Concerns About a Loving Relationship
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Frances, who says she recently entered into a relationship with someone I’m falling in love with. He’s a lot of what I’ve prayed for and I feel this is a deep soul connection. To be honest, a part of me is terrified. I’m used to being independent and his presence in my life is throwing me off kilter. What if I lose myself?
What if you don’t lose yourself, says The Council. What if you learn to grow? What if you make room in your life to have this man come in – which was planned – and you grow together? Isn’t it better to think about your situation this way?
Frances says she has life goals that she’s afraid will get derailed. Also, he’s very Christian and I’m very spiritual and not Christian. The Council says wouldn’t it be wonderful if this man shared your life goals and you taught him about what you’re interested in while he taught you about what he’s interested in?
The purpose of coming together is to let another person into your life and share it. This wonderful relationship that’s come into your life because you’ve attracted it has you worried. You can stay in your box, follow your goals, be independent, and find other different paths to learn from, but you’ve pulled in a wonderful partner to share your life with and grow from this.
Frances says she and this man come from different cultures and his values are more conservative than hers, but she loves him. The Council asks if she loves him enough to show him true love by allowing him to be who he is? To see his life and welcome him into yours? Can you love him enough to allow him to be him and you to still be you? Why must you get lost in this? This relationship is something to be shared. Allowing this man into your life without trying to fix him, change him, or have certain rules he must follow. That is the truest sense of love.
Frances asks how she can overcome her fear of getting lost in this person and their relationship? The Council asks if she’s done the work of being grateful this relationship has come into her life? Do you imagine this relationship the way you want it to be? Do you concentrate on his wonderful traits that you’ve described? Are you concentrating on what you bring to this relationship? If she does these things it will help her overcome her fears.
Frances asks how she’s meant to grow from this relationship? The Council says by not being independent. By being willing to share the good times and the burdens. By being willing to go down a path that may not seem like what you have planned even though it is what you planned. Do you trust yourself enough to know what you want and go on this path and create this relationship as you go? Doing this work will help you see this relationship go the way you want.
Of course there will be bumps in the road, but those bumps are there to help you both learn to grow. Instead of looking at this relationship in fear, think of it as jumping up the ladder of spiritual growth. Take this chance. This spirit agreed with you to try this out and help each other grow.
Frances asks if it’s possible to create a life and a family with this man without losing sight of what she wants to accomplish in this lifetime? The Council says this is up to Frances. It depends on whether she allows herself to lose sight of these things, but there’s no reason this is necessary. You will have what you want, and more, because this other spirit will bring more to the relationship.
Frances asks why she fell for someone so different from her. The Council reminds her of the saying that sometimes differences are attracted to each other. The differences will bring more into the relationship. It will cement it and help it’s growth. But The Council says in reality you are both spirits who want to learn there aren’t any differences.
Both Frances and the man she loves planned to be independent in this lifetime, but not alone. You have both gone on your different paths and have different ideas about how you want your lives to be. It was agreed you’ll both be so sure of everything, happy and successful, then you’ll meet and bring all your ideas into each other’s lives and see how you handle it.
This will take you further than either of you would go on your own. What you’d imagined will change because you’ll both come from different points of view. You both wanted to have experiences before you got together and then have more experiences after you get together. The learning path widens and continues in a new direction.
The Council says the two of you met in a past life on the English ocean liner, The Lusitania, where you had a fun but short relationship. And from this relationship you both wished to come together in your current lifetime to see how you would expand the vibration of love.
You are on your path and will find your way by being excited you’re in this lifetime. And no matter what you created – whether it’s something to be grateful for or something that’s challenging – you wanted to experience all of it. Help will be there for you, you’ll find your way through it, and you’ll grow.
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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