Do I Share a Past Life with My Sister-In-Law?
This post answers a question for The Council from a reader named, Susan, who has a sister-in-law who sometimes becomes very controlling and is currently causing problems for Susan and her younger brother. Susan would like to know if she shares a past life with this sister-in-law.
The Council says the life they see that’s affecting Susan’s current life is a lifetime she and her sister-in-law shared back in Ireland. In that lifetime your sister-in-law was your very controlling father and you and your many brothers and sisters had to follow your father’s orders. You weren’t allowed out with people your father didn’t know. You weren’t allowed to travel anywhere. And you weren’t allowed to hang out with people who didn’t live in your village.
The Council says they see where you may believe your sister-in-law is being difficult, but this is her way of trying to be in control of what goes on. She believes her way is the best way and she has good intentions behind her controlling behavior.
In your current lifetime you came together with your sister-in-law to experience more freedom, a greater ability to communicate your ideas, and to be together without the controlling atmosphere where your sister-in-law was in charge. Your sister-in-law needs to learn trust, acceptance, and allow you to be who you are. You need to find the freedom to speak up and be who you planned to be.
You aren’t the child in your current relationship and your sister-in-law isn’t your father. You came together as peers to be able to communicate without fear.
Now that you have this information you can understand why your sister-in-law is the way she is. Try to let your sister-in-law have her opinion, but also stress your own opinion. Learn to speak up and have confidence in yourself. You’re not trapped under the old rules of your previous life in Ireland.
If you have difficulty speaking up to your sister-in-law at this time, begin to talk about your ideas, opinions, and how you feel about things to friends and family members. You can gradually work your way up to your sister-in-law.
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Thanks so much for your information. Now my sister-in-law’s controlling behavior makes all sorts of sense. I’ve been able to see that she mimic’s her own mother’s #1 coping skill (the need to control), but was interested in the bigger picture.
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