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How Can I Release Feelings of Anger and Disrespect?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Cartico, who had a difficult relationship with his father. When my father died five years ago I had been avoiding contact for quite a while. I’m aware he did his best to be a good father and his absence earlier in my life and our conflicts are the result of what he experienced in his life. The Council says it’s wonderful you understand this and it will go a long way toward healing your relationship.

Cartico says he has a lot of understanding for his father, but he also feels angry. He has similar feelings about his ex-girlfriend and this seems like a theme in his life. I feel stuck between love and understanding on one side and anger and feeling disrespected on the other side.

The Council says Cartico has a right to feel angry. It’s an emotion you shouldn’t feel afraid to have. If you feel disrespected or hurt, or someone has done something unfair to you, have these angry emotions. Look at them. Stay in that anger. You won’t be punished for this. Think of what’s happened over and over until you see that as you do this more and more, it will bother you less and less. These emotions are what you in spirit wanted to experience and to pass through in your current lifetime.

While you understand certain things and were able to make boundaries, what’s coming through with these people in your life who agreed in spirit to push your buttons, let you feel disrespected, let you feel angry, and let you feel hurt, is the lesson to stay in these feelings. When you look at these feelings instead of running away from them or burying them, they will disappear. These are just emotions that you chose for this life to feel and then let go.

Cartico says I feel sort of guilty and sorry, and I have difficulty letting go of times that have passed. Does The Council have guidance on how I can embrace the peaceful aspects of this situation and let go of the emotions in these relationships that get me stuck in the past?

The Council says to visualize yourself sitting in a chair across from the person you feel has upset you and imagine yourself being surrounded by beautiful pink energy. And constantly say to this person that you hurt me or you made me feel this way, but thank them for doing it because on a higher level I know I asked for this and you agreed to behave this way for me out of your love for me to help me grow from this. Stay in the beautiful bubble of pink light and keep doing this over and over and your feelings toward this person will change.

Listen to the entire 6-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Cartico and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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October 20, 2020 - Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Healing, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , , ,


  1. Yes, that’s a good idea. Thanks!

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    Comment by Anonymous | October 22, 2020

  2. Hi, LavenderBixby. We’re glad you found this post helpful. It is difficult not to get caught up in these emotions. Good luck with The Council’s visualization meditation. We have confidence in your ability to picture this person sitting across from you, but if you have difficulty in the beginning perhaps you can imagine him at a distance you feel comfortable with. You can keep us posted on your progress if you like. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | October 22, 2020

  3. This is a good one, and is very helpful to me! It’s hard not to get caught up in these emotions. And it feels silly when you are aware of what is going on, but you still can’t shake the anger, or whatever. I have a lot of anger towards someone who is always looking for an excuse to antagonize me, and I know that this individual’s mother (deceased) never showed any love toward him, so on one hand I understand, but on the other hand, I get spiteful and critical of this person for treating me so disrespectfully. What’s interesting is I don’t want our relationship to improve; I don’t want anything to do with him (despite that not being a possibility because he’s a family member). In addition, I think the anger is taking a toll on my health (and my marriage). And I still don’t want to “learn to get along,” so to speak. Anyhow, I’m going to try the visualization meditation the council recommended, if I can stomach to picture myself sitting across from this person. His soul has obviously done a very good job at doing whatever it was I agreed to!

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    Comment by LavenderBixby | October 21, 2020

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