How Do I Move Forward with an Unrequited Love?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader who goes by the name, GoodLife4Always, who says they currently have a strong connection with someone but when they first met, this person wasn’t interested in socializing or even noticing them. They connected quickly this year over their past, their pains, family, beliefs, and God. They started to fall in love with this person and I’ve expressed this feeling to them.
The Council says it’s wonderful GoodLife4Always feels this way and is able to express how they feel to this person, but can you accept how the other person feels whether they agree with you or not? Coming together in this lifetime, sometimes from past lives, you both wanted to experience certain things and learn together. But at any given point it’s possible that one of you my not be ready to make a further commitment to the relationship. Be in the moment. Express your feelings and accept the answer.
If you’re learning from this relationship and it fulfills your needs, it’s great if you can keep the relationship going. You don’t know what this other person will create in the future. You can still do the inner work of seeing the relationship the way you want, but always feel grateful for what you have with this person in your present. The secret is in seeing the wonderful things about this relationship every day, even the delicate challenges that come along. They are there for a purpose.
You’ve learned to speak your mind. How do you feel about the answer that was given to you? GoodLife4Always says in the back of their mind they think they rushed sharing their feelings about the relationship because they were anxious for an answer. The reply was a sad, “No, I’m sorry.” The Council says to consider that this answer was in a particular moment and creation changes day by day by your thoughts and how you see the relationship. The thoughts you choose will determine the future you experience. Visualize what you want.
GoodLife4Always says this person has asked them to stay friends and not to leave them, and The Council says this is wonderful. There isn’t a broken connection. You can still be friends. In the meantime you can do the inner work to create more of what you want in the relationship. Be thankful there’s still the ability and the desire to remain friends.
GoodLife4Always says they still feel the other person cares for them and GoodLife4Always guesses they’re being crazy, but The Council says they can see this person has feelings for GoodLife4Always. Step back and let these feelings grow.
GoodLife4Always asks why this person came into their life? The Council says there was an agreement for the two of them to come together when both of them needed each other’s friendship. You wanted to come together to share knowledge and understanding. There was a safety that was wanted by both of you. And there was always the possibility that whatever you faced in your relationship, there could be more.
GoodLife4Always asks what their past life connections are? The Council says there are many past lives together. In Atlantis they shared a life that’s affecting their current life. They were together in many of the temples and learned many of the esoteric arts. Perhaps you can learn to meditate together, not in the same vicinity, but at the same time. Begin studying the workings of energy and reincarnation together. As you share this, the bond will add to your closeness and understanding. It was because you learned so much together in your lifetime in Atlantis that you came together in your current lifetime.
GoodLife4Always asks how they should move forward and The Council advises to do the inner work of imagining the relationship you want and being grateful for what you have. If you don’t force or rush this relationship, if you use your energy to send love, if you can be supportive and let the relationship grow naturally, and if you can see and feel the relationship you want as if it’s happening in the present, you can create it the way you want it.
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If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
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Hi, Hornetto. We understand you’re anxious to hear from The Council, but we answer questions in the order spirit advises us. Please be patient.
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It’s Hornetto again. I asked my question a month ago and the situation is getting more complicated. I would really like to hear from the council on this. Thanks. (Please don’t send direct emails on this)
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Hi, Hornetto. We’ll be happy to include your comment above when we have time to ask The Council your original question. We’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Thanks, Bob, Cynthia and the Council. A development, if I may, to factor in…
I was about to let go and walk away and speak out against something because of this relationship and how I’d been treated. But then I saw this person and got a warm interested interactions, including being told they loved me!
Now I don’t know what to do about speaking out…
I’m also in a dark time and need support to carry on as I’m worried about how I might interpret my soul contract and what I might do to complete it
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Hi, Hornetto. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your question about your relationship when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording with their response as soon as it’s ready. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia
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Interesting question, and I like the sensitivity and wisdom on here. My question is about a love I don’t know how to define, mutual in one deep sense but not in another. It’s a soul contract but I’m wondering – what is this to teach us? At present, it seems we are to part in a sense – for a time. It’s a precarious time for me to lose an important support and it feels cosmic snakes and ladders time – in this person I heal some long held wounds and go up, or stuck and round again. (Not sure how much you need to make an informed reply – or does the Council just discern on a soul level?)
How can I make the best choices for both of us?
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Thank you all very much for your answers and helping me through this time. Always grateful.
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