Why Am I Still Single?
This post answers questions from a reader named, Melissa, who asks what’s the purpose for her being single and not having a relationship in this lifetime?
The Council asks Melissa when she thinks of a partner, does she think about how a partner is missing from her life? They say if her focus on the absence of what she desires, she’ll never bring a partner in.
There was a desire to learn a lot about independence while being alone. In another lifetime this wasn’t possible and you had a desire to come into this lifetime and be in charge and be strong.
When you get to a place of being independent and you’re loving this independence, it’s from this place of happiness that you can begin to think of what you want in a partner. Would you like to keep the independence you’ve achieved while in a relationship? What kind of relationship will you have? How would you maintain a sense of equality? How would you form a relationship where you both can grow?
In this lifetime you’re spirit wanted to be strong, capable, and independent because of your experience in your other lifetime. In order to accomplish this you took the time to be alone. But if you hang on to the feeling and the thought that you can’t attract a suitable partner, more of what you’re feeling and thinking will be created in your life.
You’re stalled without a relationship because you’re waiting for it to come along, but you’re not thinking enough about how you want this relationship to be. How can you keep your independence, stay strong, continue to grow, and take care of yourself? You need to focus on the type of partner that will match your desires and also worked hard to become who they are. Enjoy the freedom of who you are and now attract to yourself the partner who will enable you to go even further.
A partner has already been planned for you in spirit. You wanted to attract a partner when you were strong enough to call in the specific ingredients that will put this relationship together. Focus on the relationship specifics you desire instead of the lack of them and you’ll attract this relationship to you. You’ve followed what you’ve planned. You’ve worked on yourself a lot. That’s exactly what you wanted to do. Now you’re in a place where you can begin to attract this partner.
The Council informs Melissa that it’s not her plan to remain single in her current lifetime. She’s worked out in spirit who will come along and how the relationship will progress.
Melissa closes by saying she’s discouraged by her situation and can’t understand the lesson she’s supposed to learn in what’s going on right now. She feels powerless.
The Council says Melissa has followed her spiritual plans perfectly. It takes a powerful person to go forward and become who they wanted to be, because when you’re on the Earth path you don’t remember what you planned in spirit. You’ve accomplished what you spiritually intended because spirit speaks to you and has brought you on your path. You’ve done the first part of what you wanted, and there’s no reason you can’t attract a suitable partner now.
Know that you have choices. You’re a powerful spirit and now you’re ready to attract the right partner. Be in the vibration of happiness and excitement and know that as you’ve specifically created what you wanted in your life so far, you can also create the partner and relationship you desire in your life. And The Council closes by saying if the work is done without doubt, the relationship won’t take too long for Melissa to draw it into her life.
Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Melissa and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it.
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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Thank you Council for the answer! It is not what I expected at all but makes a lot of sense! I will start thinking about my future! Thank you!
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