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A Lesson in Forgiveness

This post is about a question from a reader named Tanya who asks The Council if she had a life lesson in self-forgiveness to learn from an abortion.

The Council says there’s a life lesson in just about everything we experience as challenging or where there’s a difficult decision to make. They agree Tanya’s abortion was a life lesson, and while abortion is often about learning self-forgiveness, in Tanya’s case it was more about learning to let go of a situation when the timing isn’t right, being okay with her decision, and learning that whatever she chooses is the right choice.

The Council asks Tanya if, rather than just focusing on forgiveness, if her abortions (The Council feels there were two) have taught her something about facing challenges after the abortion. And their advise is to see where she is in the moment and go with the decision that feels best to her.

The Council says post traumatic stress comes when you don’t quite know how to be okay with the decisions you’ve made. The more Tanya learns how to let let go and move on with her life, the more she’ll learn to accept herself and have more confidence in her choices. The Council also says as Tanya learns she’s a spirit in her physical body,  she’ll become more okay with her decisions.

Bob asks if Tanya’s asking for forgiveness from the soul of the unborn child was for Tanya or the unborn child. And The Council says if she felt forgiven by this spirit it would help Tanya feel better and she could move on with her life.

When Bob commented it was his understanding from previous sessions that the soul of the unborn child was already forgiving, The Council agrees. But they add that Tanya wasn’t aware of this at that time. So she asked for and received this forgiveness.

Listen to the entire 8-minute session with The Council (below) to benefit from all their guidance is this session.

(This session was one of two we did so the recording seem to end abruptly.)

November 25, 2015 - Posted by | Audio Content, Challenges, Choice, Decision Making, Questions & Answers, Spirit | , , , , ,


  1. Thank you for your questions, Sam. We have recently done a session with The Council to answer them. Stay tuned for our post.


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | March 18, 2016

  2. Hi Cynthia, Bob & The Council,

    I’ve been reading and listening to a lot of your posts on abortion. I had one in late January 2016. I am 22 and having a hard time dealing with this as there are a lot of loose ends to my situation regarding my pregnancy. I guess I am finding answers. I wanted to kindly ask if Bob, Cynthia and The Council could answer these questions that have been lingering on my mind.

    I try to take each day slowly at a time, I am currently jobless and have no idea where my life is headed. Ever since I found out I was pregnant, I have been feeling a sense of “wholeness” and “love” for myself. Is this my child?

    Also, the father is not in my life anymore and was never truly there, is there any meaning to why he was never part of this picture with my child and I? At times, I wonder how he’s doing and wish I could tell him everything I’ve learned from this abortion since he was not present during the entire thing. Should he know? I don’t believe he deserves to but a part of me thinks I should.

    I’ve learned not to look at this experience as a “mistake” but a part of me cannot help but feel sad. I am not sure if I’m sad over losing the child, losing him or for the poor decisions I’ve made so far? I strongly feel like I am not living my true life by running away from myself (which has led me to become emotionally insecure, validating my self-worth through men). Shouldn’t I feel ashamed for hiding so much from my parents and disobeying their trust (hiding this pregnancy) regardless of how much they love me?

    Is my child still here with me? And can I speak to it through meditation or praying? Does my child still love me as much as I do? Can I speak to him(father) through nonverbal communication as well? Sometimes I can feel him thinking about everything. Is there a way I can connect with him?

    Thank you so much in advance for answering my questions. Your help is truly appreciated.


    Comment by sam | March 13, 2016

  3. Hi, Tanya. We’re thrilled you got a lot out of the session we did for you. When we have time we’ll ask The Council your question about attachment and letting go.


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | December 3, 2015

  4. Hello again Bob and Cynthia and The Council. I want you to know that I just realized a response to my question was posted and I have just read and listened now. I am sitting here with tears streaming down my face, and I thank you so much for helping me to understand this life lesson.

    This trauma happened in my life over 20 years ago and while I, for the most part, have been able to deal and move on, there are times when I break down with sadness. I do want to mention that I have only ever had one abortion. I am not sure why The Council saw 2? I have asked a question about my abortion previously here at askthecouncil though, so maybe they picked up on that? I have had issues with miscarriage as well.

    I want to thank you Bob, Cynthia and The Council for helping me to see that the lesson is one of letting go. I am so happy to know that because as I look back over my life I see patterns of learning to let go of situations, decisions, people, and it is all meant for my soul to grow and to learn. Letting go of my choice, trusting that it was the right decision at the time for me is something I did work on through therapy and the pain did ease over time. \\

    To know that I must learn to let go is key to my happiness, and this is very timely as I am dealing with a different situation in learning to let someone in my life go. I had been reading about attachment earlier today. Is this the same thing? Learning to let go and learning not to form attachments? I want to thank you so much for this insight. All is well. Much love and gratitude, Tanya.


    Comment by Tanya | December 1, 2015

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