Ask The Council

What will you ask Spirit?


Bob & Cynthia

Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.

Ask The Council a Question

If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.

Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.

The Council

Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.

The Council’s Basic Guidance

Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:

1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.

You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.

Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.

Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.

2) You are the creator of all that you experience.

As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.

If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.

3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.

You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.

Finding Your Way Around the Blog

Home Page

The left-hand column on the Home page contain a long chronological series of posts with the most recent on top. Each post begins with a title. Clicking on a post title will take you to a blog page dedicated to that particular post. Following each post is a Like button where you can indicate to us and other readers if you like the post.

The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.

Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.

At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.

Blog Features

The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:

Email Subscription: Use this to subscribe to blog posts. You will receive an email notification with a link back to the blog each time a new post is published.

Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.

Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.

Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.

Navigation Bar

The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:

Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.

Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.

Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.

Bob & Cynthia


  1. I am compelled to ask The Council a question. I felt love and a soul connection to my partner, but he has pulled away. He betrayed our relationship with another. Can you please tell me what is going on and whether we might reconciling? Thank you.

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    Comment by Janice | September 19, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Janice. We’ll ask The Council about your relationship and post their response as soon as we can.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | September 20, 2016 | Reply

  2. Hi,

    A year ago I had an abortion which made me clinically depressed. The sadness faded away greatly but I still have problems with depression. I feel like I have a chemical imbalance in my brain as a result of the trauma and I am not quite sure how to fix it. I am scared that I will start having depression for the rest of my life. But I am not comfortable with taking antidepressants. Please give me an idea on how to get back to normal and avoid relapses. How can I have a regular sleep pattern?

    Since the abortion I go to sleep everyday at 4 in the morning and wake up at 2 pm. Then I have no energy to do anything and have a constant headache all day. I cry every day and feel like I am living way under my potential. This abortion destroyed my mind and I want my self back. The abortion itself was not that traumatic, but the experience at the abortion clinic still brings me to an anxiety attack. I want to let go of those dark moments and move on but don’t know how to. And I still feel like that baby wanted to live as my child. Will he ever return to me?

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    Comment by Sarah | September 3, 2016 | Reply

  3. Ahh thank you 🙂 so sorry I wonder why I never found it before. I’ve had a good read and listen and am going to try and meditate and work on my mind being fear based. I hope I get to the end of this and wonder why I was so worried.

    Thanks so much

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    Comment by Laura | August 28, 2016 | Reply

  4. Hi,

    I posted a while back but never received a reply 😦 I am pregnant with number 2 and just feel completely anxious and scared about it. I fell pregnant back in 2014 and instantly regretted it and then miscarried. After the miscarriage I decided I didn’t want my daughter to be alone and it’s taken 18 months to fall again. Ever since finding out I feel the same regret and have wanted to miscarry. I feel awful as I should feel lucky after all my fertility issues but I have a massive phobia of being sick and anything medical and scared of c section again (which I think I will do)

    Why do I feel such regret and fear over something I wanted. I’m so scared of ruining our lovely life and starting all over again. Can the council tell me this is the right thing for us as a family and shed any light. Will I get through this? Will I regret this baby if it turns our life upside down?

    I hate feeling this way and praying for something to go wrong but I’m so scared of doing it all again to the point it’s all consuming.

    Thanks so much

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    Comment by Laura | August 28, 2016 | Reply

  5. Hi there. I’m writing after endlessly searching for spiritual advice on abortions. I found you all through a Google search, on “spiritual healing after an abortion”. I found that you’ve discussed the matter before and you were able to answer a lot of my questions, but I have one very specific question. Am I able to invite that same soul back to us?

    I’m not sure why I got pregnant when I did. I’m not sure HOW I chose to terminate the pregnancy, and I’m not sure when I’ll move on. But I’ve suffered terribly, with guilt and sadness since.

    I have a five yr old son, have miscarried once and have had two abortions. The first was during my teenage years. A decision I’ve always felt secure with. But this past year, at the age of 32, recently separated and in a new relationship with a man who “has” a 1% chance of getting anyone pregnant…I in fact became pregnant. I made the decision based on everyone else. Especially the father. I didn’t want to trap him in any way. I didn’t want to hurt my son or my ex husband, but I wanted that baby. And yet I still sent him back to God.

    I believe deeply in soul agreements and the lessons that come from them. I’m certain God was with me during that time, but I’m still so very sad about it. I’m afraid we’ll never have that chance again to be parents to that child or any other. And since the termination, I’ve felt a great need to become a mother again.

    Please. I would very much like to know if that soul will make a return to Adam and me. I’ve looked to source for the answer myself, but I’m too clouded with sadness and confusion. Thank you. What a gift you’re able to give. Thank you!


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    Comment by Wendy Aronsson | August 26, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi again! I hope I’m not bothering you and I don’t mean to be impatient, but I have another question to add. If not this soul, then will there be another? I’m really wondering about a baby in my future, and I’m wondering about my agreement with Adam. Because I’ve been quite insecure with him, since this whole thing. Although, I want more than anything to have a real chance with this man. Which is a first for me. I’ve always had a partner but never one that I really wanted to create a LIFE with. And because of this, I’m scared silly. I’m also scared to bring up the fact that I really do wish to become a mother again someday in the near-ish future. Please tell me if I’m meant to walk the parental/life partner walk with this man. And what I can do to ensure that I’m being my most loving and supportive self, to myself and to Adam? Thank you!!!

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      Comment by Wendy Aronsson | September 2, 2016 | Reply

  6. Hello, Bob and Cynthia!

    First off — thank you for all you do in helping people on this site. I would be forever grateful if you could ask The Council about my current job/career issues. I’ve been a stay-at-home mom for 14 years. My kids are the lights of my life, and I love them dearly. Being a mom was a dream of mine that came true.

    Now I want to re-enter the workforce. However, I have huge anxieties and insecurities about exactly what type of job I would be suited for, one that would bring me a little peace knowing I’m making a real difference in this life. I have a good sense of what my talents are, but not sure how to make this a reality. Like most people, I want to know what my main purpose is in this life. I feel like I’m lost and not traveling down the right road toward genuine fulfillment. Any guidance would be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much for your time!

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    Comment by Dar | August 4, 2016 | Reply

  7. Oh yes please post the answer…that is what I meant ! ….I just wanted to make sure I could read the reply somewhere….thank-you so very much…… may never know how much this answer will change my life either way…bless you for this site and all involved in helping people like me who would never get an answer from any other way…thank-you from my heart……blessings your way……..Linda

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    Comment by Linda | August 2, 2016 | Reply

  8. Please send me an answer to my question as I forgot to hit the button below to send it to my email at [email blocked]. thankyou Linda


    Comment by Linda | August 1, 2016 | Reply

  9. I am asking a question as can a person with psychic abilities see a person’s past forever ? Before I found God and before I came into the Light I was involved with some occult rituals……the amazing “Chris” occult I believe….he did a sexual energy ritual on me that has forever devastated me……people with psychic abilities see this and tell me that I make them sick!!!!!!I do not have any part of that life anymore as I am on my spiritual journey with God but cannot seem to elevate this from my being !! I have forgiven him and myself but it seems to lay on me for all to judge ! Can it be removed from me so I can go forward as it seems to be a block for many areas of my life including relationships with people……will that dark area ever leave my past….will people ever stop seeing my past ??? What can I do ?? Can you help me to remove this from my energetic field ?? Desperate for answers …….please !!!

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    Comment by Linda | August 1, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Linda. We’ll ask The Council your questions, but we won’t send you an email. We’ll post their response like we do the other questions on our site. Let us know if you’d rather we don’t answer your questions.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | August 1, 2016 | Reply

  10. Hi There,

    I am pregnant maybe two months now. I am scheduled to have an abortion next week. After reading Beth’s story on abortion on your page I am enlightened and feel at ease. I had a good cry last night wondering if this was right or if karma was going to get me bad later on in life for me or for my one year old son.

    My question is, will this abortion affect my son sooner or later?

    I am 27 and this is my 3rd abortion. I had my first when I was 17 and one again when I was 18. I always wondered about these souls and if they came back to me someway, somehow…maybe a niece or nephew and maybe even my son. I struggle with my spirituality a lot and would love some advice or clarification. Thank you. ❤️

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    Comment by Tracy | July 21, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Tracy. Based on The Council’s previous guidance, we expect how you think and feel about your abortion next week will create whether it affects your son. Stay in loving thoughts about all souls involved in this abortion. When we get a chance we’ll ask The Council your question and post a recording of their response.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | July 22, 2016 | Reply

  11. Hi Bob and Cynthia,

    I have been trying for a baby for 18 months and have recently found out I’m pregnant. Ever since I found out I am filled with fear and dread that is a mistake. This also happened 18 months ago but I miscarried. I would never abort but keeping asking the soul to leave as I’m afraid of upsetting our lovely life and that it’s not right for us as a family . I have a gorgeous daughter and wanted another for a sibling for her but now I am so scared and feel I want to rewind. Can you ask council if this soul will leave and why when I tried for so long and wanted it so bad I then feel fear and regret. I am so confused how I change from wanting it to then regretting it. I hope it’s not a long wait as my minds in some turmoil not knowing. Thank you so much for helping

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    Comment by Anon | July 7, 2016 | Reply

  12. Thankyou so much for taking the time to read this!

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    Comment by maria gerhardy | July 5, 2016 | Reply

  13. Hi Cynthia and Bob, I am interested in knowing about my past lives. If there is anything you can tell me, that would be fantastic! Also I need some guidance with my spiritual path. I have been advised by a psychic that I am a healer with empathic ability. Do you see me doing this as a career in Adelaide and will I develop any other senses? Thank you for your consideration. Blessings to you both.

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    Comment by maria | July 3, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Maria. As soon as we have a chance we’ll ask The Council about your past lives, whether they see you doing healing work as a career, and whether you’ll develop any other senses.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | July 4, 2016 | Reply

  14. Hello,
    I wonder whether I made the right choice of aborting my pregnancy (since I got pressured by others). Will that soul come back as my future child? I find myself obsessing about how he would look like and that he would have preferred to be alive now, not dead. Is the latter true? How do I remove those thoughts of regret? They are tormenting me. Will I be able to have a living child in the future? That also worries me.

    Thank you,



    Comment by Anonymous | June 30, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Laura. Good questions. We’ll ask The Council when we have time and publish the session on the blog.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | July 4, 2016 | Reply

  15. What if the path that your soul “chose” in order to achieve spiritual growth is actually inhibiting it? Is there any way to break the contract once incarnation has begun? I am in my mid-thirties, have tried everything to resolve my situation, and think about killing myself every day. This body/life is harmful to my soul. How do I get out without killing myself? My “higher self”/”spirit guide”/”God”/”whatever” does not seem to care about me or my suffering.

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    Comment by Cait | June 26, 2016 | Reply

  16. Hi! I’m excited to have found your website, and am loving listening to The Council’s interesting answers to people’s questions. I’m hoping maybe you could help answer my question? It’s been upsetting me for a very long time.

    My beloved husband and the father/step-father of my children is verbally and emotionally abusive towards me (and towards his step-children). It’s taken me a very long time to realise that this is the problem in our relationship – that he is a very unhappy, angry man, who doesn’t know how to be in a relationship, doesn’t know how to be loving and kind, and doesn’t know unconditional love. (previously I believed him when he said there was something wrong with me and that I was the cause of our problems and the cause of his unhappiness and anger).

    I’ve come to the point where most women are told to leave, as it’s not healthy for me or my children to be exposed to abuse, especially on a doaily basis. I’m scared of him and scared to be myself. But I have a very strong feeling that we are meant to be together, and that being with him is exactly the place I need to be, in order to grow as a person. I have low self worth, am terrified of conflict, and find it impossible to be happy if others aren’t happy with me. I believe I’m with the right person to find a way to be happy in myself no matter how he feels, and to find my own happiness and strength in the face of his anger, depression and bullying.

    My questions are: 1. Am I right to stay with him? 2. Is it ok to allow my children to live in this environment, while I learn my lessons of strength?
    And most importantly! 3. How do I get through this and help my children get through it? What I mean is this… living with this man is a daily struggle because I’m not yet in a place where I can be happy when he’s not. It’s so hard being yelled at, snapped at, blamed, ignored, criticised, and devalued by someone who means the world to me.

    No matter how he treats me, I feel unconditional love and adoration for him. I need to get to the place where I don’t care whether he feels the same about me or not, and to not feel the need to change him into the loving supportive husband I wish he was, and feel I deserve.

    I want to be able to enjoy being around someone I adore, instead of allowing his hateful words to pierce my soul, torture me, and deplete my self worth.

    Can you help me please?


    Comment by Jolanda | May 13, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Jolanda. We received an answer to your questions from The Council this past Saturday. Your questions were #3 of 3. Please allow us some time to answer these other questions, then we’ll post your session and our comments.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | May 16, 2016 | Reply

      • Thank you so much for your answers. I most appreciate your loving responses. I didn’t mention in my questions that I have been listening a lot to Abraham’s advice on relationships, which is what led me to ask you these questions.

        Prior to listening to Abraham, I was certain that leaving this relationship was the only choice I had. But I heard Abraham say over and over again the following: (to paraphrase) “Don’t get out of a relationship until you can be strong and happy within yourself, no matter what is going on around you. If someone makes you go out of the Vortex, just get back in. Don’t let someone upset your ability to be happy and be in the Vortex.”

        That resonated with me so much, and I realised that my problem is really myself (unable to be happy when others are not). Abraham cautions that if we don’t get ourselves right before leaving a relationship, we’ll just get into the same type of relationship again and again, until we learn our lesson.

        I would love to know your opinion on this, considering my own situation? Your answers were fairly certain that I had learned all I need to learn. But I know I haven’t learned how to be happy while others are unhappy, which is why I feel that my husband is the absolute best partner I could possibly have at this time. Because he’s in my face every day, being unhappy with me, and pushing my buttons. What better way to learn to get happy no matter what is going on around me?

        Regarding our children, if I stay with him AND succeed in being happy no matter what, won’t they learn from my example?

        As you can hear from my response, leaving him will tear my heart out. I have already given up on 2 other relationships, and given one child a broken home. I really don’t want to give up this time. I want to be able to give my children a happy home with their natural father (and step father), if that is at all possible? What do you think?

        Thanks again ❤


        Comment by Jolanda | May 23, 2016 | Reply

  17. As per Anita Moorjani, we should love ourselves. This is the only recommonded thing. But, she denies about forced positive thinking by suppressing negative thoughts. Now my question is how to practice to love self (Naturally, not forcefully) ?


    Comment by Sujata | May 10, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Sujata. We did a session with The Council this past Saturday and received an answer to your question and two others. As soon as we can we’ll post the session and our response. We’re working on the questions in the order we received them. Yours is second. Thanks for your excellent question.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | May 16, 2016 | Reply

  18. Hi Bob and Cynthia and the council. Thank you for the Private Phone hook up; it gave me great insight into a past relationship. I have listened to my recording many times, but this has also brought more questions to the surface.

    You described a not letting go and a wanting to understand, and a great need to heal this on both parts. I have a constant sense of urgency about this in agreement on both parties.

    These two past lives you described before I said anything about the fact I had seen them. One of us coming and going as I worked away and in a village life around the days of knights and Dames our life was a simple village life and the other life where we practiced the dark arts, and this woman’s mistrust of me cost me my life. What did I do for her to act in such a way?

    In both these lives you described a great love between us, but the coming and going is what caused the mistrust and the fear of being able to feel the love. You say there were many more past lives. Can you tell me any more to bring understanding?

    After sometime in this relationship in this lifetime I started to have dreams and visions of this woman wanting to spiritually harm me and I felt unsafe. I did not share with her all of them and on one occasion she told me she felt like something was dark inside her and it increased my fear. I started to protect myself spiritually and became very wary. Am I correct in saying we were connecting with that past life?

    I do understand that the Third Party Male, an ex-boyfriend best friend role, was to to bring this mistrust and fear by manipulation. I was constantly defending intentions that were perceived wrongly. I now believe he brought this in to heal our mistrust of the past lives and does this with others she is around.

    This coming and going and not knowing what was going on as well as so much confusion left both of us in a state of anxiety. We had a lot of laughter and fun at times and seemed to have telepathy, and 11:11 would come up everywhere. One day I opened my front door to greet her and it was like I was hit in the heart with a small electric shock. I spoke to a medium about this and all she said that is amazing you can even feel that.

    And the day I told her I loved her and meant it, she appeared to physically retracted like the words went into her or she couldn’t accept them. What do you make of this?

    I was sitting out the front and my phone was in the bedroom and she called me and said you just tried to ring. I said no I didn’t. My phone is in the bedroom. When I went in to look, sure enough on my phone was a record of it calling her and I wasn’t anywhere near it. I did ask another medium this and they said it was spirit letting you know you are connected. What do you think and why is this connection so strong between us.

    She also said we were supposed to heal this in this lifetime. I’ve been to cut cords and have barb hooks removed by some of the best that work in this field for some relief for a couple of weeks. Then its back like something is pushing for a mutual understanding of it all. That’s what I keep getting. And if it comes we are just going to have a greater awareness and understanding about us individually and our connection. Is this true?

    Through this I have gained a greater understanding of my part and a willingness to admit, some things I could have handled in a more loving way. I don’t know if I could have communicated better, but I was confused at the time by all the events that transpired and became disconnected with how I felt and shut down emotionally.

    I have desire to bring healing and love to the situation. This was the bomb I needed under me at the time to bring humility and shift me to a more humbled being as the more I know the less I feel I really know. Thanks with much Love and respect. D


    Comment by Aquarius 4 | May 2, 2016 | Reply

  19. Hi Cynthia and Bob,

    I have always felt like I never belonged to this earth. One spiritual healer once told me I have not reincarnated on earth previously, and that I am a volunteer soul who comes to help others earth. Also she told me I am half Crystal half Indigo. All what she told me resonates with me, but I am not too sure about it.

    I have a strong connection to Germany and whenever I visited I feel like I have been born there plenty of times. Is the latter true?

    My mother also had 2 miscarriages before I was born and I strongly feel I was the soul who wanted to incarnate. My mother and I have a very strong connection. She once read I am her soul mate and that I am here so she learns from me. Is the latter also precise?

    Throughout my life I suffered immensely, but also felt incredible happiness because I overcome my problems. I never understood why the following things happened to me, and it hurts me that other people had such stable lives and loving families.

    In Argentina (where I come from), as my parents and whole family were fighting on a daily basis, I developed really bad OCD and depression. My sister was physically and emotionally abusive beyond measure and I was a witness of her anorexia and and emotional instability (borderline personality disorder). When I was 12, my parents decided that we had move to Spain due to the financial crisis in Argentina. When we arrived in Spain, life got unbearably painful. I suffered from severe bullying for almost 10 years in a row in school.

    The first years in Spain were absolute hell. My parents were emotionally neglectful and very depressed as well. My father started to travel and I did not see him for 4 years. We all felt like he abandoned us. Every time he came back home he shouted at us and told us that we did not deserve to live.

    I started developing suicidal thoughts at the age of 14 and although my older brother (who was 10 years older) saw me taking knives to my room in order to take my own life, he never tried to help me or even talked about it. My older sister saw me getting heavily bullied and never stood up for me. My father once beat me up when I was home an hour late. I was so hurt that I could not talk to him for a year.

    I failed all my courses in high school and my life was an absolute turmoil. Even teachers disliked me because I was a foreigner in a very conservative Spanish neighborhood. People called me names and I developed intense social phobia. My siblings were way older, but they never ever tried to help me. They seemed to reject me as a sister. I only wanted to die so I could find my real family in heaven and not be just an outsider. All I wanted was a family who accepted me and protected me. I was so fragile, yet no one really cared…

    One day, at the age of 15 I said, “This is it,” and started to overcome everything on my own. I quit the antidepressants that I took for 4 months, which were making me emotionally numb. I actively stood up against my bullies and they stopped torturing me psychologically. I studied so much and got the best grades in my class at the age of 15. Teachers could not believe it. I was that student who failed and never attended school. My parents finally divorced so there were no more fights at home. I healed my OCD on my own. I developed a business at the age of 19 which now supports my mother (she does not have a job and without these business she would be homeless).

    My mother and I became business partners and got really connected. I started to exercise and got over my depression. I started to run and get really athletic. I even saw a bully at the gym and he could not believe that I was running so fast on the treadmill, since I was the slow and fragile loser. I learnt English on my own and then got accepted for a University in Holland, which is in the world’s top 100 universities.

    I finished my Bachelor’s degree a year ago (at age of 22) and got a very good GPA. Now I am studying my Master program in Holland. In Holland I got over my social phobia, became quite proficient in English and learnt a bit of Dutch and German. I got an 8 on my thesis and sent it my English high school teacher who said to me that I would never succeed in life. I made so many friends and there are people who truly love me and accept me for who I am. None of them would ever imagine that I was a suicidal person who had almost severe OCD, was bullied for 10 years and belonged to a highly dysfunctional family. I am able to say that I am extremely proud of myself because I have overcome SO MUCH.

    I still feel really resentful at those people who had a much easier life and things just work fine for them. I gained so much wisdom because of the pain I have suffered and the lessons I learnt as a result. I feel like I have been put in such hardships because I have many lessons to teach to OTHERS, especially my bullies and my relatives. I forgave my bullies and believe they were as broken as I was. My father said that when he suffers, he remembers that I overcome so many things so he can as well.

    I don’t want to suffer so much anymore. I want to know whether my spirit guides know how much I achieved or whether there is anyone who is proud of me in the spiritual world. The relationship with my siblings and parents is almost healed, but I still resent them from having abandoned me as a child and teenager. I had to be extremely strong and do everything on my own, otherwise I would probably not be here on earth. My mother did not care whether I went to school or not, or whether I studied or not. No one really cared about me.

    I know I have come to this earth to help others, but I am so extremely sensitive. I want to achieve my purpose in this planet, but I don’t know how to do that anymore. I still feel like I have become emotionally unstable as a result of past traumas. How do I get more stable so I can help others?

    Thank you a lot!
    I send you my love,


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    Comment by Delfos | February 29, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Guadalupe. It sounds like you’ve managed to turn your life around. Congratulations. As soon as we get a chance we’ll ask The Council your questions and publish the answers in a post.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | March 2, 2016 | Reply

  20. Hello,

    I had an abortion 3 months ago and it is really haunting me. I want to know whether it was pre-planned and whether the soul of that embryo I aborted is my spirit guide and close to me when I think of him. After the abortion I started to see number sequences everywhere, like 11:11, 12:12, 14:14. What do they mean? Does that soul love me and plan to return to me? Were they disappointed that I aborted him? Is he doing well now? I miss him and ir hurts me so much that I will never get to meet him. How could I contact him? I want him to know that I love him forever and that I am sorry. Which lessons did I have to learn as a result of the abortion?

    Thanks in advance!
    Lots of love,


    Comment by Guadalupe | February 2, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Guadalupe. The Council tells us all of what happens to us in our physical life is pre-planned by our spiritual part. They’ve also said there isn’t any disappointment on the part of the soul being aborted. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your questions and post their reply when it’s ready.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | February 4, 2016 | Reply

  21. Dear Cynthia, Bob and the Council,
    I have had a pretty hard run in life from being abandoned and abused by my parents, homelessness, people coming in and out of my life including boyfriends, financial hardship ect. I am curious to know if my last life was any different and roughly how many lives have I had? Am I an old soul? Many thanks, A.


    Comment by Anonymous | January 31, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, A. We’ll be glad to ask The Council about your past lives and whether you’re an old soul. We’ll post a response after we’ve done the session.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | February 3, 2016 | Reply

  22. Hi there!

    I absolutely love your page. Thank you for all that you do, for starters.

    I am a 23 year old female, fairly new to all things “spiritual”. I am finding myself confused frequently, and would just like to have a little clarity on the nature of things I suppose, as well as my ever-confusing path to intimate love.

    I have recently made choices in life that have led me to a place of deep(er) understanding and appreciation for self-love, and ultimately, love in general as it is a huge, all-encompassing thing. In this, I have found myself questioning the meaning of many things-do twin-flames exist? Are soulmates simply other souls who are meant to help us along-but not necessarily be our significant other? Am I truly able to create either individual in my life, or it is more like, whichever one I need will appear?

    I have a very good friend in my life that has been there for it all. We have identical personalities, tastes in nearly everything, lifestyles, outlooks, goals, spiritual beliefs, everything. However, I don’t feel that draw to him, like I want to be with him. We have explored angel numbers together, marveling at how the signs match up with numbers on license plates, documents, signs, etc. It seems to me that he is meant to be something big in my life, based off of these signs. Is he a twin flame, a soulmate, etc?

    Ultimately, I feel like I need to know whether or not to try and “create” this person, or sit back because he’s that person. How much of the “draw” is based off of science-like pheromones and primal knowledge of procreation with an individual, and how much is divine? How much is predetermined, and how much do we control in our human form? So confusing!

    I feel as though I may know the answers-but am I successfully communicating…and with whom or what? So many synchronicities have appeared to me-in the form of angel numbers, shooting stars when I’ve asked, articles on my facebook feed that are thoroughly relevant…ultimately, am I doing this whole thing correctly? 🙂

    Thank you so much for your time, I appreciate this more than I can put into words.

    Love to you both,



    Comment by Anonymous | January 27, 2016 | Reply

    • Hi, Sarah. Thank you for your kind words.

      Congratulations on your recent choices that led to a deeper appreciation for love. You’re right – it is huge and all encompassing. Spiritual things and intimate love often appear confusing, particularly when it’s a little new to us.

      Your questions about twin flames, soulmates, a significant other, and creation are likely to help many others in addition to yourself.

      We find life is often a combination of creation, sitting back and appreciating what we’ve created, and then creating more based on what we’ve learned.

      Thank you so much for your questions. We look forward to doing a session with The Council to answer them and posting the session on our website. In the meantime, know that The Council has told us many times there isn’t a “right” way to do things, and choice is our most powerful tool. If we don’t like the way things are going, we always have the choice to do something different.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | January 28, 2016 | Reply

  23. Hi Bob and Cyntia,
    I found your blog very interesting and was wondering if you can ask the Council about me. I am 43 years old & single, however with a strong desire to have a child for the last few years. All the attempts were unfortunately unsuccessful and I am trying to come to terms that maybe I will never become a mother. This has been difficult, especially in light of the fact that 20 years ago I choose to terminate two pregnancies. I was given the chance twice to experience the birth of a child and twice I terminated it. I am often wondering if I am being punished for it now and if I would ever have a child and a family. Thank you for your time!!!


    Comment by Sunshine | November 8, 2015 | Reply

    • Hi, Sunshine. We don’t think you’re being punished for terminating the 2 pregnancies. We’ll ask The Council your question about having a child and a family, and we’ll publish a blog about it when it’s ready. Thanks for your question.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | November 11, 2015 | Reply

  24. Why do we need a human vessel, aka a mother’s womb, to re-incarnate?


    Comment by Anonymous | November 4, 2015 | Reply

    • Interesting question. We’ll ask The Council and post their response.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | November 5, 2015 | Reply

  25. Hi Bob and Cynthia.

    It seems as though you have quite a few questions to address regularly! I hope that my adding to the pile isn’t burdensome.

    I discovered 3 days ago that I am roughly 3 weeks pregnant. I have always wanted children, my love and admiration for them incredibly strong. I have been responsible, determined to never have a child suffer through poverty and unhappy circumstances within the parental unit like my siblings and I did.

    I left my significant other the day before I found out. I cannot be with him as he is suffering through mental illness, addiction, and other life issues that cause for a very abusive relationship. I also have PTSD, severe anxiety…no career. I’m in school. Shortly before I left him, I had been told by my doctor that it would be difficult for me to get and stay pregnant due to endometriosis.

    I’m very confused. I’m gaining my footing in the spiritual world. Other spiritualists have said that abortion is bad, unless it’s with loving intention. I want my child to have a healthy mother and father. I know it isn’t possible right now. I feel as though I nee to accomplish a stable career. Literally days before I found out, I felt so conforted by my recebt choice to finally leave, comforted by the ability to future myself for the first time in my life, to love myself and create a whole person for a future partner and family.

    Why am I pregnant now? It seems so planned…like the worst possible time, but I know there are lessons hidden in times like this. Is this an opportunity for me to practice self-love, choosing to permanently break away from someone who has hurt me deeply…should I abort? Was that the plan all along?

    Thank you for any response. I have an appointment in 2 weeks….I’m not sure what to choose. If I’m meant to have this child I don’t want to karmically destroy myself and another soul I agreed to bring into this world under these circumstances. I would love to have it return to me, in a time where I can offer a beautiful life with a beautiful other soul.


    Comment by S. | October 8, 2015 | Reply

    • Only you can choose what is best for you. I don’t think any spiritualist can tell you abortion is bad (although yes we know the reality of what we are doing)..sometimes I believe, you are faced with difficult choices to help others. If you decide to abort, tell the little being you love it with all your heart, but cannot give you a good life at this time. Thank it for coming to you and send it on with love. Sometimes it is the fetus who also needs to learn the karmic lesson. God Bless You.


      Comment by c | October 9, 2015 | Reply

      • I asked my question about 9-10 months ago…..and nothing.
        Is this real??????


        Comment by Asher | October 10, 2015 | Reply

        • Hi, Asher. Our blog is real, but sometimes a question gets lost in the shuffle. Thanks for bringing yours about why the soul goes through hardships to grow, to our attention. We’ll ask The Council as soon as we can and post a response. Our apologies for the delay.


          Comment by Cynthia & Bob | October 13, 2015 | Reply

    • Hi, S. Thanks for your question. Feeling so comforted recently by your decision to leave the relationship you were in, love yourself, and create a whole person for a future partner and family sounds like it’s a good sign it was the right decision. We’ll ask The Council why you became pregnant at this time and what your spirit’s intention is for this pregnancy. If you’ve read or listened to some of our other posts on the subject of abortion and karma you may receive the impression that you can’t karmically destroy yourself or anyone else. We’ll post The Council’s response when it’s ready, and we’ll try to do this before your appointment.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | October 16, 2015 | Reply

  26. Last weekend I awoke with severe chest pains. Had to go to hospital. Cardiac problem was ruled out. I’d like to know what physically caused the situation, why my higher self created it and how to make sure it never happens again. Many thanks. Blessings. Barry Plaxen


    Comment by Barry Plaxen | May 14, 2015 | Reply

    • Hi, Barry. We’ll ask The Council and post a response as soon as we can.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | May 18, 2015 | Reply

  27. I love your site; immediately pulled in. No specific question, just wish to hear what my soul, heart, and ego need. Thx


    Comment by Margaret walczykowski | April 20, 2015 | Reply

  28. Hi there,

    My name is Janette. After a year of researching and researching since February 2014 when our daughter was stillborn at almost full-term, I’m just seeking some peace in my heart.

    I stopped researching the medical reasons this could have happened (I may have had an infection and our daughter’s cord was wrapped…that’s all the doctors gave us as possible reasons), and began looking for the spiritual reason when I came across website after website on pre-birth soul contracts, life plans, etc. Most recently, I’ve been researching a lot about our Higher Selves.

    I am just seeking clarification and your intuitive thoughts on why this may have happened? My husband and I had just gotten married, and we were SO beyond ready and excited to welcome our first child. Did my soul need to experience this? I have had so much loss in my life that it is hard to believe (my Dad at age 2 to many other close family members). Did my Higher Self and my daughters know exactly what was going to happen the day her heart stopped? I have so much guilt and blame (even when I try and try to think about it positively and tell myself “our daughter fulfilled her life’s purpose in a very short time here”…”I know I did everything in my power to have a healthy pregnancy”, and things like that). I still just feel like I should’ve rushed to the doctor…I should’ve known I wasn’t feel her moving the same. I truly can’t bare the thought of this happening due to a “freak accident” in the pregnancy. If we would’ve rushed right to the hospital, would that have saved my daughter, or was this going to happen no matter what I did or didn’t do. Do you think accidents happen? Even if an infection or cord issue played a role, was that all pre-chosen by my daughter’s soul (I’ve been told that that was just how my daughter’s soul “engineered” what happened to happen). Could my daughter’s soul have known to manifest the cord being wrapped or for my body to come down with an infection? I was definitely nervous/anxious during my pregnancy, as any other 1st time mom-to-be, I hope our daughter didn’t sense any negativity/worries from me. We were just so so excited.

    Another question I have is…what if her soul knew something about her body was not developing properly, something that we just don’t know. Would a soul withdraw because of that? And then try to come again in a new body? Did she, my husband and I all know this would happen and agree to it on a higher level before it actually happened. We felt so blindsided here on Earth, but were our Higher Selves looking down on all this knowing exactly how it would take place?
    My mind and heart want so badly to know that this was not a freak accident, and that it happened for a spiritual reason. The thought of it being an accident just debilitates me.

    I also read somewhere that it is ALWAYS the soul that choses when to cross back over to the spirit world, and the soul plans the time and the manner for doing so. It’s just so difficult to believe our daughter didn’t want to stay. This happened 5 days after my beautiful baby shower.

    Thank you so much for your time…any thoughts are so VERY appreciated.

    Take care,
    Janette Shaw


    Comment by Janette Shaw | March 10, 2015 | Reply

    • Hi, Janette. It’s good that you’re looking for spiritual reasons for your daughter’s still birth. You ask a lot of questions and we’ll do our best to answer each of them as soon as possible. Stay tuned.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | March 11, 2015 | Reply

  29. Hi again. I am back with more questions (and sub-questions 🙂
    1. (a)In a general sense, is there a way to know the difference between worry and intuition? When I feel that loving source / well-being, I know everything is okay from a spiritual perspective, however, I still worry about possible physical events. (This mainly has to do with my child.) How do I know when to ignore this or accept it as guidance?
    (b)Does my chronic worrying affect my child’s point of attraction / vibration even when I don’t express it aloud?
    For example, I have much concern and fear around the issue of vaccines, but want to do the “right” thing. For that reason, I delayed my daughter’s first vaccine until 2 weeks ago. She is now experiencing a bit of a late reaction involving the leg in which the vaccine was given. It is relatively minor, called Transient Synovitis, but she was not able to walk on that leg for a few days. Did my worry attract this situation, or was it my intuition causing me to use caution and be selective and wait on vaccinating?

    2. (a)Does being a vegetarian raise one’s vibration as proposed by some belief systems?
    (b) I understand that the animals born into the food industry agreed to that on a spiritual level. However, once we as humans see their suffering (even if they themselves do not realize that they are suffering), do we have an obligation to stop participating in the perpetuation of that suffering by not purchasing and consuming them? (I am not currently vegetarian, but feel a lot of heaviness/guilt when purchasing and preparing meat.)

    3. I used to be talented in art, but have not kept it up out of perfectionism and fear of failure which manifests as procrastination and apathy. Someone once told me we have some sort of an obligation to use our gifts in this life, so if there’s something we have a natural talent for, we should use it. Is there any truth in this?

    And again, thank you for your insights. I always feel better after listening to your posts.


    Comment by Ali | March 10, 2015 | Reply

    • Hi, Ali. Thanks for your questions. We’ll ask The Council as soon as we can and get answers posted.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | March 11, 2015 | Reply

  30. Hi Cynthia and Bob,
    I have been reading your blog since it’s very beginning years ago, I have learned a lot from it. Many times I wanted to ask a question but I kept waiting to see what would happen next in my life. And finally as I can’t see the light at the end of tunnel, it’s finally time to ask.

    All my life I have always believed that true love is the answer to everything and is the most important thing in one’s life. And for most of my life I have been on a quest to find it. Fate, destiny or whatever you would like to call it, keeps bringing the wrong people into my life, and year after year I suffer and find great pain (whether it’s family or personal relationships).

    I do not understand why my soul would chose to come into this present reality. I do not understand why my soul would want to experience so much pain and suffering in this lifetime. And why would life bring me into contact with those who will only hurt me? If I indeed chose this path and made an agreement before coming into this life, then what can I do to change it? I’m so exhausted of living and I’ve lost the will to do anything. It’s been so many years of loss and pain, that I can’t even imagine a different life. I can’t even seem to go on for my own child.

    In other words…I can’t see any light at the end of tunnel. This reality is not what I want…and I don’t know how to change it. What is the point of continuing to live in this reality if you’re never going to find what you seek?



    Comment by Anonymous | February 27, 2015 | Reply

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