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Guidance for a Potential Romantic Relationship

This post is inspired by a follow up question from a reader named Gabriela who asks for guidance about the romantic feelings she has for a woman named Lara who Gabriela mentioned in her last question. She says despite plenty of synchronicities nothing has happened with Lara, and Gabriela was told by someone the reason for this was that she didn’t deserve the pain Lara would bring into her life, which was difficult for Gabriela to believe because Lara seems like such a nice woman.

The Council says Gabriela is already experiencing the pain and sadness of a relationship with Lara because they aren’t together. They ask Gabriela to change the focus of her attention because they see it’s possible to have the relationship she desires, but they say it will never happen as long as Gabriela is focused on the idea that Lara will bring pain into her life.

The Council says if Gabriela changes her belief that Lara will cause her pain, she’ll be able to create the relationship she desires. But The Council also says if Gabriela finds it easier to let go of her desire for a relationship with Lara, they do see another partner for Gabriela.

The Council says Gabriela’s pre-birth plan was to have a relationship with Lara, but because Gabriela believes this relationship will cause pain and sadness, she’s creating this in her life right now by keeping her out of this relationship.

If Gabriela can change the way she sees this relationship with Lara so that it’s a good relationship rather than a painful one, she can have that good experience. The way Gabriela chooses to believe her relationship with Lara will be is the way she’ll experience it. The Council adds Gabriela can also create an additional relationship with another partner that they mention earlier in the session.

Listen to our entire 9-minute session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Gabriela and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.

October 27, 2016 - Posted by | Audio Content, Beliefs, Channeling, Choice, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | ,


  1. Hello Cynthia and Bob! I was going through the Council’s answers for me again, and I still learn a lot from it, thanks!! However I do have more questions regarding this thing with Lara. Things had improved between us as friends after this question was asked, but from the moment I tried to change it to a more romantic focus things derailed badly. I mean it, badly.

    I belong to a religious group who believes in healing through spiritual guides (I think it’s a similar fashion to the Council) and they have always said to me that Lara and I getting together is a big no-no. They have always insisted that she’s not meant to be mine. I have asked “why” before and they never really explained it. The problem is that she’s the only woman I feel any interest and I am not sure I can ever want someone else. I have tried, but whenever I see her all my feelings come back, even though she treats me badly now. I know there’s a past life connection (or multiple), and that it wasn’t good for her. I was wondering if the Council could please shed some light on our past lives and why it seems that we can’t get together no matter what.

    On another note, I was also I was wondering about dark magic rituals and what the Council has to say about it. I know those exist and that some people believe in them, but since they go against the free will I tend to be skeptical about it. But I also know people do it and see results, so how’s that even possible.

    And I am sorry for one more last question, since someone asked why people are born transgender, I was wondering why people are born asexual (like me). It can be a life-long loneliness sentence for a lot of folks. Thank you very much again!


    Comment by Gabriela | May 15, 2017 | Reply

    • Hi, Gabriela. Interesting questions. We’ll ask The Council when we have time and post their response. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | May 15, 2017 | Reply

  2. Hi! Sorry I am late, but wanted to thank you again for the guidance! I am unsure yet of the deepest meaning of this message, but I can say that I definitely have some beliefs about relationships that I need to meditate on. One of the reasons I believe Lara would inflict pain is because someone told me that it’s not a life-long relationship, and that’s exactly what I want with her. Maybe I could learn a lot from it, but I’m not sure I can ever change that belief about the possible breakup pain… maybe it’s time to create new space for someone else. Thanks again!

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    Comment by Gabriela | November 13, 2016 | Reply

    • Good luck whatever you decide to do, Gabriela. We think meditating on relationships is a good idea. We believe The Council says you can change your belief about the possible breakup pain, if you desire to experience something else. Love, Bob & Cynthia.


      Comment by Cynthia & Bob | November 13, 2016 | Reply

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