Was I Right to Divorce My Husband?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Laurie, who asks if she was right to divorce her husband. Laurie read another post on our blog where The Council says you can create a long and happy married life if that’s what you wish to create. Laurie says this is what she wanted, but lost trust in her husband because of his financial manipulations. The Council asks Laurie how she can wish for a happy life when she states that she doesn’t trust her husband? When you are in the vibration of mistrust, you could never create a happy marriage.
In your marriage were you able to appreciate how your husband was towards you? Were there things you loved about this marriage and thought about over and over? Or did it get to a point where you didn’t trust your husband, didn’t like his behavior, and felt he had the power to make you feel good or bad about yourself?
When you go down a negative road and you have thoughts like: he drove me crazy, he lied, maybe he cheated on you, and maybe he hid financial aspects of your lives – if you felt these things throughout the marriage and there’s no room to appreciate any part of your married life, you can never have a happy marriage.
If you were miserable in this marriage and felt there was dishonesty, how would you change the marriage to be the way you wanted it to be? If you were able to look at your husband and say: A, B, C was done, I see where he was coming from, I can see why he did these things, and I realize he has his lessons – can we talk about that? Can we try to understand and change these behaviors? If there was a possibility you could do this and let go of what was already done, there could have been a change in your marriage. But if you feel the hurt was so horrible and that’s all you felt, you wouldn’t be able to change your relationship.
Laurie writes that she lost trust in her husband because of his financial manipulation, his telling their university-aged children she was crazy, sharing details of their intimate relations with other people, as well as other unspecified reasons. Her husband didn’t want to go to counseling and accused her of overreacting. She told him she deserved to be treated better and ended the marriage. The Council asks Laurie if you believe you deserve a better marriage and there was so much dishonesty, why do you still question if you did the right thing by divorcing your husband?
Laurie asks The Council if they feel under the circumstances she’s described if her marriage could have been saved? The Council says if Laurie was open to a different way of perceiving this marriage, if you knew what you wanted and what boundaries could change, if you’re able to come from a place of forgiveness and love, you’d bring the vibration of change into your surroundings. This would be felt by your husband as a spiritual being and then the spirits within both of you would know whether you’re able to change the marriage based on what you both planned to experience when you were in spirit before coming into this lifetime. But The Council adds they feel where Laurie was when she was still in the marriage and where she is now, it wouldn’t have been possible change her marriage into a happy one.
The Council says now it’s wise to go back and see what Laurie has learned in this marriage. Take your focus off being hurt and off the memories of everything that happened in the marriage that was unpleasant and begin to think about what you’d like to experience in a new relationship. What would you like to experience moving forward? What would you like your lessons to be now? What would you like your communication to be like in a new relationship? By letting go of the hurt and concentrating on what you’d like moving forward, this will change your vibration so that the kind of new person you bring in will match that vibration.
Be kind to other people, help other people, send love to other people, and that’s the kind of person you’ll bring into your life. The universe will not judge you. It will send into your life people that speak like you, that think like you, that have traits like you, and together you’ll learn how to grow.
Everyone has lessons with each other. Will you be open to helping the kind of person that comes into your life and helping them grow and experience what they need? Would you be vulnerable to ask for what you need without thinking about being hurt and whatever you experienced in the past?
Watch your words. Watch your thoughts. Watch your actions. And however you can, get yourself into the vibration of love. You can do this by memories, by thinking about the way you’d like your future to be, by appreciating what you have around you now. Anything that will get you into a positive vibration will help you move forward.
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Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
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If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
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