Thinking About Reconciling with Her Husband
This post is inspired by two separate comments from a reader named Vacha, who has asked other questions about her relationship with her husband and her son and here she follows up with additional questions.
First Vacha asks about her pre-birth plan with her son. She is separated from her husband who lives in the United States while she and her son have moved back to India where her family lives. The Council asks Vacha if she’s learned to be independent and if she’s making a happy life for herself and her son. This is in regard to advice they gave her in answer to previous questions.
Vacha wants to know if her son came into this life knowing she and her husband would separate and her son would live with her back in India. The Council says Vacha’s son came into this life knowing her separation from his father was a possibility. And The Council says Vacha planned to be there for her son to show him independence and strength and to give him the happy life he wishes to experience, whether his father is present or not.
About a month after Vacha wrote this question about her son, she wrote asking about her relationship with her husband. He recently called Vacha saying he understands the problems she has with their marriage and he’s willing to work on them, but Vacha has questions about her husband’s ability to follow through with this promise.
The Council asks Vacha why she’s questioning her feeling to settle in India rather than return to her husband in the USA as he’s requesting? The Council says settling in India is part of being independent and is part of her growth. The Council advises Vacha to honor what she feels.
The Council asks Vacha if she’s willing to put herself back in the relationship with her husband even though she questions her feelings about doing this. They ask what’s the rush to go back to this relationship and they ask what she has learned?
Vacha says she thinks about her son and feels if things work out with her husband it would be good for her son and for her. The Council says they want to make it very clear to Vacha that the father isn’t needed in her relationship with her son. The relationship with the father may get better and it may not. The Council asks if Vacha is creating the independence they advised. What is she doing to make her son feel safe and happy in their relationship between the two of them.
Vacha asks if she thinks about her relationship with her husband positively and possibly reconciles with him, is this a good time to do that. And she asks The Council what changes she should see in her husband and herself in order for the relationship to work out.
The Council answers that they have spoken about the answer to this question in past posts and if Vacha reviews them she’ll see their answers. The Council feels Vacha wants them to tell her what to do next, whether to be in a relationship with her husband or not. But The Council says they’re not the creator of Vacha’s life. They can show her what’s needed, her planning for her path, and how to create with her thoughts, but in the end the decision is hers.
How Vacha wishes her path to unfold is her choice. Focus on the life with her son. Focus on being independent. Focus on bringing happiness into her life with her son, and The Council says all the rest will fall into place.
Vacha is in a challenging situation. She has left her husband in the USA and returned to India with her son. She’s tempted by the thought of returning to her husband, as many women are tempted to return to relationships where they have been abused. The Council advises Vacha to learn to be independent, but in the end the decision is hers.
Listen to our entire 8-minute session on Vacha’s questions to hear all The Council’s guidance for her and the rest of us, and let us know what you think.
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Thanks Bob, cynthia and the counsil.
Sorry for bit of repetitive questions but I feel clueless sometimes and even while thinking I keep on coming to the same points.
I thank you guys immensely for the guidance that you have been providing.
Love
Vacha
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