Did My Soul Create a Congenital Deformation?
This post answers questions from a reader named Fernanda, who asks The Council (after reading our post on Choosing Childhood Abuse) if she was born with a congenital deformation because her soul chose to create it. Fernanda also asks if she chose to have everything she dreams of for herself, happen to the people around her in her life and not her. And she asks what she needs to learn about this.
The Council begins by saying that anything you come into this life with (including congenital deformations) is definitely planned by you in spirit.
The Council says her dreams for herself that happen for other people are to teach her about her beliefs that she doesn’t deserve to have these things so she can change these beliefs. Take a look at these beliefs. Does Fernanda think that a congenital deformity makes her less of a person and less of a spirit? Is there something that happened to her when she was a child that has her believe she can’t have whatever she desires?
The Council says Fernanda chose to experience many challenges in this lifetime and didn’t plan to have an easy life. Her plan was to find her strength in every challenge she created for herself and to work through these challenges. She will feel better and better about herself as she does this and eventually will find the connection to who she truly is as a spiritual being.
The Council asks Fernanda to change her perception of what’s going on in her life. Nothing is being created in her life by someone else. She is in charge (as a spiritual being) and she is creating what happens in her life. The reason she experiences these challenges is to find the strength to believe she is spirit in a human body.
She should take a look at just one thing that frustrates her and then she can begin to change these thoughts and feelings and experience them differently. And as she sees one thing change, she’ll be able to change another and another until her life delivers to her everything she desires that is currently happening to these other people.
Listen to our entire 4-minute recorded session (below) with The Council to hear all their guidance for Fernanda and the rest of us, and let us know how you feel about this, or anything else you’d like to ask The Council.
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Thinking About Reconciling with Her Husband
This post is inspired by two separate comments from a reader named Vacha, who has asked other questions about her relationship with her husband and her son and here she follows up with additional questions.
First Vacha asks about her pre-birth plan with her son. She is separated from her husband who lives in the United States while she and her son have moved back to India where her family lives. The Council asks Vacha if she’s learned to be independent and if she’s making a happy life for herself and her son. This is in regard to advice they gave her in answer to previous questions.
Vacha wants to know if her son came into this life knowing she and her husband would separate and her son would live with her back in India. The Council says Vacha’s son came into this life knowing her separation from his father was a possibility. And The Council says Vacha planned to be there for her son to show him independence and strength and to give him the happy life he wishes to experience, whether his father is present or not.
About a month after Vacha wrote this question about her son, she wrote asking about her relationship with her husband. He recently called Vacha saying he understands the problems she has with their marriage and he’s willing to work on them, but Vacha has questions about her husband’s ability to follow through with this promise.
The Council asks Vacha why she’s questioning her feeling to settle in India rather than return to her husband in the USA as he’s requesting? The Council says settling in India is part of being independent and is part of her growth. The Council advises Vacha to honor what she feels.
The Council asks Vacha if she’s willing to put herself back in the relationship with her husband even though she questions her feelings about doing this. They ask what’s the rush to go back to this relationship and they ask what she has learned?
Vacha says she thinks about her son and feels if things work out with her husband it would be good for her son and for her. The Council says they want to make it very clear to Vacha that the father isn’t needed in her relationship with her son. The relationship with the father may get better and it may not. The Council asks if Vacha is creating the independence they advised. What is she doing to make her son feel safe and happy in their relationship between the two of them.
Vacha asks if she thinks about her relationship with her husband positively and possibly reconciles with him, is this a good time to do that. And she asks The Council what changes she should see in her husband and herself in order for the relationship to work out.
The Council answers that they have spoken about the answer to this question in past posts and if Vacha reviews them she’ll see their answers. The Council feels Vacha wants them to tell her what to do next, whether to be in a relationship with her husband or not. But The Council says they’re not the creator of Vacha’s life. They can show her what’s needed, her planning for her path, and how to create with her thoughts, but in the end the decision is hers.
How Vacha wishes her path to unfold is her choice. Focus on the life with her son. Focus on being independent. Focus on bringing happiness into her life with her son, and The Council says all the rest will fall into place.
Vacha is in a challenging situation. She has left her husband in the USA and returned to India with her son. She’s tempted by the thought of returning to her husband, as many women are tempted to return to relationships where they have been abused. The Council advises Vacha to learn to be independent, but in the end the decision is hers.
Listen to our entire 8-minute session on Vacha’s questions to hear all The Council’s guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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How Can I Develop a Long-Term Romantic Relationship?
This post is inspired by a reader named Frankie who’s been in several relationships with men who haven’t been willing to make the commitment she desires. The Council asks if Frankie understands her partner doesn’t want a commitment, does she choose to stay in these relationships anyway? They feel there’s a part of Frankie that holds onto these relationships, even when she knows they’re not going in the direction she’d like.
Frankie is currently friends with a fellow she fell in love with several years ago, but the romantic part of the relationship didn’t work out. This fellow is currently in a relationship with a woman he intends to marry, and Frankie’s hurt by this because her friend is showing a commitment to his girlfriend that he never showed her.
The Council says coming into this lifetime Frankie wanted to know what was going on around her, and going forward in her relationships they recommend being aware if they’re what she wants. In this lifetime Frankie wants independence, awareness, and strength to be on her own. And this is one reason she hasn’t experienced a long-term commitment.
When Frankie is able to be on her own and love herself, she’ll have the relationship she’s looking for. It’s good for her to continue with relationships, but it’s good for her to be aware if they’re going in the direction she desires. And instead of hoping a relationship will work out, she wants to become aware of what’s going on and not settle for a relationship that isn’t exactly what she wants. She wants to be okay with moving on from a relationship she doesn’t want and being by herself for a while. And as she becomes more okay with herself, and loving herself, and knowing there’s more out there, she’ll pull in the relationship she desires.
Listen to the entire 10-minute session with The Council (below) to hear The Council’s answer to what Frankie wants to know about love, why she still feels a connection to her friend, and how she can break this pattern of getting involved with men that don’t want a long-term romantic relationship. And let us know what you think.
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Follow-up Questions on Leaving an Abusive Relationship
Recently we published a post titled, Whether to Leave an Abusive Relationship, answering Jolanda’s questions about her relationship with her husband. After reading that post Jolanda had some follow-up questions and the current post answers those questions.
Jolanda begins by saying she was inspired to ask her questions by listening to the teachings of Abraham and that prior to hearing these teachings she felt leaving her husband was her only option. But she’s heard Abraham repeatedly say something like the following:
“Don’t get out of a relationship until you can be strong and happy within yourself, no matter what is going on around you. If someone makes you go out of the Vortex, just get back in. Don’t let someone upset your ability to be happy and be in the Vortex.”
Jolanda says she resonates to this and realized her problem was really her difficulty being happy when her husband was unhappy. She adds:
“Abraham cautions that if we don’t get ourselves right before leaving a relationship, we’ll just get into the same type of relationship again and again, until we learn our lesson.”
Jolanda asks The Council’s opinion on this, considering their answers in the earlier post seemed to suggest it was her intention she find the strength to protect herself and her children by leaving her husband. She says:
“I know I haven’t learned how to be happy while others are unhappy, which is why I feel that my husband is the absolute best partner I could possibly have at this time, because he’s in my face every day, being unhappy with me, and pushing my buttons. What better way to learn to get happy no matter what is going on around me?”
The Council has a lot to say to Jolanda about her situation, but it boils down to the following quote:
“When you realize something is not bringing you joy (because that is what you are wishing to experience) then you have the ability to start making another choice, to start making a plan on how you would do this if you’re not ready to do this right now. But there is nowhere/anywhere where Abraham or any other spirit would say stay there if you are miserable. It’s like, stay there if you have to till you get the strength to make another choice.”
When the session was finished we did a Google search on “Abraham Hicks abusive relationship” to get Abraham’s views on this subject instead of Jolanda’s view of what Abraham was saying. What we came up with was a 7-minute YouTube video titled, “Is it time to leave?”, which we reproduce below. The woman speaking with Abraham is in a situation similar to Jolanda.
And while Abraham does emphasize the importance of working on yourself to improve your vibration before leaving a relationship so you don’t attract a similar relationship into your life, they add that doesn’t mean it’s wrong to take action. They say:
“The story we like best is: You’re sitting on a park bench and you’re feeling fear, and you don’t really know if there’s a monster in the bushes or if you just think there’s a monster in the bushes. And we say, in any event, move away from the monster.”
The Council appears to understand that Jolanda chose to be in this abusive relationship with her husband for the specific purpose of developing the strength in this lifetime to leave him and protect herself and her children. The Council adds more than once it’s Jolanda’s choice whether she actually leaves her husband on not, and they are merely reminding her of her pre-birth intention.
Listen to our entire 22-minute session with The Council (below) to hear Jolanda’s follow-up questions and The Council’s answers for her and anyone in a similar situation.
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Whether to Leave an Abusive Relationship
This post is inspired by questions from a reader named Jolanda who says it’s taken her a long time to realize her husband (who is the father and step-father of their children) is verbally and emotionally abusive to her and their stepchildren.
Jolanda asks if she’s right to stay with her husband and The Council says there was a pre-birth agreement they would come together in this lifetime. They see previous lifetimes where Jolanda had experienced a lack of courage and in this lifetime she desires to learn to be a protector of herself and her children. The Council adds that her children are part of this agreement and it’s their purpose to push Jolanda to become the protector she wants to be.
The Council asks if Jolanda feels it’s safe for her children to be around her husband, or is it time to move on to protect them. The Council says these questions are there to push her in the direction she wants to go. And they add Jolanda doesn’t need to grow any more to realize the relationship with her husband is an abusive one.
The Council says Jolanda’s spirit wants to experience the other side of the coin – the kind of partner she’d feel unconditional love with and feel her children are safe, growing, and happy. They say it’s her choice and the lesson to protect herself and her children is right in front of her.
Jolanda says it’s difficult to be yelled at, blamed, ignored, and devalued by someone who means the world to her. And The Council asks if she believes by staying in this relationship she’ll acquire the strength she needs and the love she wants.
The Council advises Jolanda to love herself and her children and put herself on a path where she experiences this, and to picture herself as strong and happy, having a loving partner and happy children.
The Council says if Jolanda stays in this relationship it will stay the way it is. This is the way she created this relationship – to stay this way until she finds the strength to change it.
Listen to the entire 11-minute session (below) to hear all The Council’s guidance for Jolanda.
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Welcome
Bob & Cynthia
Welcome to Ask The Council, a blog where you can ask a group of loving and wise spirit guides a question and get an answer, for free. You can also contact us for a paid private phone session with The Council, and you can read the questions other readers have asked and the answers they’ve received. Other posts contain quotations from The Council that we hope you find inspiring, uplifting, and educational.
Ask The Council a Question
If there’s a question you’ve been thinking about and you’re curious how The Council might answer it, we encourage you to either use the blog’s Comments feature to ask your question, or contact us for a private phone session. You can click here to go to the ‘Let us know what you think about this post, or ask The Council a question’ section of this Welcome post and type your question there or you can type your question in the same section at the bottom of any post that inspires you to ask a question or leave a comment.
Since the blog is currently a project we do in our spare time it can take a while for us to do a session with The Council on a question and then publish a post on the session. Depending on the question and the session it can sometimes take weeks after a question is asked to publish a post with The Council’s answer. Please be patient.
The Council
Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
The Council’s Basic Guidance
Since we began these sessions with The Council around 2009 they consistently emphasize a few basic ideas that we attempt to summarize here:
1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
Finding Your Way Around the Blog
Home Page
The left-hand column on the Home page contain a long chronological series of posts with the most recent on top. Each post begins with a title. Clicking on a post title will take you to a blog page dedicated to that particular post. Following each post is a Like button where you can indicate to us and other readers if you like the post.
The footer section of each post identifies the date the post was published, the Categories the post has been assigned to, the keyword/keyphrase Tags assigned to the post, and a Comment link. If readers comments on a post, the Comments link will indicate the number of comments. If a post has no comments yet, the Comment link text appears as “Leave a Comment”.
Clicking on the Comments link takes you to a Comment text box on a post page dedicated to that post. Here you can type a comment in the text box and click the Post Comment button to have your comment displayed just below the text box. If you are replying to someone else’s comment, your comment will appear indented underneath the comment you are replying to.
At the bottom of the left column on the Home page is a ‘Previous Entries’ link that will take you to a page with a list of earlier posts.
Blog Features
The right-hand column of most blog pages contains this Welcome message. Below the Welcome message in the right-hand column are some useful features:
Email Subscription: Use this to subscribe to blog posts. You will receive an email notification with a link back to the blog each time a new post is published.
Search: Type a keyword or phrase and click the Search button to get a list of posts in the left column that contain the keyword or phrase.
Archives: The Archives list indicates the number of posts for each month listed. Clicking on the link for a month will display in the left column of the page a list of the posts published that month.
Categories: This is a list of keywords used to categorize posts. Posts can be included in more than one category, if applicable. Clicking on a category link will display in the left column a list of posts assigned to the category you selected.
Navigation Bar
The Navigation Bar at the top of each page contains a link to the blog Home page and links to the following additional pages:
Welcome: A link that displays this Welcome message in the left column (and the right column). At the bottom of the Welcome message is a Comment box where you can post a general comment about the blog or ask The Council a question.
Questions & Answers: Use this link to display a list of introductions to our longer posts, most of which are responses to reader questions. This is an easy way to check out these more in-depth posts. They are listed in chronological order with the most recent post on top. Clicking on the post title will take you to the page where you can read the complete post.
Contact Us: The Contact Us page contains a contact form similar to the Comment form mentioned above. The difference between the Contact Us form and the Comment forms is that the Contact Us form is a private message to us (Cynthia and Bob). It is not posted on the blog. Comments appear on the post page where the comment is posted. The Contact Us form can be used for communicating with us about private sessions or other private matters you think aren’t appropriate for posting in a public Comment.
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