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Please Help Me With Some Career Guidance

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Linda.

Linda: I would like to ask The Council if they could guide me regarding my career calling.

When I was a teenager I thought I knew exactly what university to go to and what to study. Unfortunately my plans were disrupted by physical and emotional abuse from my father and stepmother, and my plans to study stopped making sense. I started to feel lost in my life and many things stopped giving me joy.

Council: That feeling of being lost, when you remember that feeling, that was one of the things you wanted to do when you came here. It was to help people that also had problems of feeling lost, whatever their reasons were. That’s part of why you pre-planned this experience of being lost.

Now that you know you pre-planned this, in order to move forward it’s good to review your pre-plan, to go through the memories of feeling lost, what you felt like, and if you wished you had someone help you, what would that look like? This will give you a clue about what you have to learn to move forward in your career.

Linda: My family was always important to me, and losing them caused me great pain and grief.

Council: And so you’ll meet others that lose parts of their family, whether from abuse, or death, or sickness, or moving far away. You’ll find people who are suffering the loss of family.

Linda: Instead of focusing on my career choice, I was looking for answers to my questions. I wanted to know why I went through so much hardship as a child in so many ways.

Council: You went through this to learn from it, to recognize it, and to have such compassion and such understanding when others come to you with that problem.

Linda: Now I know that this experience was a pre-birth agreement I made…

Council: Exactly.

Linda: …and that the purpose in my life is to help people.

Council: Exactly.

Linda: But I still don’t know how to help. Can you please help me and guide me on this?

Council: You can help people by being a friend and listening to what they need to share. And sometimes listening is just having an ear so they feel someone is there for them and you don’t have to jump in with how to fix it. Sometimes helping people is taking classes and getting licenses to run your own business the way you want to help people. And sometimes you can volunteer for abused children or orphans. You can volunteer for the elderly, who will feel very lost because their families have no time for them.

There are many, many ways you can reach out and help. But we’d say, at first, listen to your friends, listen to the people you know, or people you work with. What are they talking about? And without making a big deal about it, say something that will help. Show some compassion. That’s how you begin to help. And you’ll see more and more people will be drawn to you because they’ll feel your energy of wanting to be there for them. And so start slowly and start simply.

Linda: Thinking back on what I really love, I found that I enjoyed finding answers to my challenges. I also enjoy helping children because I feel I can connect well with them. Is the right path for me to become a Child Psychologist?

Council: That’s a wonderful path for you. When you think about it, how do you feel? Does it give you joy? Are you excited to go into this? Are you excited to take on studying and to learn and share it? If you get joy, then this is exactly what’s meant for you.

Linda: And start studying psychology?

Council: Yes.

Linda: If not, is there a profession that’s right for me that I’d find fulfilling and be able to help those who’ve been through something similar to me?

Council: Anything with children, anything with the elderly, whether you went into nursing, whether you went into being a caregiver for many people, or you just took care of one person on an ongoing basis. You need to find places where you’re needed, where people need you.

And when you look around and have it in your mind that you want to help people, all of a sudden doors will open because you’re in line with your intention. Just by thinking, “I want to help, where do I go?” you’re putting that out there and you’ll always be shown the way.

Bob: It sounds like you’re saying that studying Psychology is good for Linda, but it may not be necessary.

Council: Anything that makes you feel good, going back to school and learning Psychology and having a career in this, if it feels good, it’s for you. If you’d rather not go through all that schooling and just work in a nursing home, in a hospital, or in an orphanage, then that’s the way to go.

When you think of each thing to try, stop and see how you feel. Okay, I’m going to study Psychology. How does that feel? Okay, I’m going to work in a nursing home. How does that feel? Okay, I’m going to go volunteer with children in an after-school program. How does that feel? Everything that occurs to you to do, stop, sit with it, how does it feel? See yourself doing these things. How does it feel? And your answer will be right in front of you.

Linda: When I look at the people around me, I feel like they all know what they’re supposed to do in life.

Council: Everyone thinks everyone else knows what to do. Everyone knows what path to be on. Everyone knows how wonderful life is. And of course, everyone is going through their own challenges and their own personal growth. Many people have no idea what they’re supposed to do in life. They take a jump, a leap of faith, and try something. We think this is wonderful, but when you take that jump, before you jump, before you lift your feet off the ground, how does it feel?

Linda: And I’m ashamed that I still don’t know what to do.

Council: It’s wonderful that you don’t know what to do. Because by putting it out there – I don’t know, I need signs, I need a direction – you’ll create many different possibilities. You’re not just honed to one thing. Think about what you’re doing as an adventure. I don’t know what to do, but it’s coming to me. I’ll be shown the way. And of course, you will be.

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August 5, 2022 - Posted by Cynthia & Bob | Audio Content, Career, Feelings, Helping Others, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers | Abuse, Child Psychology, Children, Compassion, Elderly, Joy