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Why Would I Create a Life that Contains So Much Agony?

This post contains questions for The Council from an anonymous reader after they read our post, Have My Past Lives Influenced My Suffering in My Current Life? This reader says, I’ve recently begun my spiritual path and I’ve always had questions and spiritual doubts. I’ve mostly been around Christianity, so I don’t have much guidance outside of that religion. I’ve begun to believe in reincarnation, spirit guides, and the idea that we have control over our lives instead of an outside being like a Christian god. These new beliefs were triggered by the loss of my stepmother, who was the first person to tell me about astral travel. At this point The Council interjects that they like to think it’s not that you’re starting to believe in these things, but that you’re beginning to remember them.

Since learning about this spiritual path I’ve experienced significant losses. I’ve asked The Council a question before about soul mates and twin flames and I found their answer very helpful. I often listen to your audios at work to receive their good energy, but I’m recently struggling with the will to go on. My life seems in shambles. I keep losing people close to me and I wonder if I really have this much control over my life, why would I choose a life that contains so much agony?

The Council says your lesson in your current lifetime is to learn about loss, and that there’s no such thing as loss. When so many people who’ve agreed to leave your life depart from this reality, they’re emphasizing what you wanted to learn.

If you’re on this path and you’re beginning to believe you’re spirit, if you believe in astral travel, and if you believe in reincarnation, we advise you to read about these things and sit quietly and think about them. If there’s reincarnation, then there’s no ending and there’s no loss. You’ll meet these people again in another adventure that you plan.

You say you’re learning about these ideas, but your belief isn’t there yet. When you have this belief there could be sorrow that you miss these people in your life, but along with that comes the knowledge you’ll be together again, that your life was planned, that you’re in complete control, that everyone in your life has played their part the way you set it up, and they’re all there in spirit watching to see if you’re learning from this experience.

These people have left this reality after learning what they needed to learn. It’s your turn to learn the part they played in your life and learn the part you played in their lives. Perhaps through dreams, meditation, and imagination, you can think of other lives you’ve had with these people. You can easily do this by sitting in a chair and imagining. Some people may say it’s just your imagination, but your imagination helps you remember (even though it may not feel like remembering), your imagination helps you create, and it’ll teach you to feel what these other lives are like.

In your quiet time can you see and talk to these people you feel you’ve lost? There will be a response from them. At first it may be just a feeling of getting close to them again, or your energy feels much lighter. When you speak to spirits that have been in your life and have passed on, they will respond to you. Are you quiet enough to hear this response? Don’t expect it to come in a certain way. These spirits will reach out to you, and when you can distance yourself from feelings of loss, sadness, and depression, you’ll begin to feel their answers. Being depressed and feeling lonely will block the energy these spirits are trying to send you. And believe us when we say they’re all around you.

Going forward, read about astral travel and give this a try. Read about reincarnation and imagine what it would be like. If you’re drawn to a certain time period, or certain types of food you enjoy, or certain places you want to go to, imagine you were there. As you ask yourself to remember more and more, the memories will come, and that’s how you’ll learn.

The anonymous reader asks, Can the Council provide me with some clarification on what I’m supposed to be learning, or how to make it through these difficult times? The Council repeats that Anonymous is learning about loss and that there isn’t any loss. Being sad, wanting to go home, and wanting to leave this life are all part of the human condition, but when you feel connected to your spirit and to these other people who’ve left this life, you know there are things you want to learn. You know there are experiences you want to have. The wanting to go home is to be with them again and feel the love that’s in spirit, but you want to finish what you’ve come here to learn. You’ll find the connections and move forward with that. Focus on being with these people again. Imagine where they are now and what they’re doing. Play with these thoughts and you’ll learn many different things.

Your time here isn’t finished, and so we ask you to enjoy it. And the way you enjoy it is by thinking of happy memories, creating happy thoughts of your future, and trying to imagine what it feels like that all these souls who have left you are sending you energy to help you go forward with what you want to learn.

Anonymous asks, Have I had past lives where I didn’t learn my lessons, so I forced myself to go through it again? The Council says all of us in physical reality have gone through things, not learned, and repeated it. Yet when we repeat these lessons there isn’t any struggle. There’s the thought that I didn’t quite get the lesson, or I’d like to have done this differently. We all have many lives where we don’t learn what we intended and we repeat it over and over until we’re satisfied we’ve learned everything about the subject, whatever it is.

It doesn’t matter if you didn’t learn your lessons in a past life. There’s no ending. You’ll go on and on. You’ll choose if you want to repeat a lesson. Nothing is forced on you. The way you perceive your situation you’ll set up your next life, or the life after, or the one after that to learn what you need to learn.

Anonymous asks, Can I spiritually connect with the people I’ve recently lost – my mother, my step-mother, my grandmother, and my baby sister – to try and get some closure? Or can The Council show me how to get this closure in other ways?

The Council says this closure you ask for isn’t something permanent. It’s believing, knowing, and acknowledging that in this particular life the relationships you had with these people are only finished in this particular lifetime. You’ll never be without these souls. If you need closure, you can sit and talk to these departed souls before you go to bed at night. You can talk to them in your meditations. The easiest closure we can give you is to thank these souls for the parts they played in your life, and hoping the part you played for them helped them move on and learn. That’s the only closure you need.

And then speak to these souls about how you’d like to create with them in another lifetime. They will respond to you. At first you’ll feel it in your emotions. All of a sudden you may feel happy for no reason because your higher self is still in touch with these souls.

Don’t think so much about closure, but think of these people with gratitude that whatever was planned, everyone pulled it off in your current lifetime. You can think that you’ll all be together again. You’ll plan other things in other lifetimes. That’s the only thing that can come close to closure because there isn’t any closure. There’s only being grateful, thanking these people, and sending them your love so that you all move forward.

The Council says they send Anonymous their love and tells them we’ll always be there to support you on your journey through all your lifetimes. As you grow, we grow. As you experience things, we experience those things and we all move forward together.

Listen to the entire 12-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for this anonymous reader and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it. Or you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into a Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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August 10, 2021 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Gratitude, Imagination, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Reincarnation, Spirit | , , , , , , , ,


  1. Hi, Free2BeMe13. We’ll be happy to answer your questions for The Council about why a soul would choose an apparently awful life as soon as we can and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your questions. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | November 6, 2021

  2. If our lives are are pre-planned with contracts in agreements do as to have an experience why would we choose to be abused, victimised or even killed and at the same time why would the perpetrator agree to do those things? What could possibly be the lesson either victim hood or being evil? Can someone who signed a contract on the Soul level steer away from doing what he/she contracted to do? Something does not make sense! Also can one choose not to come back and have experiences on Earth or other planets and simply be part of the energy field? Thank you

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    Comment by free2beme13 | November 6, 2021

  3. Hi, Anonymous. To the best of our knowledge, Sara Landon’s Council isn’t the same as our Council. We’re aware of Sara Landon and her Council, but that’s about it. We haven’t taken any time yet to become more familiar with Sara Landon’s Council. Claiming rights to the name “The Council” doesn’t seem consistent with the message our Council is teaching. Hope this answers your question. Thanks for asking. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | August 19, 2021

  4. Why don’t you just claim rights for calling “The Council” to what you have been in touch with? Is it the same The Council with Sara landon???

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    Comment by Anonymous | August 19, 2021

  5. Thanks for your positive feedback and your love. We’re so glad you understand these souls who’ve passed on can be more a part of your life going forward than before. It was our pleasure to provide you with this guidance. Best of luck connecting to your loved ones and to looking forward to many more lifetimes. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | August 18, 2021

  6. Thank you for your help Bob, Cynthia, and the Council. Your audios are always uplifting. I will work on still trying to stay connected to them. I have been searching for some kind of closure, but in a way it makes my life sweeter now knowing how I should be looking at it. Both of my mothers and my grandmother were sick before passing. So, they all weren’t in my life while alive, how I really wanted them to be. But because of your wisdom, I understand they can be more apart of my life now, than ever before. When you told me, my time here is not done, it really resonated. So thank you, for your guidance and time. I look forward to it for many more lifetimes. Sending love.

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    Comment by Anonymous | August 17, 2021

  7. Hi, Susan. Thank you so much for sharing your experience connecting with loved ones who’ve passed. We think the part about emphasizing the fun times you shared with these people is particularly helpful. We imagine this could be very helpful to Anonymous. Be well. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

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    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | August 16, 2021

  8. Great answers! Just to add, I went to a spiritual festival once where they gave a short talk on connecting with our passed loved ones. As we sat with eyes closed, they had us get centered and picture a place where we would sit and visit with them and focus on our heart, feeling our love for them. Then we imagined what we would say to them and how they might answer back. I believe if you try this especially when you’re able to remember fun and funny times with them, it won’t take long before you realize you’re connecting. The more you can trust you’re not just imagining, the more believable your experiences will become. Worked for me.


    Comment by mariner2mother | August 13, 2021

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