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What Can I Do About My 20-Year-Old Son’s Behavior

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Christine, who’s concerned about her 20-year-old son. He’s finished high school and has done very little with his life since then. He spends most of his days smoking marijuana from early in the morning until late at night. He also believes he has an alcohol addiction. When he was younger he was very outgoing and appeared happy and enthusiastic about life. Now he’s often very aggressive and his reaction to a situation often appears way out of proportion, and he can be very nasty and domineering.

The Council says your son’s behavior appears pre-planned so he can experience not moving forward in his life right now. His escaping with alcohol and marijuana was also pre-planned. His violence and frustration come from being in this place and pre-planning to change it.

Because your son isn’t moving forward to change his behavior, his higher self is trying to drag him in the direction of changing it, whether in the direction of seeking professional help, or going into a group for help, and reading about how he feels – anything taking him in the direction of wanting to change his behavior. He appears to be stuck in his situation and he’s not able yet to take those steps forward to change it. Your son has no understanding of how you’re trying to help or how you might try to speak about these things to him.

The only job you have right now is to let your son be who he is. We realize this could be frustrating and painful for you, but these are experiences and lessons he wanted to have and then to change. When he’s ready he’ll take these steps. You’re there to give your son love and support.

If he complains to you about being an alcoholic or being lazy and not being able to move forward, all you have to do is say, “Okay, what are you going to do about it?” He needs to realize it won’t magically happen. He has to do something about his situation, even if he was to start imagining he felt better or imagining he’s out there traveling the world. Have him imagine whatever it takes to make him behave differently. You can suggest that and then leave his situation alone.

Your job was to bring this soul forward into this life so it could go through whatever it picks to go through and to accept him and love him the way he is.

Christine says when he’s nasty and domineering it’s impossible to speak rationally with him and we’re left feeling totally depleted. He can also be very lazy. Because he’s my son, I feel like I’m responsible in some way. The Council says you’re playing the part that’s needed and he wished for you to play to get him to this point in his current situation.

When you feel frustrated it will help you if you think he’s really into living what he pre-planned. This is wonderful. Let’s let him do what he has to do and we’ll watch as he finds his way out of this situation and how he learns to change it. You aren’t responsible for his behavior. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be. You did whatever you were supposed to do to get your son to this point and it’s all up to him now to change it.

Christine says, I felt we were very loving and attentive parents, but I know we weren’t perfect. My other son is very different. I’d appreciate some insight into my son’s behavior and our relationship. The Council says you have two sons. Make sure you offer them both love and support. Be there for both of them, not fine with one and disappointed with the other.


Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Christine and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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September 10, 2021 Posted by | Acceptance, Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Imagination, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , | 2 Comments

Help Me Heal My Relationship with My Dead Mother

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, PE, who’s asking for guidance about their relationship with their mother. I’ve asked for guidance on this website before and The Council strongly indicated our relationship was marked by a difficult past life. My mother passed away last year, but I continue to have troubling dreams about her.

The Council says you have the information about sharing a difficult past life and it’s now time to let that go. You can’t change what happened in your past life and how it affected you. Now your job is to deal with what’s going on for you in the present.

PE says, I feel guilty for not speaking to my mother the last few months of her life and for not always being compassionate with her. The Council says there’s no purpose for this guilt. The life you had with your mother was pre-planned in spirit. It was a life you both wanted. You wanted to learn from this life. You wanted to see how you’d handle it. And you wanted to see how you could turn this life around.

There are many times when this is difficult and you run out of time because one of the personalities decides to return to spirit. There’s the guilt you carry because you didn’t fulfill what you were trying to when you planned this life in spirit. Now your purpose is for you to understand your guilt isn’t necessary. You both played your parts in what was needed and you didn’t find the time or the feeling that was needed to speak with her before your mother’s passing.

What you need to understand is that you are both spirits. Where your mother is presently there’s no more anger and there’s no more bad feeling. Your mother is pure spirit and only sends you love. We hope you’re in a place where you can take this love in. There’s no part of your mother that wishes you to suffer. The dreams and the feelings you may be having are all from the guilt you hold within you and there’s no need for that.

PE says, Just when I think I’m making progress with healing my relationship with my mother, even after her death it feels like I’m taking a step backward or I feel stuck. The Council says this is because you go into your old thoughts which bring on old feelings and you begin to go into old patterns and slide backward. You need the discipline to constantly remind yourself you’re both spirits, you both planned this life in spirit, we accomplished what we could, and your mother was ready to move on. Now you’re left with how you want to bring closure for yourself with this relationship.

Of course meditate, but sit quietly and try to see your mother not as she was when she was in this reality in human form, but as a spirit in a beautiful and loving place who’s sending you loving energy to help you through this process. Once you can see her and you can feel you’re both spirits, you can begin to talk to her and tell her how it was for you and how it’s still bothering you. Perhaps you’d like a sign from your mother that all is well. Tell her you’ll accept the loving energy that she’s sending you to get you through your current difficulty.

We ask you if you’re really ready to accept loving energy from a woman who made your life difficult, even though this was planned, and it’ll help you let go of the guilt and move forward. Are you ready to move forward? Are you ready to make peace with your mother? Are you ready to accept the love your mother is sending you? That’s what needs to be worked on at this time.

As everyone grows and develops and learns to create, just take information from your past and don’t stay stuck in those lives. Take all this information and use it to further yourself in the life you’re creating at this time.

We in spirit, as we watch you and see how you grow, we learn from this and also grow. We are all gifts to each other.


Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for PE and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into a Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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July 17, 2021 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

Why Am I So Connected To My Ex-Boyfriend?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Broken-Hearted Lady, who wants to know why she feels so connected to her ex-boyfriend who broke up with her. He had become depressed and said he had nothing to offer her.

The Council says in another lifetime you were together as friends in a German concentration camp during World War II. You were separated during that lifetime and there was a feeling of depression and sadness around that.

In your current lifetime there was a desire to come together and create what you could. You didn’t particularly pre-plan that you’d be together forever in this reality, but you did plan to come together and feel a closeness to each other.

The depression your ex feels is something he brought into this life from the life in Germany and he needs to deal with it. In that past life your ex could do nothing for you, and he also feels he can’t do anything for you or anyone else in your current reality. This is an issue he’s dealing with.

It’s good for you to be supportive of your ex. The Council advises you to move on from your ex and look for love in another relationship, but there’s no need to leave your ex behind. You can keep this relationship for whatever amount of time you like.

You need to learn there are different kinds of love. You can love your ex and try to help him, but you can also move forward. You can have both. Your ex needs support to face the challenges in his life. In spirit you wanted to be in your ex’s life and be supportive, no matter how his life turned out. This is why you’re feeling a heavy heart, but you’re doing exactly what you planned in spirit.

You don’t have to cut your ex out of your life unless it becomes too painful for you, but we don’t think it will go in that direction. You can send your ex love, whether you speak once a week, once a month, or once a year. You can still play the role you both agreed to of being supportive and still move on and create what you want.

Broken-hearted Lady says this was one of the most in sync relationships I ever had and I miss my ex dearly. My friends advise me to totally disconnect from him so I can move on, but the thought of doing that doesn’t sit well with me. We communicate every couple of weeks. The Council says this is because you’re intuitive and you subconsciously know what you both planned in spirit.

Broken-hearted Lady says she still has hope of reuniting in the future, but is that foolish? The Council says it is possible, but it’s what you create in your life and what your ex creates. By sending your ex love you help him through what he’s trying to heal in this lifetime and it also brings the vibration of love around you. If this is something you really, really want, then The Council suggests you focus on this.

Focus on your ex coming through the depression. Focus on a good friendship where you can connect and talk more often. Or focus on having a romantic relationship. It will take work. Remember to go into the vibration of joy first. Then imagine the way you want the relationship to be. Then believe you can have this.

Broken-hearted Lady says if my ex and I won’t be together again will I ever find a love that touches my heart and spirit as much as my ex did? The Council says everything is wide open for you right now. You will experience love. How you’re going to create this is totally up to you.


Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Broken-hearted Lady and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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January 28, 2021 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Healing, Helping Others, Love, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 1 Comment

Why Can’t I Let Go of My Ex-Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Eden, who asks why she’s unable to let go of her ex-partner. She says they were together for a year and it’s been almost two years since he ended the relationship and I still can’t seem to move forward. I feel like I’ve tried everything and yet it still consumes me and I’ve got no idea what to do. Sometimes I feel like I don’t want to be on Earth if we can’t be together.

The Council asks Eden how she can move forward when she’s constantly thinking of her ex. In planning for this lifetime The Council doesn’t see anything permanent between you and your ex was planned.

The Council asks what Eden can take from her experience with her ex that she liked and create with someone else? You must change your thoughts. Find what was good in this relationship and create it with someone else. Imagine there’s another partner for you with all the attributes of what was good in your past relationship and add onto it what else you’d like.

As soon as you begin to think about your ex, acknowledge it and then change your thought. It can be as simple as thinking about a flower, a tree, a beach, or anything else. After a while this will become your new habit. You’ll have better thoughts and your mind won’t drift to your old companion. This is the discipline you need to change your life.

The Council says there are several different souls that are willing to come into Eden’s life when she changes the way she thinks. If she goes in one direction there’s a soul who’ll fill her needs. If she goes in another direction there’s a different soul that will fill her needs. There’s a happy relationship there for you, but you have to do the inner work first of changing your thoughts.

What you wanted to learn in this lifetime was discipline in all things. Discipline by knowing what you want and how to get it by using your mind and visualization until you see you can create. As you create little things you’ll be able to create bigger things, sometimes referred to as miracles, until your life completely changes.


Listen to the entire 4-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Eden and the rest of us and let us know what you think about it, or ask your own question.

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May 23, 2020 Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Creation, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit | , , , | 2 Comments

How Can I Heal this Constant Pain in My Neck?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initials, SF, who says I’ve recently developed three herniated discs in my neck that cause daily pain that nothing seems to alleviate. I feel I have a greater purpose to possibly open a clinic to help people heal from addictions or disease, but this constant pain in my neck is preventing me from moving forward. What can I do to heal this pain so I can move on to the next and possibly the most important mission in my life?

The Council says chiropractic care is a good way to work with the herniated discs. You may have to experiment with different Chiropractors until you find the one that gives you relief.

What you need most and will take your pain away is using the Edgar Cayce pack, which is castor oil soaked in a wool flannel and applied to the area in pain. You can go online to the Association for Research and Enlightenment (ARE) and get instructions on how to use this pack.

Soak the wool flannel in castor oil, place it completely around your neck, and leave it on for half an hour. Do this for a week and then stop for three days and then go back to the castor oil for a week and repeat this process until you feel better. In this half hour The Council asks that you meditate and see yourself getting better. Sometimes you can add a heating pad to help with absorption of the oil. This will go on for quite a while. The spiritual essence of the castor oil will teach your body to realign and heal. After you do this a while you’ll begin to feel relief.

Wanting to open a facility to help others would be very beneficial to you. Look into this right away. There’s always something wonderful going on when you help others. When you understand their pain you begin to heal because the healing energy you wish for others also is working on you.

Begin working with this castor oil and flannel immediately. As you work with this healing process, begin to investigate places where you’d like to set up this clinic and see it as already happening.  As you do this you’ll begin to find healing taking place within yourself. If you follow these instructions, within 2-3 months you should notice a definite healing going on.

The Council closes by saying that wanting to heal other people was definitely something you pre-planned in spirit.


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March 28, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Healing, Helping Others, Life Purpose, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

Having More Positive Thoughts After My Abortion?

This post is inspired by a follow-up question from a reader named Michelle, who was advised by The Council to think better feeling thoughts after she terminated a pregnancy and she’s asking for help with this.

The Council advises Michelle to concentrate on who she is as a spiritual being and to think about the direction she’d like her life to go in right now. They ask if she feels secure about not having any more children, which they feel is a decision made by Michelle’s husband.

The Council advises Michelle not to feel guilty because she had an abortion. This abortion was pre-planned in spirit by her and the soul of the child she aborted, and she and the child have fulfilled what they wished to experience.

The Council asks what Michelle has learned from this abortion. Does she wish to get pregnant again and have another child? They tell Michelle only she can make this decision.

The Council says the aborted pregnancy was a wake up call for Michelle to take control of what she wants and not do what other people want her to do. It’s about changing her path and waking up to what she wants in her life. This is how her higher self planned to bring her to this point and then move her forward.

The Council advises Michelle to every now and then gently bring up the idea with her husband that the thought of having another child makes her feel happy. How she speaks about this can make her husband more open to having another child. The Council also recommends doing the inner work of seeing things the way she wants them to be and imagine it’s already happening, because it is happening in another reality. They advise Michelle to bring this reality to her with her thoughts and feelings.

The Council advises Michelle to let go of any guilty feeling about terminating her earlier pregnancy. As she stays in the vibration of guilt and sadness she cannot create the joy she wants. They say to go into the vibration of joy by thinking of good memories and fantasizing a very happy future. As she feels her mood begin to feel more positive, that’s when she’s able to create what she wants.

The Council says Michelle’s husband is possibly influenced not to have another child by his elderly mother living with them and perhaps when his mother passes, his mind would begin to change.

The Council says the soul of Michelle’s aborted child would like to see Michelle change her life and begin to think about what she would like her life to be like going forward. This is the reason for the abortion.

Listen to our entire 10-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Michelle and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

April 19, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Creation, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment

Advice on Miscarrying a Pregnancy

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Miyam who is past her first trimester of pregnancy and she says she’s tried to abort with herbs because she can’t afford a medical abortion. Miyam has tried speaking with the soul of the unborn child in the hope of convincing it to miscarry, and she asks The Council for advice on convincing this soul to terminate it’s pregnancy rather than be born.

The Council says the spirit of this unborn child understands that Miyam wants it to miscarry, but the reason Miyam got pregnant was for her to realize she must take more control of her life and move it forward in the direction she chooses. The Council advises Miyam not to expect a miscarriage in this pregnancy. They say she must make a decision whether to give birth to the child and raise it by herself, or be brave enough to make the decision to end her pregnancy.

Miyam says she doesn’t plan on being a mother any time soon, and The Council repeats that the child won’t magically go away. They advise her to then move forward an have the pregnancy terminated, but it must be done soon.

The Council suggest Miyam continue speaking to the child and feel the love it sends her so she can be strong enough to make the decision that she wants. They say if she chooses to abort, this is fine. It was part of the pre-planning. The lesson for Miyam in this is to answer the question, where is she going forward from this point?

The Council suggests finding a way not to live with the man she apparently doesn’t want to be with. Find a way to live on your own. Move toward these dreams. They say that is Miyam’s answer.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to hear all the guidance for Miyam and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

February 26, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Decision Making, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , | 1 Comment

Questions About Abortion

This post is inspired by comments and questions from a reader named Isobel who begins by thanking The Council for their post on Beth’s Story: A Spiritual Perspective and how she doesn’t believe the articles she’s read about women who abort a child and pay for this lifetime after lifetime.

The Council says in spirit, when there are lessons we wish to learn before we come into a particular lifetime, and we don’t quite learn these lessons in that lifetime, we can choose to repeat these lessons in additional lifetimes until we’re sure of the love that exists between all of the parties involved. There is no payment or karma involved that a woman must repeat her abortion lifetime after lifetime. If an abortion is experienced, it is by the loving choice of the spirit to see the experience differently until there is complete love and understanding of that process as a human being.

Isobel recently terminated a pregnancy and wants to know if it was the spirit of a girl she miscarried when she was much younger. The Council says the spirit of this child was known from other lifetimes, but it wasn’t the soul of the child she miscarried.

The Council says this abortion was planned in spirit to learn more about abortion and the process of agreement between the child, the father, herself, and anyone else involved, and then to quickly let go of these feelings and move forward. The Council asks Isobel to meditate on her desire in spirit to move forward and not linger any longer than necessary on the abortion.

Isobel asks if the spirit of the aborted child is likely to return to her in a future pregnancy. And The Council says there’s a possibility she’ll get pregnant again with this partner, but the soul will be a different soul that she knows from another lifetime; not the soul she aborted in this lifetime.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Isobel and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

February 8, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers | , , , , | 3 Comments

Insights into a Relationship

This post is inspired by a reader named Diana who asks The Council for insight into her 6 month old relationship with her male partner. She’s 42 years old and wants to settle down, but she’s torn about whether to continue this relationship. On one hand they have a deep connection and compatibility on many levels. On the other hand Diana finds her partner’s struggle to cope with the daily practicalities of life quite unsettling. The thought of ending this relationship feels almost unbearable, but she feels stuck with moving forward in the relationship.

The Council suggests Diana look at all the things to be grateful for with her partner. The relationship is not enough for her because she focuses on his shortcomings. Start focusing on things in the relationship that bring her joy.

As Diana begins to appreciate this relationship, The Council asks her to look at what she’s doing to help her partner. Relationships come together as an opportunity to show love to each other, show each other how to grow, and how to transform their challenges. When Diana feels her partner isn’t making good life choices, rather than blame him she can speak with him about other choices and gently show him the way. The Council sees that over time the circumstances of this relationship can improve.

The Council recommends if Diane doesn’t want to move forward with marriage or living together, move forward on how she views these activities and with the thought of helping her partner. If she can take these steps, the relationship will become more of what she wants.

The Council says looking for her partner to improve to make her feel better is not the answer. As Diana begins to appreciate this relationship and sees her partner change, there will be a softening within her and she will allow herself to see what she wants to change within herself.

The Council feels that while the choice to leave this relationship is always Diana’s, they see at this time there is no reason to leave. There is a lot that can be changed and much more that can be appreciated about each other that will help the relationship grow and become more of what she desires.

Listen to our entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all the guidance for Diana and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

February 4, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Helping Others, Questions & Answers, Relationships | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Reconciliation with a Love Relationship – or Moving On?

This post is inspired by a question from a reader named Janice, who felt love and a soul connection with a partner, but he has pulled away and Janice says he betrayed their relationship with someone else. She asks The Council what’s going on in this relationship and whether there might be a reconciliation.

The Council begins by stating that what they see in this situation is an agreement in spirit for Janice to have a very short stay in this relationship. A little later in the session they remind her that while this relationship wasn’t meant to be a permanent, she is the creator of her experience and they ask how strong is her desire? The Council asks if Janice can see this reconciliation happening, and is there a joyous feeling? Or does she want a reconciliation because there’s a fear of moving on and not knowing what to move on to?  The Council describes this relationship as transitional, and says it was to help Janice decide what kind of relationship she’d like to have.

They go on to say Janice chose to have many experiences that would make her wonder what kind of person she is. And they ask if this relationship has left her with no hope in her life and she finds it difficult to move forward? Or can she appreciate what she has even though there’s confusion about what’s going on, and is able to move forward easily?

The Council advises Janice to focus on something new and asks her to think about what she now wants in her surroundings, her work, her friendships, and her relationships. What can she imagine for herself that will take her on a new journey with new people? This is what was wanted when Janice planned in spirit to have this relationship.

What Janice planned was that she’d let go of this relationship, find gratitude in it because there’s always something worth being grateful for, and move forward with ideas about the kinds of people in her life so she can learn about herself. The Council says that’s the purpose of this reality for her.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council on Janice’s situation to receive their full guidance for her and for the rest of us.

October 2, 2016 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Pregnancy, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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