Can I Forgive My Brother Without Having Him in My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says they’ve never had a close relationship with one of their brothers. The Council says you’ve had close relationships in other lifetimes. One of your brother’s lessons was to not be as kind in your current life as you’ve experienced him in a few other lifetimes. One of the things your brother wanted to experience was being difficult and seeing what that feels like. He wants to learn about this and bring it back to spirit.
When your brother became very difficult you agreed in spirit to try and still love him and not find fault with him. One of the lessons for the two of you is forgiveness. He wants to learn to forgive you if you turn away from him. But mostly he wants to forgive himself for not being able to control when he becomes mean or very negative to people. You want to learn to accept him the way he is and be able to forgive him.
The Council says when your brother becomes negative, mean, and unapproachable, which is all part of his lessons and what he chose to experience in this lifetime, his acting out is supposed to show the people around him the state he’s in. This sort of behavior isn’t meant to be about the people he’s insulting or hurting. It’s meant to show the people around him how your brother is hurting inside and how lost he feels. This is just part of the lessons your brother chose this lifetime.
When you’re able to realize your brother’s behavior is a choice he’s making, look at what these choices are teaching you. This was pre-planned in spirit so the people around him would learn how someone who’s hurting doesn’t know how to show love. Your brother tries to hurt others in some way because he hurts so much.
Anonymous says she tries to avoid her brother and say very little to her parents, siblings, and even my husband about him. The Council says this is a good choice.
Anonymous says she knows her brother needs compassion and The Council agrees. She asks if this is something she can do without getting involved in her brother’s life and The Council says of course. Forgiveness starts with understanding your brother is hurting a great deal for many different reasons. You don’t have to put yourself in your brother’s presence and experience this hurt yourself. Send him love, light, and good thoughts that he gets to a place where he can feel comfort. And wish him success in what he needs to experience.
It’s good to remember your brother chose this path. If you want him to change when he hasn’t learned the lesson he planned to learn from behaving the way he does, it would mean you’re trying to stop him on his learning path. Allow your brother to be the way he is. From a distance send him thoughts of success and happiness so he can go through this difficult journey and learn what he wants to experience.
If you can’t send your brother love, you can send him the thought of you forgiving him for hurting you or others. Wish him the joy and happiness of being able to travel this path and learn what he wishes to learn. Or you can send him white light to protect him on his journey to help him stay in touch with his higher self and perhaps find another way to be.
The best way you can send your brother love is to allow him to be the way he is, as hurtful as he is to others and himself. There’s a purpose for his behavior and you’ve all agreed to participate in this. Allowing is the first step of love and forgiving.
Anonymous asks The Council if she and her brother have unfinished business. The Council says the unfinished business is that he wishes to feel love from you and know it’s there, even if you can’t be around him. If you cross paths or speak, always treat him with kindness because he needs this. Remember you agreed in spirit to experience your brother this way in your life. It’s a difficult journey for him and for the people around him. What’s unfinished is for your brother to feel accepted by you, if not now, eventually. This doesn’t mean you need to be around him. You need to learn about forgiveness and allow your brother to be who he is. That’s what you both planned and what remains unfinished.
When you can allow your brother to be who he is, even if he’s not consciously aware of this in his physical form, his higher self will know and allow your brother to somehow know there’s forgiveness and acceptance, even if he’s still not in a good place. Forgive your brother the best you’re currently able.
Anonymous says she worries she’ll marry her brother in her next life. The Council laughs and says this is possible if you choose to. The Council understands you don’t want to be married to him the way he is in your current life, but things would be totally different in a new life.
Anonymous asks The Council what she needs to do to finish her experience of her brother. The Council says to send him love and light. Accept him and know he’s very brave to choose the lesson he’s chosen. He’s having difficulty within himself so when you send him love and light you help him on his path.
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Hi, Kristi. COVID-19 is on many of our minds. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your questions when we have time and post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s available. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Hi Bob, Cynthia &The Council,
I want to ask some questions related to Covid-19 and the current state of our world. It is a very stressful time right now for many different reasons. There is so much information out there about covid that it is hard to know what the truth is. It has been labeled as a pandemic, but looking at the statistics, many people struggle to understand why that is and if that is even true. Hopefully some questions and answers will help shed some light on this topic.
1. Was the Covid-19 virus man-made or altered by humans? If yes, what’s the agenda and parties involved?
2. What is the spiritual lesson in all of this for humanity?
3. Are we being lied to by the government or health officials? And why?
4. Will things return to normal or will things get worse in the near future?
Any other information you can provide on this topic would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance!
Kristi E.
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