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Feeling Guilty Over My Mother’s Recent Passing

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Darla, whose mother recently transitioned to spirit with Alzheimer’s Disease. Darla cared for her mother at home up until the last two weeks of her life when she was moved to an assisted living facility. She says the disease left my mother unable to eat or drink, but her memory was intact and she was able to talk to me almost until the very end.

The Council asks Darla if she’s able to appreciate what she’s gone through and that you offered to care for your mother during a time that was so difficult for you?

Darla knows her mother is at peace now, but she suffered tremendously the last few months, often lying on the floor crying in pain. I felt helpless as far as helping my mother get better and it was torture seeing her suffer.

The Council says many people come into this reality to learn about suffering, or to teach someone else about it. Sometimes as they go through this suffering they might tell you that they know you can help them, but you’re not doing it. This is just to bring the lesson of suffering further into your reality so you can feel the guilt, and learn there’s no purpose for it except to help you grow in another direction.

Seeing your mother suffer and knowing it was difficult for you, what did you experience from this? Instead of feeling guilty that maybe you haven’t done enough, focus on what you did do. This is very important for you.

Darla still feels the heavy weight of guilt in her heart as she chose to honor her mother’s wishes to die without any artificial means of sustaining her life. And The Council asks, why would you feel guilty when you’re doing exactly what your mother wanted?

Sometimes that feeling of not doing enough or trying to stop another person’s suffering is because you don’t understand the full experience of what’s going on here with soul growth and soul experiences. So you learn from the suffering.

Before you came into this reality from spirit you both agreed to experience your mother’s difficult passing. You did exactly what was supposed to be done by having your mother go through her life and ending her life the way she wanted. This was to push you forward so you can learn to experience the love you showed her rather than the guilt.

We’re all here to bring love into every situation. The love you showed by being able to stay and be a part of her passing, and help where you were able, and let your mother have her way and make her transition the way she wanted, shows you are a brave soul for going through what you’ve chosen to do.

This is what you wanted to learn. This was your mother’s way of teaching you to realize who you really are. You are both spirits who agreed to go through this difficult passing, and this would give you the opportunity to bring love into this reality. Take your thoughts and change what you focus on and look at all you’ve done.

By learning to let go of the guilt, your mother, who’s in spirit now, will be overjoyed to know that what you had planned had worked. You wanted to bring love into yourself and feel good about yourself. Realize you helped your mother, who wanted to experience this difficult passing and she wanted to see how the people around her would handle this situation. Your mother wanted to teach you to go through this challenge and when it’s over to realize what a great human being you are to go through this so beautifully.

The Council says they feel the last two days of your mother’s life she was more back in spirit than in physical reality. A lot of what you saw your mother going through during this time wasn’t fully experienced by her because she was already with us.

Darla asks if her mother forgives her for not being able to help her. The Council says this is where you’re wrong. There is nothing you need forgiveness for. Your mother loves you so much and she’s so proud you’ve fulfilled what you both wanted. Your mother has a wonderful feeling in spirit that you were both able to pull off her passing the way she wanted it.

Darla asks if her relationship issues with her mother from past lives are resolved. The Council says there’s more to come. This particular challenge is something that both of you wanted to experience to help each other grow in your current lifetime. There will be future lifetimes you’ll share with your mother and work through additional relationship issues.

The Council applauds Darla for what she’s gone through and how she’s handled it and followed what you both planned to the tee.

The Council closes by thanking Cynthia and Bob for having the ability to take their information and have so many people be open to it, and get understanding from it, and get relief from what another spirit has gone through.


Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Darla and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question.

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February 17, 2021 - Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Helping Others, Love, Other Lifetimes, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , ,

4 Comments »

  1. I can’t thank you both (and the council) enough! I will work on shedding this guilty and concentrate on the good that came of this and the love that grew. I didn’t mention that my mom and I had had a very difficult relationship yet some forgiveness came about for both of us a few years ago. When she was dying, I showed her more love (and vice versa)–than I did my entire lifetime with her! So what you said is correct–her dying process brought the love out even stronger!

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    Comment by She's a Maineiac | February 18, 2021 | Reply

    • We’re glad we were able to do this reading for you, Darla. Glad you were able to experience some forgiveness and more love at the end.

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      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | February 19, 2021 | Reply

  2. What a beautiful message.

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    Comment by mariner2mother | February 18, 2021 | Reply


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