Why Did My Husband Cheat on Me with Another Woman?
This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Heartbroken, who says recently her marriage was falling apart because my husband was involved with another woman. I tried to understand why he got involved and what I might have done to cause the affair. The Council asks if Heartbroken has communicated with her husband about this and they say communication is the beginning of understanding. Rather than guessing why your husband had this affair or ignoring it, communicate with your husband and find out what went on for each of you.
Heartbroken asks The Council what her husband was trying to learn or experience from this affair. The Council says they don’t take the personal lessons of another person and explain them to someone else. The Council feels your husband’s lessons should come from him revealing this information to you. What The Council can tell Heartbroken is that both you and your husband chose this experience to learn commitment and what was more important in your current lifetime.
Heartbroken asks if her husband’s affair was pre-planned by the two of them in spirit. The Council says it was pre-planned something would happen to catapult both of you into this lesson of commitment, understanding, and communication to see how you learn from this. Heartbroken asks the purpose of this woman coming into their lives and The Council says commitment, understanding, compassion, and forgiveness.
Heartbroken asks The Council if she and her husband share any past lives with this woman that might have caused her to come between them. The Council says there’s no past life that’s caused this woman to come between her husband and herself. Her agreement was that when it was time for something to happen in the marriage, this spirit would volunteer to play that part. The Council adds that some other spirits also volunteered in case you were the one who cheated instead of your husband.
Heartbroken says her husband wants to save their marriage and not be with this other woman. And Heartbroken says she’s willing to forgive her husband even though it’s difficult. She asks The Council if there’s any possibility of this woman or any other woman coming back into her husband’s life.
The Council says if Heartbroken keeps focusing her attention on her husband being involved with one or more women and she stays in mistrust and doesn’t forgive him, she will create this situation in her life. Her husband can also bring in other women if the two of you talk about your difficulties, but you don’t hear what he’s saying and you don’t try to change your behavior so you become more attractive to each other.
Focus on forgiveness, love, and understanding. Think about the future and how you you’d like your life to play out moving forward. If you stay focused in your hurt and are unable to forgive your husband, you will attract more unpleasantness into you life. Or you can agree the affair was hurtful and neither of you wants to go through it again. How can the two of you make peace and look forward. What do you both desire? What little things can you do on a day to day basis to make each other happy?
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Cynthia is able to communicate with a group of five non-physical spirit guides in a manner similar to the way Esther Hicks communicates with and speaks for the spirit guides, Abraham, and Jane Roberts communicated and spoke for the spirit guide, Seth. I (Bob) basically interview The Council as they speak through Cynthia during what we refer to as a session. Sessions generally last 5-15 minutes and are usually audio recorded. During the session Cynthia is aware of what The Council is saying and she also receives visual impressions and other types of telepathic communication from them.
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1) You are an eternal spiritual being in a physical body.
You are the energy and vibration of continuously expanding love, intelligence, and joy.
Your physical experience in your physical body and your psychological experience of your personality is a small part of the totality of who you truly are.
Let yourself imagine from time to time what it might feel like to experience more of the wondrous totality of who you really are, and don’t be surprised if you are able to experience this more often.
2) You are the creator of all that you experience.
As you open to the possibility your true nature is greater than you ordinarily perceive, it becomes easier to consider the possibility that this expanded you is truly the creator of everything that you experience.
If you’re used to thinking of yourself in a more limited sense, the idea that you are the creator of your experience may be difficult to understand. Our post, What About This Idea That We Create Whatever We Desire, offers insights into this idea.
3) You are here to expand the love you are into physical reality.
You chose, as a spiritual being, to come into this physical reality to experience the joy of expanding the love you are as a spiritual being, into this physical reality. This is your purpose for being here.
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Thanks, Pam
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Excellent advice as always, C&B.
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