreed to of being supportive and still move on and create what you want.

Broken-hearted Lady says this was one of the most in sync relationships I ever had and I miss my ex dearly. My friends advise me to totally disconnect from him so I can move on, but the thought of doing that doesn’t sit well with me. We communicate every couple of weeks. The Council says this is because you’re intuitive and you subconsciously know what you both planned in spirit.

Broken-hearted Lady says she still has hope of reuniting in the future, but is that foolish? The Council says it is possible, but it’s what you create in your life and what your ex creates. By sending your ex love you help him through what he’s trying to heal in this lifetime and it also brings the vibration of love around you. If this is something you really, really want, then The Council suggests you focus on this.

Focus on your ex coming through the depression. Focus on a good friendship where you can connect and talk more often. Or focus on having a romantic relationship. It will take work. Remember to go into the vibration of joy first. Then imagine the way you want the relationship to be. Then believe you can have this.

Broken-hearted Lady says if my ex and I won’t be together again will I ever find a love that touches my heart and spirit as much as my ex did? The Council says everything is wide open for you right now. You will experience love. How you’re going to create this is totally up to you.


Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Broken-hearted Lady and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 28, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Healing, Helping Others, Love, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 1 Comment

Will Ex-Boyfriend Realize Impact of his Actions and Express Acknowledgement?

This post is inspired by questions from a reader who calls herself LookingForTheOne, who says her ex-boyfriend left her a while back, but the pain she experiences from the break up never left her. And The Council replies that they are almost sure the pain of the break up is what she’s focusing on and as her thoughts stay on this pain, she can expect to remain in the feeling of it.

The Council advises her to focus instead on the joy in this relationship that she’d like in her next relationship. They say she pre-planned in spirit to be in this relationship for a reason, that she will meet the spirit of her ex-boyfriend in another lifetime, and this soul isn’t lost to her forever. They advise her to find a way to be grateful this particular person was in her life for a while. And they say both of them chose as spirits to be together in this lifetime to learn about love.

In response to LookingForTheOne’s statement that she believes she and her ex-boyfriend are soulmates and they could have made it together until the end of this lifetime, The Council says we are all soulmates. And they add that as a spirit she didn’t want to be partners with her ex-boyfriend for the rest of her life. The Council says they came together to learn what was wanted and what was not wanted in terms of love in this relationship.

When LookingForTheOne asks if her ex-boyfriend will ever realize the impact his choices made on others and show any acknowledgement, The Council says it’s a possibility, but nothing is definite and they recommend she allow him to be who he is. They add that allowing is a form of love.

When LookingForTheOne asks about past lives she and her ex-boyfriend shared together, The Council says they feel focusing on the past isn’t that helpful and will tend to keep her focused this relationship. And then The Council goes on to say they had a relationship in another lifetime where they were together, went through many hardships, and were supportive of each other. They had loving relationships in other lifetimes, including one where they were father and daughter.

The Council says in each past life relationship they tried to find the love and express it in the reality they were living in at that time. They created challenges and happy moments and their current lifetime is an extension of those lifetimes where the two of them work together to learn something else.

The Council asks if one of them was brave enough in spirit to be mean and cause hurtful feelings in their human reality so they could both learn from this. The Council emphasizes it’s a very loving spirit that would do that if it’s what you desire to learn. And they add it’s a challenging path to be on. You were hurt; can you still love yourself enough to realize this isn’t what you want and create a different path for yourself.

The Council says there was a lifetime in the early 1800s where LookingForTheOne worked as a dance hall girl in a saloon. Her ex-boyfriend was one of her patrons in that lifetime and loved her very much, but she never returned this love and walked away from that relationship, and it was hard for him in that lifetime.

In their current lifetime The Council asks if they wanted to experience the other side of the coin? Did her ex-boyfriend walk away from their relationship in this lifetime? The Council says you helped each other experience these unfortunate situations so you can find love in them, no matter what, and that is bringing the vibration of love into this reality.

LookingForTheOne asks if they were married in a past life and whether her ex-boyfriend was really in love with her like he said he was in this life, or if he was lying to her. And The Council says her ex-boyfriend had the love for her in this lifetime and in other lifetimes also.

Listen to our 11-minute session to hear all The Council’s guidance for LookingForTheOne and for the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

May 7, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments

   

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