Ask The Council

What will you ask Spirit?

Looking for a Meaningful Relationship

This post is about questions for The Council from a reader named, Sarah, who says she’d really like a long-term, profoundly deep relationship. She also asks about a former male best friend who currently refuses to communicate with her, and she wants to know if they’re working through any past life experiences.

Sarah says she’s been trying to deny her desire for a relationship because she feels the best way to develop a healthy love is to go into a situation with someone without the expectation of falling in love.

The Council suggests that Sarah first think of the love she’s felt from other people and appreciate that. Then they suggest she write in great detail about the relationship she desires. The more detailed she can be will make it more likely she’ll attract this relationship to her. Focus on being ready for a relationship and that it’s okay to want it. Think about what she’s willing to bring to this relationship and what is her partner bringing? The Council says if Sarah is denying the relationship she desires, she’ll have difficulty manifesting it.

Sarah wonders if her desire to be an independent person is going against her desire to have a partner.  The Council feels Sarah has achieved independence and they don’t see her loosing herself in a relationship.

Sarah also asks about a male best friend who’s been in her life on and off for a long time. He’s been in love with her and multiple times she’s tried to be with him, but ended up running away. He currently refuses to have anything to do with her and this makes her very sad. This sadness and the longing seems out of proportion for the relationship they’ve had, even though she says she hasn’t been in love with him. Sarah’s curious if there’s something in their past lives that they’re working through.

The Council says we are all here to show love and compassion, and you learn about compassion by allowing yourself to feel what another person is feeling. Can Sarah understand how this man can feel abandoned, not good enough, taken advantage of, and foolish? Think about how this might feel for him. As Sarah understands these feelings, she can try to build a friendship with this man by speaking about her new understanding. The Council doesn’t feel it’s necessary to go into any past lives they’ve shared together.

Sarah asks if she should release this man permanently so he can have a life without the pain of her being in it (but not as his partner). The Council says when Sarah can speak with kindness about her new understanding of this man and how that makes her feel, she can try to speak with him about it. The heavy energy of not feeling wanted can lift and she can start a new kind of relationship with him. She doesn’t have to release this person from her life. They can be in each other’s lives, but differently than before.

Sarah asks what The Council sees for this relationship in the future. And The Council says that’s up to the two of them and what they wish to create. She should do the inner work of imagining how he feels when he realizes she doesn’t love him the way he loves her. As she understands this and continues to send love to herself and to him, things can begin to change.

Listen to our entire session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Sarah and the rest of us regarding relationships, and let us know what you’re feeling.

November 16, 2017 Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Imagination, Love, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , , , | Leave a comment

   

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