Why Do I Feel This Connection to a Man I Work With?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Loving Star, who was introduced to a man 10 years ago and from the moment I met him I felt a connection on a deeper level. Even though I feel his affection for me, I didn’t show my own affection because I was surprised by the connection itself. Why do I feel this connection?
The Council says this connection is from a lifetime where this man was your father. During most of that life he was caring for you and you had your father up on a pedestal. When you were ready to marry and leave your father it was difficult for him to let you go. In your current lifetime there was a pre-birth spiritual agreement to come back and care for each other again like you did in that former life.
In your current life do you notice the way this man cares? Do you notice if he’s there to guide you in different ways? Does he help you when there’s a problem? Does he help you get ahead? It’s that fatherly feeling that’s coming through in your current life, even though this time around the two of you aren’t father and daughter.
Loving Star says, the reason I’m asking is I started working in his law firm and I feel our connection is much stronger than before. I feel like we’re on a similar wave, but can’t explain why. I feel like this connection is mutual. Why did we meet and what did we agree on as spirits when we entered this life?
You worked for your father in this past life. He ran a bar and you served drinks and food and cleaned up. You brought this aspect of your past life into your current reality where you work for this man again. You’re on the same path as before. Working with this man should make you feel very comfortable.
Loving Star says, I see this man cares about me and helps guide me in my career. Is that why we met? The Council says, yes. Loving Star asks, what other gifts can we pass on to each other? The Council says even though the two of you don’t share a romantic pre-birth plan, there was a plan to be in each other’s lives, to be comfortable with each other, and to help each other. That closeness was wanted. You both wanted to be together again and not leave each other like you did in the past life when you were his daughter and got married. What was spoken about in spirit before the two of you came into this life was that you’d always sort of know where the other person was, and that was enough. That was the comfort that was needed.
Loving Star asks if there’s anything important I should know about us. For example, did we agree that a romantic relationship will develop between us? The Council tells Loving Star you didn’t plan for a romantic relationship, but life always comes along and gets in the way and gives you additional experiences. If a romantic relationship is something you both feel you want and you both think about this constantly, you’ll create this, and that’s fine. A romantic relationship wasn’t something you planned for, but you can create it.
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Why am I Afraid of My Mother, and What Is Her Role in My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initials, PE, who asks about their distressing relationship with their mother. PE says their mother triggers a lot of anxiety in them, which PE doesn’t understand. What is their mother’s role in PE’s life? PE doesn’t feel love about her the way some people feel about their mothers, just fear and sadness.
The Council says there’s a strong connection between the two of you to another lifetime in India. In that life your mother was also in poor physical health. She was unable to walk and in a lot of pain. She brought her poor health into her current lifetime to try and heal it.
In the lifetime in India you were a servant to your mother and you were treated very badly. You were beat many times. In her current life your mother wanted to be around the same souls that were around in the lifetime in India to try to create love between her and these souls.
Unfortunately your mother had you killed in the life in India because you weren’t able to fulfill all her wishes. The Council can imagine your fear of your mother in your current lifetime would be great if you brought this fear in order to heal it. Can you let go of some of this fear and talk to your mother about how you feel around her and how you’d like to change that? Can you get her to talk about her feelings? You want this in your current life, but The Council doesn’t see you being quite ready yet.
The fear you carry is very real, but in your current life you wanted to try and change the relationship for the better. Is it possible for you to show your mother some caring and compassion? Don’t keep yourself around her all the time because it’s good for you to pull away, meditate, and bring in the light and good feelings for yourself. Can you limit your time when you see your mother? And in this time, no matter how she acts, can you show a little caring? This will begin to change your relationship.
Don’t blame yourself or feel bad because you’re afraid of your mother in your current life. Once you realize you can change the way you perceive this relationship – even if your mother decides not to change for whatever reason because she’s unable to – when you go forward and show love and compassion no matter what, you will grow. And your mother’s spirit will experience your loving energy and sometimes this is enough to begin the change.
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What’s the Purpose of Nazi Holocaust Victim’s Suffering?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named Juan, who asks if the spirits of the Nazi Holocaust victims were aware they agreed to be worked, tortured, and starved to death?
The Council says the spirits of Holocaust victims all volunteered to come into that lifetime to play those roles. They knew in spirit before they came there was going to be a mass crisis to teach millions of people what happens when you aren’t in the vibration of love.
The victims knew ahead of time it was going to be a difficult life, but they also knew that lifetime would create opportunities for learning for every soul who lived during that time. And the history that was made will be passed down to future generations who weren’t there to experience it.
Many spirits who where Holocaust victims held the light for everyone who was there. Many came to be with the children who were victims. These brave souls had no idea what they were going to face in that lifetime, but they knew they’d come through it with as much love and caring as possible.
Juan asks The Council, if the Holocaust victims agreed to the horrors they faced, what was the purpose of going through this? The Council says the purpose was to bring in more love and caring and to learn that no matter how bad things get, you have the choice how you’ll face your challenges. The victims found a way to feel love and take care of each other, and to believe more in something greater than themselves. And this lesson spread throughout the world.
Juan asks if the Holocaust was due to a karmic debt and The Council says there is no karmic debt. It was just souls that realized in this world that’s being created, what can we do to bring more love in?
Juan asks what possible benefit can come from the atrocities of the Holocaust? The Council says the benefit that we learn from the experience, never forget what happened, and learn you are so much more than what you think.
Juan’s last question is, what is the purpose of coming to this material dimension to suffer pain, anguish, and agony. The Council says we don’t come to Earth to suffer these things; we come to have a good time. And even though we go through horrible times, when we decided to go through this in spirit we weren’t afraid of it because we knew we’d be coming home to spirit again. This is something we’re going through to learn from. How will we help each other out while we’re here and what will we take back to spirit with us?
The Council closes by reminding us that you always come into the Earth reality with the thought that no matter what happens, I will find a way to show love and change the reality to a more loving one. What can I do to face these challenges? Will I remember who I really am as a spirit in a physical body? Will I choose joy and love? Will I be compassionate no matter what I’m going through? And when I bring more love into this reality, when my time there is over, I’ll have done what I set out to do.
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Relationship Advice
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Kelly, who’s looking for guidance on how to create a loving, supportive relationship with her current boyfriend, or whether she should let the relationship go. And she asks about her soul agreement with this boyfriend and about any past lives they share.
The Council says if Kelly was in a tortured relationship they would never advise her to stay in it. If this was the case they would advise preparing herself by growing until she was ready to leave. But if there’s the smallest hope this relationship will work, The Council says it’s Kelly’s job to hold onto that hope and not to focus on this relationship’s problems and what’s going wrong. They advise her to do the work to make herself happy and more understanding so she can grow.
The Council advises Kelly to learn from this relationship. And more than anything else they suggest focusing on her happiness, not focusing on her boyfriend changing. Find anything in the relationship she can feel grateful for. As she focuses on the littlest things to be grateful for she’ll begin to see more and more of this happening in the relationship. This isn’t because her boyfriend is changing, but because Kelly is bringing in the vibration of gratitude for what’s in her life.
The Council says if Kelly lets the fact that people around her don’t understand her boyfriend or don’t understand why she’s in this relationship, she’ll have difficulty changing her thoughts about the relationship. These people aren’t living with Kelly and perhaps they don’t see the things she can find to be grateful for.
As Kelly finds love, patience, and happiness in this relationship, that’s how these things begins to grow. Don’t focus on changing her boyfriend and what he must learn or how he has to be. Allow him to be how he is. That’s how Kelly stays in this relationship and gets it to be the way she wants.
The Council says Kelly and her boyfriend have shared other lives together where they’ve played different roles and some were good lifetimes and some weren’t. In their current lifetime Kelly and her boyfriend thought it would be wonderful to come together and have their relationship work out, but The Council doesn’t see this happening yet because Kelly hasn’t created this yet. The Council says Kelly is capable of creating the relationship she desires by focusing on: what she appreciates, her gratitude, her love, and every happy thing that happens. The Council says it’s not necessary to let this relationship go.
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June 22, 2011 Thought for the Day
When you worry about people you care about,
Others will tell you this is understandable.
We say: Think of the people you care about
As you would like them to be,
And then feel the joy and relief
These thoughts bring.
—The Council