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Should I Stay Married to My Husband?

This post answers questions for The Council from a reader named, Starseed_Lightworker, who says, I’m at a crossroads in my life and I’d appreciate your guidance in the decision I want to make. My husband and I have had various issues since the beginning of our marriage and it’s been ten years now. I was in an abusive relationship for a long time, and then I decided to love myself and be self-dependent. I was in such a miserable situation earlier in my life that I felt like committing suicide a couple of times during that phase, but my love for my young child kept me alive. By hard work and the grace of God I’m now in a position to take care of myself and my child. The thing is that my husband seems to have changed during the last three years, but I can’t forget what he and his family did to me earlier.

The Council asks you to remember that your husband is on his own journey, and there are challenges and issues that he wishes to learn about, even though you don’t know what this is. We think it’s wonderful that you’ve begun to see the change in your husband. And it’s wonderful that you’ve gone ahead and become what you planned in spirit to become in this life, which was to be powerful, independent, and to do it all yourself and not need another person to do things for you. You don’t have to suffer through abuse or the fear of abandonment. You’ve changed your path and in your lifetime you’ve created the path you wanted to find.

Starseed says, Going forward my plan is to keep doing better work in the office and study part-time in a university while doing work to support myself and my child. Eventually when my child grows up I plan to retire, travel, and do more spiritual and teaching work. I don’t want to be dependent on anyone for money, happiness, and taking care of me. I want to do it all myself. The Council says they see you’re already on this path.

Starseed says, I’ve begun to find solace in loneliness now. The Council says you’re beginning to find solace with yourself, not with loneliness. There’s quite a difference.

Starseed says, I have a very good job opportunity in a different state. It’s remote work right now, but I can move there if I want, which would be a fresh start for me and my child and a different way of living life. The Council says this was also something you wanted to create. You wanted to create travel, have the ability to move around, and be successful wherever you are. Look at what you’ve done. You’ve already brought this opportunity into your life.

Starseed says, The difficult decision I need to make is, should I continue staying with my husband for the sake of my child having a father. Or should I move on and build a new life for myself and my child? At the current moment I like my husband as a friend since he’s changed from his abusive patterns, but I’ve lost the love.

The Council says, Wouldn’t it be wonderful to be able to remain friends, but not be together as partners? Wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a friend that lives nowhere near you, but you can communicate in whatever way you wish and whatever time you want? We see what you’ve planned and you’ve planned to move on. We see there’s great success in your future if you stay on the path you wanted to create for yourself, and we see you’re doing a wonderful job of this. You’ll have another love in your life if you wish to not stay with your husband.

You’ve done so much and taken yourself so far. Would you hold yourself back now when you have the opportunity to move on? And as you move on, the work you do will change and your career will change. You have the opportunity if you really want this. If you’re afraid to leave right now, you can leave in the future. We see this is there for you. It’s what you’ve created. But we’d ask you, why would you come so far and hold yourself back? There’s no wrong answer. You will move forward. You’ll decide when. You have the power to make this move happen when you’re ready, and this is a beautiful thing.

Starseed says, I don’t know whether I can love my husband again considering the history. At the same time, I’m also not sure if there will be love for me outside of this marriage. Can The Council please guide me and provide some input. The Council says they are so happy for you. It’s hard for some people after they leave the spirit world. They have all these plans and one thing or another gets in the way. Or their plans change, which is fine. But you have created so much of what you wanted, of what you planned when you were in spirit. You’re a powerful soul. You’ll go forward in this life, whether it’s right now or five years from now.

You are right on track. You’re doing exactly what you wanted to do, and that’s a wonderful thing. We here are so happy for you. We’re proud that you’ve stayed on the path. We know it wasn’t easy, but you took your situation and changed it. Love yourself. Hug yourself. Kiss the mirror as you look at yourself. You’ve come a long way and we wish you much happiness and speed on your journey.

Stay friends with your husband, if that’s possible. Know that when you’re ready and when you want it, you’ll bring in another person to love. If you stay on your path, whether you go now or later, there’s another love and a successful future waiting for you. As much as you can, create in your mind how you think your life would be when you move on. Imagine where you want to live, how you want to work, and how you’d like to spend your free time. The more you focus on these things, the more you’ll know when it’s time to do what you want to do. The choice is always yours.

If you’re afraid at this moment, or you choose to stay and six months, a year, two years, three years later, you don’t like that you stayed, there’s no problem. Then you make another decision and change what you do. Go in the direction you want. Whether you go now or later it doesn’t matter. You are the creator. And while you’re trying to decide, imagine in every detail you can, the way you wish your life to be and all your answers will come.

We wish you all happiness, success, and most of all love and joy. Find the fun and joy on your path. If you feel you don’t have it, head towards it, imagine it, and know you are the creator. What you think of, what you say, what you write, what you visualize over and over is how you’re planning your future.

Listen to the entire 10-minute audio recording of our session with The Council (below) to hear all their guidance for Starseed_Lightworker and the rest of us, and let us know what you feel about it. And you can ask The Council your own question by typing it into one of the Comment boxes that appear at the bottom of most of our blog pages.

If you like this post please consider clicking the LIKE button in the section following the recording to let us and other readers know. Thanks.

December 8, 2021 - Posted by | Audio Content, Channeling, Choice, Imagination, Love, Marriage, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Soul, Spirit, You Create Your Reality |


  1. Hi, Starseed_Lightworker. We’ll be happy to ask The Council about you buying a house when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | December 26, 2021

  2. Hello Bob, Cynthia and the Council,

    Wish you guys Merry Christmas and a very happy new year!

    I am very thankful for Council’s guidance and I have taken up the job in a different state. I am also planning to move there next year. I have one question if the council can please guide me about it, I am thinking of buying a house and then moving to this state. Can the council please guide me if buying a home is a good idea, my concern at this point is that I am on a Work visa and its a new company that I am starting to work for. My heart is telling me to go ahead and buy but I also want council’s opinion on this as its a big step for me and considering my husband might not be living with us eventually, its all going to be my responsibility.

    Thanks so much.

    Love and Gratitude!

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Starseed_Lightworker | December 25, 2021

  3. Hi, Core. We’ll be happy to ask The Council about your short-term romantic relationships and other relationships when we have time and we’ll post an audio recording of their response as soon as it’s ready. Thanks for your question. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | December 11, 2021

  4. Thank you, Starseed_Lightworker, for your kind and appreciative words. We’re glad you like this guidance.


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | December 11, 2021

  5. Hello Cynthia and Bob,

    This is Core again, thank you for the guidance from last time :). I’m writing to you for guidance on my romantic relationships. For the past few years, I’ve been experiencing short connections that never lead to anything, and while these experiences have taught me a lot, they’ve been equally heartbreaking for me as well. I recently just went through another one of these, and it has really brought me down. I am starting to feel a loss of hope as I do not understand how I can get out of this pattern – I feel each time I am learning many things and trying my best, but I would like to experience being in a relationship and building a foundation for something that lasts longer than a month (or two). Is there a longer-term romantic relationship in the future for me with a partner? What can I do to make this easier on myself? Can the Council provide any insights on my situation and why I’ve been experiencing these connections? There’s a similar pattern around other aspects of my life – living situations, career, friends, and circumstances come in, then leave so fast for me – I know I’m growing and transforming rapidly because of this but I am starting to burn out. Any help would be greatly appreciated

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Core | December 10, 2021

  6. I cant tell you how thankful I am for this guidance. I am beyond grateful. I must have done something right somewhere that I got angels like you to guide me.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Starseed_Lightworker | December 9, 2021

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