Why am I Afraid of My Mother, and What Is Her Role in My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the initials, PE, who asks about their distressing relationship with their mother. PE says their mother triggers a lot of anxiety in them, which PE doesn’t understand. What is their mother’s role in PE’s life? PE doesn’t feel love about her the way some people feel about their mothers, just fear and sadness.
The Council says there’s a strong connection between the two of you to another lifetime in India. In that life your mother was also in poor physical health. She was unable to walk and in a lot of pain. She brought her poor health into her current lifetime to try and heal it.
In the lifetime in India you were a servant to your mother and you were treated very badly. You were beat many times. In her current life your mother wanted to be around the same souls that were around in the lifetime in India to try to create love between her and these souls.
Unfortunately your mother had you killed in the life in India because you weren’t able to fulfill all her wishes. The Council can imagine your fear of your mother in your current lifetime would be great if you brought this fear in order to heal it. Can you let go of some of this fear and talk to your mother about how you feel around her and how you’d like to change that? Can you get her to talk about her feelings? You want this in your current life, but The Council doesn’t see you being quite ready yet.
The fear you carry is very real, but in your current life you wanted to try and change the relationship for the better. Is it possible for you to show your mother some caring and compassion? Don’t keep yourself around her all the time because it’s good for you to pull away, meditate, and bring in the light and good feelings for yourself. Can you limit your time when you see your mother? And in this time, no matter how she acts, can you show a little caring? This will begin to change your relationship.
Don’t blame yourself or feel bad because you’re afraid of your mother in your current life. Once you realize you can change the way you perceive this relationship – even if your mother decides not to change for whatever reason because she’s unable to – when you go forward and show love and compassion no matter what, you will grow. And your mother’s spirit will experience your loving energy and sometimes this is enough to begin the change.
Listen to our entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for PE and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about it.
Hi, P.E. We’re glad this session resonated with you. No need to feel guilty. We’re glad we could help. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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We’re so glad our post helped, P.E.
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Thank you so much Cynthia, Bob and The Council for responding to my question. I am so grateful. Everything you say resonates so well with me (in this life time she struggles with walking as well) and helps me makes sense of other things as well. Indeed I made a point of minimizing time spent with her a while ago but I felt guilty. I am so grateful for the validation afters years of feeling like I was being irrational and ashamed for actually feeling bad. Thank you so much.
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