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Why Did I Choose This Life And My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Elizabeth.

Elizabeth: I have severe childhood trauma. I’ve never felt so lost in life. I’m 37 years old. Growing up I had a very turbulent environment with no therapy. I’m not sure if I can trust my thoughts. I feel crazy and lonely. When I was 26, my son was diagnosed with cancer. When I was 32 I lost my sister to heroin. My parents are still drunks and I feel like I’m their parent.

What’s worse, I’m not sure if I’ve settled in my marriage. I’m unfulfilled internally and I’m not sure what I should do. Fear is definitely there. Can you tell me why I chose this life, and why I chose my husband?

Council: You chose this life with all these experiences you mention to find yourself and to learn about yourself. How do you handle deaths in your family? How do you handle being in a relationship that you think you’ve settled for? How have you gotten through and handled your childhood traumas? It’s all about looking at yourself.

And so here, until now, you’ve had a difficult reality. So we say, Where’s your hope? Where’s your focus now?

You can feel lonely. And of course if you meditate you’ll eventually learn that you’re not alone. There are guides, there are angels, and there are ancestors that are around you to help you. But you need to sit down in quiet time and ask for this help. Go through every issue one at a time. Tell yourself: I need to understand this. How do I change my feelings about this? And know, absolutely without any doubt, that you will get the answers to your questions. You are not alone.

It’s the reality you created to go through these experiences, feel the loneliness, and then say, I must change this. I feel horrible. I don’t understand this. And you know what? I don’t want to go through this anymore. So let’s see what I can do.

And so you find joy. If you have to watch a movie, if you need to read a book, if you need to put on music, or do anything that will immediately uplift you. And when you’re in this beautiful, uplifting vibration, start thinking about what you want. What is something new you can bring in? And then follow that desire. Follow that idea in your head. Don’t give up on it.

Your purpose for coming into this life was to experience things from past lifetimes that you needed to repeat here – the losses and the sadness – but this time around you wanted to not just experience it, but to change it.

Bob: Can you give Elizabeth any clues about why she chose her husband?

Council: Because she’s been with this person in other lifetimes – and we see here there were a few good relationships – when this other soul was planning this path they agreed to come again and be supportive, or not be supportive and make things more difficult so that she’d learn on her own that she could change it. And so it was from being in spirit and deciding to come in and be whatever was needed for you to realize you can change things.

So you haven’t settled. You have agreed in spirit to this marriage. This person is here. Do you wish for your marriage to work out? Then you focus on that. Do you wish to move on and create something else? Then you focus on that. But you’re not settling. You’re going through all the things you wanted to go through to learn that you are the creator.

And many, many people at this time are going through their lives and realizing, I’m in charge here. My God, I can make this happier. What have I been doing being miserable? I can really change this job, this relationship, this sickness, this loneliness, this sadness. I can change all of it.

And so there’s a great shift taking place in your reality at this time. Everyone is heading toward feeling better about themselves and they are starting to create exactly what it is that they want.

Listen to the entire 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Elizabeth and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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October 15, 2022 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Desire, Life Purpose, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, You Create Your Reality | , , , , , , , | Leave a comment

Should I Continue My Relationship With My Current Partner?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Lee, who has a follow up question on our post, Why Do I Feel So Drawn To This Man? that we published last month in response to Lee’s earlier questions.

Lee: I feel drawn to a man I recently started dating. The relationship is moving very fast and we’re even talking about marriage.

Council: Is this what you want? It’s all up to you. You can take the relationship and have it move slowly or quickly, but you have to decide if you’re comfortable with it moving quickly.

Lee: I feel very connected and comfortable with this man. It’s as if I’ve known him forever.

Council: How wonderful. You recognize the spirit within this person that you’ve known in other lifetimes. You both agreed in spirit that this person would come into your life. What is it that you want? Where do you see this relationship going?

Lee: I feel very connected to him spiritually, physically, and emotionally, but he comes with a lot of failed relationships and baggage. I’m afraid I may be ignoring red flags and making a mistake.

Council: It’s good to recognize there are red flags. There’s always a problem when you’re getting signs, but you ignore them. By taking your time with this relationship you can see more and more what this person is truly like. There’s no reason to rush. If this relationship is something you both want, you’ll both feel the trust and the love in it to make the relationship happen.

Lee: I’m a recent widow and I feel guilty. I wonder if I’m just vulnerable and lonely, and the relationship isn’t real.

Council: Of course you’re vulnerable and lonely. That’s part of the human condition when we love someone and lose them. There’s no reason to feel guilty. It’s perfectly fine to move on and have another relationship if that’s what you want. But again we tell you, it would be wise to slow this relationship down. If it’s real and something you both want, time won’t change it. You can work towards it.

Lee: I’m also worried about my son’s reaction to the relationship.

Council: This is another reason to take your time. Because this relationship is new, it’s up to you to take a good look at it, see how you feel, check out the red flags, and take time to see what this person is really like before you involve your son. We feel you know that rushing into this relationship isn’t wise. If you do rush into it, you’ll be faced with challenges more quickly than if you take your time.

You might not know the direction to go if you rush. You’ll get exactly where you need to be. Be in the relationship. Experience the good and the bad, and see what it is that you want.

Lee: Should I continue with this relationship or is it infatuation?

Council: Of course it’s infatuation. Should you continue with this relationship? It’s totally up to you. And that’s why we say: Be in it. See what this relationship is. Don’t rush it. Experience this person and see what baggage he has. Why were there failed relationships? All of this will give you clues about what you want to do.

Bob: You say that it’s infatuation, but it sounds like you may not be ascribing a negative connotation to the word.

Council: In infatutuation, people are taken with someone else. They feel so in love and so happy, and that could be the feeling now. But in time you’ll learn about this other person. You’ll learn about yourself and how you handle another person if you see a lot of characteristics you don’t like. It’s good to give the relationship time. It’s something you want to learn from, and that’s why the relationship was created the way it was.

Bob: Earlier in the session you said Lee and her partner have relationships from past lives.

Council: Yes, there were a few connections. We see the coming together now is something they planned in spirit because they worked together in other lifetimes. But there’s no particular lifetime that’s tied into their current life where they need to learn something, complete something, or heal something. It’s just two spirits that like working together.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording (apologies for the sound quality) of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Lee and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can ask The Council your own question by typing it into a Comment box that appears at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

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April 9, 2022 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 2 Comments

A Past Life in a Concentration Camp to Experience Inmates’ Feelings

This post answers follow-up questions for The Council from a reader named, Mari, who previously asked The Council some questions. We published the post, Have My Past Lives Influenced My Suffering in My Current Life? in response to those earlier questions. Mari says, In that previous post you said I was Polish and in a German concentration camp during World War II, and I wanted to experience the camp inmates’ feelings on a personal level. I would assume the inmates primary feeling would be fear, but I don’t feel fear.

The Council asks Mari if she thinks fear is the only thing they felt. They would feel hopeless, depressed, hurt, and some would want to give up on life altogether. There are so many different feelings, and fear would be part of it, but it may not be something you’re picking up on right now.

Think of being in one of these concentration camps. What would you face every day? Would you try and have hope? Would you have a good day every now and then? Would it just be a life of complete horror with no hope, no wish to go on, and no belief you can change this? There were many feelings you had in that lifetime.

Mari says, I only feel sadness, stuck, lonely, mostly hopeless, self-pity, and self-doubt. The Council says all of these feelings you’ve mentioned, don’t you believe that is also what these people in the camps went through? They have gone through every one of those feelings at one time or another.

Mari says, I’ve been actually trying to follow Dr. Joe Dispenza’s book, Breaking The Habit Of Being Yourself: How To Lose Your Mind And Create A New One. I haven’t gotten to the main part of the book because it takes so much time, but I’m meditating up to that point. I also read most of the spiritual books. You said I should have hope like I did in my lifetime in the concentration camp, but did my life get better, or did that hope do nothing?

The Council says your hope in that lifetime changed your feelings a little bit, but what you have to realize is that in your current lifetime, what you wanted was to understand those feelings from that past lifetime. You wanted to wonder about it,  think about it, read about it, and then try to picture what it would have been like for you and what you would have wanted.

We’re not trying to break the habit of being you. Being you is the result of all the lives you’ve lived. Each life makes you stronger. Each life you learn lessons from. Ask yourself if you repeated these lessons, or did you learn from them and not have to repeat them. You’re a wonderful spirit that has come back to Earth time and time again and learned, brought goodness, brought hope, and brought love in. That is what you wanted to do in your current lifetime. You planned to learn about these feelings and see if you can be grateful you went through that experience. Pat yourself on the back that you came into your current life to go through some of those feelings again, to learn about them, and to always bring love into them.

Mari says, I also have a hypothetical question. If I were to escape my current lifetime, would I have to repeat the same lessons or not, since I chose to have this lesson learning experience? The Council says you would not have to repeat these lessons. There’s no one that will force you to repeat them, but you’d still want to learn them. You might pick a different way to learn them rather than hearing about it and imagining it. You will only go through these lessons again if you wish to go through them. No one will force you to go into them. You can find another way to learn everything you want to learn.

The Council closes by sending everyone love, and light, and energy, and happiness. We wish you all to feel we are here to help you, whether we speak with you, or we are just here sending you light. That’s what we’re all about. We’re about supporting each other and helping each other understand what lessons you’ve picked in your current lifetime. We’re here to give you some guidance to keep you on your path, show you how to experience it, and change the way it is because that’s what you’ve planned.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Mari and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. You can also ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

If you like this post, please consider clicking the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

February 4, 2022 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , , | 4 Comments

Opening to the Love All Around

This post is inspired by questions from a reader who goes by the initials, PE, who asks The Council how they can give and receive love. PE says they are very closed and there’s a lot of grief in their heart.

The Council says they see the grief in PE’s heart and they recommend working on the heart chakra by sitting a few moments twice each day and picturing a little flame in the heart area. Picture this flame getting bigger and bigger and eventually tuning in to what this increasingly larger flame feels like. This will begin to open your heart.

PE says they struggle with being warm and open with people and this makes them feel lonely and friendless. The Council says PE has abandonment and trust issues and there was a lot of hurt, grief, and sadness from past experiences and past lives. In this lifetime they made a decision to turn these emotions around and feel love and trust again, but it is difficult to do this quickly when you have gone through as much as PE has.

The Council says if PE is uncomfortable giving and receiving love and trusting people, then buy a beautiful plant to take care of. Play music for this plant, water it, sing to it. Show kindness and love to this plant. After you’ve done this for a while perhaps you can have a favorite tree that you can visit every day. Sit with this tree, talk to it, feel the energy the tree gives back to you. Then you can get an animal to express love to. Slowly you’ll begin to trust and let the energy of love in.

PE has heard there are guides and angels around us, but she doesn’t feel their presence and says they don’t know how to connect to it. The Council says PE would connect by doing the exercise with the light in the heart. As you show love to anything – the plant, the tree, the animal – you open your heart and you will begin to feel this connection.

PE says there’s a deep and painful emptiness in their heart, but they really want some kind of connection with other people. PE adds that sometimes they cry for no apparent reason because of so much sadness in their heart that they are unable to explain.

The Council says just by asking this question, PE is in the part of their path where they’ve discovered what they want – the connection with other people and the healing of their heart – so they are exactly where they need to be. And if they follow the steps The Council has suggested, their life will begin to change.

The Council says the vibration you carry attracts people that are a match to that vibration. With a heavy heart, and grief, and sadness, and not trusting, it’s more difficult to bring in the more trusting and gentle souls. As PE does this daily meditation on the heart, they will begin to accept love from the people that want to show it to them, and they will attract more of the kind, loving people they need to help them along their path.

Listen to our entire 6-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for PE and the rest of us, and let us know your feelings.

August 28, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Feelings, Love, Meditation, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , , , , , | 1 Comment


Emergency Instructions: When life’s got you in the dumps, think a better feeling thought.

Sick? Think a better feeling thought.

Upset? Better feeling thought.

Lonely? Better feeling thought.

Now you have the hang of it.
—The Council

December 23, 2010 Posted by | Thought for the Day | , , , , , , | Leave a comment


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