How Can I Divorce My Abusive Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LovePeace.
LovePeace: I’ve been wanting a divorce from my abusive husband, but he’s reluctant to give it. He’s doing this on the premise of our son because he doesn’t want me to get married again. Can The Council please guide me how I can come out of this situation? Any suggestions will be welcome and appreciated.
Council: You can’t change the way your husband thinks or control the way he acts. The only thing that can make this change is if you create a life where you don’t interact with your husband as much as you do now. Start living your life as if you are single and without your husband. The more you can focus, and pretend, and find experiences you can have as if you’re single, you’ll start bringing this to you.
It’s always good to wish your husband happiness so he can move on, whether he can see that he’s created a new love interest, or that you’re serious about not wanting to stay with him. It’s up to you in your daily living to have less and less connection with your husband.
This is difficult when you co-parent, but even the littlest improvement, the littlest moving away, and in your mind you constantly think you’re moving forward to your new life, to a new partner if that’s what you want, to a new job, or to a new place to live. Go in that direction.
When you keep connecting, and thinking, and getting annoyed with what you don’t want, your attention to it will create this and give it more power. Take your thoughts and your imagination away from your husband and put it on you and the happiness you can imagine you create moving forward. Everything that’s created must be created in thought first.
LovePeace: I’d like to co-parent with my husband, but I don’t want him to be my husband because for almost 10 years our relationship has never been successful, and I don’t wish to continue living a lie anymore.
I also have a question about a suggestion The Council made for me in a past session. After moving to a different state I met a person during our company gathering. We haven’t talked a whole lot, but it seems there’s a connection between us. I’d like to ask The Council if my next partner will be from my current workplace, or will he manifest later at my potential next workplace?
Council: Enjoy this connection with this new person. Focus more and more on it. Create thoughts in your mind that you talk with this person more and more, that there’s a joy you experience with this person. That happiness and that feeling of pleasure will bring more of this to you. When you can get to a place of happiness, of excitement how your life is changing, and how you’re available to meet someone else, you’ll bring that in, whether you bring it in where you work now or if you change where you work.
If you love where you work and are happy about going there, it’s easier to create a partner that will fulfill what you want. It’s harder to create a partner that will come along in an environment where you don’t want to be there. If you’re not happy where you work, the first thing would be to create a new job in the environment that you like. Because of that environment, and it’s pleasing, and it makes you feel good, you’ll be able to create a partner that you wish to be with.
We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them, and the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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How Does The Council Know About the Person Asking a Question?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Amazed, who asks how The Council knows who’s asking them questions?
The Council says when you write a question, your energy that you want an answer from spirit moves out into the universe and we immediately tune into this energy. We know you by your energy because we all know each other and we can see where you are in this part of your life. Through the feeling, we know who’s asking. It doesn’t matter where you’re from. We know from your energy that it’s this time in your life and what help you need. We also sense who else will benefit from the answer to your question, so the answer is always expressed in a way that everyone benefits.
Next Amazed asks when and how does a spirit enter a fetus in the mother’s womb? The Council says when you’re in spirit you choose the circumstances you want in your physical life, the family you want, and you choose the people that will have experiences that will benefit you according to what you want to learn. When this is set up, the timeline is also set up when you’d come to the mother and father. When the circumstances are right, the spirit will choose to enter the fetus.
Many spirits will hang around for months before the mother becomes pregnant just to keep an eye on what the mother and father are experiencing. Sometimes when the pregnancy is set up in spirit, it’s also set up that the spirit is able to change its mind about entering the fetus if it doesn’t like what’s going on in the mother and father’s life because the pregnancy wouldn’t benefit all parties.
When it’s time, spirit enters the fetus by the power of thought. This is all that’s necessary for a spirit to enter a fetus. When it’s ready the spirit thinks it’s time to begin this adventure and just enters the fetus.
The spirit can enter the fetus immediately after conception if it wants the experience of being in the womb for nine months. Or the spirit can wait until the moment of birth or even a day or two after birth before coming into the human body if the spirit isn’t sure it wants to come in.
There can be a situation where a spirit planned to be with a family, but the mother or father has become an alcoholic and this isn’t what the spirit wanted to experience in this lifetime. This spirit can then change its mind and either the mother won’t become pregnant, or if she becomes pregnant she’ll lose the child because that spirit doesn’t want to enter the fetus of an alcoholic parent. Until the moment of birth, the spirit that will enter the fetus can change its mind.
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Creating When You’re Depressed, and a Relationship Question
This post answers a follow-up question and a new question for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, Marylander, who says The Council makes sense when they say Marylander can create things even though they’re depressed. It’s the small things Marylander says they manifest okay, but the bigger things they have more difficulty manifesting.
The Council says they hope Marylander understands that how you manifest the little things, which is by thought, and visualization, and feeling, is the same exact process you use to manifest the larger things. It’s your beliefs that keep you from thinking you can only manifest the little things.
Marylander thinks they have a victim mentality and it’s easy to fall into a pattern where everything and everyone is against them. The Council suggests Marylander use discipline during these times by acknowledging these depressing thoughts and then change what you’re thinking about. Go to a happy thought, or a fantasy, or a beautiful picture in your mind that brings you some joy. This helps you be in control. You can then make your situation lighter or bring yourself out of depression by changing the feeling.
As you realize you’re in victim mode or depressed, determine what you’re thinking and realize you have the power to change your situation by changing your thoughts. Then be aware as you change your focus, how your feelings begin to change.
Next Marylander asks why they were so attracted to the person they call, “L”. Marylander says they felt a strong need to have L in their life and it became unhealthy for them because L didn’t want to be with them. Marylander feels like L stole their chance of being happy. The Council says L isn’t responsible for making Marylander a victim. L is remembering on a soul level what the two of you had agreed to in spirit. Not wanting to be with you is exactly what the two of you had planned.
The Council sees four previous lifetimes you shared with L where they were your mother, your father, your husband, and a wealthy financier. In the last case you were an orphan and were adopted by the financier who took care of you. As your husband, your mother, and your father the spirit who is L also took care of you.
In your current lifetime you both agreed you would be the strong and independent one and come together as friends showing L how strong you are. That’s the reason you aren’t together in a relationship. If you wish to have a strong friendship with L you have to work on your depression and your thoughts of being a victim. You have to become strong and show L the independent and decisive person you can be. This is what you have planned in spirit. But your life hasn’t gone in this direction so far. The Council says knowing this and doing the inner work to change yourself, it’s possible for there to be a change in the relationship.
The Council says L wants to fulfill their part in your current lifetime by not being the stronger one and taking care of you the way they did in previous lifetimes. By not being in a romantic relationship with you L is allowing you to change. But if you stay in the role of victim, what you both planned for this lifetime isn’t taking place and The Council thinks you’ll have an opportunity in another lifetime to be strong and take the dominant role in your relationship.
The Council’s parting words for Marylander are to be aware of how you feel as often as you can. Ask yourself what you’ve been thinking that’s responsible for how you’re feeling. If you’re thinking thoughts that bring you down, depress you, and hold you back from moving forward with your life, then remember to do the inner work of changing your thoughts.
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Finding a Loving and Financially Secure Husband
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Diana, who says she’d love to meet her soulmate husband soon and she asks if The Council has any insights on this and if there’s anything she can do to speed up the process.
The Council asks Diana what she’s thinking about to create this marriage in her life. They encourage her to think more about what she will bring to the relationship and not so much about what her husband will bring. As she begins to focus on herself and what makes her happy, she’ll begin to attract that in another person.
Diana asks if The Council is able to see her future husband and The Council says it’s her beliefs and what she focuses on that will pick the husband that she calls in with her thoughts and feelings. They say there are perhaps 10 different men that can come into Diana’s life, and as she focuses on what she wants and what she brings to the relationship, she will draw the most appropriate husband to her.
Diana says she struggles with issues of lack and poverty and she’d like to meet someone who doesn’t have these struggles. The Council says as she struggles with these issues she’ll bring in someone she’s attracted to, but he’ll have similar issues. That is why it’s very important to work on herself and her thoughts first.
If Diana’s thoughts are on lack and poverty it is unlikely she’ll be able to attract someone who’s wealthy. She can change her thoughts to: her abundance is growing and she’s ready to receive more in her life. She is a spirit in a physical body. There is abundance all around her, she just has to claim it with her thoughts.
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Believing the Earth is Flat, and Connection With Spirit
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Audrey, who appears to have some difficulty accepting The Council’s idea that what we believe creates the reality we experience. Audrey uses the example of the Earth being round instead of flat, which she appears to believe is an incontrovertible scientific fact. But interestingly The Council seems to suggest that when people believed the Earth was flat, their belief created a reality where the Earth was flat.
The Council says the Earth is made up of energy that is able to shift shapes with the thoughts we think about it. And they add that many people aren’t at the point where they believe this is possible. The Council says at one time the Earth was flat, but along came others who began to believe the Earth was round. And because of the strength of this belief they found a way to create proof of the Earth’s roundness.
At the time people thought the Earth was flat they also didn’t think the Earth revolved around the Sun, and The Council says these thoughts created that reality and the Earth didn’t rotate around the Sun at that time. As we grow and want to make life more interesting and challenging, our thoughts change, we reach for more, and we create more. The Council adds that how we perceive our universe will change again in the future.
The Council says science and facts depend on the beliefs of people. Once you accept a thought and it becomes part of your belief system, and more and more people accept that thought, your reality will change to create that thought and you will have that experience.
Audrey asks The Council how she can stop being so left-brained. And The Council recommends looking into topics that she doesn’t currently believe and ask herself if she’d like to experience this, and she will begin to create what she focuses on and desires.
Audrey says she wants to connect with spirit. And The Council reminds her she already is connected to spirit and she is spirit. She has only to ask her higher self for signs of who she truly is and how she can create. Let her higher self give her a sign that she’s the creator and she’s not just here mumbling through this life. And be open to how it comes. Her higher self will bring her what she asks for.
Audrey says she does many things like meditation and yoga, but she doesn’t seem to connect with spirit. The Council says these things are helpful, but the feeling of connection will come from within her. They recommend she picture within her heart a small flame, which is a small part of her as spirit. Watch this flame grow daily as she meditates on this. As the flame grows Audrey will become more aware of who she really is and she will feel more connected to the spirit she is.
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August 1, 2011 Thought for the Day
Feeling Your Desire
To raise your vibration
We ask you to have a thought,
Something that makes you happy.
See it in your future.
And if you can’t do that
We ask you to go back to a memory from your past:
Something that made you laugh;
Something that brought you joy.
As you stay in that memory
Your vibration increases.
The frequency of this vibration becomes faster,
And as you are in this state of joy
We then ask you to go into the thought,
Into the imagination of picturing what you want,
But then feel it.
After you have gotten to a state of happiness,
Then begin to feel what your desire is like.
What would it feel like to have it?
And that is what will help you manifest.
—The Council
Excerpted from The Council’s opening comments to participants of a Manifesting Your Desires meeting on Tuesday, July 19, 2011 in New York City.
(The Council’s opening comments lasted about five minutes and with the exception of a brief greeting, each statement seems to stand on its own as a thought for the day. Beginning July 25, 2011 we are publishing The Council’s opening comments during this session as eight individual thoughts for the day. This post is the last of the series.)
June 15, 2011 Thought for the Day
As spirit, you have greater freedom
Than you experience in your physical body.
As spirit, you can visit any person or place
Just by using your thoughts.
—The Council
February 26, 2011 Daily Thought
Three things to remember to have a happy day:
- Know that you are spirit in a physical body.
- You have the ability to fulfill all your desires.
- Keep reaching for a better-feeling thought.
—The Council
2011-02-10
Every cell in your body
Is listening to your thoughts.
Every thought
Has a corresponding vibration.
Healing takes place
At the highest vibration,
Which is love.
—The Council
2011-01-21
The first step in creating:
Begin with your thoughts.
Change your thoughts and your feelings change.
Change you feelings and your vibration changes.
Thought by thought,
Feeling by feeling,
You build your future.
Dissolve the boundaries to your thinking;
You have unlimited choices.
Nothing in your life has power over you.
Nothing creates for you.
You are the Architect of your life.
—The Council