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Married but Attracted to Another Man

This post answers questions for The Council from an anonymous reader who says her mother died recently, we’re moving Dad, I’m getting frequent headaches, feeling family stresses, seeing cracks in my marriage, and feeling isolated. I have deep feelings for a man who isn’t mine. I have a good partnership with my husband, but we’re different people and there are limits to the connection. I love my family, but feel burdened.

The Council asks when you’re in a marriage you say is good, but you’re attracted to another person, if this new person in your life wasn’t there would you still think there are cracks in your marriage?

The attraction you have towards this other person doesn’t have the intention behind it to work out romantically in your current lifetime. If you can understand this man has come into your life to be a friend and you know him from another lifetime, can you appreciate and live with this and still have your private life?

If you’re so attracted to this man that you’re unable to function around him and it’s making cracks in your marriage, take a look at this. This has to do with you and not this other man, not your husband, and not the death of your mother. This has happened so you can ask yourself what you want.

The Council says in another reality very similar to your current lifetime, you and this man are together romantically. Many people don’t understand that other parts of your spirit are living in other realities and your romantic relationship with this man can be working out in one of those realities. Does this make you feel good? Is it enough for you to know that you’re experiencing this romantic relationship in another reality?

But you’re here in the present to focus on the present. What do you want in your here and now? You find yourself attracted to this man and The Council says everything is possible, but you didn’t pre-plan in spirit to get together romantically with this man in your current lifetime. You pre-planned to learn about other realities, to learn how you create, to learn there are many different parts of you living at once in different realities, and to learn how you can have something in one reality but not in another.

As you become more practiced in meditation you begin to know that you already have everything you want. It’s already happening. In your current reality you’re here to learn a certain lesson, in another reality it’s another lesson, and in a third reality it’s yet another lesson. These lessons can be with different versions of all the same people. But isn’t it fun to know you can have what you want? You have what you desire in a vibrational reality as soon as you start to imagine it. If it’s not enough, then take all your focus, every day, and focus on creating it by feeling the way you want your life to be. Eventually it must come to you, but be sure it’s what you want.

Even though your day to day living may be difficult right now you need to experience it. Your headaches are because you’re jumping from reality to reality and you’re not grounding enough. The Council recommends listening to the Chakra Meditations post. You need to surround yourself in white light so that you become clear about what you want and how you want to experience it.

Listen to the 7-minute audio recording of our session with The Council to hear all their guidance for this anonymous reader and the rest of us and let us know what you feel about it, or ask your own question.

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January 20, 2020 - Posted by | Audio Content, Chakras, Channeling, Desire, Feelings, Marriage, Other Realities, Pre-Incarnation Planning, Questions & Answers, Relationships, Spirit, You Create Your Reality | , , ,


  1. Hello,
    I was wondering if the Council could help me. I have been struggling a long time with financial prosperity. For most of my adult life it seems that I have had difficulty getting to a place where I am not struggling to pay the bills on time. I think this may be from a mindset I adopted as a child, where thriftiness was valued. Both my parents, especially my mom, grew up in a poor family. I think that maybe there was an expectation that life would be financially difficult that I learned somewhere along the way. I am frustrated by this.

    I have enjoy being creative/ making things with my hands in the past. I thought maybe I could supplement my income by selling some type of handmade item but lately my creativity also seems blocked. Again with the frustration. Then again, I don’t want to be so busy trying to make things to sell that I can’t spend time with my children, one of whom will be leaving home soon.

    I have a college degree and could probably get a higher paying job but really enjoy where I am working now (at a school with teens). I feel like I am supposed to be at this job. We have also tried to sell our house but for some reason am loathe to move right now. I love giving gifts to people and wish so much I had the income to do this freely. I think of the people I could help at work, etc.

    I don’t want to be stuck in a “broke” mindset. I hope there is a way to change this . I am very new to meditating. Not even sure if I know how, really. But I was taught to pray a lot so I do that sometimes.

    One last thing, please. My young teen son does not like being separated or “cut off” from the family at night. He doesn’t mind the dark but can not abide having his door closed and prefers to have someone in the room as he goes to sleep. This has been the case since he was very young. Is there a reason for this and how can I help him? It is a very legitimate fear for him I think.

    Thank you so much for your help. I have learned so much from your website. It has been very helpful to me. Thank you for what you do.

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    Comment by Sarah | January 30, 2020

  2. […] I came across this article in Ask The Council the other day and it left an impression on me. So I decided to link it to this Plant article so as to provide another perspective to the message of stability and balance. It is recommended that you read Plant Consciousness VI: Quantum-Touch Session with ZZ Plant first before reading this, to see the connection. See link please: Married but Attracted to Another Man. […]

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    Pingback by HygeiaUpdate: Plant Consciousness VI: Quantum-Touch Session with ZZ Plant | January 21, 2020

  3. Thank you so much. I like what you do, thanks for doing it. Am glad I can connect. Love and light.

    Liked by 1 person

    Comment by Gloria Terry | January 21, 2020

  4. Hi, Gloria. By all means, link to our post. We’d be honored. Love and light, Bob & Cynthia

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    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | January 20, 2020

  5. Hi, Susan. You can ask The Council a question by writing in the Comment box found at the bottom of most of our blog pages. If you decide to ask a question, please do your best to keep it brief and to the point. Thanks.


    Comment by Cynthia & Bob | January 20, 2020

  6. How can I ask the council a question?

    Sent from my iPhone


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    Comment by Susan Frankel | January 20, 2020

  7. Thank you Cynthia and Bob for posting. It explains further what I understand from a session I had with a plant, I think it’s the ZZ plant, where the plant encourages us, humans, to allow ourselves to experience life as humans without trying to force our situation (I guess it meant, reality, but I interpreted it as, situation) to change. Is ok if I link this to it? I’ll simply update mine and think this to it. Are you okay with it?

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    Comment by Gloria Terry | January 20, 2020

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