This post is inspired by follow-up questions from a reader named Vacha, who’s having difficulties with her abusive second husband and she wonders if her spirit pre-birth planned for her to end up in abusive marriages.
The Council begins by advising Vacha to change her thought that she ends up in abusive relationships because as she holds onto this thought and feeling she will continue to create this in her life. Now she knows this is something she doesn’t want and she is able to recreate her life going forward by beginning to picture what she wishes to create now.
Vacha regrets not ending up with a loving companion and feels suicidal sometimes, but then she thinks of her son and that keeps her going. The Council says she’s got much to learn with her child and asks why she’d think of cutting this lifetime short when there’s so much goodness that can be experienced as she creates it moving forward.
Vacha asks if The Council can see happiness for her in a marriage and a career if she move back to India. The Council says it’s up to her, but they see her having a much different and happy life. They see many options opening up for her as she changes her thoughts, focus, and beliefs.
There is much joy that can come to her. She doesn’t need to worry how this will happen. The energy she creates will bring these opportunities to her when she understands why she needed to experience these difficulties which aren’t needed any longer. She is able to move forward and experience the joy she’s looking for.
The Council says to find a way for Vacha to look for and create love in her thoughts. Find the light within herself that’s her higher self and imagine love pouring out to every part of her and around her. And as this love goes out it will attract similar energies of love.
Listen to the recording of our 8-minute session with The Council (below) to hear their guidance for Vacha’s and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
Vacha has posted two previous questions. You can read her first question here and our answer to it, and her second question here and our answer to that question. In addition, Vacha has posted another question after we did our current session with The Council, but before we posted their response. In her last questions she says she left her husband and moved back to India. You can read her last question here.
This post is inspired by a follow-up question from Jolanda, who’s been married to an abusive man for four years. For background on Jolanda’s situation you may want to refer to our earlier posts: Whether to Leave an Abusive Relationship, Follow-up Questions on Leaving an Abusive Relationship, and Help Leaving an Abusive Husband.
In her comment that inspired this current post Jolanda asks if The Council can explain the strong feelings of attachment, obligation, and protection she has toward her abusive husband. And The Council says it comes from a lifetime in the 1400s where her husband was her unruly son. The feelings of protection she has in this lifetime are from the memory of wanting to protect her child in that lifetime.
In this other lifetime Jolanda believed more in herself and her natural spiritual powers, but there were many people in this time who were being punished for being witches. Because her son (her husband in her current life) was so difficult he decided to report Jolanda as a witch, and her life was ended because of this.
In pre-planning their current lifetime together Jolanda’s husband wanted to be with her as an adult, to be more open to her spiritual beliefs, and to show her more caring. Their pre-birth plan was to give both of them the opportunity for a good and loving life together. But the husband still carries feelings from this other lifetime of wanting to punish Jolanda, and he hasn’t gotten to the stage where he can ask himself why he treats her the way he does.
Jolanda asks The Council if she and her husband will be able to resolve these powerful issues from this other lifetime. And The Council says at this time, where they see her husband’s energy heading, they do not see a change coming any time soon. Although they add the husband is still able to create opportunities to change and see things differently if he desires.
Even though these feelings from this other lifetime were strong, so was the desire for change. When they returned to spirit and looked at that life, they were willing to give each other the chance to change it in this lifetime, to bring love into the situation and make this a life of joy.
Jolanda asks The Council if they see her finding true happiness. She says her life has been a relationship battleground until now and she would like to experience the peace, harmony, and true love she feels she deserves. The Council advises Jolanda to find the love she is looking for within herself. She is able to find true happiness by leaving the relationship and finding another partner. Or she can stay in this relationship, but The Council advises her to see it differently because of this new information she has now.
She can choose one path and if it doesn’t work she can choose another. But always begin by feeling the love for yourself and knowing if this relationship doesn’t work out, you both went into it to give each other that opportunity. And they add there’s nothing wrong with that.
Listen to the entire 11-minute session we had with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Jolanda and the rest of us, and tell us what you think.
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