Did My Partner Pre-Plan His Prostate Cancer?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lizzy.
Lizzy: My life partner was recently diagnosed with localized Stage 4 prostate cancer, which was a huge shock for both of us because we didn’t expect anything like this. I’ve been interested in topics like pre-birth agreements for some time and I’d like to ask: Is this a disease my partner wanted to experience?
Council: This disease wasn’t specifically called for, but it was some sort of disease, some sort of malady that would bring the both of you together, to work together to find a way to deal with it. And so at this time what was created was the prostate problem.
And so a Stage 4 prostate cancer in your reality is a time where they would suggest surgery, and if you’re comfortable with this, then it’s fine to go in that direction. If you’re not comfortable with it – and the choice is always yours – then you should explore other modalities, other things that can help.
And so you will create this now, step by step, how you want it to go, how you want to experience it. But it was specifically to bring the two of you to work together as you look for a way to heal, a way to show other people that will hear your stories or know what’s going on.
So you’re out there on the leading edge deciding which way to go and then to see it working, without doubt, to see, yes, this will work, this sounds right. This feels good. Follow what feels good. It’s now the time in this reality where everyone is learning how to follow their feelings. And so we would say, explore that.
Lizzy: Is there another reason why my partner has prostate cancer at such a young age?
Council: It’s just that the time was right for both of you to experience some sort of episode where there was a medical problem, and it has gone to prostate cancer.
Lizzy: What message is this disease supposed to be telling my partner?
Council: The message is to explore, to learn more, not to be frightened by a medical diagnosis, but to know in your heart that when you believe, when you research and you find something that feels right, to follow it and know that it will work. And so it’s learning with your feelings, learning from the knowledge you have, and to learn how not to doubt, but to go forward.
Lizzy: We talk about this disease openly because I know he needs it and I try to be supportive.
Council: Wonderful.
Lizzy: I’m reading a lot on the internet about prostate cancer and I’m looking for ways to help him even more. I started helping by cooking him healthier and lighter meals.
Council: How does that make you feel? Is that working?
Lizzy: I’ve read that cauliflower, broccoli, and celery are good for the prostate. Am I on the right track?
Council: If you were to read and believe that drinking soda every day would help it, if you truly believe it, it will work. So the point here is to find what you believe. Ah ha, this will work, this sounds good. When you have that ah-ha moment, follow it.
Lizzy: Are there any other superfoods that could help him to heal?
Council: Well if you continue to read in your reality, what’s been created is tomatoes are wonderful for the prostate. The zinc vitamin is excellent for the prostate. Large amounts of Vitamin C are good for the prostate. And yet if you were to read that and not believe that could work, it won’t. The lesson here is to feel what feels right. Acknowledge what feels right no matter what it is that you want to try. When it feels right and it gives you hope, and you know this can work, you should follow whatever it is.
And so continue to read up on it and maybe there will be more that you will feel will work. But we’d say at this point to do the color breathing, not only of the first chakra but all the chakras, and Bob will send that to you.
Lizzy: In general I try to stay positive because I know it’s important. But the more I think about it, I feel like I’m struggling because I don’t know what to do to help him heal.
Council: Ah ha. Just the word, struggle, brings on doubt and brings on the feeling of being helpless. And so now you should think: I know what to do. I’m searching for it and I will get the answer by reading and feeling what gives me more hope. What’s the thought that gives me more hope? What is it that we should do? And follow that.
Lizzy: Is there anything you would recommend?
Council: Of course, meditation every day. And the part of the body – in your reality there’s an explanation for this – the prostate is moving forward, going forward in your life. So if there’s a fear about the future, it could cause prostate cancer. If there’s a fear of money or career it would also cause this prostate problem. So look at what’s not working, or what’s causing you the most trouble in this life, and work on that.
Lizzy: His Urologist has recommended that my partner have surgery. That would mean we wouldn’t be able to have the children we want so badly. Is there any other option?
Council: Well there’s always the adoption option. But again we’d say research this, and if it’s possible, and you feel the only way to go forward now is to work with the sperm and have it frozen so that you can use it in the future, then by all means do that. You must follow what feels good to the two of you. That’s what’s being taught by all of us spirits that are out there channeling and teaching everyone that’s ready, everyone that’s wanting to grow, that now is the time when you need an answer, follow your feelings.
Lizzy: The only thing we could think of right now is sperm cryopreservation. Is that the path we should take?
Council: It’s not necessary right now while you do the research. If you feel, after trying other things or looking for other methods that feel right, if nothing feels right, then go in the direction of cryopreservation.
Lizzy: My life so far has taught me that every unpleasant situation has a hidden gift.
Council: And this will show the both of you are the creator. How you think about things, what you choose to focus on, you will see coming into your life. So no one can create for you. You will learn how to create by your research, by your thoughts, by your feelings, and you will learn that, yes, we are creating what happens in our lives.
Lizzy: Is there some gift for our relationship hidden in this disease?
Council: Always to bring you closer, always to learn how to rely on the spirit, rely on that you both have chosen this, and to go forward. There’s a great adventure in front of you. As long as you get rid of the fear, go on this adventure. You’ve chosen to do this together, and so you are fulfilling it. And now create the outcome that you want.
Lizzy: Is this disease meant to push us in a different direction in this life?
Council: It’s to help you become more of who you really are.
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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.
Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.
What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?
Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.
And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?
You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.
It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.
And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.
Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.
Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?
Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.
So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.
And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.
And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.
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A Past Life in a Concentration Camp to Experience Inmates’ Feelings
This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari, who previously asked The Council some questions. We published the post, Have My Past Lives Influenced My Suffering in My Current Life? in response to those earlier questions. Mari says, In that previous post you said I was Polish and in a German concentration camp during World War II, and I wanted to experience the camp inmates’ feelings on a personal level. I would assume the inmates primary feeling would be fear, but I don’t feel fear.
The Council asks Mari if she thinks fear is the only thing they felt. They would feel hopeless, depressed, hurt, and some would want to give up on life altogether. There are so many different feelings, and fear would be part of it, but it may not be something you’re picking up on right now.
Think of being in one of these concentration camps. What would you face every day? Would you try and have hope? Would you have a good day every now and then? Would it just be a life of complete horror with no hope, no wish to go on, and no belief you can change this? There were many feelings you had in that lifetime.
Mari says, I only feel sadness, stuck, lonely, mostly hopeless, self-pity, and self-doubt. The Council says all of these feelings you’ve mentioned, don’t you believe that is also what these people in the camps went through? They have gone through every one of those feelings at one time or another.
Mari says, I’ve been actually trying to follow Dr. Joe Dispenza’s book, Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself: How To Lose Your Mind And Create A New One. I haven’t gotten to the main part of the book because it takes so much time, but I’m meditating up to that point. I also read most of the spiritual books. You said I should have hope like I did in my lifetime in the concentration camp, but did my life get better, or did that hope do nothing?
The Council says your hope in that lifetime changed your feelings a little bit, but what you have to realize is that in your current lifetime, what you wanted was to understand those feelings from that past lifetime. You wanted to wonder about it, think about it, read about it, and then try to picture what it would have been like for you and what you would have wanted.
We’re not trying to break the habit of being you. Being you is the result of all the lives you’ve lived. Each life makes you stronger. Each life you learn lessons from. Ask yourself if you repeated these lessons, or did you learn from them and not have to repeat them. You’re a wonderful spirit that has come back to Earth time and time again and learned, brought goodness, brought hope, and brought love in. That is what you wanted to do in your current lifetime. You planned to learn about these feelings and see if you can be grateful you went through that experience. Pat yourself on the back that you came into your current life to go through some of those feelings again, to learn about them, and to always bring love into them.
Mari says, I also have a hypothetical question. If I were to escape my current lifetime, would I have to repeat the same lessons or not, since I chose to have this lesson learning experience? The Council says you would not have to repeat these lessons. There’s no one that will force you to repeat them, but you’d still want to learn them. You might pick a different way to learn them rather than hearing about it and imagining it. You will only go through these lessons again if you wish to go through them. No one will force you to go into them. You can find another way to learn everything you want to learn.
The Council closes by sending everyone love, and light, and energy, and happiness. We wish you all to feel we are here to help you, whether we speak with you, or we are just here sending you light. That’s what we’re all about. We’re about supporting each other and helping each other understand what lessons you’ve picked in your current lifetime. We’re here to give you some guidance to keep you on your path, show you how to experience it, and change the way it is because that’s what you’ve planned.
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What’s Going On with My Troublesome Brother?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Peace5, who wants to know about their brother. Peace5 says, He’s almost 23 years old and has been very troublesome lately. I don’t know what’s gotten into him. Even though he has an incurable disease, he stopped taking his medicine, he stopped taking care of himself, and he’s very nasty with me and our whole family, even my 6-year-old son.
The Council suggests trying to find compassion for your brother. Imagine how you’d feel knowing you have an incurable disease. Some people can find a way to work with an incurable disease and have positive thoughts. Others, like your brother, become depressed. Being nasty and stopping his medication is a sign he can’t find hope. He can’t love himself. He’s going through this depression because he’s closed himself off to loving himself and accepting love from others.
We hope your family will be able to find some sort of therapy for your brother that will help with his depression. Once he’s able to have a few positive thoughts, once he’s able to change his lower vibration, hope will come to him and he can have thoughts of helping himself. He can’t cure himself when he’s in the vibration he’s in now. That vibration must be changed.
If it’s at all possible we recommend doing the chakra breathing meditation we recommend in another post. You can do this with him and so can the rest of your family. This meditation will help align his chakras so he can feel better.
Get your brother the first Emmanuel book, by Pat Rodegast and leave it in his room where he can find it, but don’t tell him to read it. Once he’s able to connect with this book and begins to read about depression, illness, dying, and changing his life, it’ll start to put him on the right path.
Peace5 says, My brother takes medical marijuana for his disease, but I believe it’s harming him more than helping him. He’s not interested in anything at all, including looking for a job. All he does is lay around all day long, sleep, and shower four times a day even though he doesn’t go anywhere. He fights with us, curses at us for no apparent reason, and doesn’t speak with us. What’s going on with him and do you think he’ll ever change for the better?
Again The Council asks if you can find it in your heart to feel some compassion for your brother? Try to understand he’s in a difficult place. Can you accept where he is now? Offer him love. Speak with him. Talk with him like he’s a regular person. Don’t tiptoe around him or not say things in front of him. Get excited and share your life with him. Tell him stories. This will be the beginning of your brother feeling cared for.
Don’t force your attention on him, but when you’re around him try to be joyful. If you can be in a joyful vibration it increases the likelihood of your brother becoming joyful. It’s important you’re whole family is very accepting of you’re brother’s situation and condition and forget he has this incurable disease. Forget he’s laying around. Forget he’s doing nothing. Just be nice to your brother and accept who he is.
The Council asks Peace5 to remember you can’t make your brother better. You can be in the right vibration around him. You can speak to him joyfully. Have your brother feel that no matter how he behaves, he’s accepted. Show him by your conversation that you care about him.
At first he probably won’t accept your positive intentions, but we ask you to continue with them anyway. When your brother sees no one is fighting with him, that you accept him, that you allow him to lay around if he wants to, that you don’t preach to him about doing nothing, he’ll eventually get tired of doing these things and begin to raise his vibration and begin to try and find a better way. In doing this and sending him love and light with your thoughts to help him through his difficulties, things will change.
There are many reasons why your brother may have chosen the life he’s currently living. He wants to understand his situation. In the spirit world, where we’ve either experienced a similar life situation in another incarnation, or we’ve seen others go through what we’re going through, we wonder if we can also do that. Can I bring love into that situation? Can I turn that situation around? Do I want to teach things to other people about how to handle this situation and how we all need to reach for love and show love in that situation?
That’s why we choose situations like the one your brother is in. There are many reasons, but the many reasons are unimportant. The main reason is: Am I bringing love into this situation? Am I bringing love and support and positive thoughts to the person who’s going through this difficulty? That’s what’s needed. In spirit we’re all confident we’ll be able to do this. In reality it’s much more difficult. The reason why we came here is to have fun. We came here to face every situation with love. And when you bring love into any situation, it must change.
Bob closes by asking if there’s a possibility of curing this incurable disease. The Council says there’s always this possibility and this, of course, is up to your brother.
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Have My Past Lives Influenced My Suffering in My Current Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari, who asks which of her past lives has influenced her suffering in her current life?
The Council says you wished to have a life where you could learn from the suffering in a past life. The one big past life we see affecting your current life was when you were Polish and were put into Nazi concentration camps.
In these camps you saw much suffering. You tried to help the people, but you weren’t successful. In that particular lifetime you were overwhelmed and depressed from seeing the suffering around you. You didn’t want to continue living because you were concerned you were unable to help anyone else.
In your current life you wanted to bring in all the emotions you went through and all the suffering you saw in that past life in the concentration camps so you could understand, on a much smaller level, what these people felt. You wanted to have that feeling so you could try to heal yourself while you were going through what these people went through in that life. Because you were unable to help these people and you felt you didn’t grow and you weren’t supportive in that life, you chose to go through emotions where you’d have suffering and more control in the healing of it.
This is the experience you wanted to have in your current lifetime. You want to do everything in this lifetime to heal your depression and the physical infirmities and to have more understanding and compassion for yourself as you go through this.
In that past life you had lots of compassion and a lot of feeling for these people that were suffering. And in that life you always had the hope that maybe you’d get out of the camps and maybe these people would survive. You had hope. In your current life you want to find that hope again, but have it for yourself.
Now you’re experiencing the other side of the coin. On this level, when you go through all the things you go through, do you understand how it makes you feel? What can you do, in any small way, to change your experience for the better rather than stay in it? Do you grab onto the hope you had in that past life and brought with you into your current life? Are you using this hope? Are you learning about healing with your mind and with energy? What are you doing to help yourself? This is the experience you wanted.
Know that you have the ability to heal yourself. We ask you to find the hope and don’t give up. You didn’t give up in the past life in the concentration camps, which was a tremendous thing. In your current life, because you’re going through similar things, the hope you’re supposed to have is for you. Your challenge is to have confidence in yourself and know that you are the healer and you are the creator in your life. Don’t stay in a state of hopelessness. Do everything you can, even in the smallest ways, to begin helping yourself, and you will see things change for the better.
Begin with the chakra breathing. Read books on spirit. Read books on life after life and life between lives to get ideas about how you planned your life. Know that you set all of this up. In spirit you were sure you’d be able to change your depression. We want to tell you that you can. Try and feel the courage you had in the concentration camps. Try and feel the love you had for all those people and yourself in that lifetime, and how you willed yourself to get through it and help everyone else. You can change your current life. You can turn it around. It’s not hopeless. You didn’t plan for a hopeless life.
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Why Would I Choose This Life and How Can I Have Hope?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari, who wonders why she’d choose the life she’s living and how she can have hope? Mari says, I had a very unhappy childhood. I’ve been depressed all my life and I discovered I wasn’t able to practice a profession I prepared for because of a cognitive impairment, which could be due to the long-lasting depression. I’m currently working in an unfulfilling job. I’m on medication that isn’t working after trying many. I’m unhappy and feel trapped in my marriage. I don’t have many friends or much support except for mental health professionals. Sometimes life seems like it’s too much. Can you advise what to do? It just seems so hopeless.
The Council says for you, because of your depression and hopeless feeling, we’d suggest reading the three Emmanuel books by Pat Rodegast and Ask And It Is Given, by Esther and Jerry Hicks. This will lighten your vibration a little.
We feel the depression you’re going through can be changed if you learn to do the chakra breathing we recommend in other posts, learn to meditate, and start reading more spiritual books. Do these every day. We feel that in time when you start to understand who you truly are as a spiritual being and what you can create, your depression will lessen and in time you won’t need the medication you’ve been taking. But you must take the step of working on yourself first.
Find thoughts that make you happy, even if you make these thoughts up and they haven’t really happened, but they are thoughts of things you want to happen. This will lighten your vibration and you’ll see, as you feel lighter and lighter, your life will begin to change for the better.
We see what you’ve created is finding another form of employment that would ideally be outside and more with nature, either working on a farm or in a nursery. If that isn’t possible, maybe working in a plant store. Be around nature. For you, walking barefoot in water would help. All of this will change how you feel. It will help your career and your marriage.
What keeps you down is the looking outward. You think the marriage and the job isn’t what you want, but it is what you want. And it will be more of what you want if you work on yourself with your good thoughts, meditation, chakra breathing, and reading the spiritual books. This will begin to turn your life around and turn it into more of what you want.
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Overcoming Anxiety to Find My Life Purpose
This post is inspired by a reader named Jim, who says he’s struggled with obsessive-compulsive disorder most of his life and asks The Council how he can have less worry and anxiety in his life.
The Council explains that when you know who you truly are, there is nothing to worry about. They ask if Jim understands he is a spiritual being in a human body, and they explain that when he takes his mind away from worry and anxiety and changes the focus of his thoughts to better feeling ones, his life will begin to change for the better. What Jim chooses to focus on will bring him peace of mind.
The Council encourages Jim to have more hope, focus on peacefulness, love, gratitude, the positive aspects of what’s going on, and looking for miracles happening in his life. Concentrate on the support he would get from spirits in human form and in the spiritual world. When Jim can begin thinking about these things his life will improve.
Jim also says he’s struggled with finding his true purpose in this lifetime. The Council says one of the purposes he wants to experience is joy and to have child-like experiences throughout his lifetime, even as an adult. They suggest Jim have a career around children to hear their laughter and join in with them. That is what he wanted to experience.
The Council’s parting advice to Jim is to do the work and he will succeed. Listen to our entire 9-minute session with The Council to hear all their guidance for Jim and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
2011-01-13
Think it’s impossible?
Make the impossible possible
By considering the smallest thought,
By considering the tiniest bit of hope that it can be.
Consider these for just a moment in your time
And you have begun a new creation of what you desire.
—The Council