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Relationship Advice

This post is inspired by questions from a reader named, Kelly, who’s looking for guidance on how to create a loving, supportive relationship with her current boyfriend, or whether she should let the relationship go. And she asks about her soul agreement with this boyfriend and about any past lives they share.

The Council says if Kelly was in a tortured relationship they would never advise her to stay in it. If this was the case they would advise preparing herself by growing until she was ready to leave. But if there’s the smallest hope this relationship will work, The Council says it’s Kelly’s job to hold onto that hope and not to focus on this relationship’s problems and what’s going wrong. They advise her to do the work to make herself happy and more understanding so she can grow.

The Council advises Kelly to learn from this relationship. And more than anything else they suggest focusing on her happiness, not focusing on her boyfriend changing. Find anything in the relationship she can feel grateful for. As she focuses on the littlest things to be grateful for she’ll begin to see more and more of this happening in the relationship. This isn’t because her boyfriend is changing, but because Kelly is bringing in the vibration of gratitude for what’s in her life.

The Council says if Kelly lets the fact that people around her don’t understand her boyfriend or don’t understand why she’s in this relationship, she’ll have difficulty changing her thoughts about the relationship. These people aren’t living with Kelly and perhaps they don’t see the things she can find to be grateful for.

As Kelly finds love, patience, and happiness in this relationship, that’s how these things begins to grow. Don’t focus on changing her boyfriend and what he must learn or how he has to be. Allow him to be how he is. That’s how Kelly stays in this relationship and gets it to be the way she wants.

The Council says Kelly and her boyfriend have shared other lives together where they’ve played different roles and some were good lifetimes and some weren’t. In their current lifetime Kelly and her boyfriend thought it would be wonderful to come together and have their relationship work out, but The Council doesn’t see this happening yet because Kelly hasn’t created this yet. The Council says Kelly is capable of creating the relationship she desires by focusing on: what she appreciates, her gratitude, her love, and every happy thing that happens. The Council says it’s not necessary to let this relationship go.

Listen to our entire 15-minute session with The Council (below)to hear all their guidance for Kelly and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about this.

September 19, 2017 - Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Love, Other Lifetimes, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , ,


  1. Hi, Ivygreat. We’ll ask The Council for any advice that might help you in your relationship and publish the recording in a post when it’s ready. Hang in there. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

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    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 25, 2017

  2. Dear Cynthia,Bob and The Council,
    I am in a relationship and i feel like am forcing myself to him so much because he hurts me all the time and he has a lot of pride. Every time i tell him that he did something and i was offended so we need to talk, he tells me that i like talking and he just twists my words until i end up feeling worse. I don’t have a job and i can’t go back home because of personal reasons too. So please just help me out am so confused.

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    Comment by ivygreat | September 25, 2017

  3. Hi, Exhausted Soul. We’ll ask The Council about your housemate and post the recording of our session when it’s ready. Love, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 25, 2017

  4. Dear Cynthia, Bob and The Council,
    I recently went through a lot of grief with a housemate. She appeared to be a nice person, however, she has ripped me off financially and suppressed me while living with her. She said she is intuitive and that’s why she chose me from the others to have me in her home, but she was so mean to me. For someone that believes so heavily in Karma, I don’t understand why she treated me this way. I have a strong feeling that we had a past life together, and for that reason we have crossed paths. Please tell me the reason she has turned on me so badly? I don’t feel I did anything wrong and I am still in disbelief about the whole situation. love and Light, Exhausted Soul.

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    Comment by Exhausted Soul | September 20, 2017

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