Ask The Council

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Should I Stay In My Marriage or Leave with My Child?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name SoulPeace, who says she needs to choose between staying in a marriage that isn’t working out well and trying to make it better, or walk out of the marriage with their child.

The Council asks SoulPeace what part they’re playing in this marriage? Is she adding to the difficulties that are coming up? When you step back and look at this relationship the major question is, why isn’t the marriage working? What do you need from this marriage and what are you bringing to it? Do you feel the love you felt in the beginning of this relationship?

The choice is always yours whether to leave the marriage or stay with it, but the work must begin within you first. Look at what you have without blame, then try to decide what you’d like your marriage to look like. If you can focus on the marriage working and be open to the positive changes, then you can make this marriage work. As you begin to change how you treat your husband, how you speak to him, and how you appreciate the little things he might do, The Council says you can stay in this marriage lovingly.

SoulPeace says she’s always been scared of living on her own and taking on all the responsibilities of caring for their child. She doesn’t feel the love for her husband the last few years. The Council asks if she’s able to partner with him in bringing up their child? Are they able to get together and have fun with this child so it has a more loving life? When you’re able to come together and take the focus off what the other person is doing wrong and you’re in the vibration of love and joy even though the focus is your child, you have the ability to make the marriage better.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s with her husband because it’s the more traditional option and she’s scared to live on her own. She finds it difficult to forget the things that happened in the past. The Council reminds SoulPeace that it’s a choice to take the focus off the past. When do you let go of this? When do you begin looking forward instead of backward? Have you learned from the mistakes you’ve made? What have you done to prevent these mistakes from continuing? If you decide to stay in this marriage, but continue with blaming your husband and stay in the vibration of anger and hurt, you won’t be able to change your future so you have a happy life.

If you decide you want to save your marriage, try thinking the reason you’ve gone through the dissatisfaction in your marriage is that you and your husband agreed to come to this point and then ask yourself if you can turn your marriage around. If you decide to leave, what are the steps you’d take to support your child and live on your own just the two of you? See this how you want it to be rather than out of fear. Visualize how leaving could work for you.

SoulPeace says she feels like she’s coming back to the same point in the relationship over and over. She’d like closure to this and to move ahead in any direction which is best for her and her child. The Council asks SoulPeace if she’s truly looking for closure or does she want to fix the marriage?

To start closure The Council suggests SoulPeace imagine where she and her child would go and how you’d live. If you want to change your marriage for the better The Council suggests letting go of the past. Maybe your husband doesn’t know how to undo what was done or fix the marriage, but perhaps you can discuss moving forward. Can you leave the past in the past?

Discuss how you’d like your marriage to be. What does your husband want the marriage to be like going forward? When memories come of what your husband did or didn’t do in your marriage that hurt you, acknowledge the hurt and then say goodbye to those thoughts. After a while those thoughts won’t come as frequently. Yes these things happened, but now you have an opportunity to create the future differently. You have the power to refocus on a happier thought and create the life you desire.

The Council closes by saying SoulPeace has a lot of work to do and a wonderful journey in whichever direction she chooses.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for SoulPeace and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.

April 8, 2018 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Marriage, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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