Ask The Council

What will you ask Spirit?

Something Missing from My 10-Year Relationship with Boyfriend

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Loving Star, who’s had a loving boyfriend for the past 10 years, but she feels like something’s missing in this relationship.

The Council advises Loving Star to search within herself and asks what she thinks is missing and what she’s bringing to the relationship? How would you use what you find is missing to heal this relationship and bring more love and understanding into it? When something feels like it’s missing it’s always easier to blame the other person. They aren’t acting a certain way or they aren’t doing a certain thing. What’s missing within you? When you’re connected to your higher self there’s nothing missing.

The Council suggests you meditate. When you’re connected to your higher self you’ll feel the love with everything around you – with your partner, with yourself, and with your environment. Right now it’s important for you to search for what you feel is missing within yourself to find the answer you’re looking for. You’ll find this answer as you reconnect with your higher self.

Loving Star asks The Council, What was our pre-birth plan? Did we agree in spirit we’d stay together? The Council says you planned to be together. And when you planned this from a spiritual vibration, you thought you’ll stay together, you’ll have fun, you’ll do this and that and help each other grow. What’s happening to you now and what you’re feeling in your relationship is part of what was planned. You would notice the emptiness or something missing and you planned to find it, but within yourself.

Out of boredom or not wanting to do the inner work you’ll look for others and bring that into your life. When you constantly think there’s something missing, you’re looking for another answer. You’ll attract another person to you. Not necessarily the right person, but another person. Now you’re faced with the old boyfriend and the new boyfriend.

Loving Star says, I ask this quesstion because I fell in love with another man who, as you mentioned in a previous reading for me, was my father in another lifetime. The Council  says wouldn’t it be wonderful for you to find that love within you and for you? Love yourself.

Loving Star says, I talk to angels a lot and they told me this new man also likes me very much and he’s waiting for me to show him my love. I currently keep all my feelings for him inside me because I don’t want to hurt my boyfriend. On the other hand, I’d like to show this new man that I feel the same way he does.

The Council says if you do this, what do you expect will happen? Will you ride off into the sunset and be happy forever? That’s not why this new man is in your life. Ask yourself, if you share these feelings do you share them just to have the ability to share them and not expect anything else to happen? Or if you share your feelings what’s the intent behind this? What do you think will happen? Search these feelings within yourself.

Loving Star asks The Council if it’s okay for her to have these feelings for another man. I feel very bad about having them. The Council says of course it’s okay. You’re in a physical reality and with that comes a physical life with emotions, and thoughts, and lessons, and fun, and hardships. This is all part of being in a physical reality. It’s not necessary to feel bad about having these feelings. No purpose is served for you to feel bad about this. It’s just emotions.

Loving Star asks The Council, What happens when I show my love to this man? I feel very confused about it because I feel very drawn to him. I’d like to know your views, insights, and guidance on this situation.

The Council advised Loving Star to find out your intentions for sharing your feelings with this man. Is it just to share it to find out whether this person also has loving feelings toward you? Or is it to change your life? Is it to leave your boyfriend because this other person has feelings for you? There isn’t any right or wrong answer, but what do you expect and what do you want to happen? Do you just want to say, I feel very drawn to you and I just wanted you to know that? And then hear this person say these words back to you? Is that enough?

The Council says, We feel you’re looking for an escape. We feel you’re looking to fill a hole within you. This person has played this role to get you to this point where you have to decide what you need. Why do you need another person to make you feel good? Why can’t I feel good and love towards myself and just be happy with the people around me? Why can’t I choose out of happiness where I want the next part of my life to go?

The Council agrees what’s missing from Loving Star’s relationship with her boyfriend is really something that’s missing within herself. These two men are playing roles they said, in spirit, they would play so you’d come to a point of confusion and have to figure out your situation. Figure it out not just from your head, but from your heart. Connect with your higher self and see how it views the situation. What do you want? What are you trying to do? The answers will come to you if you try this.

The Council closes by saying that only love is real. When you go into spirit you take this love with you. When you’re in spirit and then you come onto physical reality you take this love with you. That’s what we’re all about.

Listen to the entire 8-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Loving Star and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask The Council your own question in a Comment box located at the bottom of most blog pages.

If you like this post please consider clicking the LIKE button in the section below the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

May 8, 2021 - Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Channeling, Feelings, Healing, Love, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit


  1. Hi, Eden. We’ll ask The Council your questions about soul families when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | May 18, 2021

  2. Hi Cynthia and Bob,

    I would love to know more about the concept of ‘soul family’. Could you please ask The Council how many souls generally belong to the one ‘soul family’ and is this ‘soul family’ for eternity or can a soul change to another ‘soul family’? What is the purpose of coming together with other souls to create a ‘soul family’, is it simply to love and support one another and grow together? Do you generally incarnate with members of your soul family? Could you please also ask The Council which people, if any, who are currently in my life are members of my soul family?
    Thanks so much xx

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Eden | May 15, 2021

  3. Thank you and bless you!

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Venus Trine Jupiter | May 10, 2021

  4. Hi, Venus Trine Jupiter. We’ll be happy to ask The Council your question about being a servant of love when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | May 10, 2021

  5. Hello, thank you so much for this. I just arrived here because today something special happened to me – I met a glowing blue skin women on the street. I then did some googling and I am now almost sure she was a starseed. I felt divinely inspired and touched. I found this page and think that this encounter today might have been a sign… So I would like to ask The Council what can I do now to serve more the name of the Love? I work for Jesus Christ and Love is my mission. I would love to hear a message coming from this souce. Thank you very much 🦋💎

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Venus Trine Jupiter | May 9, 2021

Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in: Logo

You are commenting using your account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: