How Do I Move On From A Difficult Relationship?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Davis1Amanda, who asks, Can you let me know about a person in my past, how I can thank them for their role in my life, and understand how I can move on from that difficult relationship?
The Council says when you’re no longer physically in touch with a person, if you don’t talk to them, have them in front of you, and there’s no communication, there’s always communication energetically. To thank them, think of the role they played in your life. They’re always in your life to give you information about what you’re trying to heal.
When you think of this person, what do you think of? If you find yourself having lots of questions about the challenges this relationship brought you, start by being thankful for what you remember that was helpful. When you can’t figure out what was missing from this relationship, what made it difficult, or what the lesson was, change the focus of your attention and think about what you got of value in the relationship.
When you can find whatever it is you can be thankful for, then simply sit and talk to this person in your mind, thanking them. Perhaps you can tell them you don’t understand the full lesson yet, but thanking them for being there, whether it was for a short time or a long time. Send them love and pink light. They’ll receive it. Your higher self will know what you’re doing and their higher self will receive it. By doing this, the feelings you have about this relationship will change. Sometimes this will bring a person back into your life. Sometimes it gives the relationship lots of love so you can move on.
Your purpose now is to concentrate on what it was that you liked in this relationship. What drew you into it? What kept you there? You can always find good things when you think about any relationship. When you do this you’ll begin to release it, to get some understanding of it, and then move on. It’s your purpose right now to have gone through this relationship and now to move on, to learn it’s okay to move on, and what you wanted was to get some understanding. That’s where you are right now.
Meditate on this relationship. Think about it with joy. The more you can find yourself smiling, the more you can find things to appreciate about this relationship, the more you’ll move on from it, and more clarity will come to you.
The Council sends everyone blessings, love, happiness, peace, the courage to look at who you really are, the desire to know who you really are, and to experience who you really are. The way you do this is through the thoughts in your mind. Everything you live is coming to you from your thoughts.
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Does My Dead Husband Want to Continue Our Marriage?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, AlwaysMrs, who asks if her husband wants to continue their marriage. As you read this post you’ll understand AlwaysMrs’ husband recently passed away, but her question doesn’t make that quite clear.
After commenting that they know AlwaysMrs’ husband has passed away, The Council says when you’re in spirit you’re feeling love for the person you were married to and all the people you were married to in all your lifetimes. This love never goes away. You might say we’re all partners and we’re all married to each other. We’re all connected. In spirit your husband is still connected to you. It’s not the same as if he was here in physical reality, but the love and the connection you shared are still there.
AlwaysMrs says, I’ve received mixed messages where sometimes the message is: Yes, he’ll forever be my husband. He’ll do everything in his power to be what I need and want. I don’t need to find someone else and he doesn’t want me to be with someone else.
The Council says when you’re in spirit you’d never wish a person to be alone and not find and experience love again. It’s all part of the journey. Your husband would love you to move on. He wants you to remember him and remember the love you shared, but now move forward in your life with all the other experiences you want to live through while you’re still in a human reality. A spirit would always want you to love someone else and to move on.
AlwaysMrs says others give general messages like: He wants you to move on and be happy, alluding to finding another person to love. The Council says when you think of him you’ll still feel the love he sends to you. And that’s to help you do whatever the next step is in your life that you want to do.
AlwaysMrs says, I want to continue our marriage and strengthen our connection as he lives on. The Council says he lives on in spirit. You are still in a physical reality. You can strengthen your connection by meditating, by speaking to your husband every day, and imagining him walking through life with you, but that doesn’t open you up to creating others in your physical reality.
AlwaysMrs says, Because I can’t directly hear from my husband and have to rely on mediums, I don’t know how he feels right now. The Council says please don’t rely on mediums or anyone else. Meditate. Connect with the spirit of your husband. Talk to him and you’ll get the answers you need. If you don’t hear these answers in words, you’ll just know the answer to a question. You’ll know what’s the next step to take. Answers come differently when they come from spirit.
AlwaysMrs says she wants to know if her husband wants to continue the marriage the way she does and if he’ll try to make our marriage work with me until we’re together again. The Council says your husband wishes you to be happy. You’ve chosen to experience things in a physical reality and that means meeting other people, having other experiences, and moving on with your life. There’s nothing your husband is able to do in the spirit world that will keep the two of you married. He’ll send you love and he’ll cheer you on to move forward with any other relationships in any way you wish to go in your physical reality.
Focus on your life in your physical reality. You won’t lose your connection with your husband. What your higher self planned with your husband and what he wants for you now is to move on and live your life. There are other things you planned, even though you don’t know what that is at this time. It’s good to stay connected to your husband, to love him, to remember the love you shared with him, but focus on the here and now. There are other things you wish to do.
AlwaysMrs says, I don’t want to pursue a relationship he doesn’t want anymore. I know how my husband felt before, but obviously things have changed and I need to know how he feels now. The Council says when you’re in spirit you perceive things differently. Where he is you wouldn’t say, I don’t want to pursue this relationship because my husband doesn’t want it anymore. Where he is you’re always connected.
AlwaysMrs says, I still need to know how my husband feels and how we move forward as still married or not. The Council says you appreciate the life you had in your physical reality. You feel the love you had. You connect with your husband on another level by meditating and know you’re connected. The love that’s there is there for you now to help you create the different experiences you want to have in the future.
The Council closes by saying only love is real. When you go into spirit you take this love with you. When you’re in spirit and you come into a physical reality you take this love with you again. That’s what we’re all about.
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Will an Old Boyfriend Come Back into My Life?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Ashley, who’s been plagued with nostalgic feelings for a man she hasn’t communicated with in 7 years. It all started with him coming to me in a dream and since then I’ve often had dreams about him. I feel like he visits me, but is this just wishful thinking because he’s moved on with his life?
The Council says this soul visits you in your dreams because you’ve had other lifetimes together and because you’ve had times that were special in this lifetime, but you didn’t have the intension of staying in each other’s lives. The spirit of this man can feel your longing and sadness and comes to visit you in your dreams because there’s great love there. But now it’s time for you to move on with your life and learn the other lessons you’ve planned.
Ashley says, to his knowledge I’ve moved on and he’s unaware of these feelings I still hold for him. The Council says in human form he’s not aware of these feelings, but his higher self knows.
Ashley says she wants to let go of these feelings and I’m in a relationship now, but things have become clear to me during the last year how much I’ve held on to this man. The Council says the spirit of this man also feels this holding on and he’s come to try and remind you to move on and experience the other things you’ve planned.
Ashley says she was with this man the night his sister died 10 years ago. We were neighbors and best friends growing up. Our mothers were close to each other. I miss this man so much, but I also told him my feelings after we finally had a fling and he shut down the relationship. I realized how much of an influence he had on my life and how much he continues to influence it because he’s not in it. The Council asks if you’re able to wish this man love and happiness. That’s what’s needed for both of you.
Ashley says this man broke my heart and I still haven’t healed 10 years later. We don’t speak. What should I do? The Council reminds Ashley they do speak, but on a spiritual level rather than a human one. When you have these dream visitations, be aware of what’s being said and the feelings you have. When you’re awake, think of this man and be grateful for these visitations, be grateful for the experiences you had together, and be happy knowing in future lives you can be together again if you desire. Have your experiences in your current life and this man will have his experiences. When you return to spirit you can share what you’ve accomplished and when you’re ready, you’ll move on to new experiences that you both want together.
Ashley says part of me feels we had a spiritual contract and have some unfinished business. I feel like I’m not in a position to reconnect with him because it would hurt too much to be turned down. I’m terrified of how he thinks of me, but I wish I knew. The Council says the contract Ashley’s talking about has been fulfilled. You experienced what you had together and now it’s time to move on. This was something you both agreed on in spirit.
Ashley closes by asking if this man will come back into her life? The Council says right now they don’t see this happening, but with your meditations, visualizations, and feelings, if it’s something you want, you can create this.
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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