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Is My Life Purpose to Save My Husband from Himself?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Amy, after she read a post we wrote called, “Help Leaving an Abusive Husband“. Amy says she wishes she read that post four years ago, but I probably wouldn’t have understood it then. I shared every emotion and felt every pain of the abusive relationship this woman spoke of about the struggle of leaving. I spent ten years of my life trying to live with this inner hell or fix it for the sake of my children, my career, my house, fear I’d be less happy alone than in an abusive relationship, and on and on. I placed one obstacle in front of another giving myself a reason to stay. I lived in fear and obsessed about the emotional abuse and my husband’s substance abuse I was allowing myself and my children to be subjected to day in and day out.

The Council says it’s wonderful you can look back and see what you allowed to happen. Now you can see how your marriage affected you and your children.

Amy says she spoke of nothing else to my friends and my therapist. For a long time I thought I was being punished and this was my fate. The Council says they hope you realize there was no one punishing you. It was an experience you needed to have and to work through, to see it and go forward with your life from where you are.

Amy says thank God I found teachers like you, Abraham, and several others. Over the last 18 months I feel I have come so far. I’m in the process of divorce, at peace with it, and I can’t wait to see how the next chapter of my life unfolds. What used to feel hopeless now feels limitless. I’m okay with not knowing, surrendering, and having big dreams. I don’t feel the abuse like I used to. It feels far away from me now and I’m starting to see the lessons my husband taught me. If only I made these changes ten years ago perhaps I’d have been able to save my marriage.

The Council says you couldn’t save this marriage on your own. These were experiences you wanted to have. Now that you’ve gone through it and experienced the challenges and the hardship you wanted, now you’re able to change your life.

Amy says through meditation I’m trying to see my husband and I feel sorry for what I see because I don’t think he loves himself. The Council says the emotion of feeling sorry for your husband doesn’t do either of you any good. You need to send your husband love and light even if you don’t agree with what he’s going through or how he handles it. These are his lessons.

Amy asks The Council if her life purpose is to help her husband and save him from himself. The Council says no, it’s not. One of the things you agreed to before coming into this lifetime was to help your husband with his challenges, watch him, see what he’s going through, and learn from these experiences. You didn’t agree to save him. What you’re supposed to do is send light and love. You can’t get your husband to change. This is something he has to come to in his own time. Helping and understanding doesn’t mean staying in an abusive relationship. Send him the energy that’ll help push him through his challenges if and when he’s ready. That’s your purpose.

Amy says I feel like I failed my husband and our children on some level because I’ve been down this road with him before. The Council says you haven’t failed your husband or your children. Remember, in spirit before you came into this lifetime, you, your husband, and your children agreed to experience what you’ve been going through. They’re all lessons you wanted to experience. Know you’re on the right path. How you handle what you experience will make it change for you. It will help you to see it in a different way and help you move through it.

Amy says my Mom fell ill and passed away and my husband made this time very difficult. That was the catalyst for me. The pain brought me to a spiritual awakening and I’m now so thankful. The Council says we’d like you to pay attention to what you’ve said, which is the pain that brought you to a spiritual awakening. The pain did what it was supposed to do.

Amy says that was two years ago and asks The Council if this is guilt. The Council says of course this is guilt. It’s part of the human condition, but it’s not necessary. Remember that you, your children, and your husband are spirit and you’ve all agreed to create the drama that’s been going on. How you look at this and change it, and how you look forward with thoughts of happiness that you can create whatever you need to create is what’s important right now. Always send each other light and help them, but accept them as they are.

If your husband doesn’t behave the way you’d like him to behave, it’s because he’s still working on his challenges. Your husband isn’t in your life to meet what you expect from him. Wish him well, send him love, and hopefully when he’s ready, he’ll move through his challenges.


Listen to the entire 12-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Amy and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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November 27, 2020 Posted by | Agreement, Audio Content, Challenges, Channeling, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit | , , , , , | 6 Comments

   

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