How Can I Divorce My Abusive Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, LovePeace.
LovePeace: I’ve been wanting a divorce from my abusive husband, but he’s reluctant to give it. He’s doing this on the premise of our son because he doesn’t want me to get married again. Can The Council please guide me how I can come out of this situation? Any suggestions will be welcome and appreciated.
Council: You can’t change the way your husband thinks or control the way he acts. The only thing that can make this change is if you create a life where you don’t interact with your husband as much as you do now. Start living your life as if you are single and without your husband. The more you can focus, and pretend, and find experiences you can have as if you’re single, you’ll start bringing this to you.
It’s always good to wish your husband happiness so he can move on, whether he can see that he’s created a new love interest, or that you’re serious about not wanting to stay with him. It’s up to you in your daily living to have less and less connection with your husband.
This is difficult when you co-parent, but even the littlest improvement, the littlest moving away, and in your mind you constantly think you’re moving forward to your new life, to a new partner if that’s what you want, to a new job, or to a new place to live. Go in that direction.
When you keep connecting, and thinking, and getting annoyed with what you don’t want, your attention to it will create this and give it more power. Take your thoughts and your imagination away from your husband and put it on you and the happiness you can imagine you create moving forward. Everything that’s created must be created in thought first.
LovePeace: I’d like to co-parent with my husband, but I don’t want him to be my husband because for almost 10 years our relationship has never been successful, and I don’t wish to continue living a lie anymore.
I also have a question about a suggestion The Council made for me in a past session. After moving to a different state I met a person during our company gathering. We haven’t talked a whole lot, but it seems there’s a connection between us. I’d like to ask The Council if my next partner will be from my current workplace, or will he manifest later at my potential next workplace?
Council: Enjoy this connection with this new person. Focus more and more on it. Create thoughts in your mind that you talk with this person more and more, that there’s a joy you experience with this person. That happiness and that feeling of pleasure will bring more of this to you. When you can get to a place of happiness, of excitement how your life is changing, and how you’re available to meet someone else, you’ll bring that in, whether you bring it in where you work now or if you change where you work.
If you love where you work and are happy about going there, it’s easier to create a partner that will fulfill what you want. It’s harder to create a partner that will come along in an environment where you don’t want to be there. If you’re not happy where you work, the first thing would be to create a new job in the environment that you like. Because of that environment, and it’s pleasing, and it makes you feel good, you’ll be able to create a partner that you wish to be with.
We send you all blessings, and all the wonderful thoughts that would help you, the positive thoughts and the feelings that come with them, and the love that’s within you that you can experience at any time when you focus on your heart and ask for signs of who you really are. And when you do this, you’ll experience more joy and more love in your life.
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Dear Mystik Mermayde. Thank you so much for your love and your support for LovePeace. We appreciate it.
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Dear LovePeace, 6 years ago I was you… I found the strength and ability to leave and then finally divorce my abusive husband and it was the best thing I’ve ever done for myself and my children.
I don’t know what the circumstances are in your life and country that feel like they are stopping you from doing what you know is best, but I hope and pray that you find a way and find the strength to do this for yourself and for your son.
The fact that he’s trying to stop you is abuse in itself! It just means you need to find more strength and perseverance to get what you want. Divorcing an abusive person is never easy, so continue to pray and ask for divine intervention to help you find a way and give you the strength to keep going when it seems impossible. I believe in you and I’m sending you love and the strength of a woman who went through this battle and came out the other end, scarred but victorious. You can do it! Believe and trust. Love from Mystik Mermayde ❤
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