Why Am I So Connected To My Ex-Boyfriend?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Broken-Hearted Lady, who wants to know why she feels so connected to her ex-boyfriend who broke up with her. He had become depressed and said he had nothing to offer her.
The Council says in another lifetime you were together as friends in a German concentration camp during World War II. You were separated during that lifetime and there was a feeling of depression and sadness around that.
In your current lifetime there was a desire to come together and create what you could. You didn’t particularly pre-plan that you’d be together forever in this reality, but you did plan to come together and feel a closeness to each other.
The depression your ex feels is something he brought into this life from the life in Germany and he needs to deal with it. In that past life your ex could do nothing for you, and he also feels he can’t do anything for you or anyone else in your current reality. This is an issue he’s dealing with.
It’s good for you to be supportive of your ex. The Council advises you to move on from your ex and look for love in another relationship, but there’s no need to leave your ex behind. You can keep this relationship for whatever amount of time you like.
You need to learn there are different kinds of love. You can love your ex and try to help him, but you can also move forward. You can have both. Your ex needs support to face the challenges in his life. In spirit you wanted to be in your ex’s life and be supportive, no matter how his life turned out. This is why you’re feeling a heavy heart, but you’re doing exactly what you planned in spirit.
You don’t have to cut your ex out of your life unless it becomes too painful for you, but we don’t think it will go in that direction. You can send your ex love, whether you speak once a week, once a month, or once a year. You can still play the role you both agreed to of being supportive and still move on and create what you want.
Broken-hearted Lady says this was one of the most in sync relationships I ever had and I miss my ex dearly. My friends advise me to totally disconnect from him so I can move on, but the thought of doing that doesn’t sit well with me. We communicate every couple of weeks. The Council says this is because you’re intuitive and you subconsciously know what you both planned in spirit.
Broken-hearted Lady says she still has hope of reuniting in the future, but is that foolish? The Council says it is possible, but it’s what you create in your life and what your ex creates. By sending your ex love you help him through what he’s trying to heal in this lifetime and it also brings the vibration of love around you. If this is something you really, really want, then The Council suggests you focus on this.
Focus on your ex coming through the depression. Focus on a good friendship where you can connect and talk more often. Or focus on having a romantic relationship. It will take work. Remember to go into the vibration of joy first. Then imagine the way you want the relationship to be. Then believe you can have this.
Broken-hearted Lady says if my ex and I won’t be together again will I ever find a love that touches my heart and spirit as much as my ex did? The Council says everything is wide open for you right now. You will experience love. How you’re going to create this is totally up to you.
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I would like to ask The Council what was the cause of death of the man I met a couple of years ago, it’s not clear.
When we met I felt as if I knew him from past lives together. I felt a strong connection and I would like to know if he felt the same way about me.
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